MGTOW and Family: How do you deal with it?

[eqlifeSpectator 370]

Awakened wrote:

eqlife wrote:

I’ve quit all social media as well. This only led to me getting MORE s~~~.
“Why aren’t you on FB anymore?” (everyone)
“Do you hate me” (mom)
“You’re a recluse, its not healthy” (f~~~ing GRANDPARENTS of all people)
Its maddening. I DONT avoid people. I have a few friends, a job, keep in touch with family. What the f~~~ else do they want? The mind…it boggles.

Why don’t you move away ? Send cards for holidays. Call and visit sparingly. You have all types of options. You are not their prisoner. If it’s p~~~ing you off as much as you say, get some physical distance and move !! You don’t have a wife or kids holding you down. F~~~, you have options that many of us don’t have !! Stop complaining and start packing.

Well my half brother, mom and stepdad are in Arkansas and I only see them once a year, been that way for almost a decade since I joined the Army (out now) and they ended up in Germany (step dad was Army too). My home is in VA though and I live in the same city as my grandparents (pops is basically my second dad). It’s hard to let go of the place ive been my whole life…even harder to move on from someone I respect so much and is nearing the end of his days. I feel…stuck. I love and hate being here. This is home, but its so toxic at this point…not to mention I don’t make enough to just up and move on a whim

[Tiga KParticipant 1693]

My approach:

“Do you have a girlfriend?”
“No”
“Why not?”
(with laughter) “Why?”
“….”

I don’t get asked very often anymore.

[KeymasterKeymaster]

Tiga K wrote:

“Do you have a girlfriend?”

I recently visited a newlywed friend who wanted to set me up with one of his wife’s over-the-hill single fat friends. He said “I was thinking of setting you up with her!”

( Interesting expression isn’t it: “setting you up”. )

… to which I replied “WHAT FOR? No really. WHAT FOR??”

He has NOTHING to say. He couldn’t even give me a reason like “she’s wonderful, fun, funny, sexy, whatever”. Just a complete blank. All he could say was she’s not seeing anyone right now.

That was the best thing he had to say about her.
“She’s looking”?? They can try harder.

Force them to answer what’s in it for you.

If you keep doing what you've always done... you're gonna keep getting what you always got.

[KeymasterKeymaster]

Fermat wrote:

It’s not about going monk or ghost. Just learning to embrace privacy.

Fermat brings up a great point on mystique.

Being on facebook means all mystique is gone. The question “what is he up to” drives them crazy when they can’t just click a button and pry into your personal life. Leave them wondering as much as possible and don’t answer them easily.

If you keep doing what you've always done... you're gonna keep getting what you always got.

[ComputernerdParticipant 465]

Pretty much all of my family knows I’m MGTOW. They don’t know the term, but they know I’ll never date, have sex, kids, or get married. I’ve been preaching about how I’ll never have kids since I was kid.

eqlife wrote:

“I want grandchildren”
“Don’t you want a house like THIS?” (I live in a small apartment, ALONE)
“You need to find a better job”
“Aren’t you lonely?”

My dad is extremely religious and wants me to breed like crazy because it’s his dream I become a white knight, mangina provider for a woman. F~~~ that s~~~.

I just tell him I don’t want kids because I value my free time. This shuts him up completely.

Whenever they nag me about buying a house, I just bring up the fact I don’t want a house because it involves too much responsibility. You have to manage everything and you’re responsible for everything that breaks.

Couple that with a mortgage that makes your property cost 3 or more times than it’s worth, and you’re in for a lot of bulls~~~. No thanks, I want as little responsibility as possible. So I’d never want a home.

Small studio apartments are far better for MGTOW men.

As far as the “lonely” thing goes, all of my family knows I’d rather stick to myself than to bring along a c~~~ who just leeches off me.

Learn to be f~~~ing stoic around gynocentric f~~~s. It’ll help you a lot in life.

[Silverstone the SecondParticipant]

eqlife wrote:

“I want grandchildren”
“Don’t you want a house like THIS?” (I live in a small apartment, ALONE)
“You need to find a better job”
“Aren’t you lonely?”

You want grandchildren? I want a boat made of solid gold. Want want want, but of course they never care what YOU want. It’s your life, not theirs. Tell them that “I want you to get a divorce(if not already) and date someone from the congo.” You can’t just f~~~ing make demands about someone else’s life. And when they don’t fall for your demands, then that’s why you won’t fall for theirs. It’s not their choice to make.

Don’t you want a house like THIS? Nah. I’m happy. I want what I want. How is marrying a woman going to get you a house? It will get HER a house.

You need to find a better job. Really? Why is that? I can pay all my bills and I’m happy. I think YOU need a better job. It’s such an arbitrary thing to say. Ask why. Because they want you to? Tough s~~~.

Aren’t you lonely? No, it’s quiet. Besides, being alone isn’t lonely. Being with someone that makes you feel alone is lonely.

Feminism is a movement where opinions are presented as facts and emotions are presented as evidence.

[Kaine0826Participant 42]

One day, I just flat out told my mom that I wasn’t getting married or having kids. Told her today’s women are too f~~~ed up, plus I like having my time (and money) for myself. She pretty much endorsed my idea (since she has witnessed my relations~~~s) and told me to go for it if it makes me happy. She says she’s not one of those people that demands grandchildren, and I’ve got no reason to doubt her since she’s always been straight with me. I get a big kick out of it too when she tells her friends “Kaine said he doesn’t want to get married or have kids.” The reactions on their faces are priceless.

[MgtowWaveParticipant 4352]

You have got to have boundries with people.

I walk away from people if they wont politely accept what i have to say.

NO is a magic word and people who wont take my no for an answer can talk to my back as im walking away.

frankly my dear i don't give a damn

[Anonymous 43]

moved two or five states away.

[GrumpyParticipant]

Honestly.
I tried to be a good little citizen, follow all the rules, do what was expected of me. I went into the Army young, I loved it. Got a bit f~~~ed up, but I’m still mostly nermal now.

After I joined the army, my family backed off a bit. After my first divorce, my family backed off a bit more. After my second divorce, I backed away from everyone. When I retired from the army, I went my own way.
In my family I am the “odd duck” in the wolf pack. They all tend to leave me to my own devices now, knowing that I’ll play along with them when I want to.
One of my nephews said to me.

Uncle Grumpy…
you walk like a duck, quack like a duck, but f~~~ing kill and eat wolves…WTF is wrong with you?

There was a time in my life when I gave a fuck. Now you have to pay ME for it

[WraithParticipant 242]

Ah yes, the five pillars of acceptable adulthood:

1. graduate from school
2. get a job
3. get married
4. buy a house
5. have kids

For most MGTOW, 3 and 5 won’t happen (or 2 for quite a few of us). Traditionally-minded family members will have issues with it.

I have no problem drawing a line in the sand. If I were being pestered about getting hitched, I’d call the person hosting the event and tell her that I’ve already stated my intentions and will leave if anybody takes another shot at it. I’d ask her if I should still go. I doubt she’d say no, but I’d be prepared for it. The people who truly matter will keep in touch.

[RennieParticipant]

They don’t like it, there are sometimes vague insinuations of being “gay”. But I just ignore them.

They don’t know about the MGTOW thing, because I never talk about it. There were times when they tried to prod me to this, or that girl and I did investigate, but they both turned out to be problematic. I haven’t heard anything of that in almost 10 years, just the occasional stuff suggesting I am “gay”. Whatever.

My absence from the business is a silent and thought provoking statement to any who notice.

Keymaster wrote:

Being on facebook means all mystique is gone. The question “what is he up to” drives them crazy when they can’t just click a button and pry into your personal life. Leave them wondering as much as possible and don’t answer them easily.

Indeed that’s probably what was going on with the guy who insisted I use facebook. Likely expecting that I post my whole life in there like he does. Nope.

[AttonParticipant]

I call out the non viability of the matter. Like buying a large which is rather foolish and extremely costly.

A MGTOW is a man who is not a woman's bitch!

[sidecarParticipant 35837]

eqlife wrote:

How do you guys deal with s~~~ from your family?

I don’t.

I’m the only one out of generations to make something of himself. I literally have nothing in common with those people beyond DNA, and I’m not even certain about that. On the rare occasions when I see them, they only ever try to insult me for not being another wretched parasite like they all are. Then they ask for money.

Why the f~~~ would I want to have anything to do with that crab bucket bulls~~~?

[Anonymous 3]

Distance. I’m a 3 day drive from mine so it’s phone or text. No FB, no Snapchat or any of the other chick media. Distance is wonderful.

[SandalsParticipant 4253]

Silverstone the Second wrote:

I want a boat made of solid gold.

Would that float?

[VarunParticipant 2981]

eqlife wrote:

She didn’t seem to give a s~~~ when I was dipping my wick in everything with two legs as a teenager. In fact she consistantly told me “I’m not old enough to be a grandma”

Suddenly it’s “I want grandkids”

Bitch! You already have 3 f~~~ing kids. Why do I need to make one?? Sad when even your own mother becomes a shining example of female arrogance. Can’t see past their own f~~~ing nose they stare down, that look of contempt knowing they are post wall and after 3 kids are still baby crazy

That is EXACTLY what I’ll tell mine when the nag will start to come.

“I was interested 10 years ago, but you said no. Now, I’m saying no, and you either accept it or leave it, its up to you.”

I know that going against our family is so anti-instinctual. I recently had an incident where I went against my family’s wishes and stood up for myself….. and I felt like I had stabbed myself, it was that bad.

They have to accept you for who you are; I mean, I don’t mind if I love or hate my family, I accept them as they are. Because that’s the right thing to do.

If they can’t, then its their loss. Nobody can make you do something you don’t want to. You make your own decisions. If they could accept that, fine. If not, then that’s their problem.

A bird in the hand is worth two in the bush.

[WraithParticipant 242]

Wraith wrote:

Ah yes, the five pillars of acceptable adulthood:

1. graduate from school
2. get a job
3. get married
4. buy a house
5. have kids

For most MGTOW, 3 and 5 won’t happen (or 2 for quite a few of us). Traditionally-minded family members will have issues with it.

Sorry, I meant 3 and 5 (or 4 for quite a few of us). Too late to edit it.

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