What Compelled You To Go MGTOW?

[RayBandakuParticipant 888]

What are your compelling reasons why you chose to go your own way?

I thought your answer would be good for those of us who are new to MGTOW lifestyle(includes me) to learn from your wisdom.

When I look back, I am remembering my extreme pain and heartbreak during my Divorce which happened eight years ago.

I have lost 80% of wealth because I was too emotional to think straight and ended up letting go of most of what I had just to stay away from my crazy ex-wife.

What compelled me to go MGTOW was when my hopeless romantic fantasy life with my ex-wife got shattered.

I was a fool to believe in all the Disney romantic movies since I was a kid thinking that’s how real love should be between two lovers.

I treated my ex-wife like a princess for the 12 years we were together giving here everything she wished which includes new house, new cars, world travel, endless shopping.

Towards the end of our relationship, I realized that more I gave ex-wife the more she wanted, there was no end to her desires.

What compelled me to end my relationship was when she went nuts one day. I was a very successful businessman, I was making about $20,000 a month in my business. My ex-wife was a housewife, she chooses not to work. One day I told her she is spending too much money, she needs to stop spending money like water. She went crazy and grabbed a knife threating to kill herself if I don’t listen to her.

She has done this three years earlier when we had an argument, I warned her then not to grab a knife when we have arguments if she did I will walk away from our marriage. She said she will work on anger management.

To make this long story short, I tried to stop her from stabbing herself with the knife, during my struggle to grab the knife away from her the knife almost came close to my throat. It was like a scary scene from a movie. After I begged her to drop the knife, she ran upstares into our bedroom, I ran after her to make sure she does not hurt herself. She was lying in bed crying, I told her that I am working so hard to build a successful business, I am trying to give you what you want. What she said next was what compelled me to end my marriage and go MGTOW. She said, “Whatever you do for me will never be enough”. I had a flash forward of the next forty years of life with her and at the end of our life, she would have said the same thing “Whatever you do for me will never be enough”.

This was eight years ago, after a year of suicidal depression and 3 years of the spiritual journey I was able to recover from my breakup. Four years ago I came across mgtow.com which was a life saver for me, I will forever be grateful to mgtow.com for showing me the right path so I can live a peaceful and happy life without women.

Please do share your story, what was the turning point which made you go your own way. What compelled you to go MGTOW? What you share here might help me and the fellow MGTOW brothers here who are new to MGTOW lifestyle. Thank you.

[MoreSkyParticipant 4865]

Most gents will have explained this as part of their introduction, I encourage you to read as many as possible as, you rightly say, there is a lot to be gained by understanding why others have chosen to go their own way.

Here’s a link to my intro:

/forums/topic/relieved-im-not-the-only-one/

Summary of my intro:

Wife cheated on me (multiple times).
Separated then divorced.

Was lost, confused and without purpose and had very dark thoughts and was considering doing something stupid.
Saw the Red Pill Movie, watched loads of Terrence Popp and then found this site and have been in monk mode ever since.

"...reinvent your life because you must; it is your life and its history and the present belong only to you.” It is Your Life, Charles Bukowski.

[ShineParticipant 1696]

This is my intro, originally I had a much longer intro but I accidently hit delete, so this was the shortened version.

/forums/topic/gents-ive-been-lurking-behind-the-input-terminal/

Looking back on the last few years of red pill insights, I have done what old stealthy used to do and that is to tame the lizard brain. Easy in your forties, younger men still see the value in sex.

Apon recent reflection, I look back and have never been in a positive steady sexual relationship, so I now move on with the rest of my life happy to leave no kids behind and not look to women as a sexual partner. I can be friends with women, I can sleep with women, but I don’t think I can be both without the charade getting in the way.

The blue pill men usually throw me enough red pills to keep my dose topped up, and I generally don’t fit in around them and all the gossipy bollocs they seem to ferment on.

Time is all we got on this crazy rock, I just get on with using mine how I see fit for the day.

"Society is to blame" Denton

[SpiderHerderParticipant 3763]

All the cool kids were doing it ? lol

Seriously, I’ve always had a healthy curiosity and never considered fatherhood to be a worthy endeavour. I wanted to travel, I wanted to learn languages, musical instruments.

Biological urges, social programming and peer pressure made me stray away from my path temporarily (looking for a girlfriend and sex) until recently. I’ve let go of these pointless pursuits and live the way I want.

This period of conciousness within this extraordinary universe is for me, and me alone. I SHALL DO WHAT I WANT WITH IT.

[Anonymous 12]

In a lot of ways I always have been MGTOW. I have never fitted in, always had different interests to the people around me. I even avoided women to a large degree when I was younger as I didn’t trust them.

What got me to actually knowing the term existed though and joining the site was when I was on a Sugar Baby site a few years ago. The idea of having a SB was kind of like a last ditch attempt at finding some happiness with women even if it was on a short term basis. I never found a SB, what I did find was the Female mentality laid bare. Totally shameless and it removed the last remnants of interest I had in women. There was a guy on that forum who would constantly drop Red Pills and talk about MGTOW and women and that is how I ended up learning about the term and this site.

I realized that although I wanted a real interaction with a woman, all they wanted (even outside of Sugar arrangements and Whores) was money and access to my resources.

[JakeParticipant 908]

for me its seems wright never had a woman love me back in any meaningful way mostly waste of time money and effort , I am happy I see clearly no hassles .

[NerdTunnelerParticipant]

When I have lived my life as a white knight…To do the things needed to be considered as a “good” catch…However, it was never enough with my LTRs…The women are never satisfied. You keep bending backwards to constantly try and please them. I read a lot of books to try and make her happy until I neglected myself.

We gave everything to our woman just so she can smile at us and give us a warm embrace. Just the support and compassion from our partner…She cannot even give that to me. Instead, I am always lacking…I am always at fault. Everything she was going through is somehow my fault and I have to keep fixing everything…

When the time came that I was broken, I was alone in the hospital…That was the start when things unraveled and she left me. I tried to understand and believed that it was my fault. I kept hoping and praying until the path of coincidences led me to MGTOW…It was then that everything made sense…I am still spitting out the blue pills fed into me and learning to appreciate myself for myself…

I stand with feet apart and let my balls hang free...Manginas dont have balls...See how they stand and sit at the whim of their masters...

[TicParticipant 4329]

I woke up.
I learned I wasn’t the only one: that there are many others like me who had the same expeiences. There was nothing wrong with me, per say. LEARNING TO TRULY love myself and not measure my value based on women’s perception was a key to leading a fullfilling life.

Call it a revelation. The solution set me free.

And a thousand thanks to this site.

God bless peace and freedom.

[AutoliteParticipant]

RayBandaku wrote:

What are your compelling reasons why you chose to go your own way?

I started to go MGTOW over 25 years ago before there was ever even a name for it. I saw how deceptive, sneaky and dishonest women are. I was totally blindsided in a nasty break-up and that was a real eye opener. I also saw how in other relations~~~s/marriages a woman can manipulate a dysfunctional and corrupt legal system to unjustifiably destroy men’s lives. And I have a low tolerance for risk. From my own personal observations and experiences, I’ve decided that association with women is just far too much of a liability.

Being in a relations~~~ or marriage would be, for me, like living 24/7 with a straight razor held against your throat. I really can’t understand how other guys do it. Women have no soul or conscience. You don’t want to mess with something that evil…

[BoarParticipant]

I always felt that society screwed men over. I had bad–or so I thought–luck with whimyn as well. When I started putting my observations together with my experiences and the experiences of others, I realized how badly the systems f~~~s men. Then I went my own way. A few decades later, I found this site.

Untamed wrote: Quit complaining and Go Your Own Way in whatever manner suits you best.

[Anonymous 1]

If you want to know what brought us all here, just read the Introductions forum. It’s pretty much all there.

There’s also Gargamel’s profile…

[BeerParticipant 11832]

It was a combination of things for me. I had dated a bit and had a few girlfriends in my 20s. Most of the dating was bad experiences, and the girlfriends always left me with a feeling after the initial fun wore off in a few months of “What the f~~~ am I doing with this person?”

I also learned just by watching others. I was pretty blue pill through most of my 20s, and even then realized most women my age were sluts. I also learned from older guys I met over the years, many of which had been divorce raped, and a handful who I got to watch go through a s~~~ty phase in life as the divorce rape was in progress. Even out of the older gents I have met over the years who haven’t been divorce raped, many of them still ended up miserable in their marriage.

It just made me think to myself, why bother. The deal the women of my generation offer is they want to marry after they are post wall and have had a decade or more on the c~~~ carousel, many of them already have kids, debt, and all kinds of other baggage and drama by that point, and even if you are dumb enough to commit to a low quality woman like that, odds of a happily ever after once you sign a heavily lopsided marriage contract that signs your b~~~~ over to the woman and the state is pretty low. Its just gotten to a point for me where I honestly no longer viewed being single as being a failure, or a bad thing, I view it as being free, and I view not getting married as not making a horrible life choice.

[Anonymous 12]

+1 for a visit to the introduction Forums. even go to page 20. or 35. or any other random page – you have it all laid out there, no need to repeat any of it here.

[Ranger OneParticipant 16836]

Self-preservation.

All my life I've had doubts about who I am, where I belonged. Now I'm like the arrow that springs from the bow. No hesitation, no doubts. The path is clear. And what are you? Alive. Everything else is negotiable. Women have rights; men have responsibilities; MGTOW have freedom. Marriage is for chumps. If someone stands in the way of true justice, you simply walk up behind them and stab them in the heart-R'as al Ghul.

[Mr. SpockParticipant 10910]

My reasons for Going My Own Way are pretty similar to many on this forum. I always felt as a kid that the girls always seemed to have it easier. I believed that even though I had it harder as a boy, the rewards would be worth it when I became an adult. Then I became an adult and found out that I was wrong. I continue to come here in hopes of sharing stories, past experiences and post stories that help illustrate how bad the system is rigged against men especially young men. Hopefully they will avoid the same trap that got me.

Feminism isn't about equality with men, it's about leverage over men.

[LurchParticipant 3866]

For me it was two reasons:

First, the death of my wife back in 2015.

Second, being invisible to women over the past 3 years because I always get written off as that “Ewwww… creepy old guy”, at the age of 47.

Besides I haven’t had an erection since my wife’s passing 3 years ago, because +200lbs of “All American Chub” doesn’t get me hard.

Blue-Pill Virgin: Women hate me! That's what it is.
MGTOW Man: Hate them back; it works for me.

[JustAnotherGuyParticipant]

I got married to the person I thought was my best friend. We had a kid and then before the tot could even walk, she was cheating on me with a coworker. She divorced me because she just “wasn’t happy” and “needed to be on her own” (what she told me), or “couldn’t wait to be done with it” and “just felt right” with the new Chad (what she told her friends in text and email).

We filed with the courts with a waiver that said “no child support.” The judge denied the divorce decree and said “it can’t be zero.”

I lost a house and I had to sell my one prized possession, my motorcycle, to keep up with daycare, mortgage, child support, and rent in the divorce fall-out.

Combine that with multiple cross-state STD epidemics and seeing (after actually looking) just how wide-spread and not-alone my situation is (hence, JustAnotherGuy), hearing and experiencing how one-sided the court system is if you get involved with a woman, and walking away was an easier choice than what tee shirt I put on today.

If I hadn’t gotten divorce raped, I would have been a husbank until I died. I would have chased higher paychecks to provide and sacrifice for the wife who I didn’t realize didn’t appreciate me.

What compelled me? Stark female nature, raging STD epidemics, and a parallel justice system in which I have fewer than no rights: I am presumed guilty.

Cupcakes are Cold. MGTOW is Absolute Zero.
“Let us wait a little; when your enemy is executing a false movement, never interrupt him” –Napoleon Bonaparte, 1805

[JustAnotherGuyParticipant]

Lurch wrote:

Besides I haven’t had an erection since my wife’s passing 3 years ago, because +200lbs of “All American Chub” doesn’t get me hard.

Where are these hotties? The women around me all ride mobility scooters.

Cupcakes are Cold. MGTOW is Absolute Zero.
“Let us wait a little; when your enemy is executing a false movement, never interrupt him” –Napoleon Bonaparte, 1805

[LurchParticipant 3866]

JustAnotherGuy wrote:

Where are these hotties?

Mate, I have NO idea. Hence why I haven’t been able to get an erection. ¯\_(ツ)_/¯

Blue-Pill Virgin: Women hate me! That's what it is.
MGTOW Man: Hate them back; it works for me.

[Mr LogicParticipant 625]

I was p~~~ed off about my last ex and her personality disorder. I went back to online dating and I just knew something was wrong but what is it really me? So I googled some confirmation bias “online dating sucks” and I found these forums. Pandora’s Box opened and it’s been tons of MGTOW content on my YouTube page since. MGTOW is life. No more emotional instability and doing crazy s~~~ because women. That and I’ve already been married and divorced. Oh yeah, ex wife was on my best friends dick during the separation too.

Whatev man. MGTOW.

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