Can anyone recommend a counsellor?

[bladeParticipant]

Got a mate in an outback town whos son is close to twenty and is an ice addict .

Big problems with ice in outback australia with the youth

THE PLANTATION HAS NOW TURNED INTO THE KILLING FIELDS . WOMAN ARE NOW ROLLING CAMBODIAN STYLE .

[Max PowerParticipant 2721]

Yeah he doesn’t smoke much weed. He is at uni and works a steady job and as I said is generally doing very well. He will be fine whatever he decides to do.

Most likely he will just push on with his life and realise more and more the nature of women – certainly his own mother.

Thanks for everybody’s input. I will look after him as always, we are very close.

[It’sallbsParticipant]

I know it’s not what he wants to hear but I reckon many of us on here coudl help his son more than any fcuking counsellor.

Either way no reason why the son can’t be an active member on here. My mother is an evil biatch and put up with s~~~e-physical and mental violence growing up -I’ve always been tough as old boots but it wasn’t easy.

http://www.leavemeansleave.eu

[ReclusParticipant 96]

Hello Max Power – I would like to recommend your son tries Acceptance and Commitment Therapy, a recognised school of psychology. It goes beyond Cognitive Behavioural Therapy which, as Stealth points out, has its limits.
In a nutshell, a psychologist offering ACT will say “OK, s~~~ has happened to you and we need to discuss this and come to terms with it”. That is the Acceptance part of the Therapy. Then he will say: “Now we need to look into what YOU as a person can do to deal with this and get on with your life”: That is the Commitment part of the Therapy.
Cognitive Behaviour Therapists, as Stealth says, tend to back off from stuff like deep-seated anger against parents and change topic.
CBT practitioners also tend to assume that the patient is “broken” and needs to be “fixed”, while ACT practitioners tend to say “YOU are not the problem; life deals people bad hands – now what can we do?”
An ACT Therapist will give the patient tools to recognise the triggers that prompt his anger, and offer techniques for channelling it so he can live with angry feelings (but not stifle them, because ACT recognises anger as a valid feeling).
Here is a list of ACT practitioners in Australia, from Russ Harris’s site:
https://www.actmindfully.com.au/directory.asp
Russ Harris’s book “The Happiness Trap” is a good introduction to ACT if you want to get an idea of the general approach involved.
A bit of advice on getting a psychologist: the cheap ones tend to be no good. If you can afford it, find a guy (NOT a woman) who has an MA – they have more knowledge and understanding.
Best wishes
Reclus

[Max PowerParticipant 2721]

Thank you kindly Reclus, will look into it. Cheers.

[ReclusParticipant 96]

No problem Max Power. I think ACT will give your son some useful tools for dealing with the issues he wants help with. It is a talk-based therapy and adopts a very practical approach.
Best wishes
Reclus

[Max PowerParticipant 2721]

Cheers!

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