I had a unicorn. They do exist.

[Anonymous 14]

Can’t get her off my mind tonight guys. We’ve been soulmates since 10 years old. Had an affair with her at our 10 year class reunion. Truth be told, which is always the case with me, she’s never escaped my mind.
I’m am bothered by this enough tonight even valium and prescribed sleeping pills have no effect. I’m going to go haul round bales of hay just to have something to do after I eat. Then shear trees with the bobcat/skid loader just to pass the time.
We haven’t spoken since the affair. I cannot sit here all night in this chair. No matter how red pill I am throughout my life, she has never escaped my mind for many decades.
My body isn’t capable of handling this without immense pain, but I refuse to give up and bring the pain on. I am not afraid. Any advice would be greatly appreciated.

[ghostParticipant]

Neither can I General, but she was not a unicorn. No woman is a unicorn and no man is perfect. The concept of a unicorn is misguided. She might have been a good woman. She may have been better than any other woman you knew or have met since. She was still a woman. You are still a man. Our nature will always be our nature.

Long-term monogamous relationships will never work in modern times. Think about it.

Anonymous wrote:

My body isn’t capable of handling this without immense pain, but I refuse to give up and bring the pain on. I am not afraid. Any advice would be greatly appreciated.

Give it time. Focus on yourself and making progress in your life. It could be better health, more money or anything that you can think of. Progress will make you feel better.

[sidecarParticipant 35837]

Anonymous wrote:

Had an affair with her at our 10 year class reunion.

Then she isn’t a unicorn.

Affair.

Unicorn.

No.

[bstoffParticipant 4863]

If she is a unicorn, why did she have an affair with you?

Based on your message, and this being the only thing you’ve said about her, wouldn’t that make her a cheater, unworthy of respect and praise?
I’m having a hard time understanding how you can consider someone who is willing to have an affair, worthy of being on your pedestal.

Maybe the drugs you are on, which are not a good idea in the first place, have clouded your judgment.

[Anonymous 14]

The affair happened due to when we dated in high school. My whole class was jealous of me and were the cause of the split.
You are all right however. I am Man enough to admit that. That said, had we been allowed to remain together I strongly feel the cheating would not have happened. Her parents forbid me from me, yet she always wanted to be mine. I felt it. I knew it. I saw it.
Still, I cannot come up with any other arguments to counter any and all points you’ve all given. I appreciate the rapid replies Men and I do thank you. But I’m going to see the sunrise in the field come morning, regardless. F~~~ it hurts when this s~~~ happens don’t it. Faaaack!

[Anonymous 14]

ghost wrote:

Neither can I General, but she was not a unicorn. No woman is a unicorn and no man is perfect. The concept of a unicorn is misguided. She might have been a good woman. She may have been better than any other woman you knew or have met since. She was still a woman. You are still a man. Our nature will always be our nature.

Long-term monogamous relationships will never work in modern times. Think about it.

General Kenobi wrote:

My body isn’t capable of handling this without immense pain, but I refuse to give up and bring the pain on. I am not afraid. Any advice would be greatly appreciated.

Give it time. Focus on yourself and making progress in your life. It could be better health, more money or anything that you can think of. Progress will make you feel better.

You are very astute Gambit. I do not like to mention this but all vertebrae in my body but two are destroyed. I am not going to live a long life due to this. The damage done was too great. I have to use it or lose it, and eventually I will lose it. I’m eaten up with arthritis so badly that my chiropractor tells me I am similar to a 95 year old man that just encountered a serious car accident. I refuse to give in. I refuse to give up. I never have. I never will. For the record, I’m not suicidal or I would not have suffered thru this as long as I have. As I said, I refuse to give up.

[JVBParticipant]

You think she’s thinking of you ?She’s prob f~~~ing some homeless guy as we speak…….

……yip that should do it.

Peace is > piece.

[bstoffParticipant 4863]

I think you are only seeing her through rose-colored glasses.

You have probably only seen her at her best and, in your eyes, she can do no wrong.

I am willing to bet all of the beer in all MGTOW refrigerators that she has wronged dozens of men in some way, and at least a few men in big ways, just like any other woman has done.

[sidecarParticipant 35837]

Anonymous wrote:

I strongly feel the cheating would not have happened.

Your ego demands you believe that.

But the cheating would have happened nonetheless.

Cheaters cheat. If she’ll cheat with you, she’ll cheat on you. It’s all down to who she is, not her circumstances. Even with you she would find circumstances to justify her cheating.

[Anonymous 14]

Tough to admit it, but you are all more than likely correct. I’m wishing I had Vader’s life support suit now. Life…ain’t she a bitch. Thank you Brothers.

[Anonymous 14]

sidecar wrote:

General Kenobi wrote:

I strongly feel the cheating would not have happened.

Your ego demands you believe that.

But the cheating would have happened nonetheless.

Cheaters cheat. If she’ll cheat with you, she’ll cheat on you. It’s all down to who she is, not her circumstances. Even with you she would find circumstances to justify her cheating.

My ego. I ignore it and not recognize it’s presence but it is strong and exists. I do feel more relaxed now after the good advice you’ve all given me. I may be a strong man, but you’ve all found my weakness tonight.

[ghostParticipant]

Anonymous wrote:

You are very astute Gambit. I do not like to mention this but all vertebrae in my body but two are destroyed. I am not going to live a long life due to this. The damage done was too great. I have to use it or lose it, and eventually I will lose it. I’m eaten up with arthritis so badly that my chiropractor tells me I am similar to a 95 year old man that just encountered a serious car accident. I refuse to give in. I refuse to give up. I never have. I never will. For the record, I’m not suicidal or I would not have suffered thru this as long as I have. As I said, I refuse to give up.

Thank you. I admire your courage to fight through your circumstance. It is inspiring. You do not seem like the guy who would give up easily or you wouldn’t be here.

We all die one day. Some sooner than others but it does not change the fact that we all die. If I were to know that I am going to die tomorrow, I would be fine with it. No regrets. I will wait for everyone else to join me when they are ready.

[Jim01Participant 6678]

Sidecar has said all that needs to be said – she sounds like your run of the mill whore and not worthy of a second thought

[ghostParticipant]

sidecar wrote:

But the cheating would have happened nonetheless.

Sidecar’s word is as good as gold.

[bstoffParticipant 4863]

You made a good choice by voicing your concern at MGTOW forums. There are lots of wise voices who see through the fog and clutter.

[Anonymous 14]

Sidecar, my ego is my main weakness? It makes sense.
I should have chosen Anakin instead of Obi-wan. Watching him being put in his life support suit as I type this.

[Anonymous 14]

bstoff wrote:

You made a good choice by voicing your concern at MGTOW forums. There are lots of wise voices who see through the fog and clutter.

You guys have been thru it or you wouldn’t be here. Damn, it is my ego isn’t it? I’ve never realized it was this strong/bad.

[ghostParticipant]

Anonymous wrote:

Damn, it is my ego isn’t it?

Having confidence is not a bad thing. You should maintain your confidence but accept that she was as sidecar has described.

[Ranger OneParticipant 16836]

Anonymous wrote:

bstoffers wrote:

You made a good choice by voicing your concern at MGTOW forums. There are lots of wise voices who see through the fog and clutter.

You guys have been thru it or you wouldn’t be here. Damn, it is my ego isn’t it? I’ve never realized it was this strong/bad.

We all like to think that we are special, but the universe doesn’t much give a f~~~ about us. We like to think that some woman’s “love” for us means that we are special. She is probably only a unicorn in the sense that you have not been with her long enough to find out otherwise.

Some men I suppose are lucky: their spouse dies before they could “change” and divorce them. The only thing that exists that resembles unicorns are the women that were raised right (to overcome their natural hypergamy) and were not corrupted by modern society. That is few and far between nowadays and even a “good” woman can eventually crack.

That unicorn horn can just crack off one day and you are stuck with a horse, or maybe even a mule.

All my life I've had doubts about who I am, where I belonged. Now I'm like the arrow that springs from the bow. No hesitation, no doubts. The path is clear. And what are you? Alive. Everything else is negotiable. Women have rights; men have responsibilities; MGTOW have freedom. Marriage is for chumps. If someone stands in the way of true justice, you simply walk up behind them and stab them in the heart-R'as al Ghul.

[AntipathyParticipant 4901]

From the sounds of it, and I don’t mean this as an insult but as a matter of opinion … You’re having a manic episode, triggered by the questions, doubts, what if’s, and convictions swirling around in your mind. I know this feeling well and have been there multiple times myself. It’s okay for this process to take place, but i advise you to not let it alter your path.

You think she’s a unicorn ? How do you know this for sure ? Some guys are married to a woman they swear are perfect unicorns, and after 24 years, an opportunity for them to monkey branch presents itself, and they leave their husband of 24 years without hesitation or remorse. This happened recently to a coworker of mine.

The fact is most men don’t know the person sleeping in the same bed with them, even if they’ve been with them for over 20 years … I urge you to ask yourself these questions … How many “unicorns” develop personality traits you’re unaware of as they get older ? How many of them already have hidden traits you’re unaware of ?

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