S~~~ Tests – Her Issues Confirmed

[GeraldParticipant 3620]

Ogre, I get your point, and maybe it is the whole ‘rose colored glasses’ thing or my mangina acting up, but I don’t think she realizes it if she does hate me. This week has been a roller coaster, as I’ve pushed back and ignored the s~~~ tests when I have been able. She has gone full bi-polar, been warm then cold, then while being warm said s~~~ that would normally make me fly off the handle…

It’s a weird vibe… but I think she has realized her SMV, and knows the wall is far behind her. She has realized I am her ‘only hope Obi-Wan’ and sees the writing on the wall… yet I think because of her bi-polar tendencies can’t stop herself.

I don’t know… it has been a tough one this week, am struggling a bunch with the whole thing, some raging going on… as well as total confusion in my head as I try to shift to a new mindset.

I do appreciate everyone chipping in with comments and suggestions…

No longer can we walk away, we must run. Remove the motive power.

[Nathan R. JessepParticipant 1102]

Gerald wrote:

The worst part is I know what to do, what to say, but am struggling to do so for the sake of the family and my daughter. That isn’t where I want to be, and I’m holding onto the status quo while I prep.

How much longer until your daughter is 18?

[OgreParticipant 5863]

Gerald wrote:

She has gone full bi-polar, been warm then cold, then while being warm said s~~~ that would normally make me fly off the handle…

It’s a weird vibe… but I think she has realized her SMV, and knows the wall is far behind her. She has realized I am her ‘only hope Obi-Wan’ and sees the writing on the wall… yet I think because of her bi-polar tendencies can’t stop herself.

This pattern is closely related to a technique used in hostage negotiations. The negotiator “befriends” the barricaded suspect. Some other source of power always keeps the helpful negotiator from quickly ending the situation. The longer they draw it out without shots fired the more likely that the hostage taker will get tired and slip up.

I might have exaggerated a little bit when I said she hates you and wants to rip your guts out. I’ll just acknowledge that from your first post, both of you place her happiness above yours.

Do what you can to take care of yourself since you are dealing with a narcissist with bipolar, but remember that you are also showing you daughter that being/acting crazy will get her way with men in her future.

I failed to realize in my youth that I was the prize. I was going to work. I was going to earn. Little did I realize that due to feminism, that no longer meant I had to share. Road soon, Desert after.

[GeraldParticipant 3620]

She doesn’t hate me, sees me as her only chance, and her white knight, and loves me for it, but can’t help her hypergamous ways. She wants it all, to party all night, talk to other men, spend what she wants, the expects me to be there waiting, to bail her out of whatever mess and listen to her drama. Sorry, raging a bit tonight and just sick to death of this s~~~. I know it is my fault for continuing, but I have a few months that yet. It is awfully hard to not just grab some s~~~ and leave. Permanently. The kid would understand I think, but when she grabbed a lawyer, I’d be in jail for inability to pay the resulting alimony.

No longer can we walk away, we must run. Remove the motive power.

[Chaff/FlareParticipant 3235]

I don’t know your situation really but..

Why not take HER to a hotel, keep the kid and change the locks? Give her some spending money.

When you find yourself in the majority, it's time to reflect.

[Won'tGetFooledAgainParticipant 3293]

Gerald wrote:

She doesn’t hate me, sees me as her only chance, and her white knight, and loves me for it, but can’t help her hypergamous ways. She wants it all, to party all night, talk to other men, spend what she wants, the expects me to be there waiting, to bail her out of whatever mess and listen to her drama. Sorry, raging a bit tonight and just sick to death of this s~~~. I know it is my fault for continuing, but I have a few months that yet. It is awfully hard to not just grab some s~~~ and leave. Permanently. The kid would understand I think, but when she grabbed a lawyer, I’d be in jail for inability to pay the resulting alimony.

Basically women want two men, one guy to financially support her and father her children and another guy for fun and gina tingles.

From what you are describing, it sounds like she is cuckolding you.

For women, everything eventually boils down to Alpha Fucks, Beta Bucks.

[GeraldParticipant 3620]

Raging a little hard last night, this morning a bit less. Huge s~~~ tests over the weekend, and my rejections of them were not received well. And I don’t care. Alright, I do, but I find I am caring less each time. i have changed over the past few months, am now jealous of Stealthy for his camping trip, though camping isn’t something I enjoy… Not yet at least.

Anyway, stay strong men, know what you want is right, and when you waver, as we all do, get back on track and keep moving.

No longer can we walk away, we must run. Remove the motive power.

[CombatRollParticipant 2594]

narwhal wrote:

If you refuse to leave, then her next recourse is a false domestic abuse claim. It would be wise to start recording conversations as much as possible. In some cases you can alert the police that she is likely to do make a false claim so that they look for signs of a false claim when she does call.

YES – start recording her. I have my wife recorded laughing and saying that if she wanted me out she’d just call the cops and say I pushed and threatened her. If you would have asked me 15 years ago if she was capable of such evilness I would have said you were crazy. RECORDER her.

If you record your conversations with her that is legal. If you put a recorder in her car, or in a room when you aren’t part of the conversation – that is wire tapping. So, it might yield good intel – but it isn’t admissible (and do not tell anyone you did it).

[hidden_withinParticipant 59]

And when she asks why you’re smiling that Tom Cruise s~~~ eating grin you can reply “I’m trying to decide whether I should say what I want to say, what you want me to say, or should I say the truth?” 🙂

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