She's coming to my city…

[PistolPeteParticipant 27143]

Mr.Blue wrote:

This is exactly my plan. I will avoid her at all costs but if she happens to hunt me down I will act indifferent. She knows where I work, live, work-out, and even my favorite places to eat so if she wants to find me, she will. I will remain composed.

Crap that means you are on the radar—blow town brother!

[CarnageParticipant 22113]

Tell your friend there is no need to check on your family is your family not hers.

If you let her, grandmother, mother etc.. will side with her…

But you guys made a great couple.

Let her know you and yours are off limit.

Trust me in this one, she is gonna bang your friend or someone else soo you friend find out. The point is to let you know she is having a great time without you.

It’s your family it is off limits, if your family doesn’t agree, you know who you enemy is.

I have 1 sister, 3 step brothers. 34 uncles, like 130 cousins. And of all those people I only trust my mother.

Got the message?

To those following me, be careful, I just farted. Men those beans are killers.

[Mr.BlueParticipant 614]

TaxGuy wrote:

So if you see her, here is the conversation.

Look, you had your chance. I stick to a very strict rule: One chance, per person, per lifetime, NO exceptions!

You gave ME a second chance.

Where do you think the f~~~ing rule came from?

Seriously, good luck and keep us posted.

I love this. Will definite use this if she finds me.

[Secret Agent MGTOWParticipant 22515]

I don’t know why this is so hard.

AVOID HER. Don’t talk. Don’t phone. Don’t text. Don’t respond to anything. Don’t be around where she can find you.

It’s OVER. OVER. FOR GOOD. She is S~~~ TESTING YOU and you are already falling for it because you are asking what should I do.

AVOID HER. DO NOT SEE HER. NOTHING GOOD WILL COME OF IT.

Women want everything, but want responsibility and accountability for nothing.

[TaxGuyParticipant]

Carnage wrote:

Tell your friend there is no need to check on your family is your family not hers.
If you let her, grandmother, mother etc.. will side with her…
But you guys made a great couple.
Let her know you and yours are off limit.

The other extreme option is to tell the family that if they visit with her when she comes out, then they aren’t your family anymore. It means that much to me that I be able to cut her completely out of my life. If you choose to be a point of contact, then we are done.

Carnage wrote:

Trust me in this one, she is gonna bang your friend or someone else soo you friend find out

Tell your friend to f~~~ her, with full permission. I don’t care means I don’t care. Let him know up front that you are totally fine with it. Apathy. Then when he’s wiping his dick on her curtains he can tell her that the two of you already talked it over and decided if she wanted to try to hurt you with revenge sex to go ahead and come all over her face because you don’t care. Apathy.

Order the good wine

[TaxGuyParticipant]

Secret Agent MGTOW wrote:

She is S~~~ TESTING YOU and you are already falling for it because you are asking what should I do.

Depending on her level of narcissism, I respectfully disagree with you. If you are dealing with a real narc, not just a princess bitch, then you need to plan. You need to be ready for every contingency you can think of. As I said before, she’s the heat applying it to the fuel. You need to do a mental inventory of every piece of fuel she can go after or you’ll f~~~ up and give her oxygen. You can block 99 attempts, but it only takes 1 and then she’s got a fire going.

Planning and asking for advice is smart in my opinion. But then again, I’ve had the “pleasure” of dealing with a real narc. As much as I give her no oxygen, I can’t just ignore her.

Order the good wine

[XSDBSParticipant 3598]

She is going to to anything/everything she can to get a response/reaction out of you.

Don’t. Don’t respond. Don’t react.
Not to her, not to anybody hanging out with her, not to anybody talking about her.
That includes your/her friends, family and co-workers…

[KolaxisParticipant 668]

If she knows so much about your life, even if you are staying with a friend, BODYCAM! Do not give this woman even the slightest chance of ruining you in any way. Don’t go to your favorite restaurants. Either cook your own meals while she’s in town or have something delivered. Even if she knows your routine, ghost as much as possible and BODYCAM!

Jackie: How do you write women so well?
Melvin Udall: I think of a man and I take away reason and accountability.

[Mr.BlueParticipant 614]

TaxGuy wrote:

Tell your friend to f~~~ her, with full permission. I don’t care means I don’t care. Let him know up front that you are totally fine with it. Apathy. Then when he’s wiping his dick on her curtains he can tell her that the two of you already talked it over and decided if she wanted to try to hurt you with revenge sex to go ahead and come all over her face because you don’t care. Apathy.

I dont care if she f~~~s other dudes but I dont think I would be comfortable with my friend if he did that…

[Mr.BlueParticipant 614]

TaxGuy wrote:

Depending on her level of narcissism, I respectfully disagree with you. If you are dealing with a real narc, not just a princess bitch, then you need to plan.

She is a hardcore Narc woman. Narcissistic and manipulative. She will say/do anything to get people on her side.

[Mr.BlueParticipant 614]

XSDBS wrote:

She is going to to anything/everything she can to get a response/reaction out of you.

Don’t. Don’t respond. Don’t react.
Not to her, not to anybody hanging out with her, not to anybody talking about her.
That includes your/her friends, family and co-workers…

I agree this is her plan… The only thing that would get to me is her f~~~ing a friend of mine but I’m mentally preparing just incase she goes to that level.

[Anonymous 43]

got a passport?

Great, drive up the coast and don’t stop for a good 4000 miles.

I hear Yukon Territory is lovely this time of year. A little white water rafting, pan for gold, hike out in the mountains, throw rocks in a river in the middle of nowhere…all good.

https://www.banfflakelouise.com/

nice place to hang out

Nunavut is ok too.

Stay the f~~~ away from women, and even farther from exes.

[Anonymous 54]

Go underground. Tell no one where you are.

Beware if she knows where you work.
If she shows up there…restraing order.

Or…f~~~ that pussy and ruin your life

[DorkShitParticipant 4353]

You have put yourself in a bad situation.

She knows everything about your life where it currently is. (San Diego)

You have two choices.
In both choices one important discussion must happen. You must tell everyone in your sphere that you and her are done. Don’t ramble on about s~~~. Just we are done, if you encounter her do not discuss me, etc.

Choice one: stay in your current sphere and deal with crazy. Be careful. A woman scorned embraces every demonic behavior possible. Probably ends badly for you. Up until this point in your life you have been easy to manipulate. The devil will be more than you can handle. One phone call and your done. Not your fault, you shouldn’t even be there.

Choice two: give people a hug and kiss and tell them you will see them in a few years. Dump all electronic signatures and ghost out. This is preferred position. You need to learn how to ghost. You need to learn to be on your own. This is a life lesson.

Just my 2 cents from what little I have read about your situation. You seem young. So, good chance to learn ghost, etc.

Good luck

Peace brothers

[Anonymous 3]

She visit your grandma, and then the grandma will nag to you to marry the girl. Tell the grandma to not let anyone in. whatever.

Did you tell the friend that you are broken up?

If she f~~~s with your “friend” than at least you don’t have a problem to deal with any more.

[Anonymous 3]

Anonymous wrote:

Renting a motel room will cost you a little $$. What cupcake has in mind has the potential to send you to jail.

Good idea! Rent a motel at some other random city away from there, and keep the invoice / bill with your name on and make photos about yourself being there. so the girl cannot contact you. (switch off the phone or at least do not answer any numbers that you don’t know. And do not tell anyone which city you are visiting and do not post it on social media etc. (you banned her viewing your fakebook page /deleted your account /reviewed privacy settings, didn’t you?))

[Anonymous 3]

PistolPete wrote:

. I was in San Diego once (hated it) but even though its a big town she is going to use your friend to set you up somehow.

Yes, be suspicious if one of your “friends” calls you up to do something (have a beer,meeting,party etc) together and then she may be happen to be there out of nowhere. Better tell everyone you stay at the office until night. (that may be true if you are busy anyway, do more work for that week)

Mr.Blue wrote:

I have a very busy month at work during that time so I cannot leave but I am now going to plan staying at a friend’s house or renting a room out for that time

So, does she know who is that friend you will be staying at? Renting a room seems more incognito in this case, motel staff does not ask questions. And make sure that she does not see your car, accidentally. Park the car in the garage of the hotel or behind the building, at a parking place away from big roads and department stores where she may appear. (or leave the car in front of the office and be in a nearby hotel and walk… Does she know the location of your workplace? Is the office locked away from the public or you often deal with people / customers who can go in there?)

Mr.Blue wrote:

She was very close to all of my family members and my family is a very welcoming one. They will definitely not tell her her to go away regardless of our situation and she knows that. She will go to my parents house to visit my younger sister then I’m sure she will pass by my grandma’s knowing I am currently living with her…

Mr.Blue wrote:

My mom’s birthday is Sep20 and she knows that so I will invite my mom out somewhere instead of visiting her at home just incase she tries to run into me there.

That is her plan, meet your family and get more info about you, behind you, and she knows their location even if cannot go to you. Probably she will make them call you up and ask what is about you, where you are, or fake or create some urgent / important situation to make you go there.

1. Tell your family the bad side of this girl. Tell them why you broke up. tell them she is an ex and don’t want to deal with her. Tell that to your friends too. Do this before she arrives. she may show her “good” fake side to the family to get back at you.

2. Switch off your phone completely. I hope she and your family does not know your workplace phone or email. I also suggest to not talk your family about your location (your new home, or the hotel room that week) because they may appear there to set you up with the ex.

3. If s~~~ happens, cut off the family / friends who appear to be on her side. Do you have any liabilities towards them or their assets on your name? your sister / parents can take care for the grandma, you may be able to exclude them from your life completely.

[Anonymous 3]

PistolPete wrote:

She knows where I work, live, work-out, and even my favorite places to eat so if she wants to find me, she will

then make it at least more difficult. bring food to work. work out in the hotel’s gym if there is one. or just omit that for a week. don’t go to favorite places for that week.

TaxGuy wrote:

The other extreme option is to tell the family that if they visit with her when she comes out, then they aren’t your family anymore. It means that much to me that I be able to cut her completely out of my life. If you choose to be a point of contact, then we are done.

+1

TaxGuy wrote:

Tell your friend to f~~~ her, with full permission. I don’t care means I don’t care.

Yes, it is probably a good misguide, but, she may get even more info about you. it is better if she happens to f~~~ someone else.

Kolaxis wrote:

If she knows so much about your life, even if you are staying with a friend, BODYCAM!

+1. If you don’t have one, there are also such phone apps that can do hidden background video records. search for spy camera app or something like that. Put it in a pocket where it can see stuff. Or, at least voice record everything. Also set phone to call recording , it is useful.(but I don’t know the laws there if it’s allowed, but it’s also helpful in situations when I don’t remember what someone said and don’t want to look stupid asking 3 times )

[Anonymous 3]

Still the best option to talk to your boss and re-planning the work and get holiday, if possible. but that must be done in well advance. Do the work in advance, get accurate info when she is coming (well how do you know when she is coming, beware, that info channel may be bidirectional) and then go far away that week.

[Anonymous 13]

She’s JAIL.

BODYCAM NOW.

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