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My wife of nearly 7 years (three children) left on July 1st 2016. She asked me to meet her at a local tap room, and without looking at me for more than a passive glance, announced that she wanted a divorce. I knew something was up when she called me at 4pm on a Friday afternoon saying that she had found a “babysitter” for our kids and just wanted to see me (she never did stuff like this) but I never anticipated she was at the point of divorce. It was always up to me to coordinate with my parents if there was to be any kind of a “date” opportunity. Anyways, haven’t felt my gut retreat to the ass of my seat like it did in that moment ever before or since. She then got up and drove off, taking my children to parts unknown with her for 4 days. She would only text that she wanted me out of the house by the time she planned to return 5 days later, and that she was shutting off her phone.
I had just started a terrific new job 3 weeks prior to this and I had thought things were going quite well at home. My ex was not verbally or physically abused EVER but she never hesitated to tell me “F~~~ YOU” if the feeling was right. I made ways for her to become a certified birth doula, start (and burn down) her own photography business, and stay home during the days with our boys. I worked my ass off as a 24/7 on call security site manager for Wells Fargo and provided a beautiful home for my family. It all fell apart when she finally succumb to the truth of her own sexuality as a lesbian (which she never voiced to me in marriage). I was also too naïve to be able to understand that a woman with the maternal instincts of my ex, could also be a lesbian who was more interested in simply having children than a family. She would eventually end up moving in with her muse after less than 2 months of first meeting her. I kept the house but had to pay tens of thousands to buy her out because I had so much equity. My family helped me with this otherwise it never would have been possible. My main goal was prioritizing what was best for my 3 boys (1, 4, and 6 yrs old at the time) and providing as much normalcy as possible. Considering that their mother saw fit to relocate them into a foreign place with another woman who decided to make up for what she lacked in looks by having a home full of dogs, cats, chickens, fish, and lizards.
Anyways, a friend sent me a piece of literature that my dear ex wrote recently that really frames things up nicely. I’ll let you read it and then explain the inadequacies of her factual recall abilities:
This is actually a whole blog full of things like “you deserve to have someone support you through ANY decision you may want to make, damn the consequences”. It’s basically an ode to selfishness through the eyes of a woman who says she wants to support mothers, but herself had to cut her own ability to mother by more than 60% to follow her own sexual proclivities. Notice where she says “I had no income to speak of”. This is patently untrue. She had 2 separate business and owned a photography studio. While she rarely put money in our joint account, I was always told that she spent her income on things for the house and kids so that was why she wasn’t making deposits. She asked me to grab her an article of clothing once and I discovered an envelope of close to a thousand dollars that she must have forgotten the location of. She sheepishly told me that it was a “vacation” fund she started for us. She never was very good at lying. She also had access to a credit card that was paid by the account I put my paychecks into. When I asked her if it was appropriate for her to continue spending money I would have to pay, she responded “sign the divorce papers and it will stop”. If you take the time to read any or all of her blog, I hope it is instructive. This is what men in our current society are up against and it’s a birds eye view to say the least.
“The Village” was actually the foundation for my ex and her business partner to start a brick and mortar birth center in Sioux Falls SD. I supported this effort, and my wife at the time 100%. This was all pro bono stuff and it meant I’d get home from work, and she’d leave to “work”. This birth center came to a crashing halt as my ex is a profound bridge burner. The business partner split and took the center in a new direction, and my ex got the “village” Facebook group, and this blog apparently.
Personally, I never saw myself in this situation. To add to all of the drama and craziness of divorce, my exes’ father was diagnosed with leukemia during the divorce process and died 9 months later. He passed not knowing that his daughter split up her family to be with another woman. The last text he ever sent me said “you need to figure out what you did, admit it, and pull you marriage back together”. I never had the heart to send him photos and items I had received from friends of my ex and her new muse together around our rather small city. He was dealing with enough and I thought my ex was an independent, strong woman who could be honest with her own dad. I’m curious if she’ll ever be independent and strong enough to curb my child support payments to her? Not holding my breath.
For other single fathers out there, CHERISH THIS GIFT YOU HAVE BEEN GIVEN! I had no idea the box I was living in until this woman exited my life. I had to fight tooth and nail to get my children 50/50 because I married a controlling, dishonest, purveyor of drama. Remember what I said before about her saying she’d stop spending on my credit card if I signed the divorce papers? She was actually trying to pressure me to take 60/40 custody of my boys. This was tantamount to blackmail but she was never held accountable for it because I just wanted it to be over and to avoid court (which I actually pulled off). The absolute best thing in the world is realizing my fatherly instincts now uninhibited by this sad excuse for a female, mother, friend, partner, etc. My time with my boys is so fruitful now, and it is the single most painful thing to realize that my “once married always married mentality” would have inhibited my ability to give my 3 sons the absolute best of me. I am truly thankful for where I find myself today and the MGTOW community.
"To be nobody but yourself in a world which is doing its best, night and day, to make you like everybody else - means to fight the hardest battle which any human being can fight; and never stop fighting." E.E. Cummings.
The other night I was on zoom and made a suggestion about how to deal with the potential extinction of Polar Bears–i.e. just move them to Antarctica, then they have a whole continent all to themselves—except for their food supply–penguins. Now brother Oldschool thought this idea was sheer genius. Such high praise would have turned the head of a lessor man—and being a lessor man it turned mine too, and swelled it with unrestrained egoism.
In that spirit I turn my massive intellect to the problem of muslims and their penchant for murdering/raping/torturing etc etc. innocent victims. The answer brothers is very simple. NO its not blowing up Mecca with nukes—yes I know a great idea and very entertaining but we’re adults here so lets agree that its a little impractical.
Instead I suggest the imposition of a Peace Bond. And this is how it works. Most if not all Mosques springing up like weeds in the west/Europe are financed by countries in the middle east, Kuwait, Saudi Arabia, Qatar et al. Before any country allows them to purchase land, buildings in which to build their Mosque these countries must pony up and additional sum as a surety against the behavior of their clerics and parishioners. Say a million dollars or so. This money is placed in a fund. And whenever one of the members of the religion of peace loses their s~~~ and goes on a killing spree/bombing spree whatever damages are awarded to the injured OUT of this fund. This plan has a number of happy consequences:
First, the countries that spawned the terror pay the costs.
Second, since these guys love money they have a monetary incentive to be self policing of their own folks; we won’t have to do it—they will to avoid paying out damages.I know what your thinking…can this work…yes indeed and it has worked in the past. Many years ago I belonged to a certain group that caused a lot of irritation to the folks running Chicago. When they finally had enough of us the city imposed a 100K peace bond. We were not able to march/rally anything without posting that money. Of course we didn’t have that kind of money and the organization withered on the vine and was never heard from after about 1981. So yes this works.
Arguments to the contrary please?
That speaks for itself.
Also speaks for itself.
Yep, looking for sugar daddies.
Finally, one for Gargamel:
Gentlemen. I don’t get out much due to a variety of reasons. I thought that my life was a bit boring and that perhaps was a negative. Now, oh boy, I realize that my life is actually great. Why? I’m not involved with anything linked above. Nor am I interested!









