Single mom's absolutely love me!! And it sucks!

[sidecarParticipant 35837]

Russky wrote:

I am 36 and I NEVER had this problem. If I’m out with my daughter or not. That’s because I am not seeking.

It depends on where you are. If you don’t go anywhere where single mothers are, you’re not going to be bothered by any. But if you’re anywhere where there are single mothers, and they see you as a potential wallet, they will definitely target you as a possible windfall for them whether you show any interest or not. For example I have yet to be bothered by any single mother while mountain climbing. But the two times I made the mistake of attending the annual neighborhood summer barbecue I was literally mobbed by them. And telling one to f~~~ off and leave me alone in the rudest possible way would only bring in the next in line to try her luck: “Hi. Where do you live? That’s your house? How much do you still owe on it? What do you do? Is that your car?” and so on. The same damn questions every damn time: “How much money can I get out of you?”

I’m thinking of having cards printed up with all the questions listed and the same default answer: “None of your damn business laydee.”

[Anonymous 1]

The only exposure i had to single mums was back in my Tinder days, but that was a case of me looking for trouble.

I hooked up with one when i was heavily blue pill, she complained constantly about not having enough money for school uniforms, football boots, school trips, lunches etc (cleary trying to shake me down, but i never budged). Anyway, all the while she was complaining about a lack of finances she was paying ‘hand over fist’ for botox. priorities.

[RusskyParticipant 13503]

sidecar wrote:

Russky wrote:

I am 36 and I NEVER had this problem. If I’m out with my daughter or not. That’s because I am not seeking.

It depends on where you are. If you don’t go anywhere where single mothers are, you’re not going to be bothered by any. But if you’re anywhere where there are single mothers, and they see you as a potential wallet, they will definitely target you as a possible windfall for them whether you show any interest or not. For example I have yet to be bothered by any single mother while mountain climbing. But the two times I made the mistake of attending the annual neighborhood summer barbecue I was literally mobbed by them. And telling one to f~~~ off and leave me alone in the rudest possible way would only bring in the next in line to try her luck: “Hi. Where do you live? That’s your house? How much do you still owe on it? What do you do? Is that your car?” and so on. The same damn questions every damn time: “How much money can I get out of you?”

I’m thinking of having cards printed up with all the questions listed and the same default answer: “None of your damn business laydee.”

No, I go to indoor/outdoor playgrounds, school functions, Last year also went to neighborhood cookout.
Maybe it’s the dry one word answers I give, or because I look like a foreigner, or something intimidating in my face expression – who knows. But most of the time I’m being left alone, so I can’t complain. At the cookout nobody really talked to me because they’re all married – I didn’t see a single mom. Or maybe that’s because they’ve seen my POS car and it didn’t compare with their new Range Rovers and Escalades

proud carrier of the 'why?' chromosome

[narwhalParticipant]

Eh, I don’t know how to judge whether I’m just avoiding action or what. Doesn’t really matter. I would think though that if you are seeking 23 year olds, the single women your age will try to get your attention. They don’t want you being successful at that.

I don’t have a problem dating single mom’s…I almost prefer it as they tend to require less attention, at first at least. And since I don’t get past ‘at first’, it’s good. I have never allowed anyone I’m dating to meet my children, and I don’t meet theirs. It is very easy to justify. Tell her you don’t want your kids to get attached to someone who may not be around for a while, and that you feel it’s important to have a ‘couple’ relationship before you would consider having a ‘family’ relationship.

Those two things really are important to me, not just a line I through out there. My kids would love a new mommy and like the idea of more step siblings. I’m not letting that thought into their heads. As well, I like kids, and don’t want to leave a kid in a bad situation just because I don’t like his mom. And yes, you can enjoy playing pretend family with someone, only to find out you really don’t like her one-on-one. It’s cart before the horse. Really, I don’t want the cart at all.

The important thing to remember is that you have all the power since you can always say NO. She doesn’t get to see your kids, you don’t have to meet her kids, and you don’t have to do anything for her, whether that be your money or time. Even after sex, you are not obligated. You are not obligated if you’ve known her for 6 months. You are not obligated because you met her friends or whatever. Your obligation comes when you say I do…which you should never do as those words don’t mean anything to her.

Ok. Then do it.

[BeerParticipant 11832]

Russky wrote:

Or maybe that’s because they’ve seen my POS car and it didn’t compare with their new Range Rovers and Escalades

Haha probably has more to do with it than anything. I’m a pretty frugal guy and I live way below my means but I have a decent car and am usually nicely dressed. I didn’t buy my car for a pussy magnet, I got 2 year old car with a v6(which also has a nutless 4 cylinder option that most people buy so in reality they probably think I paid a lot less for it than I did because most women are clueless about that stuff) because I wanted something I actually liked that had a little power and decent gas mileage although I could have afforded something much flashier and more expensive, and I dress the same if I’m going over a buddies house for a pizza and beer as I do if I’m going out where women might be. I don’t do anything to try and get single mom attention…I think they just realize their SMV is in the gutter(even though they’ll never admit it) and at the very least a decent car, or in SideCars example knowing he owns a house is an indication you at least have access to some money.

[experiencedParticipant]

My opening move with single moms and all women is, “No.”
It’s up to them to explain/communicate/describe how they have worth.
They refuse to realize that men have gone through it, dealt with it, gotten over it, and unfortunately for them, learned from it,

and. that. we. talk. to. each. other.

mgtow didn’t poison the well

"It seems like there's times a body gets struck down so low, there ain't a power on earth that can ever bring him up again. Seems like something inside dies so he don't even want to get up again. But he does."

[Mango IngawayParticipant 2264]

“Single mothers love me.”
And you don’t love them.
That’s all you have to know.

It is a common failing of childhood to think that if one makes a hero out of a demon the demon will be satisfied.

[sidecarParticipant 35837]

Russky wrote:

At the cookout nobody really talked to me because they’re all married – I didn’t see a single mom.

Well there you go. If the women are all married, there won’t be any single mothers there in search of a new host to parasitize. So you don’t get bothered. The same is probably true of your local school and playgrounds. Like in real estate, location is everything, and all the mothers in your area already have hosts.

About ten years ago where I am they started rezoning some of the outlying lots to build s~~~ty condos. So now my neighborhood is crawling with single mothers looking for a wallet to latch onto.

narwhal wrote:

Your obligation comes when you say I do…which you should never do as those words don’t mean anything to her.

Or a court decides to give her your stuff anyways because of some “common law” bulls~~~.

Just say, “No! Never!” to single mothers.

Beer wrote:

(which also has a nutless 4 cylinder option that most people buy so in reality they probably think I paid a lot less for it than I did because most women are clueless about that stuff)

Clueless doesn’t even begin to describe it. Since I got my new truck I’ve had a number of women ask about it. I mean it’s a decent truck, but nothing particularly fancy, so it’s fairly obvious they’re not really interested in the truck. They see it more as a wealth indicator to inquire about. The same goes for some of my motorcycles.

However, to date not one has asked about my R8, and that amuses the f~~~ out of me.

Women don’t know a f~~~ing thing about cars.

in SideCars example knowing he owns a house is an indication you at least have access to some money.

They were going after the two other single guys just as hard, though, and one of them I heard was somebody’s brother who had just gotten out of prison or something.

A man doesn’t need to have money to have single mothers bother him. They’ll approach any potential host just on speculation. They’re just not persistent after the initial approach if they don’t sniff out any money. Stealth wealth won’t keep them from bothering you, it just keeps individual ones from continuing to bother you.

[RusskyParticipant 13503]

Yeah, I live in a very well off affluent area. There are no single moms here. I love this location
I’m probably the poorest guy in 10 block radius. And I love it

proud carrier of the 'why?' chromosome

[BeerParticipant 11832]

sidecar wrote:

About ten years ago where I am they started rezoning some of the outlying lots to build s~~~ty condos. So now my neighborhood is crawling with single mothers looking for a wallet to latch onto.

Oh yeah I live in a big condo building and there has been quite a few interested single mommies in here over the years. A lot of the units people own as investments and rent out, so there is a steady stream of single moms in and out. Boy do they love asking if you are an owner or a renter, its like code for “Can you handle your finances or are you broke like me?”

sidecar wrote:

Clueless doesn’t even begin to describe it. Since I got my new truck I’ve had a number of women ask about it. I mean it’s a decent truck, but nothing particularly fancy, so it’s fairly obvious they’re not really interested in the truck. They see it more as a wealth indicator to inquire about. The same goes for some of my motorcycles.

However, to date not one has asked about my R8, and that amuses the f~~~ out of me.

Women don’t know a f~~~ing thing about cars.

Yeah its hilarious. I bought a fully loaded 2 year old Altima. It cracks me up how they equate it to money because its nicer than what they drive, even though they paid more for that civic or elantra or whatever because they drove it off the lot brand new lol. They’re f~~~ing clueless. Some guy with a totally stripped down 12 year old BMW of the cheapest possible make he just pulled off Craigslist for a few grand could park next to my car and suddenly they’d be drooling over that because its a BMW and BMW’s are expensive, right?

They probably don’t ask about the R8 because they don’t know what to call it, where as any truck they can just refer to as truck lol.

sidecar wrote:

Stealth wealth won’t keep them from bothering you, it just keeps individual ones from continuing to bother you.

Haha nicely put.

[sidecarParticipant 35837]

Beer wrote:

Boy do they love asking if you are an owner or a renter, its like code for “Can you handle your finances or are you broke like me?”

Yep. Heard that one too. Just like: “How much do you still owe on your mortgage?” And a dozen others, because none of them can come up with an original question. Just like how all female personal ads are exactly the same, so too are all the questions they ask in person : “How much money can I get out of you?”

AWALT.

Some guy with a totally stripped down 12 year old BMW of the cheapest possible make he just pulled off Craigslist for a few grand could park next to my car and suddenly they’d be drooling over that because its a BMW and BMW’s are expensive, right?

Absolutely. If you want to lay skanks, get yourself a crap box 1990s Z3 off craigslist for $2k. The skanks will be all over you. Of course two grand is more than that car is worth, or the skanks are worth for that matter, but if skanks are your goal, it’s the easiest way to get them.

If you want to drive like you mean it, get a subaru or an audi.

They probably don’t ask about the R8 because they don’t know what to call it, where as any truck they can just refer to as truck lol.

My theory is they can only recognize car brands, not car models. They see the audi rings and that ranks it in their heads somewhere around saab or volkswagen. Above, say, a honda but below a mercedes or bmw.

I’ve occasionally wondered what the reaction would be to an alpina. Would they see the body and think it’s a bmw? Or would they concentrate solely on the badge, fail to recognize it, and so ignore the car thinking it’s some cheap knock-off? It would be interesting to find out.

I think they ask about the truck because a truck equals a job in their minds, and a clean truck equals a better paying job (though my truck is mostly just a toy hauler). Or something like that. I think they’re beginning to realize that blue-pill tradesmen can be quite lucrative hosts for them to parasitize, especially with the supply of college men drying up.

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