Overprotective White Knight Dads

[Governor Megachris%Participant 3584]

So, for the first time in a while, I met a girl yesterday. It was really out of nowhere for me. She worked at the place I was eating at and she kept making conversation with me. She took her hour break to sit and talk to me and get to know me more. She knows my whole life situation right now and thinks I’m something else. Likes the way I look, likes how I’m improving myself, likes that I’m a good conversationalist and that we share a lot in common. After our conversation on her break, she gave me her number and we talked all day.

Though I’m not huge on the idea of relationships anymore, this little change for me is kinda nice, I’ll admit. Doesn’t hurt to get to know a gal, I don’t think.

She actually wanted to go out today AWAY from work (it’s her off-day). She wanted to talk to me more and get to know me even deeper and I told her I’d like to know her too. She’s a pretty cool chick so far.

There’s one slight hangup, though. Her parents.

Her mom loved the idea of her hanging out with someone like me, but her dad…not at all. Turns out she’s 18 (so we’re 10 years apart) and he really doesn’t like that idea at all. Apparently that makes me some “creeper” that’s out to kidnap and murder her or something. Heck, I thought she was early 20s when we talked. Thing is, she’s STILL an adult and she REALLY wants to spend more time with me.

Most every woman in my age range has some kind of baggage. Previous ex boyfriend drama, a kid, previous marriages that they don’t shut up about, too many mental scars…this is just a decent change for me. I’m still not high on the idea of dating or marriage at all, but talking to a girl that DOESN’T have that kind of baggage is kind of nice. That, and the last girl I saw for a while that was that age turned out to be one of the better ones I saw (we only parted on rather extremely big religious differences), and her previously overprotective parents LOVED me after, despite the age difference at that time.

Long story short, her mom’s been told about me and already likes me, the dad despises me because I’m just in it for “one thing” apparently. Yeah, she’s physically attractive and all, and I can understand protective parents (mine were the same way), but to deny her to actually see me without even getting to know me irks me quite a lot.

This whole “older guy is like a predator, girls are innocent and angelic” mindset really needs to go. If I’ve learned anything in my life experiences, the girls that are under overprotective parents tend to be the most rebellious and needy for a man like me.

[It’sallbsParticipant]

Wake up Governor and run for the hills.

AWALT.

http://www.leavemeansleave.eu

[Governor Megachris%Participant 3584]

I know AWALT.

Like I said, it’s just a nice little change from the typical “omg I’ve been previously married and the ex still talks to me/I have kids/I’m overweight and don’t feel like I need to work out to attract anyone” BS.

She’ll become like the rest, but it’s nice to enjoy their youthfulness in a way. Makes me feel younger in a sense.

[Anonymous 3]

“Older guy is like a predator, girls are innocent and angelic” is actually the other way around. It is the older guys who are the fools and the young girls who are the predators. Your story demonstrates that to a tee.

Her father is doing you a favor.

[Governor Megachris%Participant 3584]

Perhaps you’re right. I’ve just not had any young chicks like that approach me in years. It was just a decent change from the dramatics I mentioned above from that wall-approaching harpies in my age range.

[BlacqueJacqueShellacqueParticipant 6890]

@GM%, I dated a girl 19 years younger than myself. We lived together and I thought I was in love. I thought she loved me.

One year after our breakup I found MGTOW.

You’re playing with fire friend.

[It’sallbsParticipant]

Cot off all communication with her immediately and change your telephone number and if she knows where you live consider moving.

http://www.leavemeansleave.eu

[XSDBSParticipant 3598]

I suspect her father doesn’t like her current boyfriend either.
So, she is attempting to use you as an “even worse boyfriend” to make him look good in comparison.

[It’sallbsParticipant]

Why do so many people just not get it?

Who cares, don’t take on other peoples’ s~~~.

Why bother thinking about their games, insecurity and needs for acceptance and conformity.

Are you a weak blue pill fcuk or a MGTOW?

http://www.leavemeansleave.eu

[Pedal, run, rowParticipant]

Governor Megachris% wrote:

the dad despises me because I’m just in it for “one thing” apparently

Not apparently, factually.

I mean you are MGTOW right? So what are you in it for if not just to blow a nut or 3?
This is a case for reddit red pill.

[KeymasterKeymaster]

It’s unclear how you want from “meeting her YESTERDAY” to “her parents”.

Too much too soon.

Governor Megachris% wrote:

Turns out she’s 18 (so we’re 10 years apart) and he really doesn’t like that idea at all. Apparently that makes me some “creeper” that’s out to kidnap and murder her or something.

When I was 31, I walked into a theatre with an 18 year old on my arm, and from my female peers, I was on the receiving end some SERIOUS shaming.

“OMG What could you POSSIBLY have in common with her?”

Fortunately, by this time I was intuitively fluent in social dynamics (and the SMP) , and already well aware that she would not have dated me when I was 18 – and neither did they. So it was going to be MY turn now. And enjoyed rubbing their noses in it.

“Well, we both really like it when she gets naked”.

But strangely her parents LOVED me. Both of them. Later, when I asked them directly(!) why they were so welcoming about the age difference, they both said we would rather she went out with you than some 21 year old on a stolen motorbike. I understood that.

The rich father of the 20 year old I dated when I was 21 was exactly as you describe right from day one. I didn’t stand a chance at first, but she really liked me too, so he couldn’t really do anything. . . . .

Governor Megachris% wrote:

the dad despises me because I’m just in it for “one thing” apparently

Yeah that’s predictable. He hated being judged like that when HE was 18, and so that’s his way of getting even on young men — who really just like the girl and maybe want to get an ice cream or go see a movie.

One day “POOF!!” God drops a daughter in his lap, and the day she turns 18, every guy she meets and likes is a potential rapist. It’s complete bulls~~~.

But guess what…. when a woman cheats, who does everyone want to point the shotgun at?

THE GUY.

But why? He didn’t do anything wrong.

— >> SHE did.

He’s the one that runs out the window , scales the wall, risks falling to his death and everyone wants to pound him as the asshole – even though the sex would never have taken place if she didn’t want it to.

You can simply refuse to be vilified for this.

But the first thing you need to do, is consider having nothing to do with “her parents” for at least 9-12 months until you are her “boyfriend”. They are not a factor until YOU decide you like her enough to be a “girlfriend”. That should not happen for many, many months. And certainly not after meeting her just yesterday.

It’s irrelevant if her father looks at you like a “creeper” or a “potential rapist”, because all that s~~~ is happening in his own head as a result of s~~~ty programming, bad societal conditioning, stupid TV shows and has nothing to do with you.

The pregnant teens on Jerry Springer and Maury Povich spread their OWN legs.

Governor Megachris% wrote:

There’s one slight hangup, though. Her parents.
Her mom loved the idea of her hanging out with someone like me

How can that be, if you met the girl only yesterday?
Her Mom fell in love with you all in one afternoon?

Governor Megachris% wrote:

Thing is, she’s STILL an adult and she REALLY wants to spend more time with me.

And you’re an adult that’s 10 years older.
Once-a-week for a couple of months , max.

Give her the gift of missing you. Just because she wants REALLY it, doesn’t mean you drop everything to accommodate. Would she fall on her back with her legs in the air just because you REALLY want it?

For your own sake, treat your time and attention like women treat sex.

If you keep doing what you've always done... you're gonna keep getting what you always got.

[TaxGuyParticipant]

The dad thinks that because in his experience, All Men Are Like That. People pre-judge other people all day every day based on prior experience. It doesn’t make it right, but he’s going to pre-judge that you are just looking for a pump and dump with his daughter.

As the father of a 16 year old, I understand that it’s my problem to overcome. My daughter will have sex whether I want her to or not with whoever she ultimately chooses. For the record, I may still hate the guy, but that’s not his problem it’s mine.

Order the good wine

[narwhalParticipant]

When my daughter reaches the age of 18, there is no way I’m going to sign off her going out with a 28 year old man. I don’t care if it’s dating or just friends. The answer is no.

50-60 years ok, I might have been ok with it. A woman didn’t need to experience life on her own because most marriages actually were lifetime commitments. Now a days, she absolutely does.

And yes, even though you might not be interested in sex with her, there are plenty of men out there that would be looking for it.

Personally, this sounds like a lot of trouble. I have no doubt that the second you ‘break her innocent little heart’ she’ll be running to Daddy. Next thing you know, Daddy’s knocking on your door.

I understand wanting to have fun while it lasts…but it looks like it isn’t fun anymore.

Ok. Then do it.

[Anonymous 13]

I understand what you’re saying but this relationship has nowhere to go.

Between 18 – 22 girls are especially fickle and change their mind overnight. At 28 you need someone around 24/25 at least.

Also, it’s sounds like you’re giving away the store already. You don’t have deep meaningful conversations and spend hours on the phone off the bat. Too much too soon. You eek yourself out and you don’t ‘hang out’ you date, not hang out. Friends hang out. You only use the phone to arrange a date, not chat for hours.

In short, you’re doing this all wrong and it’s got nowhere to go anyway. She will lose interest very quickly and it will end before you can say ‘what the f~~~!’

That’s the thing, the odds are massively against you anyway, relationships with women just crash and burn when everything is right. Combine that with the fact she’s still just a kid really, and you’re going about it all wrong.

[NeroParticipant 1466]

narwhal wrote:

When my daughter reaches the age of 18, there is no way I’m going to sign off her going out with a 28 year old man. I don’t care if it’s dating or just friends. The answer is no.

I can’t disagree with you here, but how will you enforce such a thing? She’s legally an adult and get pounded like any other girl on the market. I hate to say this, but this attitude is why a lot of girls end up with that entitled, bitchy attitude in the first place. Their daddies pedestaled them to the point where they want a man to worship their vagina. A daughter is no more special than a son. End of story.

[It’sallbsParticipant]

Anonymous wrote:

Between 18 – 22 girls are especially fickle and change their mind overnight. At 28 you need someone around 24/25 at least.

AWALT -any age.

http://www.leavemeansleave.eu

[It’sallbsParticipant]

narwhal wrote:

Personally, this sounds like a lot of trouble. I have no doubt that the second you ‘break her innocent little heart’ she’ll be running to Daddy. Next thing you know, Daddy’s knocking on your door.

I doubt it’s innocent.

http://www.leavemeansleave.eu

[Anonymous 13]

It’sallbs wrote:

SpiritRR wrote:

Between 18 – 22 girls are especially fickle and change their mind overnight. At 28 you need someone around 24/25 at least.

AWALT -any age.

Oh I know that, but even more so in that age range, they’re just kids, still learning and experimenting. I couldn’t imagine wanting to be involved with such a young girl. Nothing but grief and flakiness. Oh wait, AWALT.

[rebelandboltmanParticipant 640]

Things are progressing way too quickly. I would minimize the time you spend with her. This will tell you what’s really going on.

I once met a girl in my previous place of residence who was 22. I was 35 at the time. Within one night of having a conversation, we got physical and cuddling was involved. I enjoyed her company, but I had to go to work the very next morning. So I asked her to leave.

Two days later, we meet up in the neighborhood. She comes over to cook me dinner. After dinner, she asks, “What do you think of me?”. I responded with how I’ve enjoyed her company.

She wasn’t bad looking. Things just went too fast.

Needless to say, nothing ever came of it. A bullet was dodged.

It feels refreshing and flattering to have a younger hottie take interest in you. However, it’s best to keep your distance. At any given time, she could do a complete 180 on you.

[WPLParticipant 2390]

Personally, I’d stay away… I think that you’re playing with fire — not just with the girl, but with her apparently-overprotective dad as well. However, I can only tell you what I’d do; it is not my place to tell another man what to do with his life. Just be careful.

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