Someone please understand

[Enjoy The DeclineParticipant 1719]

Let me help you by giving you another perspective. There are actually girls out there that as soon as you are in a deep relationship with them and they get bored with you, they do not want to have the shame and guilt of being the one ending such a relationship. So instead, they would actually be stupid enough to put you through hell to get you to end it with them instead like the cheap people they are.

I could of just seen a person like you trying to put the pieces of the relationship back together, while the girls you dated would just not care. Also, I could just see the girls that you told about your experiences with other girls, and then these same girls that you told of your experiences would shame you to go back to the plantation because they also see a bit of themselves in the girls you dated and would automatically see you as the enemy. They do not want to live with the guilt that they are horrible people getting a person like you in a serious relationship and they also have to worry about what everyone else in their circle of trust thinks of them overall. So what they would do is try to demonize you as much as they could while relieving themselves and have a spotless reputation among-st their peers.

If you wish to be with a woman, as soon as she treats you like sh*t, have some self respect and cut her off your life right away, because you would only make her look good in you tolerating how she treats you and you would also only be giving her more ammunition for her to use against you. Also, you can waste little time in dating as many girls as possible with as little bad experiences as possible. Just do not get too attached to any of them so it would become very easy to pull out when the girl you are with starts treating you badly.

"Question everything" - Albert Einstein

[Chaff/FlareParticipant 3235]

Welcome brotha. All the smart dudes already said the good stuff.

Hang out, keep reading, and keep posting. The guys will give you their best.

You will have a new and healthy attitude in a short time.

Hope you got away clean…if so, you are doing a lot better than a lot of us.

peace

When you find yourself in the majority, it's time to reflect.

[RusskyParticipant 13503]

Remember the saying about women: “No good deed goes unpunished” – it’s VERITAS

I personally think you’re in good shape. It would had been much worse if you found someone who understood you and took you for who you are, only to betray you 5-10 years later, like in my case.
It’s much harder to recover from something like that than from your situation. So take it as a blessing in disguise you were unable to find such person

proud carrier of the 'why?' chromosome

[Anonymous 1]

I get it. They persecute people on who they actually are rather than “their” individual perceptions’. They don’t understand or care. They’re ignorant and oppressive people.

[chirParticipant]

So you are at a point in your life where you are taking stock and realize that for a while now some people have been running a cheese grater over you.

First and most immediate thing to do is remove yourself as fast as possible from those people. If they have abused you they have no respect for you and thus your best course of action is to leave them behind as fast as you are able.

Second start building yourself back up. First person you must respect IS yourself.

The one thing you can change in your life which is wholly your own is your mind. Will it be easy? F~~~ no. We are men. Nothing is ever easy for men, but we persevere and keep moving forward. Past is the past. Learn from it as much as you can and move forward.

It is by caffeine alone I set my mind in motion, it is by the beans of Java that thoughts acquire speed, the hands acquire shaking, the shaking becomes a warning; it is by caffeine alone I set my mind in motion.

[SamsquanchParticipant 4226]

Welcome brother. I’m sure it feels like a giant weight has been lifted from your chest. You aren’t alone, it was NEVER your fault that someone else treated you like garbage for no reason. You can’t control what other people do, no matter how you treat them.
Now you can live for yourself, pursue your own desires without someone telling you NO.
Peace will come with time

[RhinoParticipant 3477]

Welcome brother and thanks for sharing. Women have a light switch that turns on and off at the flick of the switch. This is how their emotions work and why it seems like they are crazy or too emotional. They know exactly what they are doing but they don’t care they are children in a woman’s body. As soon as you are no longer interesting to her she flips the switch and moves on.

Men are different we have emotions just like any female but we don’t have that mechanism to turn our emotions on and off like they do. So they use that to their advantage and manipulate you to exact as much resources from you as possible before moving on to the next man. As the years pass and they keep monkey branching from one guy to the next they eventually hit a wall and try to reconnect with those in the past because they can no longer monkey branch forward only backwards. Don’t be that person one chance per person per life time. Like all women she is no different she will try to use you again just avoid the trap and learn from this you will become stronger.

[joetechParticipant]

All my life I’ve been misunderstood and underestimated. I developed a chip on my shoulder and became very picky about who I would let into my life. I just ignore certain people and when they see I’m not the chump they took me for they usually leave with that jealous, disappointed look in their eyes. F~~~em has always been my mantra. Over the years it’s made me crotchety as I’ve gotten older. You’ll do better because you have us now. I didn’t have that. I just watched as, one by one, my friends drifted away, got divorced…and then got bitter. With all that’s going on in my life I shouldn’t be as happy as I am, but I choose happiness over misery. Abraham Lincoln once said, “If you look for the bad in people, you will find it.” That’s also true for the good in people. Choose your friends wisely, and don’t be afraid to divorce certain family members in your life. If they don’t bring joy into your life, let them go.

"Don't follow in my footsteps...I stepped in something."

[HitmanParticipant]

we understand.
now you please understand this..
no one is going to love you for you just being you.
erase that illusion and proceed to the next thought.
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you must stop caring about them and care about YOU.
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please enjoy the forums and keep posting..
every man is worth saving.

[Chaff/FlareParticipant 3235]

Who is they/ them that mistreated you?

When you find yourself in the majority, it's time to reflect.

[Anonymous 1]

They aren’t nice

[Anonymous 1]

I posted and you said to message you if I want.

I didn’t understand what people were saying because part of the message was hidden at certain times. You get it?

[Anonymous 1]

I’m starting to get a more clear picture of this now.

[TattooDaveParticipant 6952]

You sound more and more female with each post

I can see their heads have been twisted and fed with worthless foam from the mouth. Bob d

[The Manipulated ManParticipant 1856]

TattooDave wrote:

You sound more and more female with each post

Agreed TD.

Anon was respectfully asked direct questions about who is this “THEY” that is mistreating Him/ Her, and the response was pusillanimous.

What happens when a man finally comprehends the cold and calculating thoughts that are going through a woman's mind, while her eyes are brimming with tears?

[TecumsehParticipant 98]

I don’t mean to be rude, but the initial post is extremely vague, to the point of seeming purposely opaque. And then OP’s subsequent posts are even more devoid of content. Seems like something is amiss.

[Aleph MaleParticipant 214]

Welcome, you are among friends, we’re all gentlemen here.

Self-respect is everything, you need to respect yourself first and foremost, because no one else will do it for you. The moment you compromise on self-respect, you’re in for a world of trouble.

Women are empty shells, hedonistic and bottomless pits of narcissism, projecting male ideals and needs onto these self-centered monsters is an utterly useless endeavour. Love, romance, tenderness, compassion, trust, dignity… These words mean nothing to them, as far as women are concerned these are just tools they use to manipulate gullible men.

The best defense is a good offense, women know that, so all the stuff you hear about men being a bunch of dumb, abusive, violent and perverted cowards is (by and large) projective identification, a crude psychological defense mechanism where the principal attributes of the defender are projected onto another person so well that the latter embodies these attributes… And indeed, the truth is that women are far more violent, cruel, abusive, perverted, degenerate, mentally challenged and cowardly than men.

Behind every miserable man there is a very happy woman.

[nick123Participant 137]

WhoIsAsking wrote:

It’s not crazy at all. It was not nice. But forcing someone to be your mindless puppet, is a pretty smart thing to do.

You wanna take revenge? Is it worth your time or do you have better things to do?

Pretty smart thing to do? I disagree. There is nothing smart about being a lying scheming deceitful c~~~ acting with no empathy in order to fulfill your needs.

[Anonymous 1]

I’m good now. What’s going on?

[Anonymous 1]

I think a lot of what I was saying was just overthinking and worrying.

The last comment from nicko11 really rang a bell, though. It’s as if I’m waiting for someone to explain to me specifically what happened.

Your comment kind of makes sense, can you expand?

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