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Anonymous18she was going through some rough times
She is applying you to be a) emotional tampon, b) potential wallet, c) crazy hamster
when we were in our relationship I genuinely cared about her, wanted her to be happy and succeed in life(
She knows it. Yet she walked away. Whatever you had for her wasn’t worth it for her. She found someone ‘better’.
Your self-respect – insert here.
We were extremely close when we were together so I feel like she still felt an attachment
Read below:
A woman can only walk away if her ‘interest level’ has dropped below the point of no return.
+1.
If you make contact – you are undoing any efforts to walk away. She will lure you back. And throw you by the wayside once her objective is complete.
There are no unlocked achievements for you to help her complete her objective.
Your game with her was over. Turn off your mind console and pick up a book. Read chapter 4: No contact.
As everyone else said: One chance per vagina per lifetime.
Well isn’t that great. She sees you as her emotional tampon and you don’t exist for that purpose.
“I just want” is not reason to oblige. And “I just want to talk” means she “just” wants you to listen.
Does she care about what you “just want”?
Funny you say that… I had told her. “Of course you’re calling me when YOU need something. You would never call me to see how I’m doing or if I need anything”. She stayed silent after that.
Anonymous18You would never call me to see how I’m doing or if I need anything”. She stayed silent after that.
Yes it’s also a red pill. Take it. Thank her.
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Does she care about what you “just want”?
Funny you say that… I had told her. “Of course you’re calling me when YOU need something. You would never call me to see how I’m doing or if I need anything”. She stayed silent after that.
She stayed silent because she knew you’re not a mug. You know her game (and it is a game).
You did the right thing. Its hard at first resisting blonde buxom beauty, but when you realise that behind that cute smile and those twinkling blue eyes that they have a heart of stone and would stab you in the back without a second thought…to feed her narcissistic personality
Now we’re getting somewhere. Narcissists lack the ability to create their own energy so they have to get it from others. When you are with a positive person, you create more energy when you are together. So, you could each put in a liter of energy and those two combine to make 5. You are both more energized after being around each other. With a narc, when you put in a liter, they take it. Then they feel better and you’re drained. They are a parasite looking for a host, except that human parasites can live off of multiple hosts.
You ever see the movie Monsters, Inc? The monsters steal the little kids energy by scaring the s~~~ out of them. But then they realize that you get 10 times the energy when you make them laugh. I swear the guy that wrote that movie was trying to explain to his children what a monster there mom was. But that’s what narcs do. Eventually you’ll be strapped to a chair with a big suction hose tied to your face as she sucks every last ounce of energy out of you.
You dodged a major damned bullet here buddy. Do NOT go back under any circumstances.
Order the good wine
In case of emergency, log into mgtow.com
That would make a good graphic for the homepage. A break glass fire alarm with ‘MGTOW’ inside.
Its hard at first resisting blonde buxom beauty, but when you realise that behind that cute smile and those twinkling blue eyes that they have a heart of stone and would stab you in the back without a second thought…
I can’t stop laughing at your extreme accuracy…
Now we’re getting somewhere. Narcissists lack the ability to create their own energy so they have to get it from others. When you are with a positive person, you create more energy when you are together. So, you could each put in a liter of energy and those two combine to make 5. You are both more energized after being around each other. With a narc, when you put in a liter, they take it. Then they feel better and you’re drained. They are a parasite looking for a host, except that human parasites can live off of multiple hosts.
You ever see the movie Monsters, Inc? The monsters steal the little kids energy by scaring the s~~~ out of them. But then they realize that you get 10 times the energy when you make them laugh. I swear the guy that wrote that movie was trying to explain to his children what a monster there mom was. But that’s what narcs do. Eventually you’ll be strapped to a chair with a big suction hose tied to your face as she sucks every last ounce of energy out of you.
You dodged a major damned bullet here buddy. Do NOT go back under any circumstances.
It wasn’t until after the relationship that my eyes opened and I realized she is a narcissist. She always accused me of being negative, boring, and many other things when I knew that wasn’t me. I thought I was happy in the relationship and I felt so attached that I didn’t want to leave even though I knew something wasn’t right. She was sucking the life out of me(physically and psychologically) but after being on my own for 6months I went back to the energetic and positive person I always was.
It’s great that you recognize the problem and come here to those that actually are advising on your best interest. Now:
I asked her why she was calling me and she told me she was going through some rough times and just wanted to talk because I always made her feel better.
So it’s all about HER. Get it? She has no interest in you … just that you make her feel good.
I didn’t directly tell her to f~~~ off
You should have. It’s very easy … just say f~~~ off and hang up. Then immediately block.
She got upset after the 3rd time of me saying that and hung up
So she rewarded your not hanging up and misguided concern for her feelings by getting p~~~ed and hanging up. She’s a cùnt.
After that phone call I became super curious about her again and have been feeling the urge to talk to her.
Repeat after me and everyone else here:
. . . “she is a cúnt. She can f~~~ off and die for all you care.”
You are what matters to you, because you sure as hell don’t matter to her.If worse comes to worse, seduce her mother no matter how ugly the pig, and tell her. That will keep her away (or it may turn her on but if so then you know what a pile of whorish trash she and her family are).
If you are MGTOW when you are young you have no heart.
If you're not MGTOW when you are 20 you have no brain.If worse comes to worse, seduce her mother no matter how ugly the pig, and tell her. That will keep her away (or it may turn her on but if so then you know what a pile of whorish trash she and her family are).
hmmmmmm
It wasn’t until after the relationship that my eyes opened and I realized she is a narcissist. She always accused me of being negative, boring, and many other things when I knew that wasn’t me. I thought I was happy in the relationship and I felt so attached that I didn’t want to leave even though I knew something wasn’t right. She was sucking the life out of me(physically and psychologically) but after being on my own for 6months I went back to the energetic and positive person I always was.
You have answered your own question.
Anonymous7A point not mentioned yet and is of utmost importance for your safety to understand; sometimes the she devil will try to draw you back in just to crush you even more and make your situation much worse.
She may seem very sincere, sweet, and apologetic, but her real agenda could be bad news for you. She may harbor a vindictive attitude.
How would you feel about having to get into a physical confrontation with the new boyfriend? Win win for her.
Would you consider a stay at the local pokey house for stalker accusations fun? How about a long drawn out court case?
Have you ever been stabbed, shot, or run over?
I have two close references of the double back not working out very well.
Women scorned, and all that.
One chance, per person, per lifetime. NO EXCEPTIONS!
Does this only apply to the opposite sex in terms of relationships or do you apply this with friends, business partners and family members? Also, do you hold yourself to the same rule? If you made a mistake, are you okay with never being given a second chance? Just curious.
One chance, per person, per lifetime. NO EXCEPTIONS!
Does this only apply to the opposite sex in terms of relationships or do you apply this with friends, business partners and family members? Also, do you hold yourself to the same rule? If you made a mistake, are you okay with never being given a second chance? Just curious.
Gambit: Great question! So just to clarify. I’m not talking about a little screw up here. I’m talking about someone that has screwed you over big time. On those terms, then the answer is yes I hold everyone to that rule. Maybe family gets a little larger chance, but they’ve never screwed me over so I can’t say.
As far as business goes, I wouldn’t cut them loose until it worked on my terms. But I’ve never looked for a better job and turned it down because the previous company then came back with a better deal than I had. I’ve found new jobs and had current employer try to up the ante. My standard response: “If I really meant that much to you I wouldn’t have needed to go find a better deal first.” Besides, then they will resent the hell out of you for forcing their hand. Better to just shake hands and walk away.
And yes to friends. My circle of friends is pretty close and we had to cut one guy loose because he kept screwing people over.
For me, with women, it’s been cheating. And then, yeah, I kicked them to the curb and went no contact. The only exception is my ex wife, and that’s because we have two kids. Otherwise I would just send the monthly check and be done.
For myself, I can’t say. I don’t treat people like they are disposable so it’s never happened to me. I guess that’s one way of knowing that you are doing ok. I make sure that I can look myself in the mirror in the morning and lay down with my thoughts at night.
Order the good wine
Gambit: Great question! So just to clarify.
Thank you – that helps a lot. I feel the same way. I have never really screwed anyone over but I am always more conscious of my actions than most other people I have met. I hold myself to a really high standard. I have been told to lower my standards but that just doesn’t work for me. I appreciate your response.
Anonymous43next time she calls hang up. change phone numbers, get a po box for mail, new email just for her…have someone else make the password.
no contact, I wouldn’t want to hear from my ex c~~~ even if she told me my doinkus was on fire
Gambit: Great question! So just to clarify.
Thank you – that helps a lot. I feel the same way. I have never really screwed anyone over but I am always more conscious of my actions than most other people I have met. I hold myself to a really high standard. I have been told to lower my standards but that just doesn’t work for me. I appreciate your response.
Not bad for a couple of men living their moms’ basements playing video games all day, right? Shame all they want, but deep down the hive knows that men of real character are walking away from a rigged system. That’s what REALLY scares the hell out of them. All they will be left with are simps and Chads.
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Anonymous3Don’t look back man, don’t look back.
Think on a higher level, brother.
That’s a typical tactic. Call, harass, question. If she’s going through tough times, they are problems of her own making.
, it was just your turn.
you’ll get there just keep posting. your all ready starting to catch on
She feels f~~~ all you pal and don’t think for a second she hasn’t been hitting the c~~~ carousel in your absence. Things probably didn’t turn out like she imagined so she’s reaching back out to you. Blow her off completely bro or if you have the burning desire to say something tell her you met someone and you are very happy. She will be gone like last months pay check. Stay strong bro.
Peace is > piece.
Hey brothers…
So the past few days I’ve been feeling anxious about something I shouldn’t… and figured there is no better place to ask for advice and help from. If you have read my intro, I’m 21 and split with my ex of 3years(Was my “first adult love”) earlier this year. I went no contact right after the break-up which helped me a lot but for the last month she was trying to get a hold of me through friends, social media and texting from other numbers. I blocked Every attempt and was able to continue on without hearing her voice. Just last weekend, I get a call from Michigan and assumed it was a customer or maybe family that I have there so I picked up. Turns out it was her and I was pretty shocked to hear her voice after months of no contact.
I asked her why she was calling me and she told me she was going through some rough times and just wanted to talk because I always made her feel better. This is true because when we were in our relationship I genuinely cared about her, wanted her to be happy and succeed in life(too bad women don’t reciprocate love the same way). When the relationship ended I still wished the best for her but had some rage inside me because I invested too much effort and energy into that relationship for her to just walk away from it.
I proceeded to tell her that I had no interest in talking to her anymore, although honestly, I was curious to know what she had been up to but didn’t ask or let her tell me…this is where the problem starts. I didn’t directly tell her to f~~~ off but when she would try to initiate a conversation or ask me if I still cared I just kept saying that I had her blocked for a reason and had no interest in talking to her. She got upset after the 3rd time of me saying that and hung up but I knew she would call or text me back shortly after. 30seconds later, texts messages start coming in but I blocked the number after the 2nd text message so I don’t know what she was about to say.
Now the problem… We were extremely close when we were together so I feel like she still felt an attachment with me but my feelings for her had faded after going no contact. After that phone call I became super curious about her again and have been feeling the urge to talk to her. I have pretty good self-control so I haven’t done anything stupid but please remind me why I am better off alone and not with her.
I had been feeling so good the last few months up until that short call that brought a bunch of unwanted feelings back. Staying strong and grounded though. Thanks in advance.
Dude, she’s using you as an emotional tampon. That’s what you are to her. That’s why she called. She even admitted it when she said she needed to vent to you because she was going through a tough time. Well.. What you need to understand is – it’s not your job in life to make her, or anyone else happy. It’s not your job in life to be their emotional life saver.
That’s not why you were brought into this world by your parents. To be other people’s problem solver and emotional punching bag. You don’t owe that to ANYONE. And it’s not your job to play life coach. If she’s going through tough times, well.. Tough s~~~. She needs to deal with her problems. Why? Because they’re HER problems. It’s her life. Not yours bro. But she thinks that just because you were “close” that she has some mystical right to call you up when her life gets hard. She doesn’t. Don’t give her the extra benefit of stringing you along. When you tell her “NO!” it means what? NO! When she persists, don’t keep telling her “No! No! No!”… Hang up. Simple as that.
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