She is my friend.

[RedRojasParticipant 559]

All my female friends are related to me. I have one female friend at work, buy there’s absolutely no attraction there.

Consistency is victory - Ultra Magnus

[narwhalParticipant]

‘friend’ is a very subjective word. I have some guy friends, and I would say I’m friendly with their wives. I would tell them anything important or do anything with them when husband is not there. There are a few women I am friendly with at work, but would never do anything outside of work with. There are 3 women I would have lunch with on occasion. There are some women I wouldn’t have lunch with because I don’t trust them not to use me to get their husbands jealous…or use me as an orbitter.

There is one married woman at work that I am pretty good friends with. We talk about lots of different topics and would have lunch together. She’s about 10 years older then me, and there’s no attraction there, it’s like brother/sister. I’ve met her husband and everything’s fine. If it wasn’t, I would not hang out with her anymore.
Does this friend use my as a resource? Well, yes, but that’s actually my job to be her IT resource.

I can only think of one woman I would go see a movie with or do actual friend type things. The problem is though, she’s very flakey and I only would do that as a means to turn her into a friend with benefits. It doesn’t really happen though, partly because of her personality and partly because I put in no effort whatsoever.

Ok. Then do it.

[TuneoutParticipant]

One,a former co-worker I keep in touch with,yes there was some attraction there but we now live at opposite ends of the country so she knows it won’t get serious.

She’s around middle age like myself and never been married or had kids either in spite of being fit and
attractive.

I guess thats why we bonded,she didn’t have the usual female desires and hang ups – now I’m NOT saying she’s a unicorn rather just someone I could hang out with and not feel pressured,besides at the time we both were seeing other people so it remained strictly platonic.

Lifes a bitch,but you don't have to marry one!

[pabsawakeParticipant 1761]

I could give you a long drawn out example of the female (friends) I have had in my life but I won’t.

I’ll simply tell you that they are not friends they are HIVE informants.

"You can either love women or understand them, you can't do both". Truth over everything

[Anonymous 7]

I have a decent amount of female friends but its all topical except for one that always hangs out with guys only.

Shes insecure as f~~~ has a boyfriend and always wants guys to hit on her to boost her ego.

She leads on guys just for attention. My friend and I just bully her half the time for the stupid s~~~ she says and does lmao.

She will also sell out to anyone when she is with them.Take there side, talk s~~~, etc.

Theres one trump supporter chic Im trying to get to know she seems pretty down

[OldBillParticipant]

Anonymous wrote:

You really can’t have a deep friendship with a woman. They cannot be even be friends among themselves.

Quoted for truth.

Women don’t even like one another, women can’t even be friends with one another. It’s indicative of their constant cognitive dissonance that, despite being able to do both, women expect men to like and be friends with women.

Do not date. Do not impregnate. Do not co-habitate. Above all, do not marry. Reclaim and never again surrender your personal sovereignty.

[Bestieboy666Participant 2358]

OldBill wrote:

ChauvinistPig wrote:

You really can’t have a deep friendship with a woman. They cannot be even be friends among themselves.

Quoted for truth.

Women don’t even like one another, women can’t even be friends with one another. It’s indicative of their constant cognitive dissonance that, despite being able to do both, women expect men to like and be friends with women.

Exactly this. Their idea of friendship is accumulating info to use against you at a later date.

Women are so bad, if they changed the law so I kept the house, I still wouldn't marry one. I'd rather be homeless.

[sidecarParticipant 35874]

Anonymous wrote:

Thanks for sharing men, it seems to me that the main line is dealing with them by getting what you want and giving something back at the same time, without drama, relations~~~s, doublestandards and useless orbiting.

If it ever becomes not worth your time with a woman, or a man for that matter, stop giving them your time. It’s really that simple.

Just make sure you never put yourself in a position where you can’t stop giving them your time and walk away.

TaxGuy wrote:

I don’t say my guy friends are “just friends” but when said in the context of a male / female friendship is almost always means that one wants to be more than friends.

Or when someone might be assuming that you are not just friends.

Your straight male friends are far, far less likely to see you as “relationship material” (pretty much by definition). A third party observer can safely assume they’re not going to have any presumptions of girlfriendhood (or worse).

That is not the case with women, so sometimes you have to be clear about it. Especially to the women themselves.

Basically it’s like this: treat your female friends about the same as you treat any gay male friends. You have to be completely up front with them that you’re not interested in being anything other than friends. If they’re looking for a relationship they need to look elsewhere because it’s never going to happen with you. Not because of anything about them; you’re just not interested.

That being said, all of my gay friends have accepted that without any problems. They all know that when a man is not interested, he’s not interested. Not all the women have taken the news nearly as well.

I think the difference is that gay men don’t automatically assume all other men are interested in them. Women do. And women will often make plans based on this false assumption. They don’t like abandoning those plans when they learn the hard truth.

[PistolPeteParticipant 27143]

Let me boil this down to the nitty gritty. Friendship is based upon shared values, honor, integrity and trust. Since these qualities are anathema to women friendship by definition is impossible.

[TaxGuyParticipant]

sidecar wrote:

Or when someone might be assuming that you are not just friends.

I understand what you are saying. My point is that if you saw Judy and I having lunch together and asked me later who she is, I would say “She is a friend of mine.” Not “we are just friends”. If you are assuming that there might be something more to it, then that’s on you. But I’m more suspicious of “just friends” for a response because that means that I am likely contemplating sex with that person.

Just an observation.

Order the good wine

[narwhalParticipant]

TaxGuy wrote:

sidecar wrote:

Or when someone might be assuming that you are not just friends.

I understand what you are saying. My point is that if you saw Judy and I having lunch together and asked me later who she is, I would say “She is a friend of mine.” Not “we are just friends”. If you are assuming that there might be something more to it, then that’s on you. But I’m more suspicious of “just friends” for a response because that means that I am likely contemplating sex with that person.

Just an observation.

I think people, really women and gossips, are going to assume there is more no matter what you say. For one thing, a guy or girl will claim ‘just friends’ when they are pining for more but are being cautious. The question really, why the hell does the person ask you really care?

The female coworker I have lunch will sometimes purposely untuck shirts or mess up hair when we get back to work to give the gossips something to think about.

Ok. Then do it.

[guiParticipant 825]

Bestieboy666 wrote:

OldBill wrote:

ChauvinistPig wrote:

You really can’t have a deep friendship with a woman. They cannot be even be friends among themselves.

Quoted for truth.

Women don’t even like one another, women can’t even be friends with one another. It’s indicative of their constant cognitive dissonance that, despite being able to do both, women expect men to like and be friends with women.

Exactly this. Their idea of friendship is accumulating info to use against you at a later date.

I subscribe to that. I find that I was never able to bound with women in the same deepness as my male friends. I never had what I could call a friendship with women because it was all more like the relationship you have with your classmates or co-workers. You are friendly with eachother but can’t trust them to have your back.

And you can’t trust them to keep your secrets or to hear you venting about your life. Women have way more difficult keeping stuff to themselves and someday this info WILL be used against you.

Like someone said here before, when dealing with women and with most people you should remember your Miranda rights.

Pity and contempt are siblings. You only feel pity for those you consider weak.

[Anonymous 1]

Bestieboy666 wrote:

OldBill wrote:

ChauvinistPig wrote:

You really can’t have a deep friendship with a woman. They cannot be even be friends among themselves.

Quoted for truth.

Women don’t even like one another, women can’t even be friends with one another. It’s indicative of their constant cognitive dissonance that, despite being able to do both, women expect men to like and be friends with women.

Exactly this. Their idea of friendship is accumulating info to use against you at a later date.

In the past I had the stupid idea of sharing some personal things with a girl, little I knew at the time, luckily I did not share other personal infos which could have given them the keys to f~~~ me over. I am never gonna make that mistake again.

[sidecarParticipant 35874]

TaxGuy wrote:

But I’m more suspicious of “just friends” for a response because that means that I am likely contemplating sex with that person.

Or you know that she is contemplating it. That qualifier goes both ways.

And for the record I’ve sometimes gone far beyond saying a woman is “just friends”.

#1 (a busybody): “Hello you two. Who is this? Is she your girlfriend?”
: “Nah. She just a couple of holes I occasionally put my penis into who also knows and loves awful b-movie science fiction even more than I do.”
#2: “He means we’re friends.”

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