Is it wise to visit MGTOW.com daily?

[JohnParticipant 114]

Keymaster wrote:

John wrote:

I meant that the topic “women” takes so much time in my daily life

Just don’t let then live in your head rent-free.

Thank you very much for this one, Keymaster! It is definitely a major problem and i am working on it.

The first time i heard about this give them “no free rent in your head” thing was in this thread /forums/topic/ex-refuses-to-believe-shes-not-a-special-snowflake/

TaxGuy wrote:

TaxGuy wrote:

If you get in the mud with a pig, you get dirty and the pig is happy. She LOVES drama. And she wants to drag you into the middle of it. DON’T let her. “That sucks” is your new favorite phrase. Then turn the conversation back about your daughter. Make sure you stick to your daughter and be the best dad you can be under the circumstances, but don’t let her drag you into the mud.

Not my circus, not my monkey. Essentially the same thing. If it’s yours or your daughter’s issue, then deal with it. Otherwise, it’s her circus.

Don’t drink poison and expect it to kill someone else. There’s no point in hating her. All that does is raise your blood pressure, but it means absolutely nothing to her. You’re p~~~ed off and she’s wondering what color to paint her nails.

Don’t give someone free rent in your head. This is a tough one. My ex is a huge narcissist and you do have to think through how you are going to react to their bulls~~~ demands. But, after a while, you get good enough at it that you don’t have to think about nearly as much, and when they don’t get the drama and attention they want they will move on to ruin someone else’s life.

Good luck and please update as needed.

I am still impressed by his points. But have to admit i don’t really this no free rent thing. Of course i understand the mindset to not take them seriously, that is not my problem. The harder part for me is to stop what’s going on in my mind.

My interpretation is a little different. Lots of hours a day i spend pondering to figure out what happened to me. Imagine this like i would explain to you in details how women manipulate men. I can see it everywhere and as time goes by i am about to fully understand how a woman destroyed my life and took what means the world to me. Knowledge is seldom useless but i can’t see benefit in this particular case either. Because it wouldn’t change a thing nor convince people who could alter the situation. The blue pill brain is immune to real evidence even when exposed to it.

Apparently it must be simple but i don’t get it. How to control your mind only to think about what you want when you want?

[MgtowWaveParticipant 4352]

Well mabe i should scrub the scruffyness of of me.Get a nice hair cut and and wear some nice clothes and then the next time a woman tries to make eye contact with me i should smile and say ” Hi how are you?”

Why not?

Well i get a daley reminder by coming here that

ITS A BAD F~~~ING IDEA TO GET INTO ANOTHER F~~~ING RELATIONS~~~.

Dafuk

I get more reminders about how I REALLY CAN live without pussy.

And.

A

“Womans love ”

Is IN REALITY nothing of the sort.

Like 15 years ago a woman told me that all women are crazy.

frankly my dear i don't give a damn

[FullMetalExoParticipant 2383]

I registered here a year and a half ago. First 2 month’s – I was every day here, reading everything, learning. Now, not so much. I have a priority list of things to do with my life, but I do pop in for a dose of red pills occasionally.

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[JohnParticipant 114]

Anonymous wrote:

If you want to read in more detail about this, I did a post about it here: /forums/topic/let-it-go/#post-280930

So yeah, it’s important for all men to get a handle on that. If it means taking breaks from the cynicism and trash talk that sometimes occurs here, then fine.

Thanks a lot for this!

It makes sense to me. Especially the part where you wrote about worries. Don’t want to sound like a complainer BUT i am in recovery and this might be a valid point.

Keymaster wrote:

John wrote:

By re-reading I saw that my words were not properly chosen

Was going to add It’s not important that you choose “the right words”. Out there, you often have to be careful, but not here – because there is no consequence. It wasn’t even the “wrong” word.

The word “feel” just jumps out of ANY sentence at me as very different to the word “think”. So does the word “seems”.

As sad as it sounds but i am not used to speak my mind. Not even among so called friends because they haven’t been burned yet badly enough.

What i was trying to express was that i put out a half assed main post which lacks a lot of information. In hindsight i was a little overwhelmed by finding a piece of peace that i have been searching for years.

Yeah, “feel” and “seems” is just as nice as “could” or “should”. Well, no more pussy talk for sure.

[KeymasterKeymaster]

John wrote:

Thank you very much for this one, Keymaster! It is definitely a major problem and i am working on it.

It’s not a “major problem”.

It’s a major problem – for women – when they see men are talking about them as they really are instead of how they would prefer to BE SEEN. Don’t worry, the rest of the world is OBSESSED with “talking about women” more than you ever will be.

The “problem” is when you perceive women as something they are NOT.
That’s what men need to work on.

You suggested it’s best to “unplug” but that’s what MGTOW is for. To unplug from TIME magazine telling you that you’re an idiot.

… when MGTOW are a hell of a lot “smarter” than the rest of the world would care to give men credit for.

MgtowWave wrote:

I get a daily reminder by coming here

Definitely.

If you keep doing what you've always done... you're gonna keep getting what you always got.

[Anonymous 0]

John wrote:

Thanks a lot for this!

It makes sense to me. Especially the part where you wrote about worries. Don’t want to sound like a complainer BUT i am in recovery and this might be a valid point.

Sounds good. Yes, hopefully there’s something there you can use in your daily grind. When you get obsessing about something, just remember: It’s the way you’re wired. But with practice and things like meditation, you can work around that wiring and learn to let it go.

John wrote:

I am still impressed by his points. But have to admit i don’t really this no free rent thing. Of course i understand the mindset to not take them seriously, that is not my problem. The harder part for me is to stop what’s going on in my mind.

My interpretation is a little different. Lots of hours a day i spend pondering to figure out what happened to me. Imagine this like i would explain to you in details how women manipulate men. I can see it everywhere and as time goes by i am about to fully understand how a woman destroyed my life and took what means the world to me. Knowledge is seldom useless but i can’t see benefit in this particular case either. Because it wouldn’t change a thing nor convince people who could alter the situation. The blue pill brain is immune to real evidence even when exposed to it.

Apparently it must be simple but i don’t get it. How to control your mind only to think about what you want when you want?

1) This thread: /forums/topic/let-it-go/#post-280889

2) Self-help books on stress management: https://www.amazon.com/s/ref=sr_st_review-count-rank?keywords=stress+relief&fst=as%3Aoff&rh=n%3A283155%2Cn%3A4736%2Cn%3A4747%2Ck%3Astress+relief&qid=1472498800&sort=review-count-rank

(By the way, MGTOW regulars will recognize the picture on the cover of this book on stress management.): https://www.amazon.com/Top-Anxiety-Management-Techniques-Release/dp/1628845163/ref=sr_1_10?s=books&ie=UTF8&qid=1472498809&sr=1-10&keywords=stress+relief

3) Self-help books on practical tools for dealing with narcissists and other users and abusers. If you feel more equipped to deal with troublemakers in your life, it’s easier to let problems roll off your back. I found this stuff very helpful myself. Knowing that I had to tools to spot and deal with abusers and troublemakers brought me a lot of self-confidence and peace.

Some self-help books: I recommend (from most basic to most sophisticated):

“Life Code,” by Dr. Phil McGraw (yes, *that* Dr. Phil).
“13 Things Mentally Strong People Don’t Do,” by Amy Morin
“F*ck Feelings,” by Michael I. Bennett MD, and Sarah Bennett.
“The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People,” by Stephen R. Covey

These aren’t feel-good books like Deepak Chopra or “chicken soup for the soul” types books. Instead they focus on solid, practical advice for setting strong boundaries, identifying and avoiding users and abusers, and getting ahead in life. They’re all best-sellers and all currently in print. Check the reviews at Amazon.com for an idea on their content.

[firstblood85Participant 111]

The only real purpose for intercourse is procreation and continuation of the species. Pleasure is overrated. Contentment is superior. Seeing this has helped me stay away from many dangerous traps with women. Just wanted to toss in my 2 cents. Peace.

[joetechParticipant]

I unplug, too. As a retiree I DO the housework, and no, it’s not that hard. I play an instrument and I like to write. GF used to complain that my hobbies cut her out…yeah, they’re MY hobbies. She gets that now. I think that it can be reassuring to discover that some men find peace with women as they move on. Especially when it’s been particularly rough. What doesn’t kill you makes you stronger, how true. “Do not trouble thyself with imaginings…” Good advice, but hard to do sometimes. Most men don’t seek counseling when they need it…it’s seen as weak, and we seem to be self conscious about it. This is as good a place as any to get whatever counseling you need, whether it be investment advice, hobbies, sports, whatever. This place is a giant man cave. So, hang out and browse, then go find your own passions and pursue them.

"Don't follow in my footsteps...I stepped in something."

[KeymasterKeymaster]

Is it wise to visit MGTOW.com daily?

Looks like the voices of men everywhere have spoken.

As of today, ( and for the first time ever ) mgtow.com is a more relevant place to visit, speak, be heard and read than “a voice for men”.

If you keep doing what you've always done... you're gonna keep getting what you always got.

[Anonymous 54]

I work in mangina city. First thing i do is come here. The anti mangina gynofest antidote syrum.I find it very good for my health just to know there other aware Men.Some times a need a brake,but cant resist comeing back for a look. Grown Men to talk to for a change. Its a world full of mamas boys. Its bad for my health to constantly be around them.

[joetechParticipant]

I like to use humor to illustrate points. Yes, it’s a mad, mad, world. Here’s something to tickle your funny bone:
Two men die and go to heaven. On the way up, they’re both worried. When they reach the pearly gates they are surprised to find St. Peter waiting for them. He looks at the first man and says, “For all your transgressions in life this is your penance. Meet your new wife.” He looks up to see a ‘dog’, and dejectedly toddles off into eternity. The second man is then led to a stripper gorgeous woman and told, “Meet your new wife.” The man looks at St. Peter and exclaims, “How do I rate a woman like this? I was just as bad as he was?” St. Peter replies, “So was she. You’re her punishment.”

"Don't follow in my footsteps...I stepped in something."

[JohnParticipant 114]

Keymaster wrote:

John wrote:

Thank you very much for this one, Keymaster! It is definitely a major problem and i am working on it.

It’s not a “major problem”.

It’s a major problem – for women – when they see men are talking about them as they really are instead of how they would prefer to BE SEEN. Don’t worry, the rest of the world is OBSESSED with “talking about women” more than you ever will be.

The “problem” is when you perceive women as something they are NOT.
That’s what men need to work on.

You suggested it’s best to “unplug” but that’s what MGTOW is for.

Not to make things more complicated than they are. I thought about what you wrote and the other replies and replied to it in this thread: /forums/topic/why-do-we-still-talk-so-much-about-women/page/3/

To put in a nutshell, you guys have convinced me that is an utopia to escape from it all and turn a blind eye on this. Because the rules apply to me as well and i have to deal with women. Terrence Popp likes to say this and the credit goes to him. I think he is right about it.

Also i came to the conclusion that i need find my healthy dose. Let’s be honest we need to wear some kind of a social mask out there to not f~~~ up our daily lives. Speaking for myself, after taking a lot of red pills here i should better avoid important meetings immediately after that. But that’s just me, i am sure a lot of you guys can handle this better than me.

Anonymous wrote:

John wrote:

Thanks a lot for this!

It makes sense to me. Especially the part where you wrote about worries. Don’t want to sound like a complainer BUT i am in recovery and this might be a valid point.

Sounds good. Yes, hopefully there’s something there you can use in your daily grind. When you get obsessing about something, just remember: It’s the way you’re wired. But with practice and things like meditation, you can work around that wiring and learn to let it go.

All i can say is just wow. Amazing stuff! I hate that i can only up vote you once because this deserves so much more and even that wouldn’t be enough.

Thank you so much for your time and effort – i really do appreciate this. It looks like the missing puzzle piece on first sight. I will dig into it in depth over the weekend and check out your recommendations.

Again, thank you very much for helping me, brother.

Keymaster wrote:

Is it wise to visit MGTOW.com daily?

Looks like the voices of men everywhere have spoken.

Of course it is. I never questioned this and only an idiot would deny it’s merits.

Not that i need hard facts nor other evidence – but i love to see these numbers. Absolutely fantastic and speaks for its own.

I was wondering if women deserve so much room in my head. As i stated above you guys convinced me that i would unwise to underestimate this threat by turning an blind eye to it.

Thank you.

The best to you,
John

[Anonymous 0]

John wrote:

All i can say is just wow. Amazing stuff! I hate that i can only up vote you once because this deserves so much more and even that wouldn’t be enough.

Thank you so much for your time and effort – i really do appreciate this. It looks like the missing puzzle piece on first sight. I will dig into it in depth over the weekend and check out your recommendations.

Again, thank you very much for helping me, brother.

Very glad that I could help. We’re here for you, brother!

[Gabriel A. KingParticipant 730]

Is it wise to visit MGTOW daily? My first thought would be, yeah.

[VarunParticipant 2981]

I know how you feel, man.

I get burned out sometimes, too. Too much time on this site even gave me a nightmare once.

Its okay to take it light…take it slow…take it easy.

It also helps to fill your day up with lots of activities if you feel you’re too much glued to the screen to the point you start feeling burned out. I prefer working out.

You use this site like water. You need lots of water…. whenever you get thirsty from all that feminist/gynocentric heat, you open the bottle and take a sip. Too much of it will make you feel bummed (100 regular glasses of water is even fatal 😛 ).

Personally, I don’t take too much stress in pondering about women and their antics. My mental energy is better spent elsewhere.

But if I stay in blue-pill world for too long now-a-days, the boat starts to sink, and the sea almost sweeps me away unless and until I quickly find and secure my mgtow lifeline to save myself.

A bird in the hand is worth two in the bush.

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