Mom is trying to threaten me to kick me out of the house

[Anonymous 0]

Hitman wrote:

phoenix wrote:

In the off chance this isn’t tuna

i think this is a young guy who needs advice.
millenials have a situation i probably don’t fully understand.
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Agreed. In my opinion the writing style is from a young guy.

[OgreParticipant 5863]

She’d actually be well within her rights to give you the boot. As my children approached adulthood they all tested me. I’m a big, normally happy and easy going guy, but I’m also the guy who paddled their asses when they were little. My middle child raised her voice at me saying something bitchy, and I asked her “how many square feet does your apartment have?”

The point I’m making is that you are legally an adult. If you can’t follow her rules of the house, no matter how stupid then it’s time for you to go. It still makes her a controlling, manipulative s~~~ heel, but you have no control over that.

Either follow her rules or find a way to get on your way. It’s just the reality of your situation. Your father and the ex-boyfriend both served purposes to get you to this point, and your mom is proving her worth as a woman.

Some people don’t get to spend the immediate years after high school completing their college. Things come up, they have to take care of some business and then the most committed find a way. It takes longer and it’s rough, but if you stay focused you’ll get it done.

I failed to realize in my youth that I was the prize. I was going to work. I was going to earn. Little did I realize that due to feminism, that no longer meant I had to share. Road soon, Desert after.

[jimbob15217Participant 491]

Dude, getting kicked out of your mom’s house is not an injustice. It’s part of becoming an adult. Getting kicked out of your own house–that’s an injustice.

[Anonymous 1]

My Mom threatened to kick me out of the house quite a few times. My Dad took off when I was 8 years old and moved to another state. I changed schools 4 different times, finally ended up in an institution after my best friend pulled some really bad criminal s~~~ in middle school. Your Mom is probably bluffing about kicking you out. I don’t know your full situation, but that is what my experience would say. Single Moms want a man in the house. When my Dad took off I became the man of the house. I chased off crack heads when I was 14 years old with a butchers knife. Moms tried calling the cops on me and threatened to kick me out multiple times. I would continue hanging out with your step Dad, but do it in secret. Get really sneaky and start ghosting, but otherwise keep living with your Mom and don’t pay her ANY f~~~ing rent. You are doing her a favor for sticking around. If she tries calling the cops take her phone away and let her cool down for a few hours. Finish college try and get a STEM degree, get a job and pay off your debt. Then get your own house. I went through hell living with my Mom (until I was 27), but now I’ve got my own place and no regrets.

[Anonymous 0]

Your mom’s probably just bluffing, but you should get your own place anyway.

[WinstralParticipant 90]

Here’s a small update:
She’s finally starting to realize that I’m an adult now. No surprise there. But now she tells me she is going to find a man, a doctor. Holy s~~~! She’s no different than any other woman, all for his money. I thought f~~~ it, and told her I do not want to be involved in any way. I’m done. When I make enough money to live on my own, I’m moving out immediately!

[Anonymous 0]

Do things is secret? You are a grown ass man you do not have to answer to her. I am nearer to your age than some guys here so take it from me own your own can be done and the message from the older guys is still very relevant. Step one is to budget, figure out what the minimum amount of income it will take you to live on your own and still be able to save. Remember needs vs. wants. Smart phones, TV, PCs, gaming apparatus is a luxury not a need. Needs are food, water, not pop, tea or coffee, shelter, and transportation for the following, your job.

If you can attain said job then do so. If need for education get a job to bring in money and get some schooling, for a degree, certificate. This is why Career center during high school are so important in my opinion. They give a great start, speaking from experience. You do not need to immediately move out if you have the job and schooling going. Stay at home and save your $$$, don’t spend it on stupid s~~~.

Now with that job attained move out, save money don’t party or buy smart phones, or other stupid s~~~. PC’s are free to use at your local library.

Here is a tip never count on one job, have a couple. I now have a full time job and a part-time job unfortunately in the same field. Be a jack of all trades or at least a couple grow yourself. Do not have multiple jobs in the same field if you can avoid it, being that something would happen to you that would make the one field no longer do able, your are not in a tight situation, speaking again from experience.

Growing your own food can save a good bit of money and is well worth it. The bottom point is it is quite doable if you put thought behind it.

Last note your mother is probably just trying to control you with an at the moment empty threat, but do in secret and have contingency plans for certain situations.

[RealityBitesParticipant 2198]

OP – In the long run, being kicked out of the house is a good thing. And I speak from personal experience. The very day I came home with my High School Diploma…as I walked in the door and showed it to my Mom. She said good. You have 2 days to pack up and get out. I’ve already rented out your room.

2 days later I left and never went back.
It was hard but I grew up pretty damn fast. Mother Nature is a real bitch of a teacher and doesn’t cut any slack.

Going through hardship, while a major bitch, builds character and resiliency, and turns a guy into a real fighter and hustler for work.
No work = No food = No roof over your head.

I hated my mom for years over that, after a long time I realized as much as I hated her for doing this to me, in the long run it was the best thing for me. My Mom though didn’t do it out of concern for me and my character. She saw me as a financial drain, and wanted to reduce her overhead by collecting rent and cutting down the food bill.

Per my father’s agreement: when I graduated from High School: the Child Support ended. My mom wasted no time.

So…pack your bags, find a place and move out and never look back. Time to stand on your own two feet.
Any “advice” from your mom: ignore it and go your own way. In fact literally tell your mom to shut the f~~~ up and get out of your way. You’re a Man and you don’t need to listen to any damn woman: Mother or not.

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