Help me Snap out of it!

[IRuleMeParticipant]

Princekie wrote:

Mr.Blue wrote:

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Does she care about what you “just want”?

Funny you say that… I had told her. “Of course you’re calling me when YOU need something. You would never call me to see how I’m doing or if I need anything”. She stayed silent after that.

She stayed silent because she knew you’re not a mug. You know her game (and it is a game).
You did the right thing. Its hard at first resisting blonde buxom beauty, but when you realise that behind that cute smile and those twinkling blue eyes that they have a heart of stone and would stab you in the back without a second thought…

Like the lyrics from Stone Cold by Rainbow

“Love was here and gone
Like a thief in the night
Stone Cold!
And I thought I knew you so well.”

Mr.Blue wrote:

TaxGuy wrote:

Now we’re getting somewhere. Narcissists lack the ability to create their own energy so they have to get it from others. When you are with a positive person, you create more energy when you are together. So, you could each put in a liter of energy and those two combine to make 5. You are both more energized after being around each other. With a narc, when you put in a liter, they take it. Then they feel better and you’re drained. They are a parasite looking for a host, except that human parasites can live off of multiple hosts.

You ever see the movie Monsters, Inc? The monsters steal the little kids energy by scaring the s~~~ out of them. But then they realize that you get 10 times the energy when you make them laugh. I swear the guy that wrote that movie was trying to explain to his children what a monster there mom was. But that’s what narcs do. Eventually you’ll be strapped to a chair with a big suction hose tied to your face as she sucks every last ounce of energy out of you.

You dodged a major damned bullet here buddy. Do NOT go back under any circumstances.

It wasn’t until after the relationship that my eyes opened and I realized she is a narcissist. She always accused me of being negative, boring, and many other things when I knew that wasn’t me. I thought I was happy in the relationship and I felt so attached that I didn’t want to leave even though I knew something wasn’t right. She was sucking the life out of me(physically and psychologically) but after being on my own for 6months I went back to the energetic and positive person I always was.

You really want to mess with her? Next time she calls, answer the phone and put the phone up against a speaker and play this song.

Then hang up the phone. I guarantee she’ll hang up the phone in a huff.

[KeymasterKeymaster]

Be like . . .

If you keep doing what you've always done... you're gonna keep getting what you always got.

[bstoffParticipant 4863]

To make it as simple as possible, remember that she discarded you.
Therefore you have been shown how much she values you, already.

Don’t continue to give her reason to show you again.

It is likely that she may have been embarrassed that her peers have seen her gutter-diving while you are still holding onto your dignity and doing well.

That alone might drive her to at least appear to be crawling back to you long enough for her to destroy your image in front of her peers.
She can do that in many ways, such as accusing you of assault, rape or anything where she appears to be a victim.
Another thing she can do to destroy you is to simply dump you all over again and let her friends see how much she was able to crush you, yet again.

Narcissists elevate themselves by dragging others down.

You are clearly too good for and have nothing to gain by allowing her to creep back into your life.

NO CONTACT, of any kind, is the safest thing to do.

A restraining order would not be out of line since she continues to use the trickery of unknown phone numbers to drag you, unwillingly, back into her world.
It would shame her rather than you, since she is the one who can’t let go of her victim.

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