My friends divorce

[The_reality_factorParticipant 211]

@dwh197935

Well done mate, keep heading in a positive forward direction…inspirational post, thank you!

 

 

 

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@Limpan

A tragic tale. Very sorry to learn of it just now. But thanks for bringing it.

I have a very difficult time knowing what to say at a time like this.
When I was 21, a friend who was 19 threw himself in front of a train because of a break up.

19 f~~~ing years old….

If you keep doing what you've always done... you're gonna keep getting what you always got.

[This is the lifeParticipant 13]

I don’t want to hijack this post as it is of such importance  and my inspiration to post again here….But i tried psychologists, psychiatrists, talking to friends, family etc……but the amount I have learnt from this “Brotherhood” in the last couple of months is something quite extraordinary.

What I read is something I would never of got from therapy. And would never have received from family and friends because they are too far gone. Too indoctrinated. Trying it was just a wall of NAWALT speeches and Mangina’s who literally told me “I dunno what to say to help you mate.” Now one of them has asked me to be his best man at his wedding in January. Here I am planning his Buck’s day and having him send me sms after sms about how he and his fiancee just bought a house and will be trying for kids straight after the wedding etc…. poor guy.. I know saying something is worthless. It’s hard cause I care for the bloke. He’s 30, She’s 23. Moved in to his place from 1000 kilometres away within 3 months….So easy to see through her plans. But I’ll tell you this. When she f~~~s him over, and we know she will. I’ll be there. Not to shove the “I told you so” speech down his throat. But to make sure his mental health is sound…and to gently guide him to this site.

[Anonymous 5]

The worst part about that c~~~ is she was probay happy your buddy offed himself. That is how sick and twisted these c~~~s are. They are cold hearted and the cruelest creatures on earth.

[BestoftherestParticipant 285]

What a shame. I hope we all learn from this as to speak up a bit more for our brothers. We all know what happens to a man that is lost, he commits suicide to end pain, to stop being a burden, to end it because their is no light at the end of the tunnel. We need to find our own way, as individuals, to connect with our friends. It may seem a difficult task to present them with red pills but the alternative is leaving them to their own methods of healing, and that tends to fall into; suicide,drinking, eating to much, fighting, no longer wanting to work, letting bills go unpaid, etc. The red pill needs to be presented in the manner you see best for your friend(s). I’d rather fail at introducing the red pill than asking if it could’ve stopped a tragic mistake.

I’ve stopped a few of men from going down the path of suicide or reckless abandonment. Please everyone consider these things for your own arsenal in helping other men, our brothers, when the moment comes.

The Way Men Heal, Thomas R. Golden
This book was instrumental when I was unhappy with the lack of understanding psychologist displayed. My personal issue stemmed not from women incidentally, but from the drive to be super alpha in all things. It resulted in me having a major clash and one that lead me into mgtow.
Before I found this book, I decided to go into psych program for university. After one semester I was disgusted with what I saw. The field was trying to paint masculinity as a negative and the way masculinity needed to heal was the same way women heal. I was infuriated and I set out to find something of substance. I stumbled across this book and it introduced me to the world outside of the man hating psychology field. That book lead to The Myth of Male Power

The Myth of Male Power, Dr. Warren Ferrel
After The Way Men Heal this book became my next stage of understanding.

The Manipulated Man, Esther Vilar
Another great book.

After these three books I dived into all types of “Amazon related” books and all opened my eyes a bit more. The three books I mentioned managed to do the heavy hitting however.

"Nearly all men can stand adversity, but if you want to test a man's character, give him power."
Abraham Lincoln

[PhantomParticipant 3328]

Hey again Limpan, sigh with a heavy heart bro. I know we have already talked some with our intros, but I wanted to reach out back to you here man. I am sitting here with all my might fighting the tears that want to escape my eyes. I can feel it stinging them. I just wanted to say I am really stunned into silence after reading your post. Really sorry to hear that. Losing a friend like that, and being friends that long…honestly…no words. Have a beer and a hug man. Glad I know you about you a lil, and looking forward to being able to say many years from now, glad I know you a lot more.

Condolences buddy

[Sessna12Participant 119]

that is a horrible story. i am sorry for your loss

"We can no more stop him from marrying than we can stop him from making a well researched decision to poke his eyes out with a stick."
-Sidecar

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