Thread Etiquette- what are the unwritten 'rules'

[DocParticipant]

I’ve been here several weeks now and apart from a car forum I was a member of about a decade ago I have never been a member on an online forum.

Since I joined MGTOW, created my own threads, read other people’s threads and posted I have picked up a vibe regarding what members feel are the unwritten rules/etiquette/manners – call it what you will.

I checked if KM has outlined any guidance but couldn’t find anything, so wondered what the rest of you think constituents good and bad etiquette when it comes es to creating threads, and posting on other people’s threads.

Sorry if this is a subject that’s cropped up in the past. My telepathic receiver is faulty.

Anyway – any thoughts?

The object of life is not to be on the side of the majority, but to escape, finding oneself in the ranks of the insane. Marcus Aurelius

[MoreSkyParticipant 4865]

Good question Doc. I’ve had similar thoughts and have hesitated from replying on occasion.

I suppose the only mandatory one is: don’t be female.

"...reinvent your life because you must; it is your life and its history and the present belong only to you.” It is Your Life, Charles Bukowski.

[Anonymous 14]

It’s pretty much free reign in here, Fight Club style. If someone p~~~es you off tell them to go f~~~ themselves if you like, and then go along your way to another great day.

Edit- And now that I think about it, this is a lesson many young men need to learn. You have to be able to stand up for yourself and tell people to f~~~ off now and then, doesn’t mean you cant be friends with them tomorrow.

Don’t link private information about yourself or anyone else and no threats. Other than that its a man’s site for men.

[IRuleMeParticipant]

Doc wrote:

I’ve been here several weeks now and apart from a car forum I was a member of about a decade ago I have never been a member on an online forum.

Since I joined MGTOW, created my own threads, read other people’s threads and posted I have picked up a vibe regarding what members feel are the unwritten rules/etiquette/manners – call it what you will.

I checked if KM has outlined any guidance but couldn’t find anything, so wondered what the rest of you think constituents good and bad etiquette when it comes es to creating threads, and posting on other people’s threads.

Sorry if this is a subject that’s cropped up in the past. My telepathic receiver is faulty.

Anyway – any thoughts?

The only requirement is no posts advocating violence or posting obscene materials. Otherwise, post whatever you want, comment whatever you want. If you have something to contribute to a thread, by all means. If there’s something that interests you, make a topic (just try to keep it in the appropriate forum).

But generally, at least as topics go, try to think before posting if the subject matter is something that’s beneficial to the rest of the forum. Those are the types of topics that tend to get lots of replies. It’s also a sort of underlying theme that if someone posts a topic or reply you like, give em a +1 star click.

Also before posting, try to do a search and see if what you’re posting has been posted before. We get a lot of redundant threads that way.

[Anonymous 18]

If you take it out, make sure its bigger than everyone else.

[HermitParticipant]

I don’t think there are any more rules than the ones that are plainly outlined. As KM has mentioned recently, we are to be self policing and I like that. After all, even though some us do not always act like it, we are adults and should be able to have fun, but conduct ourselves in an acceptable manner.

I am on a motorcycle forum and have seen people get banned, but yet I may have broken the rules almost every day, mostly for foul language, but I do it in a way that makes the other members laugh, so I guess that’s why I get away with it. I never seriously attack anyone. It’s always in fun.

Out of curiosity, why do you bring this up, DocDJ?

The evil in women’s hearts leaves them no moral bounds as to inhibit them from descending to the lowest levels of darkness to acquire their self entitled desires.

[Anonymous 12]

First of all…
There are no “my own threads”.
This is a Bar. There is talk about everything almost everywhere.
We´re all guests here, and since KM kept the forum rules so vague to allow a maximum of Freedom, just behave as if you were in a bar.
a bar with a “general” corner, one corner for “divorce stuff”, one section for sports, one for for Politics.

You are in a Bar. When 5 Guys are discussing European Soccer, do not go into their corner yelling SOCCER IS FOR PUSSIES, AMERICAN FOOTBALL FOR LIFE!!
When you see a Gun thread , do not go there and do your Allah Akbar thing.
When you see a man down and out because of any kind of reason, don´t kick him and throw the “you shoulda known better, dumbass” bomb on him.

And when someone pushes your buttons… its just text on a screen. Ignore the fool.
No need to whine or insult the text that’s on your screen – nor the Dude that typed it.

Just common sense, and you´ll be all right.

[UntamedParticipant]

I think Keymaster sounded off pretty clearly on that subject.
Here is what he posted a day or so ago:
“Members can admin themselves we don’t need “rules”.
How awesome is that.
Usually if there is any problem and deletion is a question we will contact the member by PM or email.”

As MGTOW and Menbers here we are expected to behave like Men, as opposed to little bitches who whine about everything, whore attention and have no point but shaming tactics.
We are expected to use sound judgement on what could be considered inappropriate content and subject to libel or otherwise criminal charges and we all know how those fly quickly.
I’m not for rules but the way I see it, if you come in here with good intentions towards the members and MGTOW it will show and you’ll be welcome.
If you come in her with some rotten agenda and start bullying your way around, try to represent MGTOW or mgtow.com in a slandering manner then you’ll be subject to whatever Keymaster decides is appropriate at the time.

Don't let them Blame, Shame or Tame you!
Give 'em NOTHING, not even an answer!
#GenderSegragationNow!

[DocParticipant]

Hermit wrote:

Out of curiosity, why do you bring this up, DocDJ?

I got Aspergers. I found out in 2014.
At first I didn’t accept it but when I thought back over how my interactions with both men and women have played out throughout my life I have always been different to others.

In recent years my confidence took a hammering because a number of people said I misread my interactions with people and was frankly a pain in the ass.

I acted without thinking, found things funny that others didn’t. Didn’t find things funny that others did.
List goes on and on. I was getting told repeatedly that I got on people’s nerves.
My then wife was particularly critical, as were quite a lot of work colleagues.
S~~~ went further south when my dad committed suicide in 2015.
Within an 11 month period I found out I was Aspergic, within 2 months my wife threw me out and then my dad killed himself.
I have been suicidal for the last 3 and a half years. But I’ll never do it because I respect my young children.

Since I have joined MGTOW I have felt welcomed into the fold by all you guys. Nobody has made me feel unwelcome and I respect each and every one of you for that.

But now and again I have a pang of I security and sometimes wonder if I’m just being a pain in the ass.

My logical side tells me you would tell me straight but when my confidence is low I get paranoid.

I’m on the mend but I’m a long way off. It’s been a s~~~ few years. I accept that what I have been through is nothing compared to what some of you have been through though so.

Hell, I just need to relax a little.

The object of life is not to be on the side of the majority, but to escape, finding oneself in the ranks of the insane. Marcus Aurelius

[HermitParticipant]

Doc wrote:

Hermit wrote:

Out of curiosity, why do you bring this up, DocDJ?

I got Aspergers. I found out in 2014.
At first I didn’t accept it but when I thought back over how my interactions with both men and women have played out throughout my life I have always been different to others.

In recent years my confidence took a hammering because a number of people said I misread my interactions with people and was frankly a pain in the ass.

I acted without thinking, found things funny that others didn’t. Didn’t find things funny that others did.
List goes on and on. I was getting told repeatedly that I got on people’s nerves.
My then wife was particularly critical, as were quite a lot of work colleagues.
S~~~ went further south when my dad committed suicide in 2015.
Within an 11 month period I found out I was Aspergic, within 2 months my wife threw me out and then my dad killed himself.
I have been suicidal for the last 3 and a half years. But I’ll never do it because I respect my young children.

Since I have joined MGTOW I have felt welcomed into the fold by all you guys. Nobody has made me feel unwelcome and I respect each and every one of you for that.

But now and again I have a pang of I security and sometimes wonder if I’m just being a pain in the ass.

My logical side tells me you would tell me straight but when my confidence is low I get paranoid.

I’m on the mend but I’m a long way off. It’s been a s~~~ few years. I accept that what I have been through is nothing compared to what some of you have been through though so.

Hell, I just need to relax a little.

Wow, thanks for sharing, DocDJ. Don’t know if that was hard to share, but glad you felt comfortable enough to do so. Sounds indeed like you’ve been through some s~~~. From the little time I’ve spent on here, I’m pretty sure someone would tell you if you were rubbing them the wrong way. I haven’t seen a lot of your posts, but the ones I’ve seen tell me you’re a pretty upstanding descent fella’.

I reckon maybe you are just being paranoid and yep, just relax and have a good time. Thanks again for sharing.

Oh, and I’m no psychiatrist and I don’t really believe in them anyway, but …….and forgive me if I’m out of line, I don’t believe suicide is a good answer. Whether you know it or not, not just your children, but other people in this world need you. We on this site need you. You have made me feel better with just a few of your posts. You may or may not have seen my post where I said I had a loaded and c~~~ed gun to my head twice in my life. I’m really glad I didn’t pull the trigger. You do matter and you do make a difference.

The evil in women’s hearts leaves them no moral bounds as to inhibit them from descending to the lowest levels of darkness to acquire their self entitled desires.

[DocParticipant]

Thanks for the feedback guys. Appreciated.

Funny how the s~~~ life throws our way takes its toll.
I have had a lot on lately with one thing and another.
Job stressful and daily life can be a pain.

The object of life is not to be on the side of the majority, but to escape, finding oneself in the ranks of the insane. Marcus Aurelius

[OneTrueMisfitSpectator 2690]

Rule #1

Don’t you disrespect me. Don’t you ever f~~~ing disrespect me.

Don't care

[DocParticipant]

Hermit wrote:

DocDJ wrote:

Hermit wrote:

Out of curiosity, why do you bring this up, DocDJ?

I got Aspergers. I found out in 2014.
At first I didn’t accept it but when I thought back over how my interactions with both men and women have played out throughout my life I have always been different to others.

In recent years my confidence took a hammering because a number of people said I misread my interactions with people and was frankly a pain in the ass.

I acted without thinking, found things funny that others didn’t. Didn’t find things funny that others did.
List goes on and on. I was getting told repeatedly that I got on people’s nerves.
My then wife was particularly critical, as were quite a lot of work colleagues.
S~~~ went further south when my dad committed suicide in 2015.
Within an 11 month period I found out I was Aspergic, within 2 months my wife threw me out and then my dad killed himself.
I have been suicidal for the last 3 and a half years. But I’ll never do it because I respect my young children.

Since I have joined MGTOW I have felt welcomed into the fold by all you guys. Nobody has made me feel unwelcome and I respect each and every one of you for that.

But now and again I have a pang of I security and sometimes wonder if I’m just being a pain in the ass.

My logical side tells me you would tell me straight but when my confidence is low I get paranoid.

I’m on the mend but I’m a long way off. It’s been a s~~~ few years. I accept that what I have been through is nothing compared to what some of you have been through though so.

Hell, I just need to relax a little.

Wow, thanks for sharing, DocDJ. Don’t know if that was hard to share, but glad you felt comfortable enough to do so. Sounds indeed like you’ve been through some s~~~. From the little time I’ve spent on here, I’m pretty sure someone would tell you if you were rubbing them the wrong way. I haven’t seen a lot of your posts, but the ones I’ve seen tell me you’re a pretty upstanding descent fella’.

I reckon maybe you are just being paranoid and yep, just relax and have a good time. Thanks again for sharing.

Thanks Hermit.
This place had made a huge difference.
Yes I’m a little paranoid but the feedback you guys have given will help me chill.
It’s just one of those days today I think.
I’m comfortable sharing what s~~~s gone on because I seen how open you all are on here.

The object of life is not to be on the side of the majority, but to escape, finding oneself in the ranks of the insane. Marcus Aurelius

[DocParticipant]

OneTrueMisfit wrote:

Rule #1

Don’t you disrespect me. Don’t you

ever

f~~~ing disrespect me.

You literally made me laugh out loud then Onetruemisfit

The object of life is not to be on the side of the majority, but to escape, finding oneself in the ranks of the insane. Marcus Aurelius

[GregB0Participant]

Anonymous wrote:

Just common sense, and you´ll be all right.

Absolutely correct. You can be as critical of a topic as you would like, just be civil about your discourse and avoid using derogatory slurs or labels.

Doc wrote:

But now and again I have a pang of I security and sometimes wonder if I’m just being a pain in the ass.

Doc wrote:

My logical side tells me you would tell me straight but when my confidence is low I get paranoid.

Check on both. If you have doubts about how someone will take your post, just lead with that. If you have a member that still goes off on you, you have to have thick skin as Joe mentioned. MGTOW.com is a free fall, wide open site. Mean what you say and say what you want to.

You will quickly find that there are several members who always are critical during their posts/replies of anyone and anything. Are they that way off MGTOW.com, who knows. Everyone has an online persona and you can eventually tell those who are playing games ans who are not.

Go your own way and don’t give an “OmmpaLoompa” about what members say.

​"​My father didn't tell me how to live; he lived, and let me watch him do it.​" - Clarence Buddinton Kelland

[StargazerParticipant 12505]

There are rules?

The only ones I would apply are:

1) Introduce yourself, particularly before criticizing
2) Say what you think
3) Be ready to take flak for your statements

I’d say these are the basic rules of discourse in ANY forum of life. The only particular restriction I’ve ever seen here is “for men only”.

[Anonymous 54]

DocDJ, your doin just fine. No need to worry.

[DocParticipant]

Thanks Gregbo,
Thanks DocFenderson,
Thanks Old Sage.

The object of life is not to be on the side of the majority, but to escape, finding oneself in the ranks of the insane. Marcus Aurelius

[Anonymous 54]

Your Welcome my Freind.

[It’sallbsParticipant]

I live life by my own rules and no one els’.

I live by MY moral code and MY standards.

If any of you don’t do that then how can you be MGTOW.

http://www.leavemeansleave.eu

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