Indian parents pressuring me to marry, need advice…

[SkeptiskParticipant 3679]

First thing I’d do was save enough money to rent a new place, and then move when payments could be made. Learn the word “No”.

"Expecting to find a decent woman on a dating site is like dumpster diving and expecting to come out with a gourmet meal." Won'tGetFooledAgain

[Can’t Stump TrumpParticipant]

These parents need to be ghosted
Or else your ass is roasted.

Women are better at multitasking? Fucking up several things at once is not multitasking.

[foghornleghornParticipant 3449]

Odin I am an Indian guy who has gone MGTOW. The reasons your parents have given you are not a good reason to get married. Your sister’s desire to have a sister-in-law is not a reason for you to commit financial suicide with your life. Your grandparents getting old is a fact of life, you getting married isn’t going to stop that. Your parents wanting grand-kids is not a reason for you to get married. Don’t ever let anyone, including your mother tell you what you should do with your life.

The fact is that your parents are not the ones who have to live with her, it’s you and it won’t be their asses that she rips your wallet out of. I have an older brother who followed my parents wishes and went into an arranged marriage. 8 years in and 2 kids later she confesses that she’s been f~~~ing some guy she knew from her days in college. Today the guy keeps talking about when he can finally check out.

[FrostByteParticipant 19005]

foghornleghorn wrote:

Odin I am an Indian guy who has gone MGTOW. The reasons your parents have given you are not a good reason to get married. Your sister’s desire to have a sister-in-law is not a reason for you to commit financial suicide with your life. Your grandparents getting old is a fact of life, you getting married isn’t going to stop that. Your parents wanting grand-kids is not a reason for you to get married. Don’t ever let anyone, including your mother tell you what you should do with your life.

The fact is that your parents are not the ones who have to live with her, it’s you and it won’t be their asses that she rips your wallet out of. I have an older brother who followed my parents wishes and went into an arranged marriage. 8 years in and 2 kids later she confesses that she’s been f~~~ing some guy she knew from her days in college. Today the guy keeps talking about when he can finally check out.

I was gonna jump in a give some advice, but I think Foghorn covered it all. Reread a few times. You pull a Leonardo Dicaprio and say when you find the right girl you will marry. Gives them false hope and get them to ease off.

If you rescue a damsel in distress, all you will get is a distressed damsel.

[foghornleghornParticipant 3449]

Odin wrote:

I’ve seen enough stories on here, and had personal experiences with women to know that marriage is s~~~. Guess I’ll give my parents a stern talking to, no doubt they’ll pull out the gay card or something.

So what? Let them pull out the gay card. If you are a man going his own way shaming won’t work on you. The real question here is no what your parents want but rather how badly do you want and value your own life and freedom? Do you want to end up a pussy begging simp like your brother-in-law? If not, tell your parents that you have no desire to get married right now and you certainly have no desire to get married until you are ready. If they cannot understand and honor that, move out.

[GrumpyParticipant]

Odin wrote:

My mother sat down in my room whilst I was browsing on the computer and kept telling me that it’s time to marry; that my grandparents are getting old and want to see me married; that my sister wants a sister-in-law, and how my parents want grand-kids.

Your answer is right there.
There is not a single reason nor benefit regarding you. 3 generations of women demanding that you perform like a trained monkey.
Talk to grandpa and your father, if they support your slavery? Perhaps it is time to soar with the falcons.
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Eurasian_hobby

There was a time in my life when I gave a fuck. Now you have to pay ME for it

[foghornleghornParticipant 3449]

Faust For Science wrote:

Odin wrote:

She’s married right now and quite frankly makes her husband her slave.

Point that out to your parents. If they still want you to get married then it is time for you to cut ties and run.

It won’t make a f~~~ing difference to Indian parents. Frankly the mindset here is that it is completely normal to be a pussy begging simp and grovel to your wife, that apparently is what makes a good husband in the Indian crowd. I work with a lot of Indians as well, Friday before the EOD ask any of them if they want to go get a couple of beers after work and the first words out of their mouth – I need to ask the wife. These are guys who work 50+ hours a day providing for their stay at home wife and kids and they need to ask permission to just go get a drink.

I lucked out in the sense that my parents saw what an arranged marriage did to my oldest brother and they never broached the topic with me. My thunderc~~~ of a sister on the other hand tried to set me up and I haven’t spoken to her in over a decade – frankly, the best decade of my life and only getting better.

[FrostByteParticipant 19005]

foghornleghorn wrote:

These are guys who work 50+ hours a day providing for their stay at home wife and kids and they need to ask permission to just go get a drink.

I revel in the joy of sitting at a bar when ever I want. When I hear any talk about asking the wife I laugh to myself and buy me another round. I invite all MGTOW to sit with me and bask in the freedom. Be that guy.

If you rescue a damsel in distress, all you will get is a distressed damsel.

[sidecarParticipant 35837]

Odin wrote:

What should I do?

What would you do if they told you to shove a live hand grenade up your ass just because it might be a dud? It’s the same basic deal. Even if it doesn’t go off you still have to live with the agony of having a hand grenade shoved up your ass.

Tell them to go f~~~ themselves

They have two options:
1. Have a permanent bachelor MGHOW son and accept that fact.
2. Have no son at all.

Tell them to choose wisely. Do they expect your sister to care for them in their old age? Maybe they should.

I’m still 23, I don’t want to marry young.

You don’t want to marry at all. There is nothing for you in marriage. Especially not in bulls~~~ make the family happy arranged marriage.

Odin wrote:

You can’t talk about MGTOW to any of these people, it really is like talking to a brick wall.

Then don’t talk to them about it. Give them a demonstration. Actions speak louder than words. Walk the f~~~ away.

[ZoidbergParticipant 965]

You do not owe kids to anyone. Your sperm, your choice.

[Anonymous 12]

Odin wrote:

I’ve seen enough stories on here, and had personal experiences with women to know that marriage is s~~~. Guess I’ll give my parents a stern talking to, no doubt they’ll pull out the gay card or something.

Expect more.
Expect much worse.
Expect “get out of my house”
Expect the words “disgrace, leech, you are not my son any more, you are disowned”
Expect a family gathering that has no other purpose to put you in a room with all your uncles and cousins… “<ou are not leaving this room until you sign this paper that you will marry the ugly broad we chose for you”.

The solution?
You get your own room/studio.
do NOT disclose its location.
make SURE they do not know your whereabouts or have access to intel of your life.
Run, Forrest.
Run.

F~~~ing Parental Bullies…
So glad mine are Dead. Spared me a truckload of further misery.

[AttonParticipant]

You are 23 years of age and I am guessing you have a home. If so make your communications with these people contingent apron the fact this subject is not discussed. Else consistently respond with no under all circumstances.

I’m still 23, I don’t want to marry young.

Think about this statement and read what has been said on this thread.

A MGTOW is a man who is not a woman's bitch!

[OgreParticipant 5863]

Contract work is fine for people that consistently close deals. You might have to take a regular job. While they are covering the majority of your financial load and living with them you are a captive audience.

Getting out on your own is the first step to your true independence.

I failed to realize in my youth that I was the prize. I was going to work. I was going to earn. Little did I realize that due to feminism, that no longer meant I had to share. Road soon, Desert after.

[mgtow_85Participant 752]

DON’T F~~~ING DO IT!!!

Look at what your parents have said so far.

“Your sister needs a playmate/sister-in-law to talk to.”
“Your grandparents are getting OLD and want to see another wedding take place before they die.”
“We found someone for you, gave her your picture, and even though you never saw her face, we expect you to marry her.”

Have they EVER asked you anything about YOUR best interests, instead of THEIRS, dear little sis, or their decaying old folks who most likely will have a diminished memory bank within a year or two that will no longer have that wedding day to fit inside it?

The moment they THINK they know what’s GOOD for you without ever asking your opinion on what YOU want, that’s a bulls~~~ demand. Oh, I understand that when you’re little, they have to do what’s in your best interests and refuse to let you eat candy right before dinner, but you’re 23 YEARS OLD, and if they still think they can just throw someone at you to marry and not ask your opinion on it, they don’t respect your rights as an adult anyway, and they barely see you as one.
My father was 91 years old when he died a year and a half ago. A year before THAT, he had been a nondenominational priest and did the wedding ceremony for my older sister and her husband-to-be. Afterwards, I was talking with my dad and JOKINGLY told him, “I better find a chick so you can do OUR ceremony while there’s still time.”
I know, it’s a blue-pill statement, but I didn’t mean any of that s~~~. My father was born in 1924, complete old-school, a decorated WW2 veteran, and when I was born, he was already 61 years old and was a loving and devoted father even after my mom dumped his ass when I was four years old and tried(unsuccessfully)to take him for his retirement savings and pension.
My father looked at me dead in the eye and said seriously, “Son, if you wanted me to officiate your wedding, that’d be good, but I’ll die a happy man JUST knowing that you made something of yourself, that you have a job you like, you’re keeping a roof over your head, and that you’re happy with your life. ARE you happy?”
“Yes, I am,” I replied. “And I got a good job for my needs and my own place and I feel pretty good about myself for what I did to accomplish all of that.”
He hugged me, said he was proud of me, and declared that if I had all those things, I was already a success. When I visited him four months before he died, he looked more frail and older than before, and we didn’t have much of a long talk, but he still stated that he was proud of the man I became. In mid-November of 2015, I got the call from my sister. Our father was gone. I was devastated and burst into tears for the first time in several years, and to this day, even though I miss him dearly, I am happy to know that he was proud of me up to the end.
This is a man who served his country fighting the Nazis and putting his life on the line for 54 dollars a month, and who had experienced so many things throughout life and saw so many changes take place(we laughed our asses off when we were trying to explain what Facebook was to him seven years ago), and not ONCE did he ever say some blue-pill bulls~~~ about how I need to be MARRIED for HIS/someone else’s sake.
All he ever cared about was seeing that I was making my way in life, and that you were a success if you were able to do so.

All your parents care about is an extra f~~~ing plate at the dinner table and an opportunity to offer to change more diapers. They don’t give a flying F~~~ about your happiness.
I’d cut that hostile link from your life before it turns into a chain that wraps around your neck and kills the man that you are.

[505vikingoParticipant 521]

Odin,

Walk away from the insanity, and never look back. You will be fine.

[foghornleghornParticipant 3449]

Zoidberg wrote:

You do not owe kids to anyone. Your sperm, your choice.

Indian parents believe that since they raised you, they now own you.

[BrainPilotParticipant 7640]

Agreed Fog’
they may very well believe that they own you or that you owe them. If they believe this, then you have a decision to make regarding how you will react to that belief: Agree and act accordingly, or disagree and act accordingly. How you act delivers the message. What you want or say or believe is irrelevant. Do not tell them anything regarding whether you agree or disagree.

Show them by your actions in a way that can’t possibly be misunderstood…

Look, it's not my fault that tornado dropped a house on your sister. Now get back on your broom and get your ass out of here... and take your monkeys with you

[PuniShredderParticipant 2268]

Run away?? You’re a grown ass man!! Tell them all to go to hell, disappear and never look back.. life is short and this life is yours!

Be professional be polite but always have a plan to kill everyone you meet.

[SESQUI ano estParticipant 2535]

Your life is your life.
Don’t let it be clubbed into dank submission!!!

Everyday above ground is a good one. Everyday above ground while single...better still.

[Eric LauderParticipant 12043]

Attack is the best defence.
Don’t run away.
Attack.
Ask for a 16 yo virgin, attractive, an huge dowry, and a house.
If something lacks, then shame your parents, say them that they’re disrepecting you by not recognizing your worth: you’re a computer engineer, highly specialized.
They’re waging war against your freedom, they attacked your freedom, you have to react: hit them where they’re weak.
With your mother you have to insist especially about two things: the spouse have to be virgin and being very healthy and very capable of carrying children, also attractive. This will render your mother very weak – those are women’s weak points.
With your father insist about money: dowry, and the house. Money is his weak point.

Even if you’ll ultimately decide to leave, they have to be ashamed that you leaved the house because they failed to provide you a decent spouse and you felt disrespected.

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