The Coffee Date

[Puffin StuffParticipant 24979]

I still advertise on Match.com out of habit for the most part. I don’t get many responses, I don’t send out any fav’s or messages. I put no time in it.

A woman that messaged me wants me to 1. Write her letters, 2. call on the phone and talk for one hour then, after all that bulls~~~. Wasting maybe 2 hours of my time, she says…3. “let’s meet for coffee”. I’m like, “OK, whatever” and we choose a place.

I gave this some thought and it occurred to me that coffee at a diner is not a date at all but an interview. An interview for a date. If I passed the interview I get to see her dressed up and I get the opportunity to wine and dine her to her satisfaction. So after seeing my pictures, my bio, all my statistics, how many children and how old they are, my hobbies and a one hour phone conversation…after all that…all she could have the courage for is a coffee date.

No wonder older men go for younger women and Sharon Stone, 54, had to go on “Bumble”.

Post menapausal women are a waste of time…54, I’m 59.

This initiated a nice message “I’m not interested in an interview for a date. Good luck with your search.”.

She sent me back a message indicating she was much annoyed by my message and didn’t “know what I meant” when I said interview for a date.

She got the message.

#icethemout; Remember Thomas Ball. He died for your children.

[MATRIXParticipant 2339]

Hey puffin,

Never use the phone for anything other than arranging the date.

AND you offer the coffee date, to see if she’s worthy of going for a meal together.

If not, only the cost of a coffee is lost.

If she’s not happy with a coffee date first then she’s a dinner whore.

I know you know all this, it’s for lurkers and newbies.

All of the above presupposes you actually want to play the dating game.

As we all know, it’s a pointless waste of time, money and resources with modern women.

Nothing but a bunch of narcissistic, entitled KUNTS, looking for money and resources under the guise of love.

Starve them.

Until the end of time.

I just bought another motorbike.

WAHOOO!!!

There is NO wisdom in signing a contract with someone who benefits from breaking it.

[Puffin StuffParticipant 24979]

I don’t care about the money. If the girl sucks, I want to at least have a good meal. Meeting for coffee is a very unromantic place to make a connection which is hard to make as it is. A coffee date is a waste of time and you get nothing out of it. At least I get a night out at a nice restaurant with someone at least trying to be nice to me.

For example, there is a nice Indian restaurant near my house that I love. I would take a random date there because I would enjoy the experience no matter how much there is no chemistry between us. Women are generally nice on dates. It is rare that they show any negative sides of themselves. Your getting them at their best…your an opportunity to them.

#icethemout; Remember Thomas Ball. He died for your children.

[MATRIXParticipant 2339]

I still couldn’t care for their fakery.

I would not enjoy a meal with them knowing they’re only being nice for the meal.

F~~~ that noise.

But that’s just me.

There is NO wisdom in signing a contract with someone who benefits from breaking it.

[MATRIXParticipant 2339]

I’ve eaten out alone lately.

It does take getting use to, but oh man, it’s bliss when you’re not trying to impress some fake bitch.

I’ll eat and people watch.

I’ll enjoy the food for myself and only pay for myself.

Peace Bro.

There is NO wisdom in signing a contract with someone who benefits from breaking it.

[Secret Agent MGTOWParticipant 22503]

So glad I will never date again. Don’t care if the women are happy about it too.

Women want everything, but want responsibility and accountability for nothing.

[Sky-OParticipant 18933]

During my blue pill era, I was already so disillusioned and apathetic at one point, regarding women and the endless myriad of games and rituals surrounding “dating” that there was a period of time when I was banging chicks but not even dating.

Like, if a date was a prerequisite to banging a pumpkin then I just considered it to be too much work. And realistically it was. Because aside from the sexual aspect: women are worthless. It took me awhile to realize that.

The closest thing to a coffee date that I ever had was banging a chick at Sky-0-HQ and in the morning when she asked if I had any K•Cups for the machine in my kitchen, I realized I was out and just gave her a can of Starbuck’s Doubleshot that was in my refrigerator.

[Gravel PitParticipant]

I used to give you a hard time Puff but Ive done a 180… I say date women any age you want. If the trim is putting out, take it. If she is easily bought, so much the better. Enjoy yourself and spend your money.

I dont know why it bothered me so much. I think its just plain jealousy of not having much loose cash, and not getting easy vagina. But if other men are, good for them.

I recently gave my older brother a massive shame letter about his alcoholism, but in the letter I dogged him for dating a boy 12 years younger. He is a gay 40 year old dating/living with a 27 year old boy “man”…

I told him to lose the boy toy. In all honesty I dont care at all, as that sort of thing is typical in the gay community. Im just angry that he is an out of control drunk at 40 years old who cant get sober… while he continues with the usual Rehab trips, career/job flops, spontaneous geographical changes across the nation, suicidal crap ending in psych wards etc…

Anyway, if people in their 40s and 50s want to fvck young adults in their 20s… who the hell cares? Im learning not to…

[Gravel PitParticipant]

I tell ya what boys. If this place really does go teets up, Im gonna miss the reading material. Yall are interesting, funny, wise and more! Where the hell am I gonna find that sort of uncucked male spirit?

[FrankOneParticipant 1417]

Puffin: ‘interview for a date’. I am a decade younger than you but can definitely learn from you. Such an accurate and succinct description!

I tried writing domainsbyproxy, regarding purchasing this domain, they told me to email the domain owner, which I also did, but I received no response. That is presumably Keymaster who is incommunicado for whatever reason—sickness, death, a change of viewpoint, it is all speculation.

I am by no means a web development guru like him, but I could at least remove maintenance pop up and re-enable logins IF it could be purchased.

It is kind of amazing to me no one knows his identity out of what was once 30,000+ members. Talk about anonymity!

[StealthParticipant 5327]

Puffin Stuff wrote:

No wonder older men go for younger women

Younger women are just as indecisive, and often flakier.

"Once you’ve taken care of the basics, there’s very little in this world for which your life is worth deferring." -David Hansson. "It’s not when women are mean or nasty that anything is out of the ordinary. It’s when they are NICE to you that you have to be on high alert..." -Jackinov.

[SandalsParticipant 4253]

I am a little perplexed at this one. I can understand a blue piller wanting to take a girl out and spend all this money on her, but a mgtow?

Anyway, I would be the exact opposite. If a girl said, let’s go to Kaboom Korma, I’d be like, … “uh, how about we go for coffee? I’ve got a Krups machine AND a percolator at my place, so you can take your pick.”

I mean, maybe you’re loaded, and you just don’t care, but I think you may be reading this the wrong way. To me, expensive dinner means she has boxed you into the blue-pill category and wants to test your wallet. Coffee means she has figured out you’re mgtow, and just wants to bang you after the coffee date. She’s put you in the alpha f~~~s category, and doesn’t want to waste a lot of time.

Is it possible you misread this one?

[bstoffParticipant 4863]

i think he is saying he enjoys the “dinner” dates rather than meeting for coffee because he likes nice dinners, himself.
From what I gather about their complex dating rituals, she’s dragging things out and making him commit a lot of himself before she bothers to show for an actual “date”.

I am in my early-mid 50’s and, at this point, I absolutely can never see myself even considering any woman over the age of 30, if any woman at all.
And that woman has to be good looking with no attitude, issues, kids or baggage.
This pretty much prevents me from ever “dating” again.
This is fine with me, though.
I resolved to stop wasting my time and resources having relations~~~s since I started one with a single mom about 7 years ago. All of the red flags were present shortly after she moved in and I was just waiting to make a safe exit after that.

I then accidentally began seeing a well-adjusted lady in her early 20’s and she is untarnished/undamaged from any previous relations~~~s, so we are sticking together.
She also knows that I’ve gone my own way and am only making an exception for her because she is as close to a unicorn as is possible.
When this relationship sours, I’m done.

[Branched offParticipant 10920]

I think you were wise Puffin. She sounded a like hard work sort of individual and at the beginning of a relationship one is trying hardest to please but that was all she could manage.

I believe that I have gone on two first dates in my life. It was as a result of Match.com. I was not terribly taken by either woman but one had lied about her age and looked like a player so I said “Thanks but I have seen enough”. The other was keen and honest in what she had said and I had three children with her. All other relationships with women have come not via the dating route. I suspect that dating is something to only do if you can’t find women through daily life. As one gets older the pool of women you would shag who would also shag you shrinks substantially (Because women your age are largely unf~~~able) and maybe dating has a role to play then in finding a woman but I hope I will not feel that thirsty again that I have to go looking for a woman. I like my time and my resources too much I think. If I had more money (as I believe Puffin does) it might be quite different. One can spend a portion of disposable income on pussy and feel better for it so why deny yourself something nice but for me 10% of disposable income is quite enough and 10% of what I have left at the end of the month is not enough to snare an attractive woman at all. They would have to fall in love with me first before they went out with the likes of me and that would mean meeting through life not through a date, where you must pass a paper sift first.

A woman is like fire -fun to play with, can warm you through and cook your food, needs constant feeding, can burn you and consume all you own

[Puffin StuffParticipant 24979]

You have to understand, I’ve been “dating” for 40 years. Years ago I stopped caring anything about the woman and concentrated on having a good time myself. I also have enough money that the occasional date doesn’t affect my finances. My most recent date was for 12 OZ filet mignon. The steak was way worth the casual conversation leading to no second date. We knew within 2 min if there was chemistry. Which is rare because women my age are mostly unf~~~able. I will not go on a date with a woman that is unf~~~able in her pics. That distance and age are all I care about. The bio is only important in that I won’t date women with children at home.

I could eat alone but I like to talk during dinner. It’s a social thing.

#icethemout; Remember Thomas Ball. He died for your children.

[Branched offParticipant 10920]

If you can afford to feed women good food, Puffin, then why not?

I think a lot has to do with affordability. It is a sexual market place (sad but proven true countless times) and if you can afford the product then you can enjoy the product, so if you like it buy it. These days with divorce rapes and women getting given good jobs they do not deserve, there are less and less men who can really afford female company without feeling the pinch.

A woman is like fire -fun to play with, can warm you through and cook your food, needs constant feeding, can burn you and consume all you own

[TaxGuyParticipant]

Stealth wrote:

Puffin Stuff wrote:

No wonder older men go for younger women

Younger women are just as indecisive, and often flakier.

True, but they look better doing it!

Order the good wine

[HermitParticipant]

TaxGuy wrote:

Stealth wrote:

Puffin Stuff wrote:

No wonder older men go for younger women

Younger women are just as indecisive, and often flakier.

True, but they look better doing it!

Ha, can’t argue with that!

The evil in women’s hearts leaves them no moral bounds as to inhibit them from descending to the lowest levels of darkness to acquire their self entitled desires.

[WPLParticipant 2390]

Although it used to feel a little awkward, I now enjoy eating out alone. If I know a restaurant won’t be busy during the time when I’ll be there, I’ll sometimes bring a book and take my time eating and reading. Other times, I just people watch. Or I’ll eat, think, and sketch ideas in my pocket notebook (I’m no artist — these are technical ideas, or plans for furniture I intend to build as one of my hobbies).

MATRIX wrote:

I’ve eaten out alone lately.
It does take getting use to, but oh man, it’s bliss when you’re not trying to impress some fake bitch.
I’ll eat and people watch.
I’ll enjoy the food for myself and only pay for myself.
Peace Bro.

[Sky-OParticipant 18933]

Long before I ever had a comprehensive understanding of female nature and the red pill:

I had already stopped “dating” in the traditional sense of following an expected routine and pattern to getting to know women that way.

But I had stopped “dating” in the traditional definition of the term.

Because I got to a point where I

REFUSED TO NEGOTIATE WITH TERRORISTS

Beta’s did that kind of stuff. And it works for them.

My c•ck became like a special forces tactical unit.

Moved in to position when possible, accomplished mission objectives then extracted.

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