Online Dating is Dead

[Anonymous 11]

Greg Honda wrote:

The good looking ones either ignore you or turn you down politely if you’re lucky.

Not if you’re like Chad V2.0.

I was at a party last night. One of the guys was supposed to have a date he lined up on match.com show up there. Well, she never bothered. One of his blue pill friends was excitedly explaining to me that I should get on match.com and meet all the women. I just smirked as I thought about my research data. I told him I can’t waste my time with it.

I could have picked up two women at that party just using the old let them come to me first strategy. One was a single mom. The other was a millennial just looking for a random c~~~ ride on the carousel. I wondered about her c~~~ count. Real life is vastly superior to online dating. Both women were quite attractive, but the red flags were fully flapping in the breeze with both.

Online dating is a waste of time. I vetted and tossed two women overboard in way less time than it would taken to even get a landwhale to merely message me using online.

[rebelandboltmanParticipant 640]

Online dating and clubs are both a waste of time. They are catered to women. I got tired of wasting time, money, and getting frustrated.

Now, as a MGTOW, all is good. Time is well spent. Money is well spent. ZERO frustration 🙂

[Anonymous 18]

Point Of No Return wrote:

Pointdexters

+1 for the reference lol.

[DybbukParticipant 182]

Anonymous wrote:

Online dating is almost dead. Sites like OKCupid are explicitly motivating women to take the first step in interacting with men. The business logic here is that men are waking up to their disadvantage on the dating market, causing traffic rates and thus revenue to drop. Online dating is literally killed because women are non-responsive to the majority of men, and refuse to approach.

As far as I can tell, online dating is as alive as it’s ever been. If you’ve got reliable data about these “traffic rates”, then post a link and then we can have a genuinely interesting discussion about it.

As for “women are non-responsive to the majority of men, and refuse to approach”, that’s been true of almost every type of dating in every culture in human history. Not some troubling new trend unique to online dating in 2017.

[Anonymous 18]

Dybbuk wrote:

If you’ve got reliable data about these “traffic rates”, then post a link and then we can have a genuinely interesting discussion about it.

I believe you there. In terms of traffic and clicks online dating are as profitable as ever, if not more.

Some side research I pulled off quickly reveals the following:

Source: https://www.similarweb.com/website/okcupid.com

[sidecarParticipant 35837]

Anonymous wrote:

Online dating is dead.

And nothing of value was lost.

[Anonymous 2]

It’s true I have no reliable data source. Pure speculation on my part, with OKCupid explicitly asking women to modify their behaviour and more and more men opting out of online dating. It rarely happens women are asked to modify their behaviour, so something must be going on. Perhaps they see the end coming and are trying to stall the inevitable death of online dating.

[CardinalParticipant 82]

There is a great quote I will never forget since the day I read it, and also truly understood what it meant.

“Culture eats strategy for breakfast”

Online dating culture is horrible.

So, originally that quote was shared in a business course years back, but also applies to non-corporate situations. So people think the strategy to finding new love and a woman is to immerse themselves in an online dating site, but the culture of the online dating sites (being toxic) consumes the strategy.

Point being, always understand the culture of something or organization you get wrapped up with.

Like a corporate culture…you could be some company with all the money you need, but if your culture is s~~~, then eventually you fall on your own sword no matter how good your strategy is.

[narwhalParticipant]

Anonymous wrote:

It’s true I have no reliable data source. Pure speculation on my part, with OKCupid explicitly asking women to modify their behaviour and more and more men opting out of online dating. It rarely happens women are asked to modify their behaviour, so something must be going on. Perhaps they see the end coming and are trying to stall the inevitable death of online dating.

I don’t think you can extrapolate okcupid to all dating sites. You could definitely say myspace is dead, but that would not mean all social media is dead. Personally, I’d say okcupid shares the same demographic with tinder and is dying more to competition than lack of interest.

Ok. Then do it.

[SamsquanchParticipant 4226]

Women have always had the advantage to dating in modern times. Dating sites just make it easier for them to be lazy about it.

[sidecarParticipant 35837]

narwhal wrote:

Personally, I’d say okcupid shares the same demographic with tinder and is dying more to competition than lack of interest.

This.

Online dating is the bottom of the barrel. OKstupid is merely coming to terms with the fact that once the customers learn it’s all a bottom of a barrel, there are bigger and cheaper barrel bottoms out there.

[Repulsive RalfParticipant 356]

I keep my online dating profiles up for a couple of reasons, one, I do get messages from women and I enjoy turning them away, I got one this morning on OKC from a 43 year old I had already given the “Good luck” message too.
The other reason is I like to bring to womens attention the damage feminism is doing to human relationships.

On my OKC profile where it says “You should message me if” I have put:- ” Actually best you don’t message me at all, not unless you are that woman I used to fantasise about, that slightly geeky but intelligent girl who had her own mind, but used it for good rather than a weapon in your beloved battle of the sexes, this girl was on my side, she didn’t look for reasons to take offense, she didn’t tell lies, we actually loved each other and preferred to make each other happy, but she didn’t exist and the happy children we would have cherished were never born.
Its taken me 58 years to abandon the naive notion that fairy-tale love exists, to realise there is no woman left who wouldn’t be anything but an overall negative to my otherwise peaceful, but lonely life, or at least if there are, they have been kept for being the rare and valuable treasures that they are. “Where have all the good women gone”?, did they even exist in the first place?

The POF profile simply says, “Much happier since I took the red pill, see the happy Ralf face?, enjoy your cats. xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxMGTOW”
And I still get messaged! I think women dont even read the profiles, they just send a “Hi There” message to every man on the site out of desperation.

[Knights Templar RisingParticipant 5106]

The nature of online dating, has been the same going back to the days of paper based Personal Ads. Others have said it before, but it is no different than going through the left overs in a strangers fridge, and trying to find something palatable. You never really know, until you look under the cover.

Half will be rotten on sight. Next you can discount half of that number by smell, or in this case by their idiot profiles. Then half of that you can discount by taste, in this case chatting or talking. Now we are essentially down to 13% that are even worth dating. Seeing as Okc stats say there are 1.5 men on the site, for every woman, lets go with 15%/1.5=10%. So basically, you have 10% chance of finding a woman even worth a first date. Now let’s assume on the first date half of those turn out to be nuttier/fatter/uglier in real life, and we’re down to 5%. As a few dates, or relationship go on, you’ll want to dump more than half of those. So at best we are looking at 2% of women we would actually want. So even after you weed out the fatties and uggos just based on the left/right swipe attractiveness factor, you are going to have to sort through another 50 to find 1 or 2 good ones.

The problem is, in reality it’s not a linear equation, each of the sorting layers requires more time and resources. For me, I still like to stick it in something once in a while, I don’t mind the investment now that I have my tactics down. Your mileage may vary…

Sovereignty above all else.

[Won'tGetFooledAgainParticipant 3293]

For me online dating is a way of getting pussy with the least amount of effort possible. If you really don’t care and just want to get laid then it is like shooting fish in a barrel. Forget about the dating s~~~, if you play it right you can go straight over to theirs, f~~~ them and either instantly ghost them or keep them spinning for use at a later date.

Basically most women on there are waiting for a wallet but will f~~~ you with little effort required if they think you are interesting enough. Most of the women on dating sites have a couple of f~~~ buddies in the background, are f~~~ing interesting guys on the site and are possibly also going to sex parties to get f~~~ed by multiple guys at once.

In my experience at the start they are all “Not into one night stands” but once you start flirting with them and get past that initial hurdle they reveal just how slutty they are.

Online dating is for Betas it is just online hookups for everyone else.

What makes me laugh is the women who have been on their for years yet still always use the same pictures. I am guessing the pictures were years out of date when they used them the first time.

As I have said before, online dating is like dumpster diving and expecting to come out with a gourmet meal. If you are hungry enough you might find something of interest but you are still just searching through peoples discarded trash.

For women, everything eventually boils down to Alpha Fucks, Beta Bucks.

[bagsofsandParticipant 1391]

1st post here.. I feel at home. 😉
Online dating is a disaster, and while it’s certainly NOT dead, more men are waking up these days: primarily because of this ridiculousness online dating is in 2017. How can you not?
Of course the red-pilled guys know how much of a waste of time and money online “dating” is, and it is my wish that MORE blue-pilled men in the future will learn how much it’s f~~~ing up relations between men and women.
Lots of thirsty White Knights to feed the online dating sites still.

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