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That is one thing I’ve spent a LOT of time thinking about: Reconciling the good things about her with the bad things – How was I fooled? She is a very good actor. The type that seems to truly believe what they are saying. I think when we were dating and not living together she was able to hide her flaws and put her best face forward more often. If we had dated longer, I think I would have seen the other side. I take responsibility for that.

Also, there were a few warning signs, but I just chose to overlook them. I enjoyed the flattery and attention (and sex) too much. Part of the paradox was due to her excellent acting, but part of it was my selective vision. I remember when we went on a double date with her friends. It was slightly uncomfortable – they just weren’t my type of folks, different interests, life outlook, etc – but they seemed perfectly nice. It was a decent night. After she and I left them, she began complaining about how her female friend was flirting with me. Folks, she was not flirting. She was just trying to make conversation. I was shocked at how angry she got. That was the first of many occasions where she trash talked her friends behind their backs and often wrote them off – “I’m not hanging out with her anymore” – only to change her mind a couple days later. I should have known she would treat me like that once we were married, and she did.

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