She "went there"…

[experiencedParticipant]

NAWALT / AWALT when she runs out of energy to keep up the chameleon façade:

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And after she’s got the key to what used to be your place:

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"It seems like there's times a body gets struck down so low, there ain't a power on earth that can ever bring him up again. Seems like something inside dies so he don't even want to get up again. But he does."

[Silverstone the SecondParticipant]

Sooner or later, all women show their true colors. Leave man, and no matter what, don’t let her sucker you back into the relationship. Down the line, she might try to apologize, because she needs money or for you to fix her car or whatever.

Feminism is a movement where opinions are presented as facts and emotions are presented as evidence.

[HitmanParticipant]

menopause is the end of the line .
expired.
use by date has passed.
lawyer up and dump the yogurt making t~~~ !

[narwhalParticipant]

Are you married to her? Are there kids involved? Who owns the house you live in, or who’s name is the rent under?

All of those things should impact exactly what you do. Recording conversations now is a good idea, especially if you can get a recording of her saying that she threw the picture, you never did anything to her, the false acquisitions that she’s threatening, and that she wanted you out.

I get the feeling that if you go cold turkey from her, she’s going to miss the drama and try and get you to move back in about a week. Don’t fall for it.

Ok. Then do it.

[Knights Templar RisingParticipant 5106]

She mellowed out and is being civil now. I’m Chugging along, usual stuff like new bank acct and PO Box etc. Just grabbed a cheapo $150 Chromebook, and I can hotspot it from my cell phone so now I have data access from anywhere and don’t need wifi or an ISP. Next up is getting rid of the truck, f~~~ the $600 payment, getting a cheapo that I can fix (man skills!). I have been reading this site for over a year, somehow I knew the s~~~ would eventually hit the fan, thanks to you guys I was prepared even though she took me off guard.

Sovereignty above all else.

[OldBillParticipant]

Knights Templar Rising wrote:

She mellowed out and is being civil now.

Good news. She’s unwittingly giving you the time to prepare. Watch Popp’s divorce prep videos a few times so you don’t forget to do anything.

Try to convert as many assets as possible into cash and then cache the money with a male relative or friend you can trust. Have a $1 fire sale too. Sell stuff like bikes, boats, guns, and whatnot for a buck to male relatives or friends you can trust. Close bank accounts, cancel credit cards, put cable and the utilities in her name, there’s dozens of things you should try to do in the time she’s giving you.

Do something that works towards your divorce every day. She won’t give you much time. You’re currently in the hurricane’s eye, everything is sunny and calm. Before you know it, however, the storm is going to strike again.

Good luck, brother. The more you sweat now the less you’ll bleed in court.

Edit: Check out the Real World Divorce site I linked to. There’s a section for your particular state and a practical tips section.

Do not date. Do not impregnate. Do not co-habitate. Above all, do not marry. Reclaim and never again surrender your personal sovereignty.

[No 6 The Prisoner EscapesParticipant 41]

Yep Menopause, every man’s nightmare, behind every woman is the inevitable ultimate excuse to be the biggest c~~~ on the planet, and if are not careful we believe all that s~~~.
My soon-to-be-ex was part of the trapped in one of buildings that got pancaked during the big one in Chch and was going through menopause as well (Still it obviously) So I put all her c~~~iness down to post traumatic stress disorder and the MP. Which was basically masking the real problem, which was passive agressive personality disorder.
Which is prob just short for…when that MP hits they can’t hide away from their true nature and out it comes like a dormant fart that has been building up the most gad-awful gasious fumes imaginable over several decades only to knock us to the ground with its overpowering stench. Women Suck period.
I’m at the early process of going through the c~~~ stage of separation agreements etc
Every women is the same, and with each passing generation their b~~~~ get bigger and ours goes up into our rectums
But us MGTOWS we grow ours back and with each passing day we gain a bit more freedom until they are out of our lives for good and we can breath c~~~-free-air again.

Get this she did the normal tears etc, but the day she found out she could buy me out and be OK financially she cut off all emotion and disappeared up her own arsehole again
Gee what a surprise that was…NOT

[No 6 The Prisoner EscapesParticipant 41]

To add, my STBEX (Soon t0-be-ex)
Could end up going “there” too
In the sense they fail to understand the law when it comes to separation
My legal advise so far is that until you agree on a date, and especially if they are still living under the same roof some of the time, or part of the time etc you are still not separated. As their no hard and fast rules as each couple get to jointly decide when that magic date is. Up until then they see all the money as their own, no sorry, everything is joint until the lines of separation are drawn
If she tries to screw me over by “going there” on certain matter we can ‘go there’ too
Does anybody know if you are left holding the s~~~ can on finishing off the house stuff like garden and lat few jobs, if they have deemed it your place and not ours and you take over paying the bills or they have passed judgement on the separation date before you do these jobs and if all that stuff that one does to get the house ready was paid labour can this be taken into account and they be held accountable for what it would have cost if this paid work. I doubt it, because the last Bitch 21 years ago did that too, and never paid me a cent.

[Knights Templar RisingParticipant 5106]

I am emerging from the ashes. The mediation begins for real this week, a relative bargain since my half only costs $2,500.

And all you who are still married, and see the end coming down the tunnel, read this forum and take the words to heart. Mine tried three times to reconcile, as the brothers here predicted, I gave her the stiff arm each time. After threatening two false charges that could crush my career, then ignoring me while I was holed up for a week in a s~~~ty hotel while she went out and did what she wanted every day during, then she is under the delusion that 7 days later she is going to start telling me she loves me at 3:45am in the morning – HELL NO. Will your AWALT pull every trick that the gents here mention? = Not necessarily. Will she pull some of these maneuvers? = Bet your life on it.

Life is already rebuilding itself. Over the last 3 weeks I have managed to get all my stuff in order. I am renting a room from a family friend, it’s not ideal but they are a good housemate. Hopefully this week I should be able to secure my own apartment, that is the big thing because I don’t like having roommates.

Big Picture: Freedom. Every day when I wake up, even the sun looks different. It is unimaginable the feeling you get once you start rebuilding, even mundane things take on a whole new light. It is funny when you realize the awful stressors that are no longer in your life. I was out with the kids getting ice cream when one of them mentioned my MiL (who like most of them is a world class nutjob), first I got the horrible queasy feeling…but then I realized I will have to see the woman only 3-4 per year!!! OMFG, the sudden realization was a weight lifting off my chest…23 years of listening to that old wretch…ahhh, never again. About two weeks back I bought a badass Specialized Mountain Bike, and a week later I broke my collar bone, if that had happened 4 weeks ago she would have never let me hear then end of it – and I would have sold the bike out of guilt. Guess what? NOBODY to bitch at me about spending the money. Nobody to bitch at me about having a $3,500 bike that will sit around for the next 15 weeks while I heal. Nobody to guilt me because for the next 7 weeks because I can’t put weight on my arm, and therefore can’t be her workhorse around the house…I will never again have to hear “You said you could get that rooooom paiiiinted, you commit to thaaaaat 3 months ago, I didn’t tell you to buy a bike and and get hurrrt!!!”…hahahahahah, now paint those rooms yourself dummy. Now when I see her 1-2 times a week I get to see her trying to do her post split diet (literally needs to drop 100 pounds per doctor), and the fact that instead of getting better looking she looks like a pathetic deflated balloon…when you are 45 her body isn’t going back into shape like 25yo, she will need $10k just for the skin reduction alone…she even hopes to make herself even remotely marketable to any man with functioning. What do I need to do: lift weights 3-4x/wk to rebuild muscle mass…winning.

There is hope. The sun will look different, the air will smell different, you will begin to love the smallest things like a pretty morning. There has been hope for me, there WILL be hope for you!

Sovereignty above all else.

[NeroParticipant 1466]

Knights Templar Rising wrote:

I am emerging from the ashes. The mediation begins for real this week, a relative bargain since my half only costs $2,500.

And all you who are still married, and see the end coming down the tunnel, read this forum and take the words to heart. Mine tried three times to reconcile, as the brothers here predicted, I gave her the stiff arm each time. After threatening two false charges that could crush my career, then ignoring me while I was holed up for a week in a s~~~ty hotel while she went out and did what she wanted every day during, then she is under the delusion that 7 days later she is going to start telling me she loves me at 3:45am in the morning – HELL NO. Will your AWALT pull every trick that the gents here mention? = Not necessarily. Will she pull some of these maneuvers? = Bet your life on it.

Life is already rebuilding itself. Over the last 3 weeks I have managed to get all my stuff in order. I am renting a room from a family friend, it’s not ideal but they are a good housemate. Hopefully this week I should be able to secure my own apartment, that is the big thing because I don’t like having roommates.

Big Picture: Freedom. Every day when I wake up, even the sun looks different. It is unimaginable the feeling you get once you start rebuilding, even mundane things take on a whole new light. It is funny when you realize the awful stressors that are no longer in your life. I was out with the kids getting ice cream when one of them mentioned my MiL (who like most of them is a world class nutjob), first I got the horrible queasy feeling…but then I realized I will have to see the woman only 3-4 per year!!! OMFG, the sudden realization was a weight lifting off my chest…23 years of listening to that old wretch…ahhh, never again. About two weeks back I bought a badass Specialized Mountain Bike, and a week later I broke my collar bone, if that had happened 4 weeks ago she would have never let me hear then end of it – and I would have sold the bike out of guilt. Guess what? NOBODY to bitch at me about spending the money. Nobody to bitch at me about having a $3,500 bike that will sit around for the next 15 weeks while I heal. Nobody to guilt me because for the next 7 weeks because I can’t put weight on my arm, and therefore can’t be her workhorse around the house…I will never again have to hear “You said you could get that rooooom paiiiinted, you commit to thaaaaat 3 months ago, I didn’t tell you to buy a bike and and get hurrrt!!!”…hahahahahah, now paint those rooms yourself dummy. Now when I see her 1-2 times a week I get to see her trying to do her post split diet (literally needs to drop 100 pounds per doctor), and the fact that instead of getting better looking she looks like a pathetic deflated balloon…when you are 45 her body isn’t going back into shape like 25yo, she will need $10k just for the skin reduction alone…she even hopes to make herself even remotely marketable to any man with functioning. What do I need to do: lift weights 3-4x/wk to rebuild muscle mass…winning.

There is hope. The sun will look different, the air will smell different, you will begin to love the smallest things like a pretty morning. There has been hope for me, there WILL be hope for you!

This was an outstanding and encouraging post, my friend. Thank you and stay strong. Hearing your words is exactly how I envision life alone. Not having to answer about a damned thing and doing whatever the f~~~ I please.

[Knights Templar RisingParticipant 5106]

Exactly. My collar bone is snapped and I can’t do much for the next 7 weeks, and I am still happier. Because doing “nothing” on my own terms, is still 10x better than doing “anything” in mental hell.

And guys should be prepared for her to find new ways to f~~~ with your head. Coincidentally, right after I finished writing that, she started texting me about normal stuff and then went into dramatics. “We need to talk too, if we are going to remain friends we need to discuss what happened. Otherwise, I will treat you polite…but no different than any other person.”. This dummy clearly didn’t understand what I meant when I said “We will still be friends”, for some reason she thinks that means going out for brunch or something – go do that with the rest of the old holes!!! I guess I should have said “we will stay friendly”. The nerve of that deflated hole, she still thinks I need to grovel to her, they will ALWAYS try to keep their hooks in you somehow.

F~~~ it. Gonna run some errands, throw some dinner in me, rub one out, then practice my guitar until I am sore, then I go to sleep ALONE and HAPPY…inner peace can be it’s own revenge.

Sovereignty above all else.

[FullMetalExoParticipant 2383]

What a nice unicorn.
Stay strong man, I wish you all the best. And most importantly stay healthy!

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[Knights Templar RisingParticipant 5106]

The funny part was when I moved into the house I am sharing, I felt depressed because I was in this tiny room in a tiny house with basically no possessions of my own. But when I woke up, my whole perspective changed.

I realized I had my guitar, my Xbox One, and my new bike. I had a roof over my head, hot water and electricity. I realized I am a man and need little more, instead of the 101 things that would be bouncing around in my head each night, do you know what they only thing that has ever bothers me at night? No ISP of any kind, the roommate just goes to cafes to squat etc, seriously no joke that is my biggest worry of the day. Ahhh, life is good…

Sovereignty above all else.

[Tired-CopParticipant 116]

Brother I love the attitude you have. I wish I could fast forward my situation to where you at.

Just don't care anymore,,,,

[Knights Templar RisingParticipant 5106]

I was able to move into the apartment last night, sitting in the WallyWorld Parkin lot right now about to go buy random stuff I never thought of like a shower curtain. The apartment is dumpy, and desperately needs a scrubbing, but it is economical and in a safe neighborhood. And more importantly, this Lone Wolf doesn’t have to suffer the hassle of roommates. This is one time the Bro Code paid off, even though there were 20 calls for the place, the landlord moved me to the front of the line, he is a triathlete and when I told him I broke my clavicle on the mountain bike he said “oh yeah man, been there done that…and worse!”. Even though he is married, he has seen the divorced guy scenario before.

If one is willing to be realistic, and be happy with baby steps, have a modest plan, each day will get better with one baby step at a time. It’s a beautiful sunny morning here, life is meager but life is good.

Sovereignty above all else.

[Jack HarperParticipant 2863]

Talk to an attorney before you move out. Attorneys often advise the man to stay in the home and force the woman out because it strengthens your position in regard to custody.

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