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AnonymousSo, I am a recovering blue-pill, white knight. Divorce from a narcissistic lesbian got me on the road to MGTOW, but even then I can foul up with alleged friends.
Met a woman a singles volleyball. Sorta dated, sorta not. Mostly not. Score one for me. She looses her job, wants to go to nursing school. Sounds like a plan, so I let her move in for cheap rent. I figure it will be self-limiting, right? She goes to school, becomes a nurse, gets work, moves out. I get a house sitter and rent, right?
Fails out of nursing school. Like a good parasite, she waits until the host is weak and can’t break away, so while I am helping my father deal with my mother’s decline and death from Alzheimer’s, this alleged friend sleeps on my couch for three months and starts colonizing my house with her shopaholism and hoarding. Takes over the house, the porch, the garage. Clutter everywhere. I am reduced to my bedroom and a small drawer in the fridge. She even parks in my driveway. Cannot comprehend that I have any rights at all in my own damn house. Repeated verbal and written warnings are ignored. Then she becomes violent–has outburst, grabs my arm, lets go when I tell her it is battery on a household member (aka domestic violence). Another time, grabs my face to force me look at something. That time, I instinctively put my hand on her sternum and push her back half a step. Then I realize, good God, what if I had pushed a little harder and knocked her on her ass? Yes, she deserved it, but I am lifting weights and am surely stronger than her. All she has to do is boo-hoo to the police and I am in jail, and my career is at risk. I went to court the next day for a court-ordered eviction. Then, she “accidentally” came out of the shower with barely a towel on and implied that if I dropped the court case, we might, ya know…. (right. I am sure she would have a convenient excuse to dodge sex if I had dropped the case) She boo-hooed in court, too, but it didn’t work. I finally changed the lock Jan. 30, and hauled her remaining clutter to Goodwill Feb. 27.
The point is: fix houses, fix old cars, rescue kittens and puppies, but DO NOT RESCUE WOMEN, DO NOT FIX WOMEN, even the ones you aren’t f~~~ing, DO NOT LET A WOMAN STAY IN YOUR HOUSE. They are hardwired to believe that what’s yours is theirs, that they own whatever house they are in, and that your entire purpose in life is support her.
I just hope I can make it mentally until I can financially leave this inbred state behind
You’ll be in our thoughts brother. Unfortunately, there are a few places where the people who have been propagandized/brainwashed into believing that if you try cannabis just once you will go on a murderous rampage have chosen to make their last stand, and you’re right in the middle of one of them.
The alternative for these people is horrific: admitting to themselves that they have wasted a lifetime being afraid of a plant, a people, and a philosophy which in reality is truly less harmful than the food at their local McDonald’s.
You see a lot of that with the religious types too.
It’s like that old film footage of the Navy dirigible in a storm that broke loose from its moorings. The smart guys let go right away and fell down getting bruises or maybe a broken bone or two. The other guys held on too long and before they knew it, were carried too high up and fell to their deaths when they finally let go.
Wyoming is full of people who are in the mental equivalent of that state. If they let go now, they would have to face the horrifying truth of a lifetime of wasted opportunity, simply because someone early on convinced them that a floating, bearded boogeyman will cast them into a lake of fire to be endlessly tortured for all eternity if ever they do something he doesn’t like, and fail to beg for his forgiveness in a timely manner. And yet he LOVES you.
For example, the bible is quite clear that Heaven is hotter than hell, but that doesn’t stop millions from wanting to get there:
"Data, I would be delighted to offer any advice I can on understanding women. When I have some, I'll let you know." --Captain Picard,
AnonymousI’m 56, white male 5’8″ 190#. Worked my ass off all my f~~~ing life. Hard work. Physical work. I’m a f~~~ing mechanic, but not cars. Monster s~~~. I’m self employed for 7 years now. I trained myself long ago to look at bigger pictures, in all things. Bigger, and bigger, and bigger. As much as your mind can handle, then stuff some more. I didn’t become an engineer because I saw that I could make more money and gain more satisfaction as a tradesman. I also wanted to become a doctor, but my basic problem with that was that I don’t like people lol. I’m an introvert for the most part.
I don’t care about me, I care about our future as a species. I f~~~ed up, created progeny, and inextricably tied my fate to humanity. Dammit all ta hell lol! Otherwise I’d have been gone. I think. I hope! Oh well, it’s my story and I’m sticking to it and yup I’d like to think that if I hadn’t f~~~ed up, then this species could just go right ahead and self exterminate without my having contributed one iota.
Because:
I saw through it all so long ago, that all I wanted was disassociated with civilization. Not through brilliance I don’t think, but bullheaded refusal to accept contradictions. I had it incredibly simplified at an early age and when folks asked me what I wanted to do when I was a prepubescent 12 year old, the answer was always 3 short words. Go to Alaska. That f~~~ing simple.
Like I said, I f~~~ed up, the Alaska dream disappeared before age 20 for sure, now fast forward almost 40 f~~~ing years. Yeah, I never made it to Alaska but it’s cool, if I don’t die first my plan is to ride my f~~~ing Harley to the goddam North Slope in the next few years unless I f~~~ it all off and do it this summer after I ride to the Black Hills. Last year I rode Utah for 2 weeks. Had my beautiful little 42 year old whore driving my truck with doggies and pulling the MC trailer from campsite to campsite. She would go her way in the truck with doggies, me and my buddy would go ride our bikes through chapter after chapter after chapter of God’s own petroglyphs all day. It was glorious and hilarious, how irrelevant we truly are. How overimpressed by ourselves. (Not me, I think we’re imbeciles as a species LMAO).
In my little life, the females that have twisted up my world consisted of:
a Shelly whom I never even kissed but is the one I compare all others to. We were best friends but I just wasn’t good enough to be her male. God we clicked. So long ago, and the yearning for that connection is still there. I think to myself, if she and I had made babies and done the American dream…. she’d be 57 and all saggy baggy flabby, and I’d probably want every woman I saw except her LMAO!
Anyhow she broke my f~~~ing heart lol, and on I went.I had a beautiful blonde with huge t~~~ and 3 or 4 more women that I can recollect almost 40 years later while I was in the process of trying to figure out how to get my young ass to Alaska when out of nowhere I get blindsided by lust and love and babies hence 20 years later we have Ex1, and a Thai whore, and a steady gf for 7 years, then a bunch of whores from OKstupid. Then Ex2 for a couple years followed by 2 years with a gorgeous 42 year old Lost soul widow-girl, an intelligent imbecile that couldn’t understand nor assess and remember her own stories, and even though none of them except Ex1 hurt me financially(other than the money you’ll waste on any c~~~)(and I had a prenup with Ex2) and I had long ago figured out the fallacy of feminism and the malice of marriage, I once again found myself with mutha f~~~in PTSD like symptoms when my absolutely worthless, drunken, absolutely self centered and absolutely inconsiderate, 42 year old widow-whore recently went her own way.
Even though I totally and absolutely disliked her for the most, I freaked the f~~~ out.
The only reason I took her was as a whore, I figured hey no loss when she leaves. I knew she would leave,x wanted her to. But no, not this dumb mutherf~~~er, not me,,,I f~~~ing freaked out when the drunken little brat finally realized she was nothing to me except a whore and she left….WTF is wrong with me? Why the hell would God make me so goddam stupid that I feel I need an unarguably worthless f~~~ing c~~~ to make me feel fulfilled?
I think the species is f~~~ed, all things considered insofar as economy and technology and geopolitics and overpopulation and etcetera ad nauseum, with a MASSIVE correction absolutely imminent.
I think it’s a man’s job to see through the irrelevant bulls~~~, work his stupid ass off and fix some s~~~. Or leave it to the real men, because a whiny c~~~ can’t fix s~~~.I can’t believe that I’m stupid enough to post on a forum. I saw through forums years ago, I thought. Maybe I was wrong, I told myself as I wrote. I can always disappear again. I’m f~~~ing good at that. I choose not to disappear, because I THINK WE NEED TO MAKE MEN, TO DO THE IMPENDING MAN’S JOBS! IT IS BY GOD COMING!
Meanwhile, I think I need the pain of realizing how stupid I am so that I can just stay clear of women the rest of my life. Except to f~~~ one of them every once in awhile, but I’m not there yet. Right now I need to embrace my stupidity, see through it, conquer it.
LaterTopic: Black Pigeon strikes again..
The ISLAMIZATION of the WEST
He is spot on again. I grew up in the 70’s and as a young kid I would always see on the TV the terrorist attacks and there were so many planes being hi-jacked I was always nervous when my father would go on business trips.
So I spent a lot of time in high school studying different religions. I read the king james bible, the Torah, the Koran and the pali canon. The Koran is not by any means the definition of Islam. What Islam will do to Europe will make Hitler’s final solution look like a pre-schooler’s attempt.
I personally identify better with new testament and the pali canon. I would prefer peace, I will help my fellow human when they need a hand up and I have the ability, but while one hand is open, the other hand has a hammer and if pressed I will go old testament.
If these idiotic feminists, SJW’s and progressive/regressives had spent the time to study Islam they would be screaming in terror running for safe spaces. These idiots think they can “manage” Islam and use Islam to push their agendas. Foolish.It is by caffeine alone I set my mind in motion, it is by the beans of Java that thoughts acquire speed, the hands acquire shaking, the shaking becomes a warning; it is by caffeine alone I set my mind in motion.
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85 Secrets That Judges and
Lawyers Don’t Want You To
Know About The Corrupt
Divorce CourtsA Handbook for Saving Yourself and Your
Children From “Legalized” Kidnapping for Profit
First Edition – Spring 2006
DEDICATED TO OUR CHILDREN
BE INFORMEDKNOW AND DEMAND YOUR RIGHTS
TAKE BACK OUR CHILDREN FROM
OUT OF CONTROL JUDGES!
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85 Secrets Fathers Need To Know To Survive
The Corrupt Divorce Courts and Save Their
Children
TABLE OF CONTENTS
BASIC DO’S AND DON’TS FOR FATHERS…………………………………….5
UNCONSTITUTIONAL OPERATION OF THE FAMILY COURTS……………..6
CUSTODY AND “VISITATION” ………………………………………………….7
THE ULTIMATE EVIDENCE TO SUBMIT IN YOUR CUSTODY CASE FOR
SHARED PARENTING…………………………………………………………….9
CHILD SUPPORT ……………………………………………………………….. 10
RESTRAINING ORDERS ………………………………………………………. 11
COURT RULES AND CIVIL PROCEDURE YOU MUST KNOW …………….. 14
ABUSE OF POWER AND LACK OF ACCOUNTABILITY…………………….. 17
CHILD ABUSE IS MORE COMMON BY MOTHERS THAN DADS …………. 18
MORE ON THE LACK OF JUSTICE IN FAMILY COURTS ………………….. 19
APPENDICES ……………………………………………………………………. 23
National Organizations ……………………………………………….. 23
Disclaimer ………………………………………………………………. 25
Statistics on the Crime of Fatherlessness ………………………… 26
CLOSING ………………………………………………………………………… 28
WHAT CAN YOU DO? ………………………………………………………….. 29
MASSACHUSETTS ORGANIZATIONS & RESOURCES…………………….. 30
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Dear Precious Dads and Supporters,
You are not alone in your futile search to find any
justice or fairness in the corrupt, greedy, and sexist
divorce courts.
Most divorces are filed by women who break up the
family and expect men to pay the entire price. They
know the divorce courts will give them custody and
exorbitant child “support” (child extortion). This
often places fathers in immediate poverty and
intentionally criminalizes them with impossible
orders that land them in “jail for divorce.” It is
ironic that, while most every father would gladly
give their lives for their children, the father must
dramatically change his life to support a child that has effectively been removed from
his life and changed into nothing other than a visitor .
“Deadbeat dads” are really “beat-dead dads” while many mothers become malicious
and vengeful, coveting the children and assets, and even alienating the children from
their own loving father. The courts do not see this because men (judges) naturally
protect women and women cry “victim.” Judges are still living in the 1950’s. Obsolete
traditions overrule common sense, fairness, and real scientific proof now available that
says shared parenting is best for children. About 300 fathers of divorce silently commit
suicide every month as a result of the overwhelming pain, pressure, and prejudice.
Hundreds of thousands of fathers, second wives, and grandparents are uniting across
the United States (and the world) to fight the tyranny that is our family court system.
Millions of fathers, and even some mothers, are fed up with these sexist and out-oftouch
judges who abuse their power and the complicit and unethical lawyers who profit
from this intentionally unfair system. There is a conspiracy of silence to protect this
evil money machine that is damaging generations of children.
Overzealous states and judges go far beyond their legal powers by taking away our
children, our homes, and our income, effectively making men economic slaves to exwives
and stealing their children to boot. The state does not own our children or get to
control them just because we divorce. Under the consitution and U.S. Supreme court
rulings, parental rights can only be terminated when a parent is proven “unfit.” This is
what the highest law of the land, the U.S. Constitution (14th amendment) clearly
states.
We demand total reform of this broken, cruel system that intentionally inflicts damage
on our children and us for the profit of lawyers and the state coffers and for the
convenience and power trips of judges. It is corrupt and it must be fixed for the
benefit of our children and generations of children to come.”
There are nearly 20 million “non-custodial” parents in the U.S. today – probably the
largest unrepresented voting block in the country. We are uniting to take back our
natural rights to our children, our homes, and our income that is being
unconstitutionally hijacked under the guise of “best interests of the children.” As you
will learn in this booklet – this is a big lie.
Join the battle! Spread the word. Get Involved!
JUSTICE IS COMING!
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WHAT YOU MUST KNOW (DETAILED INSIDE)
1. It has been scientifically proven that shared parenting
(with near equal time with each parent) is far superior in
nearly all respects for our children when compared to
sole physical custody and visitation. By many measures,
it is even 20 times better for children.
2. State divorce court judges act unconstitutionally when
they award unequal custody to mothers every day. This
is literally a crime by judges under the 14th Amendment
of the U.S. Constitution.
3. Judges assign custody in exactly the reverse order of
what is “best for children” due to sexist traditions,
conflicts of interest, and financial incentives through
child support collection and federal kickbacks. The
government actually has created many incentives to
separate fathers from their children.
4. Eighty-six percent of Massachusetts’s voters have voted
for shared parenting all districts polled. Yet it is not
already law due to this corrupt, moneymaking system
where lawyers want to collect 40% of your estate in
legal fees before your divorce is final and minority
extreme feminist groups have worked for decades to
strip men of their rights using domestic violence as the
excuse. The DV tail is now wagging the divorce dog!
5. “Child support” is actually “child extortion” and alimony.
It is often four to five times the actual cost of raising a
child and is nothing but ransom that fathers are forced
to pay, under threat of jail, by the kidnapper of their
children to their ex-wife. States make a PROFIT on this!
6. A typical lawyer will not represent men well because
most are unethical, ignorant and/or afraid to challenge
the judge they are beholden to for their income.
7. Impossible orders are illegal orders. Many orders issued
by judges are void with no legal effect or force because
judges ignore proper due process in family courts.
Judges are liable for damages whenever they act
without jurisdiction or due process. Know your rights.
8. The constitution of the United States and federal law
overrule any state statutes, and we have illegal state
statutes and practices.
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BASIC DO’S AND DON’TS FOR FATHERS
Don’t:
Expect justice, fairness, logic, sympathy, or compassion in the family
courts
Hire or pay for a GAL (Guardian Ad Litem or “child’s attorney”)
Pay an opposing attorney and fees
Voluntarily leave the marital home
Ask DSS or any other government people to be involved
Expect judges and lawyers to be honest
Ever sign any agreement in your divorce settlement. Make the judge
force it on you as an order. If you sign an agreement you will not be able to
take advantage of shared parenting and other progress in laws when they
become effective. You have waived your rights by signing a contract
Ever give up on your children. They need you. Their development
will be stunted if they are denied their father
Do:
Expect to be treated like a criminal,
but without the legal protections of one
Attend a local Fatherhood Coalition
chapter meeting or other support
group
Educate yourself – Take the Pro Se
course offered by LBU (see appendix)
Fire your lawyer (take the profit out of
harming children)
Use a stenographer in court, witnesses (friends or fellow fathers),
and/or a court watcher to document all hearings
Speak out about any injustice you receive as much as possible – we
must spread the word on this cruel abuse of children and fathers
Have a paternity test
Donate $5, $10 or what you can afford to support family court
reform
The 14th Amendment of the constitution of the United States (extract) –
Section. 1. All persons born or naturalized in the United States and subject to the
jurisdiction thereof, are citizens of the United States and of the State wherein they
reside. No State shall make or enforce any law which shall abridge the privileges or
immunities of citizens of the United States; nor shall any State deprive any person of
life, liberty, or property, without due process of law; nor deny to any person within its
jurisdiction the equal protection of the laws.
Know your rights. If you do not demand your rights,
you have NO RIGHTS! It is that simple!
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UNCONSTITUTIONAL OPERATION OF THE FAMILY COURTS
1. The family courts are run unconstitutionally and illegally without
proper due process and without respecting the civil and constitutional
rights of citizens every day. Under the constitution and U.S. supreme court
case law, family court judges have no legal authority to assign custody of a
child or terminate any parental rights without “clear and convincing evidence”
(a high standard) that a parent is harmful to a child. A showing that a parent
is unfit is required to terminate any parental rights. In other words the
emperor is wearing no clothes— and no one is calling them on it! Even if
“unfitness” is proven in the case of fundamental constitutional rights, judges
are required to take the minimum possible steps to protect the child without
infringing on these rights. Clearly this is not done with instant and boilerplate
“visitation” that essentially kidnap children from their fathers for profit.
2. The “liberty interest of parents in the care, custody, and control of
their children is perhaps the oldest of the fundamental liberty
interests” recognized by the U.S. Supreme Court, Troxel v. Granville,
527 U.S. 1069 (1999). Moreover, the companionship, care, custody, and
management of a parent over his or her child is an interest far more precious
than any property right, May v. Anderson, 345 U.S. 528, 533, (1952). As
such, the parent-child relationship is an important interest that undeniably
warrants deference and, absent a powerful countervailing interest, protection,
Lassiter v. Department of Social Services, 452 U.S. 18, 27 (1981).
3. The divorce court is run for the ease and egos of judges and to
maximize the money lawyers make by separating the parties and
causing as much fighting as possible. The “best interests of the children”
and families is a distant third priority. Family court judges consider their time
far more important than justice. In fact, lunch is often more important than
justice to them and they have been known to walk out of hearings without
warning when the stomach calls. They fall asleep on the bench and have even
been caught masturbating during a trial! Do you know of any other industry
where 20, 30 or even 50 people at $250 per hour stand around waiting for
their turn while smiling and doing nothing for their “clients”?! This happens
every morning in family courts. This would be considered fraud in most
industries especially since many are billing two and three clients for the same
time while waiting! THIS IS FRAUD – PLAIN AND SIMPLE!
4. Family court judges do not care what the law says and will do
whatever they want because they have legislated themselves near total
immunity. You only have the rights you know and demand and show you are
willing to fight for by calling that judge to task with hard evidence, case law
citations, judicial complaints (a near waste of time since the foxes are
watching the hen house), and suits in federal court.
5. The U.S. Constitution, U.S. Supreme Court, and State Constitutions
trump any lower laws. This is the law of supremacy. Ignoring these
higher laws is technically “treason” against the U.S. government by a judge
and a violation of their oath of office. Under the constitution no state is
allowed to make any law that takes away fundamental constitutional rights of
“we the people” and there is enough Supreme Court case law to choke a
horse on parental rights.
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6. Under the U.S. Constitution, you have the right to a jury trial in any
matter worth over $20 in Superior Court. The family court system has
illegally usurped and ignored this right for decades even though our children,
home, and future income is all at state and worth millions of dollars by any
measure. Erosions of these rights by judges are not lawful under the
constitution.
7. TITLE 28–JUDICIARY AND JUDICIAL PROCEDURE PART I–ORGANIZATION OF
COURTS CHAPTER 21–GENERAL PROVISIONS APPLICABLE TO COURTS AND
JUDGES Sec. 453. Oaths of justices and judges. Each justice or judge of the
United States shall take the following oath or affirmation before performing
the duties of his office:I, ___ ___, do solemnly swear (or affirm) that I will
administer justice without respect to persons, and do equal right to the poor
and to the rich, and that I will faithfully and impartially discharge and perform
all the duties incumbent upon me as __X_ under the Constitution and
laws of the United States. So help me God.” Therefore family court judges
break their oath of office and literally commit “treason” against the U.S. each
time they ignore these higher laws of the land.
8. A political process appoints judges in Massachusetts, and many other
states, and there are little qualifications for being a judge other than
knowing the right people. Judges have a cozy relationship with legal bars,
insurance companies, and others who appoint them, which create patronage
in the form of throwing business their way via “special masters” and other
high-priced and unnecessary legal work.
9. The federal courts have been ignoring this abuse for decades as they
consider it a can of worms and allow the states to constantly violate
the constitution. Our federal government is sleeping. Many federal suits
have been thrown out under the so-called “Rooker-Feldman” doctrine and
other lame excuses. Class actions have been filed in all 50 states and are now
being filed by county where less immunity is available.
CUSTODY AND “VISITATION”
10. “Visitation” arrangements are harmful
to children. Common sense would tell you
bringing up children with 86% female
influence and 14% male influence would be
bad. Scientific research has now proven
this. When children go out in the real world
with this limited perspective, they fail.
11. Shared parenting has been
scientifically proven to be, by far, the
best situation for children of divorce!
Not better by 20% or 50% but by a factor
of 20 or more by many measures (see
appendix). Anyone who says otherwise is either a liar or totally ignorant of
the facts. Unless your children have near-equal exposure to both their father
and mother, they will have huge problems. A step-parent is no substitute for
you (read Father and Child Reunion by Dr. Warren Farrell which compiled
over 200 of the best studies).
12. Men cannot win custody, or even get equal time with their children,
without showing that a wife is totally unfit. This is clear
discrimination based on sex and is illegal under the highest laws. This
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seems to require proof of massive abuse of the children or drugs. We must
change the system with shared parenting, which has been scientifically
proven best for children, (and equal visitation) as the first step. Every child
has a right to their biological father and every father has the equal right to
raise their children.
13. 86% of Massachusetts’s voters in several districts voted for shared
parenting in a nonbinding referendum, requiring equal rights for both
parents after divorce. Many bills are before the state legislators for shared
parenting. Many other states and countries strongly support (or have even
passed laws in support of) shared parenting.
14. Judges appear to be totally ignorant of the benefits of shared
parenting. Or maybe judges do not want shared parenting because their
attorney friends would not be able to cause the large number of custody
battles and bleed the divorcing couple’s estate. Judges often award custody
exactly backwards from what is scientifically proven to be the best order by
granting the mother physical custody and the father visitation in the vast
majority of cases. We now know for a fact that shared parenting is by far the
best arrangement and interestingly also that the father with primary custody
is second best. The mother as custodial parent and father with visitation is
the worst of these choices as proven by decades of scientific study.
15. Fathers teach children things mothers generally can’t. These things are
required to be successful in life. Risk taking, physical skills, teamwork, and
empathy (counter-intuitively) are just a few proven examples. When a
mother denies their children access to their father, she is committing the
worst kind of child abuse and setting them up for many problems in life.
Mother nature knows best and mother nature requires two parents.
16. Mothers often covet children due to fear of economic loss, low selfesteem,
and for malicious revenge. They see the children as their
economic security and deny fathers custody to get large amounts of child
“support.” Today this child extortion often amounts to four or five times the
actual cost of raising the child and has become “ex-wife welfare” or “politically
correct alimony.” It encourages mothers to be unproductive and live off their
ex-husband. Generally, mothers can have a much higher standard of living
working very little and fathers are often placed in poverty by current child
support levels.
17. When Shared Parenting is implemented, much of the bureaucracy,
child support collections, and many divorce attorneys will go away!
There will be far fewer custody battles because more parents will share
children equally, greatly reducing the need for child support payments that
put one parent in poverty for the benefit of the other. Therefore the only
people you find resisting shared parenting are lawyers, judges and radical
feminists who want unequal rights.
18. Never hire or agree to pay for a Guardian Ad Litem. The law says the
court/state (MA) must pay if the state appoints one. A memo from a
judge in Mass. (not the law) says you should pay. This is an attempt at
legislating from the bench and is not legal. Of course, if you agree to pay, you
have made a legal commitment. This is just another way to extract money
from divorcing families. GALs are generally not qualified to say anything,
never mind exceed the care and knowledge of the parents who raised these
children. The whole idea is generally about collecting hearsay, which is
absurd.
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The Ultimate Evidence to
Submit In Your Custody
Case for Shared Parenting
Every Judge and Parent Needs to
View This Video to Save Their
Children From the Ravages of
Divorce
Submit evidence that requires your judge to award joint
custody and shared parenting because it is clearly in the
best interest of your child
Debunk that “mother custody” is best for children
Leverage over 200 scientific studies
Avoid sexist and damaging custody orders
The video explains why it is now 100% clear scientific fact
that shared parenting, with equal time and custody for both
parents, is by far the best for children – not by 10% or 50%,
but by some measures by a factor of 20. Judges are living in
the dark ages and are ruling based on sexist traditions; not
reality, facts, or science. Don’t let your children’s lives be
ruined divorce or by lazy and ignorant judges. Know the
facts so you can help them be successful in life.
Force your judge to watch this at trial by submitting this as
evidence and you will not only help yourself but many other
parents and children coming behind you.
Dr. Warren Farrell is one of the world’s top experts on what is
REALLY best for children of divorce. He spent 13 years gathering,
reviewing, and compiling over 200 scientific research studies on
children of divorce. He is the author of seven books including
“Father and Child Reunion” and “Why Men are the way they are.” He
has appeared on over 1,000 TV and radio shows, and has been
interviewed frequently by Oprah Winfrey, Barbara Walters, Larry
King and Peter Jennings. He has been featured repeatedly on 20/20
and in The New York Times, People Magazine, and in men’s journals,
The Wall Street Journal, and on the Today Show, the Tomorrow
Show, and many others. He was chosen by the Financial Times as
one of the world’s top 100 Thought Leaders.
Single Two DVD Set: $34.00 + S & H
Evidence Three Pack (6 DVDs) for Judge, mother and father: $69.00
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Order this video at http://www.BestInterestOfChildren.org
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CHILD SUPPORT
19. State judicial branches received BILLIONS of dollars in kickbacks
from the federal government for increasing child support each year
and the state DOR ALSO gets a percentage of all child support. As a result,
every judge has a conflict of interest in determining child support awards.
Payments between the three branches of government (executive, judicial and
legislative) were made illegal by the framers of the constitution for this
reason.
20. In child support hearings, the
precedent (Flaherty v. Flaherty Mass
Appeals Court) states that it is the
opposition’s side (burden of proof on
them) to prove you actually have
some claimed income amount; it is
not yours to prove otherwise (as proving
a negative is impossible). They should not
go outside the guidelines on this when
you have no income either. If you are
really earning $0, cite this federal law
(see #24) and say you believe the order
to be unlawful. Your attorney, of course,
should know all this but most are
spineless and will not go up against the
judge’s desire in spite of the fact that this
screws you, their client. After all, family law attorneys need to face these
judges day-in and day-out. They are their “co-workers”; you are a temporary
“client.”
As long as the government is perceived as working
for the benefit of the children, the people will happily
endure almost any curtailment of liberty and almost
any deprivation.”
— Mein Kampf, Adolf Hitler
21. The inability to pay any monetary amount, child support or anything
else, is a complete defense against all contempt charges. Debtor
prisons have been outlawed. Any judge that locks you up for contempt when
you have no ability to pay is liable. They do not have this right. You should
present the proper case law references in a memorandum of law. Impossible
orders are also unlawful. When they impute income you do not have without
proof they are acting illegally in several ways. See http://www.FathersUnite.org
“Free Templates” section. You also have the right to be declared indigent and
pay the minimum. If you are jailed under the “child support exception” for a
civil debt then there must be a “purge” amount set and this payment will get
you released immediately. You also must be released if you have no ability to
pay. This only makes sense, because you cannot earn this money in prison,
so anything else would effectively amount to prison for life for being a few
thousand behind on child support because your child support continues to
accrue while you are sitting in jail with murderers. Interestingly, in
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Massachusetts, with overcrowding they release accused murderers, but
cannot release divorced fathers who are in jail for being behind on child
support! These men can’t even get “earned time” for good behavior. Yes,
convicted criminals and murderers held without bail literally have rights that
have been legislated away for divorced fathers!!
22. Today there are over 60,000
government employees tracking
parents (mostly fathers) of
divorce. This is 13 times more than
the number of drug enforcement
agents! $1,000 is spent to discipline
dads for each $1 to discipline moms.
Yet fathers pay child support far
more often and completely than
mothers. They are after you: “Follow
the money.”
23. The garnishment of retirement benefits is prohibited by the Social
Security Act, 49 Stat. 620, as amended, 42 U.S.C. 407 (1982 ed.); the
Railroad Retirement Act, as amended, 47 Stat. 438, 45 U.S.C. 231m(a) (1982
ed., Supp. V); the Civil Service Retirement Act, 5 U.S.C. 8346(a); and the
Veterans’ Benefits Act, 38 U.S.C. 3101(a) (1982 ed.). See also:
http://www.fathersunite.org/RetirementBenefits.htm
24. What is the maximum amount that they can take out for arrearages in
child support under the law? ANSWER: The answer is provided in 15 USCS
§ 1673. Although most creditors can only take 25% of your “disposable
earnings,” child support is divided into three categories: 1. If you are
supporting others, no more than 50% of your income. 2. If you are not
supporting others, no more than 60% of your “disposable income,” unless
arrears are more than 12 weeks, which it can go up to 65% of your
“disposable income.” Disposable income certainly includes income only after
taxes and social security are removed.
25. Alimony is an obsolete concept in a country where women have equal
earning power and the children are in school. Alimony is hidden in
outrageous “child support” amounts at about 40% of take-home pay for two
children. The “percentage of income” calculation method, versus actual cost
of raising a child makes no sense at all except for the government that gets a
percentage and women who live of their ex-husband’s hard labor. This is a
form of slavery (peonage) in disguise and most of child support is simply
alimony in disguise.RESTRAINING ORDERS
26. Restraining orders and false allegations are the weapon of choice for
attorneys for soon to be ex-wives. According to the Justice Department,
two million restraining orders are issued each year in the United States, most
of them based on allegations of domestic violence. By getting these oftenillegal
orders, fathers are put at an economic and emotional disadvantage and
lawyers can sling mud at them every time they appear in court, as if they
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actually did something when usually they have not. Lawyers, and paralegals
in women’s shelters, call them “The Silver Bullet”. False abuse allegations
work effectively in removing men from their families, homes and income. The
impact that the removal of these fathers has on our children is horrific (see
appendix).
27. Today men are guilty of domestic violence until proven innocent due
to decades of propaganda by minority radical feminist groups. They have
created mass hysteria and have institutionalized this in law enforcement,
courts and the media with government funded training programs. Often
statistics are exaggerated by a factor of 100 or more by these people with a
self-interest in growing the divorce and domestic violence industry and
stripping men of their natural and constitutional right.
28. Think about getting a restraining order against her first if there are
sufficient grounds. Although men do not generally think this way (as a
victim) there are certainly plenty of recent examples of predatory females in
the news who killed their spouse and disposed of the body, etc. The domestic
violence INDUSTRY is a $25 billion for-profit monster that promotes victim
mentality to deny men their rights in favor of women. We already have laws
against assault and battery. Why should there be special one-sided laws for
sexist reasons? If she gets a restraining order first, you are immediately
suspect and at a disadvantage (as stupid as this is) and when you both have
one they may cancel each other out a bit.
29. Many unscrupulous judges
(not just family court
judges) issue restraining
orders illegally to any
woman who says the word
“fear” when nothing has
ever happened or even
been threatened. This takes
only a 2-minute hearing (exparte
= without you there).
Most often these are both
unconstitutional and against
Massachusetts case law that
requires the fear be
“reasonable” and “proven.” Generally judges ignore these requirements. In
fact any “spectral evidence”, which is evidence that is only inside the mind of
a person has been inadmissible in a court of law since the Salem Witch Trials.
The “fear” card, played again and again in the media, is today’s version of
this mass hysteria. This is caused by a judge’s fear of the media and feminist
backlash. They basically decide NOT to judge for their own self-interest, which
is a violation of their oath.
30. Lawyers admit (in private) that between 50% and 95% of restraining
orders should NOT have been issued. Massachusetts has issued as many
as 40,000 in a single year while other states that respect people’s rights issue
about 3% of this amount per capita. Lawyers love them because they cause
more fighting and more legal fees at the outset and make it easy to keep the
parties apart so no settlement is reached.
31. Restraining orders have been abused for decades because politicians
(mostly lawyers also) get money and support from extreme feminists
groups, which get BILLIONS in federal funding through the Violence
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Against Women’s Act (VAWA). There is no counter balancing men’s lobby
group, so for politicians supporting “domestic violence” is like kissing babies.
It has no downside and gets them funding and votes. What is lost in the
media is that these restraining orders are abusive to men far more often than
they protect anyone. In fact some studies claim this abuse of these orders
actually causes more violence, suicides and abuse than they prevent. The
most important constitutional rights to their children, property, home, income
and even friends are stripped away as soon as a woman says the word “fear.”
Studies also show these orders are granted mainly to woman and very rarely
to men, even though nearly half of reported serious domestic violence is
committed by women. And don’t you think more men would be embarrassed
to report this?
32. In the initial stages of divorce involving children, it is common
practice for lawyers to counsel the women to get a restraining order.
This applies to ALL men, even to the vast majority of men who are nonviolent
and with no history of ill-behavior, whatsoever. While interviewing
fathers, it seems as though lawyers follow a common template when
recommending what women should say in their filing and to the judge.
Bottom line: If you are about to go to court for custody/visitation, plan your
defense ahead of time for you will very likely be served with a frivolous
restraining order before the court battles begin. From this point on, you will
fight an uphill battle for the remainder of your children’s lives.
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33. It is generally economically impossible to win against your wife when
she gets a restraining order throwing you out of the house PLUS child
support. When you are ordered to pay for the house she is living in (50% of
your take-home pay normally) plus 40% of your take-home pay (at 26% of
gross) for child support equals a total of 90% of your income going to your
soon to be ex-wife! You get 10% or $357 per month to live on if you make
$50,000 per year. For every dollar you have for spending (before you pay for
housing) your wife has $4 (after her house is paid for by you). All wars are
wars of attrition of resources – you must be pro se (something judges
despise). The state forces men to become criminals to survive. They must
hide income and earn under the table just to afford food. Judges do not care
– some are on a power trip and crush men for the benefit of women under the
rationalization that this is “in the best interest of the children” and they are
heroes. They are CAUSING one of the largest problems of society today –
fatherlessness (see appendix).
34. When a restraining order is issued, if you asked for the right to
question your wife and if this request was not allowed, then the
restraining order is null and void for lack of due process. It has no legal
effect or force and you cannot be legally prosecuted for violating it (see
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http://www.FathersUnite.org). The burden of proof of “voidness” is on you though,
so get that tape at the courthouse. Transcribe it and keep it in a safe place.
Be prepared to place this into the record to prove the order is a void one.
Tapes have been known to disappear and be doctored by the courts.
35. In any restraining order hearing for renewal, the plaintiff must make
the entire case again from the very start and show the need for a
restraining order. Again, if due process has been denied, the order is null
and void with no legal effect or force. A plaintiff seeking an initial domestic
abuse prevention order on the basis of abuse must show that he or she is
currently in fear of imminent serious physical harm, as well as that the fear is
reasonable, M.G.L.A. c. 209A, § 1(b). An initial domestic abuse prevention
order expires unless extended after a judicial determination (essentially, a
new finding) that the plaintiff continues to require protection from abuse.
When a person seeks to prove abuse by “fear of imminent serious physical
harm”, case law requires that the fear be “reasonable.” See Commonwealth v.
Gordon, 407 Mass. 340, 349-350, 553 N.E.2d 915 (1990) From Iamele v.
Asselin 444 Mass. 734.
36. A court lacks jurisdiction anytime it denies you the Bill of Rights or
amendments, particularly Due Process. Any judge’s orders issued
under these conditions are VOID! In FACT many 209A’s are invalid by
denial of Due Process evidentiary hearings. VOIDNESS is a very powerful tool,
and certainly makes any judgment attackable when due process is denied,
property taken, no cross exam of witnesses/accusers is permitted etc. Your
lawyer will not argue this, as it requires the judge to “do the right things” that
they avoid daily. You must argue it yourself! In other words, judges
knowingly and repeatedly issue unlawful orders to save time and
intimidate men. The emperors are wearing no clothes!
37. It is completely against the Fourteen amendment of the U.S.
Constitution to discriminate based on sex, or create classes of people
that are discriminated against, yet family courts create a class called
“non-custodial parent” for this purpose. With immunity, these courts illegally
strip parents (mostly fathers) of their natural, God–given, and constitutional
right to parent their own children.
38. Women are statistically FOUR TIMES more likely to badmouth dad to
the children (proven harmful to kids) yet judges believe the reverse and
issue gag orders on men mainly believing in stereotype, not facts.
39. About 300 fathers of divorce commit suicide each month, 11 times as
many as women. What does this say about “our” system?
COURT RULES AND CIVIL PROCEDURE YOU MUST KNOW
40. When judges deny proper due process, any order they issue is null
and “void” with no legal effect or force. Whenever they refuse to hear
witnesses, evidence, or testimony and do not abide by proper notice
procedures or other due process requirements, their orders are void.
41. Article VI, Paragraph 2 of the United States Constitution is known as the
Supremacy Clause: “This Constitution, and the laws of the United States
which shall be made in Pursuance thereof; and all Treaties made, or which
shall be made, under the authority of the United States, shall be Supreme
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Law of the land; and the Judges in every state shall be bound thereby,
anything in the Constitution, or Laws of any state to the contrary
notwithstanding.” The Supremacy Clause establishes the Constitution,
Federal Statutes, and U.S. treaties as “the supreme law of the land.” The
Constitution is the highest form of law in the American legal system. State
judges are required to uphold it, even if state laws or Constitutions conflict
with it.
42. Divorce courts run on hearsay, innuendo, and lies. They are
“kangaroo courts” that base their decisions on things not even
allowed in real courts of law. Lawyers repeat what the women say for
them making no one liable for perjury. Judges will believe this dribble over
what you say by choice. Yes, it is that bad. Therefore, always insist on an
“Evidentiary Hearing.” If you are not sworn in, then it is not an evidentiary
hearing. When you do this, you have the right to question witnesses and the
opposing counsel has this right, too – but the opposing counsel can NEVER
testify to facts and only ask questions and handle procedural issues. Object
any time opposing counsel tries to provide testimony.
43. Judges are not allowed to make suggestions or lead either attorney.
This is called “practicing law from the bench” and shows bias. Their only jobs
are to: 1) Determine the facts (which they often farm out to the attorney on
your dime) and 2) Apply the law (ditto). Yet, family court judges also ignore
this at will, often breaking this law too.
44. You must file motions 10 days in advance by mail, seven days by hand
for proper notice. If the other side does not do this, there is no proper
notice and hence, no due process. So any order resulting will be void. Insist
on your rights. Mail your notices on Saturday after the mail pickup and before
midnight for a Tuesday hearing. This gives the other side the minimum legal
notice, as there are two weekends in the 10-day notice period plus mail time.
45. Lawyers are “officers of the court” first and their responsibility to you
is secondary. They are required to disclose all relevant information to the
court and the myth of “client confidentiality” takes a back seat.
46. Always ask for a “finding of facts” after each hearing to document
what has happened. Judges in equity courts are required to provide these
within 60 days.
47. A valid pre or postnuptial agreement may not be altered by a judge
(Korff v. Korff Mass. 2005 Mass. Appeals Court). Judges may pretend
they can line item veto a pre- or post-nuptial agreement but they cannot. All
adults have the right to contract, and any fair and mutually agreed agreement
is binding on all parties as long as there was proper disclosure and each party
had its own legal representation.
48. If a judge tries to arrest you for contempt, ask: A) Is it Civil or
Criminal? B) Who is the injured party? C) May I see the contract? If
Civil and no contract can be produced, then it is a felony to arrest
you! People go to jail every day because they do not know this and judges
intimidate people into doing what they want this way. Judges have become
“leg breakers” to intimidate men into impossible child support orders so
judges get federal kickbacks for their staff.
49. Title 18, U.S.C., Section 242 Deprivation of Rights Under Color of Law
U.S. Code: Title 18 : Section 242 This statute makes it a crime for any
person acting under color of law, statute, ordinance, regulation, or custom to
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willfully deprive or cause to be deprived from any person those rights,
privileges, or immunities secured or protected by the Constitution and laws of
the U.S. This law further prohibits a person acting under color of law, statute,
ordinance, regulation, or custom to willfully subject or cause to be subjected
any person to different punishments, pains, or penalties, than those
prescribed for punishment of citizens on account of such person being an
alien or by reason of his/her color or race. Acts under “color of any law”
include acts not only done by federal, state, or local officials within the
bounds or limits of their lawful authority, but also acts done without and
beyond the bounds of their lawful authority; provided that, in order for
unlawful acts of any official to be done under “color of any law,” the unlawful
acts must be done while such official is purporting or pretending to act in the
performance of his/her official duties. This definition includes, in addition to
law enforcement officials, individuals such as Mayors, Council persons,
Judges, Nursing Home Proprietors, Security Guards, etc., persons who are
bound by laws, statutes ordinances, or customs.
50. Only by being “Pro Se” (representing yourself) or “Sui Juris” (being
yourself) in divorce court can you get some of your rights (maybe),
and this is a very time–consuming, educational process, which robs
you of your time and income. You must take the time to educate yourself.
Remember, though, this legal battle will almost never end. The wife will be
bringing you back to court for up to 23 years to adjust child support and
move the bar further against you. If you don’t pay legal fees and she does,
then you have a chance of some leverage. You really have no choice but to
learn the law and your rights well unless you are a multi-millionaire and do
not care about making lawyers rich to destroy your family relationships.
51. The Writ of Habeas Corpus is commonly called “The Great Writ”. It comes
to us from the Magna Carta and is also commonly referred to as “the poor
man’s lawyer”. It is actually a “complaint” at law, and embodies a demand to
“Show Cause” for the Respondents, in this case, the government, to answer
each and every issue contained in it. Thus, it is intended to force the State to
answer why the superior law (federal stare decisis under the Supremacy
Clause) does not override their State’s claims. Complete form is available at
http://www.FathersUnite.org just search on “Habeas.”
52. If you cannot afford court fees and expenses for appeals and other matters,
you should file as indigent and the state is required to waive these fees.
53. It IS completely legal to audio and/or videotape court proceedings. In
fact the Supreme Court has held that virtually all court proceedings should be
made public to insure integrity of the courts. Individuals and the press both
have equal rights of access to court information. Do not confuse self-interestdriven
local court policies with the law. Generally, in most states, recording is
legal with disclosure or if there is no ”expectation of privacy.” However, Chief
Justices issue memos with policies banning tape recorders and videotaping to
hide their constant illegal actions. This is called “legislation by memo” and is
not legally binding on anyone. Some judges are known to signal the clerk to
turn off the tape (or even have their own switch) – this is completely illegal.
They can then abuse the people and the law without any record of that abuse.
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ABUSE OF POWER AND LACK OF ACCOUNTABILITY
54. Judges are considered immune from most lawsuits, even when they
intentionally commit fraud and other unethical behavior, but they are
NOT! (see http://www.Jail4Judges.org) Their orders are always void if they do not
provide proper due process and they are liable when acting under “color of
law” without this due process that affords jurisdiction (see below).
55. As a direct result of the lack of
accountability, family court
judges are the most egotistical
and arrogant people you will
ever meet. They are erroneously
conditioned over time by their
position to believe everything they
do is right and “legal” by being
treated like kings and having no
oversight whatsoever. In fact, it
seems they get worse over time,
instead of better due to this
phenomenon. So few people know their rights, and lawyers will NOT point out
violations of those rights for fear of the judges. Judges get away with murder
every day. Unlike most jobs, they have no feedback system to monitor,
understand, and improve. No oversight and accountability means “power
corrupts and absolute power corrupts absolutely” takes over.
56. BASICALLY FAMILY COURT JUDGES ARE THE MOST PROLIFIC
CRIMINALS YOU WILL EVER MEET. They seem to break the law with
immunity about every 5-10 minutes on the bench.
57. Lawyers want custody battles to drive a $3,000 divorce to a $100,000
divorce when the couple has assets to pay. This profession attracts
mercenaries with no morals. Stories of two attorneys sitting down and talking
about “how much they can take this couple for” abound.
58. The first thing lawyers want to know when you interview them about
representing you in a divorce is what are your assets? This is because
they want to know how much they can bleed from you in the process. Many
go by the “40% rule” meaning they want to take 40% of your estate (net
worth) along the way before any settlement is reached. For example: One
person with a prenup has already spent over $600,000, and the prenup that
should have simplified the process and it is still going . . . Why because he is
the target of lawyers as a deep pocketed person. You will get “serviced”
along the way until you are out of money fighting for your children and
decades of future income. Then they will allow a settlement to occur, which
you could have done in the first place without their help. Amazing how rich
people fight for long periods of time and poor people reach a settlement
quickly, even on the children, because the lawyers cannot rape them
financially. Attorneys will do everything possible to stir up the battle and see
that the couple fights like cats and dogs until they have bled your family’s
estate.
59. The family court and divorce lawyers are in the BUSINESS of leading
men to slaughter and are in a conspiracy of silence with the judges, courtappointed
GALs, psychologists, and other “hangers-on” that make their
outrageous livings off the misery of divorcing families. What is ironic is most
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do not enforce or respect the law in any way and are in fact breaking the law
and their “oath” to improve the system daily.
60. The vast majority of divorce attorneys will not fight for a father’s
rights. They are too worried about upsetting the judges because they will be
in front of that judge again and again long after you are sucked of all possible
cash and assets to pay for their legal fees.
61. DSS, child services, and other government officials have been known
to abuse their authority and lie to obtain access to fathers’ homes to
gather evidence against them. They are in the business of taking children
and sometimes get $5,000/month for each child “in their care.” When
someone comes to your door, whether it is the police, CPS, or the dogcatcher,
they are REQUIRED BY LAW to have a valid warrant to gain entry to your
home – your castle inviolate. DO NOT OPEN THE DOOR. Mind you they are all
good liars. They will say they don’t need a warrant. They lie. They will say
they can get a warrant – if they could, they already would have. DO NOT
OPEN THE DOOR. Make them hold their warrant up for you to see at a
window. Next, a piece of paper signed by a judge does not make something a
legal warrant. It is “The Law” that makes it legal. A warrant must have a
“real complainant” – a real person who swears, under oath, that they saw a
crime committed. A “government agent” is not a “real person,” unless they
personally saw a crime committed. Their “suspicions” or some “anonymous tip
from an anonymous caller” are NOT legal cause for a warrant. Even if a judge
did sign it, it is still an illegal warrant. DO NOT OPEN THE DOOR. If they kick
your door in, using an illegal warrant, you have the law on your side next
time in court. You can sue for significant damages and penalties.CHILD ABUSE IS MORE COMMON BY MOTHERS THAN DADS
62. Single moms are statistically twenty-four times (YES – 24X) more
likely to kill their children than single dads (third national Incidence
Study of Child Abuse 1997). Children are 88% more likely to be seriously
injured from child abuse or neglect by their mothers than by their fathers
(ditto). Single mother households account for 43% of all abused children.
63. Ninety-four percent of those who made false accusations were
women and 96% of those falsely accused were men (Hollida Wakefield
and Underwager). Of the 2.6 million reports of child abuse and neglect, 66%
were unconfirmed, but NOT RETURNED to the family.
64. Eighty percent of child sex-abuse accusations are determined to be
unfounded. In Florida, 92% of child abuse cases (after an initial guilty
verdict) were found to be false or unsubstantiated. All 1,200 people appealing
had been listed as “confirmed” child abusers. There has been a 2,000%
increase in sex abuse allegations in the past ten years. Why? “Follow the
money.” See: http://www.ipt-forensics.com/journal/volume5/j5_2_6.htm
65. The New York University of Law School finds that the “abuse” laws
are written so broadly that virtually every parent is guilty of child
abuse several times each week. The U.S. Supreme court has held that any
law which is vague is not constitutional. The “best interest of the children” is
also a vague and subjective “law” which judges have no training, ability, or
even legal right to determine over parents.
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66. Forty percent of mothers reported they had refused visitation to their
ex-husband to punish the father. Don’t think this will not be you like you
did when you heard 50% of people get divorced. Less than 20% of men have
done this. Therefore, children are used as pawns twice as often by malicious
mothers as they inflict their cruel revenge. This is just a small part of
“Parental Alienation Syndrome” which hurts children enormously by denying
them good fathers for the revenge or control motives of moms.
67. Parental Alienation has become epidemic. Research parental alienation
and act appropriately at the first signs (refusing visits, asking the child if they
want to see their father, scheduling fun activities during visitation time and
making the child choose between the two are but three of many examples).
If you don’t, as so many fathers have not (or simply have done too late),
don’t be surprised when your child, who once
rushed into your arms with glee, now refuses to
see you saying they fear or hate you.
68. When shared parenting is implemented, the
divorce rate drops within a few years. The
state has created such an incentive for women to
divorce with outlandish child support and terms
that it is now actually creating the divorce market.
69. One person was told by Gail Perlman before
she became a judge in Northampton that,
“When people get divorced, they turn their children over to the state,
and the state does what is best for the child.” Therefore, in these state
actor’s minds, your children become wards of the state and the judges can do
anything they want to you, your spouse and your children, and even your
property because you are getting divorced. In the minds of the judiciary, you
have no ‘parental rights’ in divorce. You get only what they condescendingly
‘grant’ you and then they ‘obligate’ you to pay for that which they have
created. Effectively, this is the attitude of all family court judges as shown by
their actions, though most will never admit this level of abuse of power, bias,
and unconstitutional practices.MORE ON THE LACK OF JUSTICE IN FAMILY COURTS
70. Family courts think that if you have a penis you are not to be trusted
and must only just be trying to minimize your child support. And yet,
most every father cares only about having a real relationship with their
children (as opposed to minor visitation) and pays child support willingly. If
you have a uterus, everything said must be true and only the “children’s best
interest” is in mind. A judge can simply say “I do not believe you”, or “You
have no credibility” and then proceed to ignore everything you have said,
shown or even proven with hard evidence and do whatever the judge wants.
This is not justice. It is by definition tyranny -exactly what the framers of the
U.S. Constitution tried to avoid and what caused the U.S. to separate from
the rule of English kings.
71. Anything said in court that is NOT denied by the other party should be
considered fact by the judge. Judges ignore this when it suits them for
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their personal and sexist agenda.
“It is sad comment that the public is so uneducated,
unconcerned, and blinded to the TRUTH by the media,
and that the Judiciary of our once great Nation has been
allowed to sink to these depths. And while I say that the
conditions that exist today can be laid at one doorstep,
that of the Judiciary, I must ultimately say that the fault
really lies at our feet, We the People, for it is We the
People who have allowed the foxes to guard the
henhouse.”
— Robert H. Bork, Judge, Supreme Court Nominee,
and Professor of Law
72. Judges have their butts kissed so much all day long by lawyers that
speaking up for your rights juxtaposes you against these complicit
unethical whores. You look like a jerk to them just because you are
fighting for your children. You look like a jerk to them just for insisting on
your rights as a parent and citizen. Any right you do not insist on will be
thrown away without you even knowing it and even your lawyer will
cooperate to do this.
73. Lawyers use the promise of more money to bait women and to
separate the couple as much as possible. Many will not even respond to
attempts to settle the case. This would stop their money train. Anyone knows
that good communications can create a settlement. So they shut down
communications completely to insure no early settlement. This is the last
thing the lawyers want until you have run out of money to pay them. This is
no different than a car mechanic that puts your car up on the lift for a look,
then intentionally breaks a part and brings it to you in the waiting room to
say you will need another one of these $500 items. This is fraud, plain and
simple! Divorce lawyers do this every day to maximize their fees. They
rationalize it in their own minds as “winning” many ways, but they ignore the
fact that you are often paying many times the cost to them of the win. They
also conveniently forget the huge emotional toll and damage to your family
caused by their greed.
74. Divorce lawyers are, by definition, “ethical whores.” They argue the
side that pays them without regard to what is right or wrong. The very
foundation of the judicial system was made adversarial to protect the rights of
“We the people” in criminal prosecutions. The American system is designed
to let 10 people go rather than convict one innocent person on the belief they
will be caught again if they are guilty anyway. An adversarial system is
ridiculous for divorce, but lawyers make too much money to improve it, even
though they take an oath to improve the system. Their job is to “win”, not do
what is right or what is best for children or their client long-term. In fact, they
use this as the excuse to rape the client financially without regard to the
damage this does to the family’s relationships.
75. Never, never, ever pay a single dime of your spouse’s legal fees under
any condition. These are civil debts. Even when you are ordered to pay by
the judge, DO NOT DO IT. You are funding your own demise. This lawyer not
getting paid will do more to get a settlement that is fair than anything else
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you can imagine. Make it clear in advance to them you will not pay. In theory
you cannot be held in contempt for not paying them legally but judges do this
all the time. A lawyer must pursue all the usually civil process actions against
you, and likely will not because it is financially better for him to move on to
the next sucker than taking a chance on collecting from you. These orders are
generally illegal or void anyway in a civil debt. If there is no contract
between you and them, collection is very difficult. Request a full evidentiary
hearing on any such request or motion as generally every person must pay
their own legal fees. This is just another way that fathers are abused and
buried by this system. No wonder there are over 300 suicides of dads in
divorce per month.
76. “Ignorance of the law is no defense” for any ordinary person, but it is
for any judge or lawyer. (How ironic is that?!) We regular people can be
held accountable to all laws without any knowledge and those who work at
the law full-time are immune from knowing anything. How outrageous,
corrupt, and fixed is this system!? You can’t possibly imagine!
77. Judges often just copy and paste the proposed findings from the
female attorney’s submission and ignore the possibly more accurate version
of the facts from the man’s attorney. In fact, a judge’s only job is to find
these facts and apply the law. So how come attorneys, on our nickel, with a
bias against one side, are doing this job? Can they really keep the facts of
hundreds of cases in their heads? Of course not!
78. Your wife will have no incentive to settle, or even be reasonable,
unless you are pro se because she is paying legal fees and you are
not. Her attorney will tell her that she will be awarded physical custody, child
support that represents 40% (for 2 children) of your take-home pay, the
house, and the majority of your estate and maybe even her legal bills!
79. Women can lie like rugs in court and no one cares. They want to take a
woman’s word at face value, unless you are able to provide hard evidence
that they are lying. Even then they make every effort to not allow your
evidence, disqualify, or discount it if it does not meet the judge’s
predetermined agenda to award custody to the woman. As far as we can tell,
no women has ever been prosecuted for perjury in family court. Many say
that a lot of lawyers even encourage women to lie by spelling out the benefits
of saying certain things.
80. All schools are now required to provide non-custodial parents
separate copies and notifications of school records. This was not being
done and was already against federal law when the federal government
required Massachusetts to comply immediately. Write a letter to the school
principal referencing: Mass. General Laws. Chapter 71 and demand your
rights. The only excuse for not doing this is that there is a restraining order
allegedly protecting your kids from you. See appendix for relevant text.
81. Unlike most states, in Massachusetts, fathers are forced to pay
college costs and child support until 23 years of age. Other state
superior courts have held this is illegal discrimination against divorced
parents, as married parents are not required to do this.
82. Some states such as Georgia, in pursuing federal kickbacks for child
support, offer employees bonuses for generating more child support
collections. In Michigan, a percentage of child support kickbacks go directly
into the judges’ retirement fund, creating a direct conflict of interest for every
judge in every case.
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83. From the Mass. Supreme Judicial Court Rules: “Judicial proceedings
should not be shrouded in secrecy.” Access fosters informed public
discussion of governmental affairs. “It is desirable that the trial of cases
should take place under the public eye, not because the controversies of one
citizen with another are of public concern, but because it is of the highest
moment that those who administer justice should always act under the sense
of public responsibility, and that every citizen should be able to satisfy himself
with his own eyes as to the mode in which a public duty is performed.”
Cowley v. Pulsifer, 137 Mass. 392, 394 (1884) (Holmes, J.). Only the most
compelling reasons justify the closure of judicial proceedings or the
nondisclosure of judicial records. Access to judicial records and proceedings
shall not be restricted to any class or group of persons. (1) The media’s right
of access to judicial proceedings and records derives entirely from the public’s
right of access. The media has neither a greater nor a lesser right to be
present than any other member of the public. (2)”
84. Many police departments have unlawful and discriminatory standing
policies to “arrest the man” even though nearly half of domestic
violence and disputes are started by female aggressors. Men are
prosecuted in court and women are excused as somehow unable to cause
harm. Yet women are killing children twenty-four times more often than men.
Yet women are killing men and mutilating their bodies. Women are
committing statutory rape and getting off, when any man would be locked up
for many years.
85. No man in their right mind who really understands this corrupt
divorce system would ever get married in Massachusetts. It is the
equivalent of playing Russian Roulette with three bullets in the
cylinder. The sad fact is you cannot ever “win” your case. They make the
rules and break them at will when it is to their benefit, yet enforce them
against men. However, we can change this evil system with exposure and the
public outrage that will create. Get involved.
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please email: mailto:webmaster@fathersUnite.org
Why is this broken system the way it is?
Money! Power! Politics! Patronage!
It is creating evil results.
Let’s fix it now!
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Appendices
National Organizations
ACFC (American Coalition for Fathers and Children) is dedicated to the creation
of a family law system, legislative system, and public awareness which promotes equal
rights for ALL parties affected by divorce, and the breakup of a family or establishment
of paternity, 1718 M. St. NW #187, Washington, DC 20036 Telephone: 800 978-3237
http://www.acfc.org
Children’s Rights Council (CRC) is a national non-profit organization based in
Washington, DC that works to assure children meaningful and continuing contact with
both their parents and extended family regardless of the parents’ marital status. 6200
Editors Park Drive, Suite 103. Hyattsville MD 20872 http://www.gocrc.com
http://www.dadsnow.org/ – Everyone is concerned about the tremendous costs of
husband-absence. On this we all agree. Without marriage, mothers have to do it all,
children lose half the love, care, and guidance, which they should have received, and
fathers have little or no respect in society. The vast majority of objective studies
collectively point to the fact that the replacement of the husband by the welfare state
and irresponsible divorce are the primary causes.
Civil Rights Operation Parenthood Project
http://www.childrensjustice.org/crop/
How to file FBI Federal Complaints against judges who deny a parent his/her rights
http://www.Jail4Judges.org
http://www.thecourt~~~cher.com/ Normal citizens are catching bad judges in the act
and building evidence to get them off the bench. Get trained and help document their
crimes against families, children and fathers.
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New Massachusetts law requires schools to provide noncustodial
parents with school records
In May 2005, the U.S. Department of Education informed the Massachusetts
Department of Education of its determination that our state statute and regulations on
access to student records by non-custodial parents must be amended in order to
conform to federal law (the Family Educational Rights and Privacy Act, or FERPA, 20
U.S.C. §1232g).
SECTION 1.
Chapter 71 of the General Laws is hereby amended in Section 34H by striking out
subsections (a), (b) and (c) and inserting in its place the following subsection:-
(a) Each public elementary and secondary school shall provide student records,
including but not limited to the following information, in a timely and appropriate
manner to the parents of a child enrolled in the school if the parents are eligible for
information pursuant to this section and request the information in the manner set
forth in this section: report cards and progress reports; the results of intelligence and
achievement tests; notification of a referral for a special needs assessment;
notification of enrollment in a English language learners program established under
chapter 71A; notification of absences; notification of illnesses; notification of any
detentions; suspensions or expulsion; and notification of permanent withdrawal from
school.
Each school shall also make reasonable efforts to ensure that other written information
that is provided to the custodial parent but not specified in the preceding sentence be
provided to the requesting parent if that parent is eligible for information pursuant to
this section. All electronic and postal address and telephone number information shall
be removed from information provided pursuant to this section. Receipt of this
information shall not mandate participation in any proceeding to which notification
pertains nor shall it authorize participation in proceedings and decisions regarding the
child’s welfare which are not granted through the award of custody.
For purposes of this section, any parent who does not have physical custody of a child
shall be eligible for the receipt of information unless said parent is currently denied
legal custody of the child, denied visitation, or is currently ordered to supervised
visitation, based on a threat to the safety of the child , or whose access to their child is
currently restricted by a temporary or permanent protective order unless said
protective order, or any subsequent order which modifies said protective order,
specifically allows access to the information described in this section. All such
documents limiting or restricting parental access to a student’s records or information,
which have been provided to the school or school district, shall be placed in the
student’s record.
(b) A parent requesting information pursuant to this section shall submit a written
request to the school principal.
(c) Upon receipt of a request for information pursuant to this section the school shall
review the student record for any documents limiting or restricting parental access to a
student’s records or information which have been provided to the school or school
district and shall immediately notify the custodial parent of the receipt of the request.
Notification must be made by registered mail and by first class mail in both the
primary language of the custodial parent and in English. The notification shall also
inform the custodial parent that information requested pursuant to this section shall be
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provided to the requesting parent after 21 days unless the custodial parent provides to
the principal of the school documentation of any court order which prohibits contact
with the child, or prohibits the distribution of the information referred to in this section
or which is a temporary or permanent order issued to provide protection to the child in
the custodial parent’s custody from abuse by the requesting parent unless said
protective order or any subsequent order which modifies said protective order,
specifically allows access to the information described in this section.
SECTION 2.
Said section is further amended by striking subsections (d) and (g) in their entirety.Disclaimer
We are not lawyers, just concerned and abused fathers. This information comes from
many sources and we cannot guarantee its accuracy. The opinions expressed are those
of the many authors and not necessarily the publishers and compilers of these
opinions. The level of family court and judicial corruption and abuse also varies
greatly by state and by judge, but it is generally rampant. This is not legal advice and
the reader is cautioned to use this information carefully with further study. The
compilers, publishers, distributors, and authors take no responsibility for any damages
of any kind, direct or indirect, incidental or otherwise, as a result of the use of this
information. Use it with caution and further education only. We believe it to be true
and correct to the best of our knowledge at the time of publishing. Although we
consider most lawyers in the family court system to be corrupted by it, and effectively
incompetent and unwilling to fight for the rights of fathers, there are some exceptions.
Check legal references and get educated before you use any of this information.
NEVER GIVE UP ON YOUR CHILDREN!
ALL PROGRESS IS THE RESULT OF
UNREASONABLE MEN!
Get a copy of the U.S. Constitution and read it. It is not very long. Pay particular
attention to the 1st, 5th, 11th and 14th amendments.
http://www.FathersUnite.org/US_Constitution.pdf
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Statistics on the Crime of
Fatherlessness
Fatherlessness is now being intentionally and
unconstitutionally created by family courts for political
and financial reasons including billions in federal
kickbacks from child support, lawyers creating custody
battles to drive up their fees, obsolete traditions and
sexual prejudice. Divorce actually goes down within a
few years of shared parenting being implemented.
Many people believe fatherlessness is the #1 root
problem in society today because of all the hidden
results it creates. The following are recent statistics
about children of divorce and separation from the newsletter Common Sense &
Domestic Violence, 1998 01 30 and other government sources.
The Impact on our Children Inter-spousal violence perpetrated by men is only a small
aspect of family violence. False abuse allegations are only a small tile in the mosaic of
vilifying the men in our society. They serve well in successful attempts to remove
fathers from the lives of our children. True domestic violence happens in only 0.5% of
all homes annually and women initiate about half of that (many say more because of
under reporting by men).
What does this mean? Children from fatherless homes are:
• 4.6 times more likely to commit suicide
• 6.6 times to become teenaged mothers (if they are girls)
• 24.3 times more likely to run away
• 15.3 times more likely to have behavioral disorders
• 6.3 times more likely to be in a state-operated institutions
• 10.8 times more likely to commit rape
• 6.6 times more likely to drop out of school
• 15.3 times more likely to end up in prison while a teenager
(The calculation of the relative risks shown in the preceding list is based on 27% of
children being in the care of single mothers.)
AND — compared to children who are in the care of two biological, married parents
— children who are in the care of single mothers are:
• 33 times more likely to be seriously abused (so that they will require medical
attention), and
• 73 times more likely to be killed.[“Marriage: The Safest Place for Women and
Children”, by Patrick F. F~~an and Kirk A. Johnson, Ph.D. Backgrounder #1535.]
Here are some statistics resulting from that, which show more of the whole
picture.
• 79.6% of custodial mothers receive a support award
• 29.9% of custodial fathers receive a support award
• 46.9% of non-custodial mothers totally default on support
• 26.9% of non-custodial fathers totally default on support
• 20.0% of non-custodial mothers pay support at some level
• 61.0% of non-custodial fathers pay support at some level
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• 10.2% of single custodial fathers work less than full time
• 7.0% of single custodial mothers work more than 44 hours weekly
• 24.5% of single custodial fathers work more that 44 hours weekly
• 46.2% of single custodial mothers receive public assistance
• 20.8% of single custodial fathers receive public assistance
[Technical Analysis Paper No. 42 – U.S. Dept. of Health and Human Services – Office
of Income Security Policy]
• 40% of mothers reported that they had interfered with the fathers visitation to
punish their ex-spouse. [“Frequency of Visitation” by Sanford Braver, American
Journal of Orthopsychiatry]
• 50% of mothers see no value in the fathers continued contact with his children.
[“Surviving the Breakup” by Joan Berlin Kelly]
• 90.2% of fathers with joint custody pay the support due
• 79.1% of fathers with visitation privileges pay the support due.
• 44.5% of fathers with no visitation pay the support due
• 37.9% of fathers are denied any visitation
• 66% of all support not paid by non-custodial fathers is due to the inability to pay.
[1988 Census “Child Support and Alimony: 1989 Series” P-60, No. 173 p.6-7, and
“U.S. General Accounting Office Report” GAO/HRD-92-39FS January 1992]
• 63% of youth suicides are from fatherless homes. [U. S. D.H.H.S. Bureau of the
Census]
• 90% of all homeless and runaway children are from fatherless homes.
• 85% of all children that exhibit behavioral disorders come from fatherless homes.
[Center for Disease Control]
• 80% of rapist motivated with displaced anger come from fatherless homes.
[Criminal Justice and Behavior, Vol. 14 p. 403-26]
• 71% of all high school dropouts come from fatherless homes. [National Principals
Association Report on the State of High Schools]
• 70% of juveniles in state operated institutions come from fatherless homes [U.S.
Dept. of Justice, Special Report, Sept., 1988]
• 85% of all youths sitting in prisons grew up in a fatherless home. [Fulton County
Georgia Jail Populations and Texas Dept. of Corrections, 1992]
• Nearly 2 of every 5 children in America do not live with their fathers. [US News and
World Report, February 27, 1995, p.39]
• In 1991 there were 11,268,000 total custodial mothers and 2,907,000 total
custodial fathers
[Populations Reports, US Bureau of the Census, Series P-20, No. 458, 1991]
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Closing
Please distribute this booklet freely, as we must shine light on these
lawyers and criminals in robes that are destroying our families and
children for their personal profit and convenience. The many authors
will remain anonymous due to the fact that judges are well known to
abuse their power and ignore the law to protect their own selfinterests
and the status quo that is damaging our families.
Judges are constantly breaking the highest laws of the land, including
preventing free speech and violating their oath of office to uphold the
constitution.
Please donate what you can to help distribute this information and
help save our children from this evil and greedy system that is
damaging generations of children through its ignorance and greed.
This booklet is just a small sample of hundreds of pages of
information at http://www.FathersUnite.org,
http://www.FathersAndFamilies.org and many other sites listed in
the appendix. Register now for our newsletters, which will
provide news on legal important changes you can use, events
and other resources for all non-custodial parents.
DON’T LET THESE CRIMINALS GET
AWAY WITH KIDNAPPING OUR
CHILDREN JUST BECAUSE THEY
WEAR BLACK ROBES AND REQUIRE
YOU TO CALL THEM “YOUR HONOR”!
THERE IS NO HONOR IN FAMILY
COURTS TODAY!
FAMILY COURT JUDGES ARE THE
MOST PROLIFIC CRIMINALS YOU
WILL EVER MEET! LITERALLY!
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What Can You Do?
Learn, Teach, Fight, Appeal! Point out due process violations and
inform everyone, including the judges, of their unconstitutional
actions, which harm children and fathers. Document these well.
1. Write “Child extortion, Kidnapping Fee” on all child “support”
checks. You have to pay under threat of jail but you don’t
have to let the people that enforce this think they are “helping
children.”
2. Write your state and federal representatives to support
Shared Parenting and family court reform.
3. Get to a civil rights protest rally/march.
4. Be a Court Watcher to document and publicize judicial abuses
5. Donate time and money to fix this horrible situation that does
nothing but earn money for the state and lawyers while
causing damage to generations of children.
6. Speak up and let people know what is going on.
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Massachusetts Organizations & Resources
This is just a small sample of the many resources available to help fathers in divorce. A
complete listing with hundreds of other resources is available at:
http://www.fathersunite.org/resourcesandlinks.htm
http://www.FathersUnite.org – A web site with hundreds of pages of information to help
fathers in divorce including free templates, case law and advice. Free educational
templates at http://www.fathersunite.org/free_legal_templates.htm
Fathers & Families – Newsletter, lobbying and other efforts to reform family law. F &
F is a non-profit organization advocating for the right of every child to have two
parents. F & F engages in lobbying and holds regular meetings and events. 20 Park
Plaza, Suite 628 Boston, MA 02116 (617) 542-9300
http://www.fathersandfamilies.org/
http://www.fatherhoodcoalition.org – Has a very good website and regional meetings.
(617) SAD-DADS.
Judicial Complaint form and filing instructions. Sample motions, subpoenas,
federal pleadings and other information being added regularly at:
http://www.fathersunite.org/free_legal_templates.htm
Liberty Bell Union – http://www.liberty-bell-union.org – Provides a course to
learn how to represent yourself in court. It is now available online and in person.
Every father in divorce should take this course, even if they are represented
by a lawyer. Liberty Bell Union (LBU) is a nonprofit organization whose interest is (1)
in making people aware of their constitutional rights, (2) present governmental policies
which violate those rights, and (3) educating people whose rights are being violated to
take action to remedy the violation. LBU accomplishes these interests through (1)
dissemination of literature, (2) speaking engagements, (3) course offerings, and (4)
manuals. (508) 478-8738 http://www.liberty-bell-union.org
The Berkshire Fatherhood Coalition, Family Law Attorney Rinaldo Del Gallo,
spokesperson. http://www.BerkshireFatherhoodCoalition.com
Other Web Sites:
The Commonwealth of Massachusetts, home site: http://www.mass.gov,
General Laws: http://www.lawlib.state.ma.us. Case law can be retrieved free by email from
the law libraries.
http://www.falseallegations.com Web site with information on fighting false allegations.
http://www.lawyerdude.com/ Rocks – Check out His Site for legal advice and training.
All state bill of rights and federal documents to read at:
http://www.harbornet.com/rights/states.html
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Must Read Books & Must View Video
Father and Child Reunion
by Warren Farrell, PhD.
Available at:
http://www.warrenfarrell.com/
Exposing the Corruption of the
Massachusetts Family Courts
By Kevin Thompson
available at http://www.LuLu.com
Reason For Revolution
by John Flaherty
Available at:
http://www.liberty-bell-union.org/
Course on representing yourself in
court which can be financially the only
way to survive sometimes.
A video on what is really in the
best interests of children of
divorce, compiled from over
200 scientific research studies
which shows why shared
parenting with equal parental
access is by far superior for
children.
http://www.BestInterestOfChildren.org
Printed under protection of 1st Amendment Free Speech Rights
OUR MISSION
1) Implement Shared Parenting legislation with EQUAL
RIGHTS for both parents in divorce, unless a jury trial proves
this would be harmful to the children due to a clear and proven
case of an unfit parent, or BOTH parents agree otherwise. This
means a right to equal time unless otherwise agreed.
2) Change unconstitutional, predatory and abusive
restraining order laws that use false allegations for advantage
in divorce by taking away the children, home and income of a
man whenever a woman says the word “fear” to support the
growth of the multi-billion dollar, greedy and out of control
Divorce and Domestic Violence Industry.
3) Family Court Reform including full accountability for judges,
who ignore due process, the U.S. Constitution, other laws and
their oath of office daily.
RESOURCES
http://www.FathersUnite.org
http://www.FathersAndFamilies.org
ACFC American Coalition for Fathers
and Children http://www.ACFC.org
http://www.FatherhoodCoalition.org
617-SAD-DADS
http://www.Jail4Judges.org
http://www.fatherhoodcoalition.org
And many other organizations
now uniting to demand equal rights for fathers.
See pages 23 and 30 for more resources.
JUSTICE IS COMING!
SPEAK UP! SPREAD THE WORD!
EXPOSE THE CORRUPTION!Men are at a time when panning for gold in a urinal has a higher probability of success than finding a faithful and loving woman, it is time to go your own way.....
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For many men, they have an epiphany and discover the “Red Pill” termed from the film The Matrix meaning that person is presented with a painful truth of reality that penetrates through the blissful ignorance or an illusion they have been living each day. Red Pill moments are an awakening to the fantasies of love and marriage and some men are more visionary, catching glimpses of the Red Pill in younger years.Anonymous Share MGTOW 03
When I discovered MGTOW it was the slap in the face I needed to snap me out of my enforced Disney funded stupor. I was to be Prince Charming to my Cinderella, It was hard and I was very close to ending my life… very close. One day the sound of children laughing and playing in a school yard saved me for that day. MGTOW understanding gave me the rest of my ‘bonus time’ here on earth.Anonymous Share MGTOW 04
I’m a young guy, 23 years old, and I’ve had a red pill type of mindset for a while because I grew up around examples of how marriage isn’t the wonderful experience it’s proponents claim it is. I watched how my mom treated my dad (no respect and hypocrisy). My parents raised me in a church, where I got to watch a bunch of tired and pathetic looking husbands follow their wives around, almost lifeless. When I spoke to these men about my hobbies, they would get excited and I could tell that they miss the freedom of being single, the time when they were actually able to live their lives and pursue their happiness. To top it all off, the sermons in church were often about how the man needs to do better. In my extended family, my uncle never married and he has always been one of the more interesting and happiest guys I know. Despite being single, he doesn’t fit the “loser” stereotype. He is a very hard worker, seems to have all the money he’d ever need, and gets to spend lots of time with his friends (those people the married guys aren’t allowed to have).When I graduated, I have to admit, I was a little confused. Before finding the MGTOW community, I didn’t really know what to think of myself. I never forgot my early memories, but the school system had me kind of confused. They put that “real man” garbage in my head and I started to doubt myself a little bit. Last summer, I finally found the manosphere and soon enough MGTOW. Things finally clicked. All the observations I made in the past made more sense; the pieces of the puzzle finally came together. Maybe MGTOW hasn’t “saved my life” since I was skeptical of marriage early on, but it has definitely made it better. I don’t have to doubt myself about this anymore.
Is MGTOW a Healthy Lifestyle?
How can any man’s life be healthy by living the single life? We’ve heard the adage every good man needs a women behind him and a way to a man’s heart is through his stomach. People today laugh at these old wives take as pure sexist nonsense. We live in a world of equality and women do not need to be subservient to any man and men can navigate without a wife as one man explains his life.Anonymous Share MGTOW 05
Well, as for myself most of the positive aspects of being MGTOW have been a profound clarity with regards to women’s nature in general as well as in personal situations hence: easier decision making. I am better focused on my personal goals and career. I am generally harder to get bribed or entangled with bad people. I am more bulls~~~ proof. At first I had red pill rage and that decreased in time as my own dignity increased. I have less stress/worries over rather inane issues. I have an easier life / more laid-back-style and more personal freedom. My life is completely different now since going MGTOW, I’m getting promoted again! I have ended hate towards everyone.Anonymous Share MGTOW 06
Going my own way is very enjoyable and I’m not willing to trade that for the supposedly wonderful experience of marriage. … I’m about to graduate with a degree in computer engineering from a prestigious university with absolutely no debt, my novel is almost done, my piano playing is getting nothing but better, I have my health, energy, a functioning body, and a functioning mind.Conclusion
There are obstacles for MGTOW that lay ahead, but men are amazing and the most resourceful beings on the planet and men will learn to surmount these and any other problem that confront our survival. Since Victorian time’s bachelors were stigmatized as losers and worse, but today MGTOW are discovering worth, becoming model citizens on their own terms, having free lives and living a nonviolent and wonderful life.The brotherhood of MGTOW continue to define their new lifestyles and do what men excel at; solve problems, harness the world around us and build communities only this time the brothers are doing it for themselves.
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Topic: Weeding out the Gold Digger
Hello brothers, hope your weekend was good…. I have decided to tell a story that has been going on for 5 years now before I became MGTOW. I am in my early 30’s, self made through the stock market, and live a comfortable life… I find I attract a certain type of women that normally would not go for me if I did not have money. I for a long time was trying to find a woman who liked me for me and not my house or cars.
So I came up with a plan to weed out the gold digger: I rented out a 1 bedroom apartment in a cheap neighbourhood, bought a cheap car, and paid in cash (no black cards lol). I still acted the same and dressed decently as like I said I wanted them to like me for me. With the plan in motion I tried dating again and what do you know it I got a hell of a lot less 2nd dates. One bitch had the nerve to text me back and say and I quote “Hey thanks for dinner but I do not date blue collar guys”… I s~~~ you not.. she used me for dinner fully knowing what I was representing at the time. So what did I do? A friend of mine took a picture of myself in front of my Ferrari with the caption “You missed out on a red collar boyfriend” (my Ferrari is red). I wish I could have see the bitches face…
I eventually stopped the experiment as it was a serious waste of money as I had enough proof on the type of women that lived in my town. I did happen to see a different girl I tried to get a 2nd date with a while ago outside a liqueur store. She recognized me getting into my Ferrari and promptly slut walked over to try to start a conversation with me. After a few minutes of finally clueing in to who she was I said “Why could you not fall in love with someone with a bus pass, but CAN fall in love with that same person when you find out they also drive a Ferrari”. F~~~ing pathetic gold diggers…. promptly gave her the finger and drove off to hang out with my dog.
Brothers do you have any gold digger stories to share? Also I want to say I apologize to brothers who may not be well off, I do not want to portray myself as better than anyone here, just needed to talk about what my situation is to provide context to the story 🙂
Knowledge is power..... Don't waste your brain on bullshit
My first Solo Backpacking Trip Report, Bitch Free is the way to travel!
Some might think “oh a trip by yourself, so what?” but for me this was my 30th birthday and a first really alone. I’ve basically worked to support and keep my family in line since I was 19 but started paying to help keep them afloat when I was 16. My parents offered me some opportunities but it came with luggage. Them and my little brother. I did a few trips with a 4 year LTR ex-girlfriend and obviously all the ball and chain stuff with my family during my tenure but this was the first time I’ve ever gotten to go by myself, do whatever I wanted, stop wherever I thought was neat, not have to consider egos and personalities into the logistics with how it would affect the group dynamic or worry about dietary restrictions of individuals and just go, do what I wanted and selfishly enjoy my own company.
A wise old gentlemen gave me the word for it when I got back as I told the story of my trip. I explained how simply amazing it was to enjoy a journey as well as the destination. Not because I provided a means, or created an environment for others to enjoy; with myself living vicariously through their joy as would happen with my ex, or family when traveling and visiting places.
“Zen”he said.
“What?” I replied
“This trip was very zen for you”That was exactly it! The peace, calm, and self-reflection while seeing, learning and enjoying a new environment and new experiences. So without further adieu, the highlights and photos. Because we know, everyone just wants to see the pretty pictures. The link to the full gallery is here if you want to see that. I’ve only posted the highlight photos in the forum.
http://gallery.urthesuck.com/gallery/2016_Mar_Big_Bend/The trip was simple. 2 hard points in my itinerary and everything else was loose with just a list of s~~~ that might be cool to check out or roads that might be fun to drive on. I drive a WRX wagon so turbo AWD fun on the twisty’s was high on the list. The hard points were a night in the 100 year old Perry Manson at the Ghost Town, Terlingua, on Friday. Wednesday, a full day and night worth at the McDonald Observatory for tours, sun observations, presentations and finally the 20+ telescope start party that night. And like all good things it started out like total s~~~. My little brother had managed to give me and my father (who works with me) a flu a few days before I left. I’m driving 8 hours in the middle of the night from Austin to west Texas with the heater on full blast and I’m freezing to death while sweeting every ounce of water out of my body, and into my hoodie. So thanks for the birthday gift you little s~~~.
Stopped a few places along the way that first night, forced fluids and food down. I drove through Big Bend National Park on my way to Terlingua. It was beautiful and the wild flowers were just starting to bloom but it was packed thanks to spring break just starting. I got to the Hotel before check in so I checked out the Ghost Town. It’s a neat little hippy artist community like a cheaper west Texas version of Taos, New Mexico.
<p>I finally got checked in, showered and died. I woke up later that night about 5 minutes after everything in that area had closed. Seriously, bars closing at midnight on a f~~~ing Friday! But I was feeling better and I got to start trying my hand at one of the major goals of my trip. Star Trail photography. The initial results were ok but I was getting accustom to how the setup worked so for my first two while still being a little stick so I kind a didn’t care about missing the focus, so this wasn’t a bad start.</p>
<p>The next day I had a tiny sweet from the last of the cold but it had broken for good and my appetite returned with a vengeance. Sourced some breakfast tacos and went back for a bit more of a nap to run out the clock on my hotel rental. It was expensive, I was still a bit weak from the flu and f~~~ it, why not, I’d paid for it after all. This was basically the first sign to me that I could really do whatever I freaking wanted and it was glorious.</p>
I started for Big Bend State Ranch shortly after that to get ready to hit the trail. The road was amazing so I got signed into the park and drove it a few times to take it all in. I even set my camera up and shot a time lapse from the passenger’s seat. The video really doesn’t do it justice. Having just gotten over that flu only a day before I decided to take it easy and only hike the first 5 miles that first day to make sure I could get back to the car if I absolutely needed to in a hurry. Trails were amazing, people were nonexistent and the stars. Oh the stars were nothing shy of marvelous even with only the tail of the Milky Way showing instead of the massive center that will be in the sky during the summer. I’ll let the photos speak for themselves.
The next day I couldn’t find the water supply that was supposed to be there so I had to turn back for my car to re fill my and let the rangers know they were crazy. I went ahead and got lunch in town and then came back out to hit another trail for the afternoon. I did 8 miles another way and pitched my tent in the dark and set up the camera. This time I got some really good star trails and awesome time-lapse videos out of the sky. Woke the next day feeling a bit beat up. Even the short desert hike was taking a toll on me after that flu and there was no water source in short range so I opted to head back again. No epic 30-40 miles like I had hoped for but better than nothing. I also had some new limits for my current physical condition and goals to set for future trips to be more successful but the resulting photos were well worth it. I also got to spend some time reading several manosphere books out in the desert.
Back at the car I went and told the rangers I didn’t die in the desert, they appreciate that, then decided to take off for Midland to check out the Petroleum Museum for the Chaparral Gallery and some planetarium viewing at the local Museum of the Southwest. The Chaparral exhibit was amazing. As a automotive engineer getting to see the birth of automotive aerodynamics in the flesh and some even half taken apart so you could see the guts was well worth the drive. The photos say more than words ever could.
Day at the Museum’s was awesome but then Wednesday was upon me and I had to high tail it to the observatory. I had slept funny since I normally work late and ended up sleeping through the alarm on my phone. Fortunately I drive a sport wagon so I was able to make it up by driving 90-120 on some the back roads up the mountain. I was going through quite a few of the twisty’s labeled 20mph at well over 60. AWD Turbo out of corner acceleration FTW!!!! I’m a chassis engineer by trade so trust me when I say that I’m skilled, the car is setup, properly maintained, I always slowed way down when other cars were present or if the corner was blind and I could not see far enough into it brake if necessary. History of the observatory was awesome, sun viewing were awesome, 107” telescope tour was awesome, and then the star party. Just wow! If you’re ever in West Texas do yourself a favor and stop to participate in one. You won’t be disappointed. They have 3 22” domes set and the view of Jupiter was awesome through them. We got lucky and all 4 moons were in clear view around the planet that night. I took a few photos then set up both cameras for time-lapses.
I stayed one more night at the local State Park just 15 miles down the road then bailed the next morning for home and the pile of work I knew I had waiting for me. Back roads back and a stop at the Pacific War Museum for one last personal kick before the final run home.
Thanks for reading! Anyone else do some backpacking?
-Russell
AnonymousHello brothers, Although i joined only recently I have been a MGTOW man in spirit for 2 years. I felt it was time to introduce myself. I am not a man going his own way in the strictist sense, as i am currently married. I guess you can call me an AWM…”poor bastard” or “Moron” is also acceptable.
My red pill moment…I have more than one really. they all came during my marriage. It’s funny how imprisonment through matrimony makes men notice these things.
It was more like choking down morpheus’ hidden stash than just one singular event. It took that much to finally get through my thick skull. But if i had to pick one. It would be letting my wife control the finances for a period of one year…big mistake. I had saved up alot of money over the past few years as a retirement plan and fortunately she hasnt even touched it. I cashed some of it to get her here but that was all…a 10% loss. Anyway, on with the introduction.
I was at the mercy of this woman as she had budgeted for our wedding in her home country, more than 9000 Canadian dollars was thrown at this thing. 9000 dollars over the course of a year…and we did not make alot of money, i had some s~~~ job that was below poverty level and so did she. As the months went by we were saving nothing…literally nothing. I had been trying to get corrective orthotics and i could not even afford 400 dollars outside of this ridiculous wedding budget. Her primary concern was paying for the venue, for the wedding cakes, for the accomodation for her family. My health and well being did not even register on the radar screen.
Well i decided to make money moonlighting and she would always ask about it to which i said firmly“this is for me, you have the wedding, you have been sending all the excess cash to this wedding and I have tolerated it. Once this is over, I am taking control of the finances I am sick of this.”
She began to get upset and raised her voice at me. at first I cowered, then i thought of all the things i had to sacrifice, of the life i had before this, how i was able to save up 30,000 dollars in silver and gold working my same job, with the same hours and moonlighting yet with her i could not even buy a pair of f~~~ing corrective orthotics to solve an actual problem with my feet. I thought of all the free time i had, all the responsibilities to people i didn’t have, how I never had to wire money to someone on the other face of the planet. I was a free man and now i was a bank machine.I had it…I looked at her and i think it was in that instant standing at the bus stop with her in these s~~~ty shoes which were killing my feet. that i lifted the BP veil I unloaded all the above concerns onto her and not in a gentle manner, i was a razors edge away from yelling. When i was finished you know what she said next?…
“well if we are having trouble with the wedding, how are we going to have a honeymoon? weren’t we going to have one?”
If there was ever a moment in time when i wanted murder to be legal, that was it. I took a deep breath to calm myself and told her.
“There is not going to be a honeymoon sweety, however if you want, next year for our anniversary you can crank the heat up in the kitchen and pretend you are doing the dishes in cuba!”
It was three weeks before we even spoke to eachother again. As of this date I have taken the painful milestone of telling her that i do not want kids. she took it personally and despite me explaining to her that it does not matter who i am with she refuses to believe it. The hardest thing i ever had to tell anyone in my life was that if they want a child it would have to be with someone else.
I married this woman for love, I fell for the trap however, it was not any trap she set. it was a trap that is hidden and primed in all men before they decide to go their own way. the need for female companionship. the closest thing to true romantic love there is. I had only wanted to share a life with someone not live to serve them and their desires. Surprise!Currently i am in processing to join the Navy, I am not doing this for my wife i am not that stupid. I have been accepted into the marine engineering trade but have a few more hurdles to overcome. namely a psych eval and medical exam which i have to pay for out of pocket. When i saw how this delay affected my wife and also my mother I had another hit of the pill. They were more emotionally invested in me becoming a good little tin soldier and a provider. Who cares about how this is going to affect me, what i will have to go through right?
I just want a decent paycheque and i have a very limited skill set so this is the best option. I also chose the trade and branch specifically as it is the least likely to get me killed. All i want to do is my five year obligation, make good cash, save it and then get out with a decent part time or even on call job, less and a damn fine stack of silver, investments and spare cash to live off. She thinks that when i get that level of income that i will want to give her a child and surrender 18 years of my life just to satisfy her biological clock. I can’t even stand one year of living under her heel, screw 18 of them!
So here i am…discovering this wonderful Biological response to feminism and game changing philosophy called MGTOW. waiting for it to clue in for her that i REALLY do not want kids. Inspite of all this i do not hate my wife, I accept her for what she is. but i know nature is an unstoppable force. and my reluctance to have children is the immovable object. One day those two are going to collide, It’s just a matter of time.
So here i sit, waiting for the final collision and if it were not for this community, this phenomenon, I doubt i could walk away smiling. If she decides to go full retard and demand half of everything…fine…let her have it, i’ll gift the Precious metals to some unnamed uncle until she screws off once and for all. even if that tactic won’t work My freedom is priceless. and worth far more than it’s weight in gold.
AnonymousTopic: Planning my escape
So I’m coming up to my anniversary this again. We’ve been together for about 4 years. Started dating her at 18. We moved in together this year but prior to that I actually broke up with her at one point. Long story short her parents and her called me and my family and basically begged for me back. Now I’m able to be tough when I need to be physically but emotionally I can be sensitive and I felt bad and decided to give things one last chance.
Huge, huge f~~~ing mistake, amazingly I forgot how every single month without fail we would get into arguments and fights. I forgot that my social life has literally been reduced to me talking to my co-workers who I hate and a few people that attend my classes at university. I haven’t made a new female friend or male friend for that matter in the past 4 years. I was depressed for a long time and it was only recently that I realized I was scared to flirt with girls and have my GF find out and she’d bitch me out. On several occasions she has told on me to her parents on times when I would like another persons photo on Instagram or Facebook.
She’s selfish, lazy, boring and friendless one of the main reasons I’ve stayed with her for this long. If she had anyone else I would be gone. But now I’m starting to suspect she knows this and purposely doesn’t make friends. Terrible with money I was richer when I was 18 than I am now and she expects me to shower her with gifts.
So I’m 23 almost 24 and I’ve realized this is my one life I need to be free and explore the world while I still have a chance. I do feel tremendously bad for abandoning her but I don’t want to live my life full of regret and banging this same person for the next 60 years. But frankly our sex life has been terrible for the last 2 years. There are so many hot woman in the world and so many opportunities I would have had had I been single. Not to mention I probably would have saved 10-15 grand by this point would be way less stressed and have developed a lot more money making skills.
So she’s signed on a 1 year lease with me. I have no intentions of renewing it and I’ve been saving as best I can given my circumstance. I’m planning on leaving the country, doing some volunteering and when I finally move back it wont be to the same place (if I ever do come back at all). What can I do to make sure she doesn’t catch me and stop me? I don’t want to leave her family with a bunch of s~~~ to move. I don’t want her to find out and pull on my emotions to keep me from leaving. I just need to disappear fast with 0 contact.
I’m not a bad guy, I don’t even hate her. I just feel sorry for her, but I need my freedom and I need to experience some things on my own while I’m still young and able to. Please give me support and advice if you have any. I’m so f~~~ing bored of this life right now.
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