That ONE ex-girlfriend…

[Doctor GrimParticipant 30]

I am tempted, but hesitant. Basically, the story goes like this

– Met her at 18. F~~~ed like Bunnies. I dumped her after 7-8 months because of… I dont know. I shouldn’t have. She was at least a 9/10 looks-wise, with a great personality. Tons of fun.

– Met her several times through my 20s: We ended up in the sack every time and dated for a few weeks/months. It’s one of those: Can’t be a couple, but we like to f~~~ things. Can’t be friends either, because we always end up in the sack.

I am 40 now, she is my age. She just contacted me through messenger. We’ve met twice now and the chemistry is still there. She has a kid, 9 years old. The dad’s not involved. She is on welfare for health reasons, but has a well-off family that makes sure she is “ok” financially. What to do?

Writing this, I already have my answer: No. No. Run away. Still, I kind of want to. But, I will not.

Anyone else have doubts every now and then?

[MarketWatcherParticipant]

Doctor Grim wrote:

Anyone else have doubts every now and then?

Yup, happened to me last week. /forums/topic/it-finally-happened-i-was-tested-and-can-now-stop-bullets/

[AutoliteParticipant]

Doctor Grim wrote:

Anyone else have doubts every now and then?

No. Never. There isn’t one exGF that I would want to be with or even meet again today…

[Anonymous 13]

Let me see now,

She’s a post wall, ailing health, single mother on welfare.

Hell yeah give it all you got.

[Doctor GrimParticipant 30]

Anonymous wrote:

Let me see now,
She’s a post wall, ailing health, single mother on welfare.
Hell yeah give it all you got.

When you put it like that… 😉

[Doctor GrimParticipant 30]

Autolite wrote:

Doctor Grim wrote:

Anyone else have doubts every now and then?

No. Never. This isn’t one exGF that I would want to be with or even meet again today…

Seems like a similar problem. Congrats on dodging yours 🙂

[Solo MAN’S WisdomParticipant]

Dude. You got the best of things. Enjoy the memories only. Stay away. The kid will start seeing you as “daddy” and then the state will make you pay to support it.

When women lead, destruction is the destination. -- Me.

[AutoliteParticipant]

Solo MAN’S Wisdom wrote:

The kid will start seeing you as “daddy” and then the state will make you pay to support it.

The State will say that you “acted in the capacity of a parent” if you make eye contact with the kid…

[bstoffParticipant 4863]

I think you will regret trying to relive all your horny memories. I went through something similar to your situation a while back. A hot girl that was great in the sack and made me feel great while I was with her. I sure regretted going back to it after she had kids, hit the wall, got on welfare, etc.,. She will be nothing like you remember because her market value has gone down while yours has gone up. Remember her the way she was and leave it at that.
Better break off contact because she knows your value and won’t leave you alone until she has a chance to get her claws into you. At this point, she may have a STD, or she can trap you into kids, rape accusations, or anything else she can come up with.
Enjoy what you had, remember those good-old-days and leave that mess alone.

[FrostByteParticipant 19005]

THEN is was all good and fine when she wanted you for sex, and all you needed to give her was sex.

This is NOW (don’t confuse the two)

She is living off her parents and off the State. Nine year olds are expensive and they need time and attention.
What does she want from you now, and are you willing to give that to her. Will it cost your freedom, time and money.
Your 40. I wouldn’t tell you what to do, but I do advise you to look beyond the past and think about the future.

If you rescue a damsel in distress, all you will get is a distressed damsel.

[Anonymous 1]

Klingons on the starboard bow.
She wants you to pay for the kid and her.
I’m 54 I paid to raise two kids not my own for 20 years. It’s totally a no win deal, they hate you but still take your money.
Later on when she dumps you, the kids just move on to the next one. Take it from me, you are on the losing end of the deal no matter what.
Been there, done that, got the scars and several tee shirts.

[NerevarParticipant 8040]

Man up you sad piece of s~~~. Get married like real men would do! It would be SUCH a wonderful and outstanding feeling if you could save her and ehr kid from her miserable life, you f~~~wad, but what do you do? You come complaining and begging and nagging and… just f~~~ it man, man up, marry her, sweep her off her feet and give all your money to her so her kid can go to college. For f~~~’s sake, be a man!

F~~~ing hell that was easy to type. I love this site.

"One of the best things internet exposed is just how insane women are." - Freeman_K

[Anonymous 6]

So let me see if I’ve got this right. A chick who you banged when she was in her prime, who is now middle aged, has another man’s kid, doesn’t work, is in bad health, mooches off of her family, mooches off of the government, contacts you and want’s to hook up, distant ex-husband who was probably abusive, and you are tempted.

Ummmmm, did I miss something? I don’t understand what exactly is tempting you.

[GrumpyParticipant]

Nerevar wrote:

Man up you sad piece of s~~~. Get married like real men would do! It would be SUCH a wonderful and outstanding feeling if you could save her and ehr kid from her miserable life, you f~~~wad, but what do you do? You come complaining and begging and nagging and… just f~~~ it man, man up, marry her, sweep her off her feet and give all your money to her so her kid can go to college. For f~~~’s sake, be a man!

F~~~ing hell that was easy to type. I love this site.

For decades I used to believe that sarcasm never came across correctly in print.
Thanks asshole, another belief shattered.
BAHAHAHAHAHAHA

There was a time in my life when I gave a fuck. Now you have to pay ME for it

[Anonymous 18]

Your past has come to haunt you in the form of a man’s worst nightmare – single mother.

No free lunches. Bill is always payable if c~~~ serviced by vagina.

You are not the only one she has contacted.

And if she didn’t have a 9 year old she wouldn’t have contacted you.

Now be nice and pay up for the next 9 years her kid.

A real man would.

[OneTrueMisfitSpectator 2690]

Doctor Grim wrote:

She has a kid

No.

Don't care

[AutoliteParticipant]

Solo MAN’S Wisdom wrote:

Dude. You got the best of things. Enjoy the memories only. Stay away.

This thread has got me thinking about my ex-girlfriends. I can’t really say that I’ve got any really great memories. Sure, I had what I thought was a fantastic relations~~~ at the time but the ‘good’ memories are tarnished by the break-ups.

What should have been wonderful memories are all destroyed when it turns out that I meant absolutely nothing at all to the women who I had cared about the most. I’m sure I’m not the only one here who feels like this…

[TaxGuyParticipant]

No ex girlfriends. More like one that I didn’t ask out that showed every indication of being a unicorn. A girl I worked with. But I’m probably wrong.

One chance, per person, per lifetime. She wasn’t the one when she was at her best. She certainly isn’t the one now.

Order the good wine

[AttonParticipant]

It is about as smart as shoving your penis in a turbo chargers compressor wheel.

A MGTOW is a man who is not a woman's bitch!

[Sky-OParticipant 18936]

She’s 40 years old and contacted you again.

There is only one of two possible reasons for why she contacted you again:

Either

01: You have an amazing wonder dick that is the only one that has ever got her off. And you banged her harder, longer & better than any other guy and she is fantasizing about worshipping your awesomeness.

Or

The slut is totally out of options and you are one of many former guys that she is scrambling frantically to reconnect with.

Only you know the answer, but it is based on whether or not you allow either your ego or your brain to figure out.

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