She's forcing marriage and making back-up plans

[surfdude12Participant 4103]

Thanks guys, really appreciate the posts. I know I f~~~ed up. Can’t change the past. Its over and done. You guys are completely right – I should have listened the first time!!

[surfdude12Participant 4103]

Bitch is blowing up my phone and I’m ignoring her. Thanks guys!!!

[xlrsnbrgParticipant 1786]

I’m confused. Are you still living together or not?

A man shouldn't make his life's objective to be on the side of the majority, but to avoid finding himself in the ranks of the insane. (Marcus Aurelius)

[surfdude12Participant 4103]

, I told her get out, she got her own place and moving there this week

I’m out of town visiting mom for Mother’s Day

She’s called like 20 times , leaving voicemails like “let’s work it out” and “why are you ignoring me?”

[OgreParticipant 5863]

Continue nonresponse. Ideally block her number. Going back with her was one time too many.

I failed to realize in my youth that I was the prize. I was going to work. I was going to earn. Little did I realize that due to feminism, that no longer meant I had to share. Road soon, Desert after.

[sidecarParticipant 35837]

surfdude12 wrote:

, I told her get out, she got her own place and moving there this week

I’m out of town visiting mom for Mother’s Day

Expect to find your place and all your stuff completely trashed when you get back. You should have used the storage locker option and changed your locks.

She’s called like 20 times , leaving voicemails like “let’s work it out” and “why are you ignoring me?”

If she ever does manage to get through to you, like by using a different phone number or something, tell her #nohymennodiamond.

[surfdude12Participant 4103]

Got home and she’s already moved her stuff out. We talked on phone and she asked “you think we could work out in future?” I replied “No. We fundamentally disagree on basic things (finances, responsibilities) you can’t disagree on in relationships, I can’t ever see it working” She was sad but appreciated the honesty. In past I would have been like “uh, I don’t know” which chicks read as “yes, if you convince me”. Thanks guys!

[Anonymous 6]

Okay Surfdude. No further contact AT ALL. No calls, no texting, no driving buy her house, no going to he place of work. Get ride of any trace of her in your life. Take the time that you need to get over her. Cry if you need to cry. Talk to your friends if you need to talk. Write stuff on this website if you need to. Reread this thread, it has some great stuff. Just stay the f~~~ away from her. The band aid has been removed.

[xlrsnbrgParticipant 1786]

You’re lucky, she seems reasonable. Still, as the others have said, stay away from her, it’s good advice.

A man shouldn't make his life's objective to be on the side of the majority, but to avoid finding himself in the ranks of the insane. (Marcus Aurelius)

[Two Time WinnerParticipant 1090]

Awakened wrote:

. They get LAZIER and BITCHIER in ALL departments !!

Truer words were never spoken. As a veteran of a 28 year relationship now ending in divorce I can testify to that. She was a sweet loving girl when I met her. Now she is the bitch from hell.

It doesn’t ever, ever get better, it only gets worse. Move her s~~~ back to her apartment while she is in Paris and change your locks.

TTW

I ain't got a wife to spend my money, I have to do that all by myself.

[FrostByteParticipant 19005]

It won’t take long for her to find someone else. Chicks this needy can’t survive without having to be manipulating someone. Just don’t worry about her cause there are 1000s of cucks out there begging to be emasculated.

If you rescue a damsel in distress, all you will get is a distressed damsel.

[surfdude12Participant 4103]

Just got text at 2:00: “Can we talk later?”

IGONRING THAT S~~~!!! THANKS GUYS!!

[Anonymous 6]

surfdude12 wrote:

Just got text at 2:00: “Can we talk later?”

IGONRING THAT S~~~!!! THANKS GUYS!!

I hope that you’ve realized one key fact at this point, she had all of that crap that she’s been demanding PLANNED OUT FROM THE BEGINING!!!! Seriously think about that.

[surfdude12Participant 4103]

Anonymous wrote:

surfdude12 wrote:

Just got text at 2:00: “Can we talk later?”

IGONRING THAT S~~~!!! THANKS GUYS!!

I hope that you’ve realized one key fact at this point, she had all of that crap that she’s been demanding PLANNED OUT FROM THE BEGINING!!!! Seriously think about that.

I’m glad you posted that because last time we talked she was like “I shouldn’ have listened to my friends giving me silly advice” and when I said “This will never work, we disagree on basic fundamental stuff” she goes “What if we could work it out??”. I replied “I dont think we could. You might say you’ve changed your position but then a few months later we’d be right back where we are now. You wouldn’t be being honest with yourself or with me”

But your post reminds me that she is PLAYING GAMES – right now she is in the “tell him what he wants to hear” mode. That was worked in the past on me, sure. But not now. She is who she is, as you say. Women do that , right? Tell us what we want to hear to go blue pill?

[Anonymous 6]

surfdude12 wrote:

Travis3000 wrote:

surfdude12 wrote:

Just got text at 2:00: “Can we talk later?”

IGONRING THAT S~~~!!! THANKS GUYS!!

I hope that you’ve realized one key fact at this point, she had all of that crap that she’s been demanding PLANNED OUT FROM THE BEGINING!!!! Seriously think about that.

I’m glad you posted that because last time we talked she was like “I shouldn’ have listened to my friends giving me silly advice” and when I said “This will never work, we disagree on basic fundamental stuff” she goes “What if we could work it out??”. I replied “I dont think we could. You might say you’ve changed your position but then a few months later we’d be right back where we are now. You wouldn’t be being honest with yourself or with me”

But your post reminds me that she is PLAYING GAMES – right now she is in the “tell him what he wants to hear” mode. That was worked in the past on me, sure. But not now. She is who she is, as you say. Women do that , right? Tell us what we want to hear to go blue pill?

No she’s going to try and butter you up. Maybe even try and play with your man part. SHE DOES NOT GIVE A RAT”S ASS ABOUT YOU, ONLY HER AGENDA AND LIFE PLAN TO FIND A DICKSTAND AND SPERM DONOR!!!

See after my other post you started figuring it out. She talked about y’all private business to her friends. What the f~~~ is that s~~~? Seriously? What happened under your roof was nobody’s business. But as usual a woman can’t keep her mouth shut.

Just walk away brother. Walk away!

[narwhalParticipant]

I don’t think you’ll be able to ignore her forever. She knows she’s got a good wallet in you, so she won’t give up so easily. I would do three things to prepare for the next eventual discussion.

1 – Make a rule, no emotional arguments. It’s always going to be logical. It doesn’t matter how she feels, how her friends think. If she won’t talk to you in reason then there is no conversation.

2 – Make a list of all the issues you have with her. Get detailed with the gold digging. Be prepared to logically discuss these if/when it comes. And don’t forget #1.

3 – If she asks for forgiveness and promises to make a change, then give her an opportunity to do so. She wants to prove to you that she actually loves you and isn’t a gold digger? Let her do that. But she doesn’t get to do that with you. In order to for her to prove she’s not the woman she has been, then she can live by herself, support herself financially, don’t date, and don’t even talk to a year, maybe two. If she wants a forever marriage, that shouldn’t be a problem right? Then she can come back and you can decide if your still interested or not….and you won’t be.

She probably won’t stop leaving you alone until you’ve caved in, she’s found an alternate, or she can convince herself and other’s that you’re an asshole. You win with the last 2 options.

Ok. Then do it.

[sidecarParticipant 35837]

I’m counting the minutes until she tells him she’s pregnant.

[anonymousyamParticipant 4605]

surfdude12 wrote:

Now we’re coming up on 4 years and she is demanding marriage, kids, going ring shopping , etc.

Her eggs are beginning to dry up and now she wants to either lock you down or move on as she cannot waste too much time anymore. If she marries you she f~~~ing knows she is getting your cash for life and if you resist she knows she must have a plan B just in case.

surfdude12 wrote:

She said she’ll wait until summer when she goes to Paris to decide. In the meantime, she’s still at my house.

She is going to Paris to find another man if you refuse marriage to her since French guys would love to get away from France (a place where paternal testing is illegal).

surfdude12 wrote:

QUESTION: Should I let her stay until she decides what she wants to do? SHould I kick her out? I was thinking about telling her “listen, clearly you’re unsure what you want to do, why don’t you go back to your apartment, think about it, and then maybe by the time you’re going to France you can have decided what you want? marriage or me?” or should I just kick her out and say bye bye? HELP!

Tell her to go back to her apartment for the night then clear her s~~~ out of the house by moving it to her place in the morning (meaning her stuff is next to the door). After that cut all contact with her and possibly move if possible and if you are lucky nothing will happen to you if you are unlucky she cries domestic violence and tries taking the house from you or tries getting palimony.

Just an east coast asshole who likes to curse, If you get offended by words like fuck, cunt, shit, piss, bitch or any racial slurs then you just scroll down.

[FrostByteParticipant 19005]

Quit your job and be poor. See if she stays around. If you already know the answer then what the f~~~ are waiting for? Pull your head out of the guillotine.

If you rescue a damsel in distress, all you will get is a distressed damsel.

[GrumpyParticipant]

Be Snagglepuss and exit stage right.
Ultimatums and begging are the death knell of ALL types of relationships.
A lot of sound advise is given here, ultimately the decision is yours to make and be accountable for.
Best of luck to you.

There was a time in my life when I gave a fuck. Now you have to pay ME for it

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