Help me Snap out of it!

[Mr.BlueParticipant 614]

Hey brothers…

So the past few days I’ve been feeling anxious about something I shouldn’t… and figured there is no better place to ask for advice and help from. If you have read my intro, I’m 21 and split with my ex of 3years(Was my “first adult love”) earlier this year. I went no contact right after the break-up which helped me a lot but for the last month she was trying to get a hold of me through friends, social media and texting from other numbers. I blocked Every attempt and was able to continue on without hearing her voice. Just last weekend, I get a call from Michigan and assumed it was a customer or maybe family that I have there so I picked up. Turns out it was her and I was pretty shocked to hear her voice after months of no contact.

I asked her why she was calling me and she told me she was going through some rough times and just wanted to talk because I always made her feel better. This is true because when we were in our relationship I genuinely cared about her, wanted her to be happy and succeed in life(too bad women don’t reciprocate love the same way). When the relationship ended I still wished the best for her but had some rage inside me because I invested too much effort and energy into that relationship for her to just walk away from it.

I proceeded to tell her that I had no interest in talking to her anymore, although honestly, I was curious to know what she had been up to but didn’t ask or let her tell me…this is where the problem starts. I didn’t directly tell her to f~~~ off but when she would try to initiate a conversation or ask me if I still cared I just kept saying that I had her blocked for a reason and had no interest in talking to her. She got upset after the 3rd time of me saying that and hung up but I knew she would call or text me back shortly after. 30seconds later, texts messages start coming in but I blocked the number after the 2nd text message so I don’t know what she was about to say.

Now the problem… We were extremely close when we were together so I feel like she still felt an attachment with me but my feelings for her had faded after going no contact. After that phone call I became super curious about her again and have been feeling the urge to talk to her. I have pretty good self-control so I haven’t done anything stupid but please remind me why I am better off alone and not with her.

I had been feeling so good the last few months up until that short call that brought a bunch of unwanted feelings back. Staying strong and grounded though. Thanks in advance.

[Anonymous 13]

Here’s your problem.

You said you were close before the break up.

NO.

You might have felt that but she didn’t.

SHE walked away.

Don’t look back man, don’t look back.

[MGTOW_MikeParticipant 6253]

Take a look at the BIG picture brother….check this s~~~ out:

Comments from Married Men

This will shatter your state of confusion. No matter how SWEET/MAGICAL/LOVING/CARING your girlfriend is, ALL WOMEN ARE LIKE THAT…..the majority of men have had the ol’ bait n switch s~~~ pulled on them. As soon as the ring goes on, it flips the bitch switch.

Think on a higher level, brother. EVERYTHING in this wold is subjected to change. It is IMPOSSIBLE for a relationship to stay the same, i.e maintain passion and chemistry. It all fades away. Even the most passionate couple in the world becomes mediocre. Even if, hypothetically speaking, women are unicorns and there are no divorce laws, it all ends sooner or later. This is the rule of the universe. Impermanence.

A tranquil mind is neither happy nor sad, it is uninfluenced by external conditions.

[joetechParticipant]

That’s a typical tactic. Call, harass, question. If she’s going through tough times, they are problems of her own making. You’re doing the right thing keeping her out of your affairs. She wants you to be curious about her. It gives her validation. Keyword here is HER. It’s all about her, not you. Remember that. She wants something from you or she wouldn’t be so intent on getting a hold of you. Don’t expect honesty from her. Expect deceit. Ask yourself, why would she need ME after all this time. Answer: You have resources that she needs to procure because her other source has dried up or run out. Let her be someone else’s problem, not yours. Remember that feeling of footsteps on your back when you were her doormat. That should be enough to sustain you until your curiosity subsides.

"Don't follow in my footsteps...I stepped in something."

[Mr.BlueParticipant 614]

Anonymous wrote:

Here’s your problem.

You said you were close before the break up.

NO.

You might have felt that but she didn’t.

SHE walked away.

Don’t look back man, don’t look back.

You’re right. The feelings/effort did not feel mutual.

[Anonymous 13]

A woman can only walk away if her ‘interest level’ has dropped below the point of no return.

This means it’s over now, a done deal.

You’re now just dealing with her EGO that is curious to see if she still has you hooked or to turn you into an orbiter.

One chance, per woman, per lifetime.

NO EXCEPTIONS.

[Mr.BlueParticipant 614]

MGTOW_Mike wrote:

Take a look at the BIG picture brother….check this s~~~ out:

Comments from Married Men

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Marriage is definitely scary. I hate how my brain erases many of the bad memories but has kept most of the good times. Reading those stories helps a lot though, thanks.

[TaxGuyParticipant]

Picture her with some other guy’s dick in her mouth. Because their was one. She wasn’t yours, it was just your turn.

She’s monkey branching brother. She thought she had a better deal, went for it, and realized she was wrong. She’s at minimum trying to keep you in orbit. The opposite of love isn’t hate, it’s apathy. The only way to get rid of her is to give her nothing. You’re one phone call away from being Justin Case.

One chance, per person, per lifetime. NO EXCEPTIONS!

And I honestly don’t even know if women do this on purpose. They can lie to themselves so well they start to believe their own lies are the truth. She may honestly feel like she just misses you, but if you were that great you wouldn’t have split up. She didn’t care enough then, and taking a few dicks since then doesn’t make her suddenly love you more.

Look, I’ve done some really stupid crap for women over my 52 years. But the single dumbest thing I ever did was break the rule: One chance, per person, per lifetime. NO EXCEPTIONS. Breaking that rule ONE TIME caused me more pain, misery, and money than every other stupid thing I’ve ever done.

Empty chair is all she deserves.

Order the good wine

[Anonymous 13]

NEVER break the ‘no going’ back rule.

If you break it, a world of pain awaits you.

EVERY TIME.

[MGTOW_MikeParticipant 6253]

Anonymous wrote:

Never break the no going back rule.

If you break it, a world of pain awaits you.

EVERY TIME.

Yes! We MGTOWs have crossed the Rubicon.

A tranquil mind is neither happy nor sad, it is uninfluenced by external conditions.

[wyrParticipant 591]

Nothing to gain from being her emotional tampon. I wouldn’t waste time and energy dealing with her problems. I understand being curious, but it will fade when you continue to focus on yourself and your interests.

Self-improvement is my religion. Sovereignty is my god.

[narwhalParticipant]

This is also her attempt to remove her own sense of guilt. She left a good thing, and probably second guessing herself. So she intentionally puts you in a situation where either have to forgive her by being cool with her, or you have to be a jerk to her. If you’re cool with her, then she can say she made the right choice because you’re still there and not too hurt. If you’re a jerk to her, then she made the right choice because you’re a jerk.

So you can’t win. You are best off doing what’s best for you, which is continuing the no contact. You’ll figure the rest out later.

Ok. Then do it.

[PrincekieParticipant 1042]

TaxGuy wrote:

Picture her with some other guy’s dick in her mouth. Because their was one. She wasn’t yours, it was just your turn.

She’s monkey branching brother. She thought she had a better deal, went for it, and realized she was wrong. She’s at minimum trying to keep you in orbit. The opposite of love isn’t hate, it’s apathy. The only way to get rid of her is to give her nothing. You’re one phone call away from being Justin Case.

One chance, per person, per lifetime. NO EXCEPTIONS!

And I honestly don’t even know if women do this on purpose. They can lie to themselves so well they start to believe their own lies are the truth. She may honestly feel like she just misses you, but if you were that great you wouldn’t have split up. She didn’t care enough then, and taking a few dicks since then doesn’t make her suddenly love you more.

Look, I’ve done some really stupid crap for women over my 52 years. But the single dumbest thing I ever did was break the rule: One chance, per person, per lifetime. NO EXCEPTIONS. Breaking that rule ONE TIME caused me more pain, misery, and money than every other stupid thing I’ve ever done.

Empty chair is all she deserves.

This ^^^

I can’t add a lot, but to say that everyone else is bang on the money. She wants you for second best, stringing you along and keeping you in their orbit as a fall back f~~~.

You did right blocking her mate. One chance and she blew it, no pun intended.

[Mr.BlueParticipant 614]

I’m sure she has been monkey branching but she has always tried to keep me in orbit or tried coming back to me because apparently she keeps running into low-life guys from what I’ve heard(She is very attractive and could aim for much better men but the more successful guys know better). I am a very positive and ambitious guy who has always had plans for the future. I think that is why she won’t leave me alone, I had so much energy during the relationship for her to feed her narcissistic personality and she knows I’m going places in life. My guess is that she wants to monkey branch back to me later in life when she’s done riding the carousel.

[MGTOW_MikeParticipant 6253]

Mr.Blue wrote:

(She is very attractive and could aim for much better men but the more successful guys know better

Johnny Depp (divorced)
Brad Pitt (seperated)
Elon Musk (separated)
Can we go any higher?

A tranquil mind is neither happy nor sad, it is uninfluenced by external conditions.

[Mr.BlueParticipant 614]

MGTOW_Mike wrote:

Mr.Blue wrote:

(She is very attractive and could aim for much better men but the more successful guys know better

Johnny Depp (divorced)
Brad Pitt (divorced)
Elon Musk (separated)
Can we go any higher?

Lol, I take that back…

[MGTOW_MikeParticipant 6253]

Mr.Blue wrote:

Lol, I take that back…

Perhaps, now it is some alien c~~~ from outer space. Pshhh….forget about Ferraris and Lamborghinis, spaceships are the next big thing.

A tranquil mind is neither happy nor sad, it is uninfluenced by external conditions.

[PrincekieParticipant 1042]

Mr.Blue wrote:

I’m sure she has been monkey branching but she has always tried to keep me in orbit or tried coming back to me because apparently she keeps running into low-life guys from what I’ve heard(She is very attractive and could aim for much better men but the more successful guys know better). I am a very positive and ambitious guy who has always had plans for the future. I think that is why she won’t leave me alone, I had so much energy during the relationship for her to feed her narcissistic personality and she knows I’m going places in life. My guess is that she wants to monkey branch back to me later in life when she’s done riding the carousel.

You have wisdom beyond your years mate.

You know she’s going to be bad for you in the long term, similar to how my blonde buxom beauty was. She’s the one that will use and abuse you mate. Getting validation off all those bad guys, then hopping back to you when things go wrong.
You know what to do homey.

[Mr.BlueParticipant 614]

Princekie wrote:

Mr.Blue wrote:

I’m sure she has been monkey branching but she has always tried to keep me in orbit or tried coming back to me because apparently she keeps running into low-life guys from what I’ve heard(She is very attractive and could aim for much better men but the more successful guys know better). I am a very positive and ambitious guy who has always had plans for the future. I think that is why she won’t leave me alone, I had so much energy during the relationship for her to feed her narcissistic personality and she knows I’m going places in life. My guess is that she wants to monkey branch back to me later in life when she’s done riding the carousel.

You have wisdom beyond your years mate.

You know she’s going to be bad for you in the long term, similar to how my blonde buxom beauty was. She’s the one that will use and abuse you mate. Getting validation off all those bad guys, then hopping back to you when things go wrong.
You know what to do homey.

Bro… You seriously nailed it. Even down to the Blonde Buxom Beauty part….
I clearly see that is all it is. Validation from other guys, but wants to keep me around for the long-run.

[KeymasterKeymaster]

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Mr.Blue wrote:

For the last month she was trying to get a hold of me through friends, social media and texting from other numbers. I blocked

Good. Who broke it off? Did she cheat? Who left whom? Who cares!! When you make your mind up, stick with your manstincts. Women who break it off deserve no more of your time and attention. Treat your time and attention like women treat sex.

Many times women break it off BECAUSE she thinks you’ll “always be there”. You can communicate she’s wrong about that silently, and with zero effort.

Mr.Blue wrote:

I asked her why she was calling me and she told me she was going through some rough times and just wanted to talk because I always made her feel better.

Well isn’t that great. She sees you as her emotional tampon and you don’t exist for that purpose.

“I just want” is not reason to oblige. And “I just want to talk” means she “just” wants you to listen.

Does she care about what you “just want”?

Mr.Blue wrote:

She got upset

So what.

TaxGuy wrote:

One chance, per person, per lifetime. NO EXCEPTIONS!

Glorious.

This is something you can say directly when necessary.

If you keep doing what you've always done... you're gonna keep getting what you always got.

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