Singles… you are NOT missing anything

[DethklokParticipant 153]

While an informative thread, I didn’t learn anything new. Hopefully, someone out there will.

I’m 29, never been married, and have no desire to. Best decision I’ve ever made.

[revistaParticipant 232]

So much of whats been said has resonated with me.thanks for the post marriedmgtow and agree with wontgetfooled again.very similar experience ive been split up from my ex for two years now and although its been tough im in a great place now..i too stayed for kids and probably would have still been there now if she hadnt pulled the pin with no regard for our children.it was a sexless,loveless relatationship with no communication in the end.i was so lonely and spent so many nights sleeping on the sofa.she used sex as a weapon but i stopped trying in the end.i could go on about other things that went on.but just want to finish off by saying me and my kids have great relationship,see alot of them and am hoping soon when old enough they come and live with me(i work shifts).she moved on very quickly(no suprise).but kids see through the bulls~~~ and know whos got there best interests at heart.good luck fellas

[Chuck WowParticipant 141]

Another married guy here…the above stories are pretty much identical to mine. I’m stuck in a cold, sexless marriage for 5 more years until out child finishes high school. I hate going on vacation with my wife because at least at home we have our separate areas…I dread being in the same hotel room as her. She is such a miserable c~~~ that only complains and does nothing to help anyone.

A couple of years ago I started going to Thailand on my own and completely fell in love with that country…the people, food, culture, etc. Not to mention the easy sex with young, beautiful women.. I know my wife will take at least half when the divorce happens but I will still have more than enough to live a comfortable lifestyle in Thailand where I prefer to be anyway.

I tell every single guy I know “Do NOT EVER GET MARRIED!!” I feel way more lonely now than when I was single and dream about my freedom.

[Dr PhibesParticipant 155]

learning wrote:

For those of you who never married or got into a long term relationship, and for those in that category who also sometimes feel that they have missed out on something (like that idiot I mentioned earlier), I want to write this post to assure you that you are not missing anything. Nothing. Nothing at all.

Thanks for sharing. I’m sorry you’re having to deal with this. That being said, from reading your post, I gather that you’ll be better able to emotionally and financially handle the fallout than most guys in your position.

When I was younger, I often felt that I was missing out because I was single. I used to wish that I was as glib, charming, and well-built as all of the other guys who seemingly attracted women so effortlessly. However, later, I realized that being glib and charming was of no use when facing down a mercenary judge in divorce court, or when arguing with an overgrown child bent on causing disruption.

As for being well-built, it’s amazing how thoroughly years of stress eating/drinking and no exercise can destroy a man’s body. Many of the guys who used to make fun of me for being “scrawny” now look like they’re one cheeseburger away from a heart attack. And they all say the same thing: “Thank God you stayed single. Marriage is not worth it. If it weren’t for the kid(s), I’d be long gone by now.”

To paraphrase Caesar: I came, I saw, I said ‘F~~~ No.’

I wish you the best.

"The wisest follow their own direction." -- Euripides

[MemberParticipant 323]

Seems like everyone here has had the same experiences with vacations and women. They take what is supposed to be a good time away from stress and everyday life and somehow dump more stress into it. They don’t like the rental car, airline you chose, the food at the hotel, the soap in the hotel bathroom, the temperature of the pool water, the way the waitress looked at you in the restaurant etc.

I remember one time planning a trip with an ex and we settled on going to Florida. However the only time she had off was in August. I specifically said that it would be really hot and was she sure she could handle the heat in August? She said she really wanted to go. So I bought plane tickets and booked a hotel. About 2 months later about a week before the trip she was acting bitchy about the whole thing. Started complaining about how HOT it would be yada yada. Told her I would just cancel it rather than waste the money. Found out my travel insurance (that I never bought before but for some reason felt the need to buy this one time due to intuition) didn’t cover bitchy gal wanting to back out at the last minute….had to be a medical emergency. Less learned. Went on the trip and about half of it was spent listening to bitching about the heat. That was my first time on a distance expensive trip with her…….they never went better on future trips either so I quit going anywhere with her. To this day I get p~~~ed when I watch her pull the same s~~~ on her own family and Im not even there. She will go somewere with them and like clockwork will turn up in an ER or have an anxiety attack etc that messes up the trip.

I think I will start a new topic about this subject. Bet there are some great stories!

[Deus Ex MachinaParticipant 1068]

This was beyond awesome!

totally agree, when I was married, my single friends all thought it was amazing, that i had someone to come home to and someone to love and all that bulls~~~, what they didn’t see was, I was married to a border line psychopath who’s sole purpose was to lie, cheat as well as steal, and verbally and physically abuse me.

I highly recommend every Single Guy to read this, it’s so true. It’s all great in the beginning when her best foot is forward, and she’s willing to bang 7 ways till Sunday.

Once that Finger is on Her ring, and those marriage papers are signed?, that’s it, the party is over, and Elvis had left the building!. The complaints start pouring in

“Why didn’t you take the trash out?”

“put the seat up next time”

“I TOLD YOU TO PUT THE SEAT UP”

“you need to wash these dishes better”

“i need you to step up and be a Man”

“Fine, go have fun with your friends”

“I don’t really like your friend (name)”

“I don’t feel like going over your parents house”

It’s like this nagging pain, that never goes away but gets progressively worse as time goes on, that’s what your Wife turns into. Everything You say, do, will be criticized HEAVILY. For me personally, F~~~ MARRIAGE!. Never going back to that s~~~ hole again.

"If You have the Tooth of a Whale, You must have the Whale's Jaw to hold it". (i.e. One Must have the right qualifications for leadership) -Hawaiian Proverb

[BeeParticipant 700]

“Vacation Hell” could easily be it’s own topic. I’ve never understood how something that is supposed to be relaxing and fun can become so stressful so quickly. This is supposed to be the fun part and it’s anything but fun. If you can’t enjoy eachother’s company for 7 days straight, what’s the point?

[MattNYCParticipant 2329]

ChuckWow – whereabouts in Thailand? I’ve heard more and more about it as a great place for tourism – great beaches, friendly people, fantastic food, low cost of living – and possibly semi-retirement/relocation.

I’ve never been to asia so not really sure where to start in Thailand. Any recommendations’d be great!

[MattNYCParticipant 2329]

Dr Phibes wrote:

being glib and charming was of no use when facing down a mercenary judge in divorce court, or when arguing with an overgrown child bent on causing disruption

Dr Phibes wrote:

To paraphrase Caesar: I came, I saw, I said ‘F~~~ No.’

2 great quotes!

[OldBillParticipant]

MattNYC wrote:

I’ve never been to asia so not really sure where to start in Thailand. Any recommendations’d be great!

Matt – As I alluded to in the Mega-brothel thread, efforts to combat sexual tourism have made Thailand somewhat risky for men visiting that country alone. The risk isn’t in Thailand, the risk is when you return home.

As a man, you’re already suspect. As a single man, you’re even more suspect. And as a single man who traveled to Thailand alone, you’re already guilty in the eyes of the authorities.

Three years ago, I merely flew through Bangkok when returning to the USA from Singapore. The reception I received at customs in LAX was the toughest I’d faced in decades. I’d only been in Bangkok at the airport’s Intercontinental Hotel overnight, my passport was full of business visas from various countries, and ICE treated me as if I were a child f~~~er.

If you want to visit Thailand let me suggest you do so as part of a tour group. That might make returning to the US marginally easier. If what you see in Thailand makes you want to expatriate there, you can find any number of fora and services on the web.

Good luck.

Do not date. Do not impregnate. Do not co-habitate. Above all, do not marry. Reclaim and never again surrender your personal sovereignty.

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