Rough Night Over Here At Sky HQ

[Anonymous 12]

[OldBillParticipant]

First, lay off the booze.

God knows I like booze. I have wine with meals more often than not, enjoy a cold beer almost daily, and a small neat single malt is my “treat” most evenings. I also know booze is a depressant among many other things. Because of that I knew I had to avoid it when I was tackling some issues.

Booze has also become both a crutch and a trigger for you. Haven’t you noticed you start binging when you think about her and the more you think about her the more you binge? I have and from your posts alone.

Second, whenever you think about her, remember why you came here.

Junkies fondly remember their highs. What finally keeps them sober is remembering the price they paid for those highs.

You need to keep her price firmly in mind.

Do not date. Do not impregnate. Do not co-habitate. Above all, do not marry. Reclaim and never again surrender your personal sovereignty.

[DanceMyOwnWayParticipant 2097]

I had a woman like this in my life recently – a total narcissist. Probably the only woman I’ve met I might have moved in with. Easy to spend time with, great sex and an emotionally abusive piece of s~~~. I changed my mobile number and blocked her email. I’m sure I will run into her again in the dance world and she will still tempt me. A lying whore is a whore is a whore. We are all recovering addicts. DONT GO BACK…

If you fall down 7 times, get up 8

[OneLaneOnlyPlsParticipant 1747]

Sky-O wrote:

It has always hit in waves. And gradually got to a point where months would go by without thinking about her. Then it would hit again. Crashing down on me like a wave and knocking out any feigned invincibility and fragile bravado that I had shielded myself with to get through another day.

There were many before her, but she was the only one that had the ability to break me down. Systematically and methodically until I was fractured to the point where I was a shell of the man I was prior.

On these 2 paragraphs above ….

Never rely on someone else for YOUR OWN happiness. Doesn’t matter if its family, friends, or a woman. Right now you have your freedom. You did not have this before, none of us that were in relationship before, had this very simple yet valuable thing. Remember that.

Your thoughts, actions, you decisions to a degree, were influenced/controlled by a woman. This is no way for a man to live.

The very fact that she could ‘break you down’, is more the reason to stay clear of her. I would say this even for a fk-buddy… no puss is worth that brother.

It’s natural at times for out minds to selectively remember the best parts of someone, and we tend to ‘miss’ solely those parts. However try to remember all the CRAP this person put you through.

In my case, there was a lot of crap. For one, ultimately there was ZERO trust. Once the trust goes my friend, there is nothing worth hanging around for. I bet there was a bag-full in your ex’es case. Guess what? That is no longer your problem! Let some blue-pilled desperado pick up that heavy bag of sh*t, throw it up into a ceiling fan, and cop the spray.

[Prefer Peace to PieceParticipant 10809]

Sky-O,

You will see better days.

Don’t let the bitches get you down.

Few suggestions:
– no more booze for now. Good booze is one of life’s pleasures. But not when you’re down.
– consider taking magnesium. It will stop your mind from racing and it also fights depression.
– for me, the best thing for getting my mind off a woman is another woman. Consider a lap dance or a female masseuse.
– hit the gym
– take a trip
Please keep us up to date

[Sky-OParticipant 18949]

Back for the attack and rising up from the ashes.

Thanks for all your thoughts guys.

Slept late this morning, refocused emotionally & spiritual with a few jumps out of a Caravan at 13,000 ft and realigning the Sky-0 life force right now.

Sole Survivor 2017

[KeymasterKeymaster]

Sky-O wrote:

As I type this in the aftermath of what has been a series of texts from her in the last week attempting to psychologically infiltrate the Sky-O perimeter:

Are you maintaining a strict “no contact” policy? Lemme tell you, if you’re not, it is the most wonderful thing, and for me, it was an instant change. More than 10 years ago, I was quite a mess for months after a tough breakup… and then one day, I decided to never let her live in my head again. I composed a one-sentence email:

“never contact again me under any circumstances”.

I didn’t even capitalize it.

When I clicked send, I suddenly felt like million bucks – after taxes. My b~~~~ grew 10 sizes too. It was fantastic and even though she machine gun hammered my mailbox after that, spouting all kinds of hateful epithets, I felt nothing.

She thought “I would always be there” one way or another. But no, It doesn’t work like that. My time, attention and care is not free and available for her amusement. She got it for long enough, and that was the end of it.

And you’re allowing her to ruin your night by way of a series of texts? No. You realize she sent them JUST for that purpose. To emotionally terrorize you. But when you KNOW and decided that she’s dead to you forever and that you will NEVER cave… there is nothing she can type or say or do – to ruin your evening.

It’s spectacular.

—

And PS. isn’t it interesting that after I said “never contact again me under any circumstances” that my email box filled up more frequently and with more paragraphs than she ever wrote before?

That’s kinda sick isn’t it?

Like I gotta mentally kill you off, in order for you to care MORE????
That’s f~~~ed up.

She wants you in that role as the stand by guy “Justin Case”, and if you don’t play that part, she goes out of her f~~~ing mind all by herself. She wants to dance around in your head, because she can. But the only way she CAN, is if you LET her.

Autolite wrote:

When you were with her you were still alone. You just didn’t know it at the time.

Yup.

If you keep doing what you've always done... you're gonna keep getting what you always got.

[Anonymous 1]

We are here for you brother. I have been having this weird feeling about you when I have been reading your posts of late. More vocal then normal.

I agree with old bill. Lay off the booze for a while.

[goodkid43Spectator 550]

You, my friend, can write!!

Your powerful prose reminds me of a murder mystery that I watched on Youtube about this middle aged man who was murdered. After some investigation, it was revealed that the man had molested a number of boys some years before because he was a Little League coach if my memory serves me correctly. And one of the boys having become a adult man, realizing what had been done to him by the molester, was found to be the murderer.

In a prison interview, the man made an observation that was astounding in its objective perception. He said [paraphrasing], “how could something that felt so good be so evil”.

As you were telling your story, his rhetorical question and the resultant understanding came to mind. And I think that is why your past relationship haunts you to this day. How could something that was so full of passion and intensity be so evil? How could someone so beautiful be so evil? This is an understandable paradox.

As a Christian, one must remember that evil is not perpetrated because it is painful (initially), but because it “feels good”, it’s attractive like the apple (and similar to the philosophy of Feminism). This is why the term, “evil seductress” is so apropos yet paradoxical.

God bless, Michael

[IRuleMeParticipant]

It happens Sky. Even to the best of us. I still think back on this one that got away. The feelings come, and then the brain kicks in, and says “ah ah ah…. AWALT!”

[FrostByteParticipant 19005]

Sky-O wrote:

It has always hit in waves. And gradually got to a point where months would go by without thinking about her. Then it would hit again. Crashing down on me like a wave and knocking out any feigned invincibility and fragile bravado that I had shielded myself with to get through another day.

Learning to let go is like a tree getting pruned. It hurts letting go of branches, but you grow deeper roots and a stronger trunk.

If you rescue a damsel in distress, all you will get is a distressed damsel.

[Anonymous 12]

just to clarify for lurkers
and as an excuse to post a set of wings and Prop…
this is the type of Cessna “caravan” he makes reference to:

Glad you made it through the dark spot.
Welcome back Sky-O.

[HermitParticipant 1121]

Tell her when she was in, she was in. But now that she’s out, she’s out. Permanently. Be flat, be direct, even if it kills you to say it. You will be so glad you did.

I don't hate women. I just feel better when they're not around.

[SESQUI ano estParticipant 2535]

Keymaster wrote:

My time, attention and care is not free and available for her amusement.

Glad to see your working through this Sky-O. My own separation is like removing that slice of pizza from the tray with all the hot cheesy strings still connected and slowly stretching apart –
kids/feelings/memories/finances. All need to be cut one by one.

I think the above quote from keymaster should be a MANTRA. “My time, attention, and care is not free and available for her amusement.”
I plan to use that line almost verbatim as my wife still calls looking to use me as an emotional tampon and support for her.
My time, attention and care is not free and available for your amusement!

Everyday above ground is a good one. Everyday above ground while single...better still.

[Anonymous 3]

goodkid43 wrote:

“how could something that felt so good be so evil”?

It reminds me of an explanation on the nature of addiction.
Before the addiction you are normal, with some ups and downs in your level of happiness.
Using a chart it would look like this:

Now, as you get the PLEASURE from the object of addiction, then the chart would have peaks. The a NEW NORMAL WILL BE ESTABLISHED.

Now the absence of the OBJECT OF ADDICTION feels bad, because its below the average. And the presence of the object of addiction is NORMAL. It is no longer a pleasure.

People start drinking because it feels good. But addicts drink because it feels bad not to. The drink to be normal.

[BrainPilotParticipant 7640]

Sky-O,
There are two women in the post you wrote. You may have thought that there was/is only one, but this is the reason for all the hurt and confusion. The first woman is beautiful, sexy, kinky, loyal, sane and reliable. She is the kind of woman you can have an ongoing relationship with that will be worth the effort, and will not get pathologic over time. This is the woman you miss, and the one that hurts so much to have lost.

This woman exists only in your head.

She was sculpted by you and placed there, and she is perfect for you. She out shines all those other women (and it sounds like there have been a lot, you lucky bastard 😛 ) because when you created her, you made her flawless.

The second woman is the disloyal, emotionally carnivorous, bat s~~~ crazy one who’s lying to you, lying to the beta she’s leeching from, and lying to herself about both of you, and who knows how many others she’s trying to keep on a string to reel in when this beta is all used up and she’s ready to move on. She needs the next branch already committed to her before she dumps this guy. So for now, she wants you both.

These two women look identical. The second woman has done such an excellent job of impersonating the first that you can’t tell the difference. You haven’t yet even figured out that there’s more than one of them. THERE ARE TWO OF THEM. Remember this.

Treat the one in your head like what she is: perfect, but imaginary. Treat the other one like the radioactive toxic waste that she is and AMPUTATE that connection that she is trying to maintain. She has benefitted greatly by her successful impersonation. She has stolen time, attention and emotional investment from you that was intended for the girl in your head. She is not going to give up that connection willingly.

Deleting all forms of contact, as has been advised here elsewhere is good advice. But telling or texting her directly to never contact you again will provide you a sense of relief that will surprise you with how good it feels, but only when yo do it, and only if you mean it.

Every woman, especially this one, needs to hear the word “No” and they need to hear it often. I doubt this one ever has heard it at all, and certainly not from you. But that is why it will benefit you as much as it will. When you say that magic word, you become the ultimate control within your own head again. You can do this if you separate the two women and speak to them one at a time. Tell the girl in your head whatever you want. But make sure the crazy bitch understands that you can now tell the difference between them.

You can mourn the loss of that girl in your head anytime, and for as much time as you want. As long as you remember that that’s all she ever was. Just a girl in your head that a very screwed up woman successfully impersonated, but only for a while.

Look, it's not my fault that tornado dropped a house on your sister. Now get back on your broom and get your ass out of here... and take your monkeys with you

[Anonymous 0]

Bro, take the advice of all these men here and remember the negative stuff, too, because that’s what has ultimately brought you to not only here, but the road you currently walk. She can only be a distant memory. It’s not easy to face this reality, but this is what it means to really go your own way. Don’t dwell on this girl, she’s what got you to this state to begin with. Her and people like her will only bring men like us to a lower state than what we are meant to be. You are better than this. You are stronger than this. If you can, get off the alcohol for awhile, as that will only further the depression, and TRUST ME when I say that I speak from experience on that. It’s not a pretty sight and can lead to a much darker road than what a woman can put you through, only it won’t be a woman putting you through it since you’ll be the one drinking.

[Anonymous 6]

Sometimes it’s impossible to get up before you hit bottom.

There has been research using MDMA not for it’s empathic qualities but for establishing the low you get when you crash.

[Anonymous 12]

who needs molly….
…just get a divorce, see how that f~~~s your mental life…
Ask May7 – brought the man right to the edge of immolating himself.

That can not be the solution however, can it?

[Ranger OneParticipant 16836]

goodkid43 wrote:

In a prison interview, the man made an observation that was astounding in its objective perception. He said [paraphrasing], “how could something that felt so good be so evil”.

Interesting observation. I wonder if that occurred to the pedophile he killed, or perhaps the pedophile thought it wasn’t evil because it felt good to do it?

All my life I've had doubts about who I am, where I belonged. Now I'm like the arrow that springs from the bow. No hesitation, no doubts. The path is clear. And what are you? Alive. Everything else is negotiable. Women have rights; men have responsibilities; MGTOW have freedom. Marriage is for chumps. If someone stands in the way of true justice, you simply walk up behind them and stab them in the heart-R'as al Ghul.

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