MGTOW and Family: How do you deal with it?

[eqlifeSpectator 370]

“I want grandchildren”
“Don’t you want a house like THIS?” (I live in a small apartment, ALONE)
“You need to find a better job”
“Aren’t you lonely?”

ect, ect ,ect.

How do you guys deal with s~~~ from your family? I’m content, but everyone around me is pushing me to do MORE than I need to. Whether it be shaming for being single, or shaming for not pursuing 6 figures a year. I am struggling with this right now and need some guidance. I dread family gatherings, although I love my family. They just seem to find every reason in the book to talk down to me.

[AwakenedParticipant 35204]

Let them talk. You’re not going to stop them. It’s all just blah, blah, blah anyways. The only importance someone else’s opinion has in your life is how much YOU CHOOSE to give it.
Therefore, embrace “No F~~~s given”. If you can truly not give a f~~~, then it really doesn’t matter what ANYONE else says. You are lucky enough to be a single man that lives alone. Look in the mirror, that’s the ONLY person you have to answer to, and keep satisfied. F~~~ Em All, this includes good ole mom as well, Don’t let her MANipulate you either !!!

In a World of Justin Beibers Be a Johnny Cash

[eqlifeSpectator 370]

Awakened wrote:

Let them talk. You’re not going to stop them. It’s all just blah, blah, blah anyways. The only importance someone else’s opinion has in your life is how much YOU CHOOSE to give it.
Therefore, embrace “No F~~~s given”. If you can truly not give a f~~~, then it really doesn’t matter what ANYONE else says. You are lucky enough to be a single man that lives alone. Look in the mirror, that’s the ONLY person you have to answer to, and keep satisfied. F~~~ Em All, this includes good ole mom as well, Don’t let her MANipulate you either !!!

Everything you said I tend to embrace as rule of law, but it eats at me that I cannot do it without being judged. It almost feels like everyone around me is allowed to control their own lives, except for me. Oddly enough, everyone around me is mostly miserable and I am just chugging along happy…most of the time. I try to ignore the bulls~~~, but when it comes to family it eats at me. I am closer to my friends than my own family (most of my friends are mgtow, they just dont know it). That s~~~ makes me sad

[eqlifeSpectator 370]

Misery loves company never made more sense at this point -_-

[Anonymous 16]

They are misserable And want the same for you.
I get whiped bu friends with no standard that try to bang anything that moves.

Clasicall asshole they get a lot of pussy from women i dont even wanna date And from patients… They all docs.

My family supports me couse my mother got betrayed real bad by dad she Been single for 7 years. My sis is against marriage And kids, but she only think about her selft.

My blood line ends with me.

[Anonymous 16]

I Been called gay 4-8 times a week last 3 Months ??

[eqlifeSpectator 370]

Anonymous wrote:

I Been called gay 4-8 times a week last 3 Months

I see my mother once a year for a week (we live far apart). Every year its the same s~~~.

“Do you have a girlfriend yet?”
“No? Are you GAY??”

She didn’t seem to give a s~~~ when I was dipping my wick in everything with two legs as a teenager. In fact she consistantly told me “I’m not old enough to be a grandma”

Suddenly it’s “I want grandkids”

Bitch! You already have 3 f~~~ing kids. Why do I need to make one?? Sad when even your own mother becomes a shining example of female arrogance. Can’t see past their own f~~~ing nose they stare down, that look of contempt knowing they are post wall and after 3 kids are still baby crazy

[AwakenedParticipant 35204]

eqlife wrote:

Misery loves company never made more sense at this point -_-
You can become your own best company. No need for being miserable. You have it better then you think. Allow yourself to be content.

[quote quote=304336]I Been called gay 4-8 times a week last 3 Months

Funny stuff, No F~~~s Given ! but thank them for the laugh or just agree with them. Either way who cares what they think or say.

eqlife wrote:

Everything you said I tend to embrace as rule of law, but it eats at me that I cannot do it without being judged

You mentioned that your family, mother and sister, are at least theoretically supportive of you life style, and your friend are mostly MGTOW. Who is judging you, and WHY DO YOU CARE ? NO F~~~S GIVEN !

Do you get it ? don’t let OTHERS get in you head, kick them and THEIR opinions/judgments the hell out !!
Enough said, It’s up to you to internalize it, use it, and believe it !!

In a World of Justin Beibers Be a Johnny Cash

[Anonymous 11]

I don’t talk about MGTOW or red pill with family or anyone not on this board. I tried at first to evangelize red pill, but blue pillers just don’t get it. You might as well explain quantum mechanics to a dog.

Once you get in your late 40s, all of that why aren’t you getting married crap goes away forever. I still get the gay thing sometimes. I’ll tell random sluts I’m gay so they’ll leave me be.

Before she died, my elderly mom told me she understood why I never got married. She knew how f~~~ed up modern women are plus my brother is pussy whipped badly by his wife.

[clint englandParticipant 341]

I’m quite lucky in that i don’t get any such criticism from my close family, it’s more from the extended family and so called friends. Not all my friends as i don’t have that many and i won’t put up with too much bulls~~~ from them.

But i do get criticism especially from friends’ wives the ‘you need a good women’ speech. F~~~ off do i!!

Currently i’m working with a kid much younger than me at 25 who is full of life advice about how i should be with a women, and fancies himself as a bit of a stud. Even though he has had the same girlfriend for over 2 years!

I know the long game for this kid and 98% of other guys down the road when that sassy sexy little thing that bounces on your c~~~ regularly turns into the life destroying monster many of today’s modern women are.

I can’t say that even at 37 i don’t get a little p~~~ed from time to time when these people think they know what’s best for me and feel the need to voice their opinions, but when i think how it will turn out for many of them down the road i can’t help but feel a little pity for the dip s~~~s!.

[eqlifeSpectator 370]

Anonymous wrote:

I don’t talk about MGTOW or red pill with family or anyone not on this board. I tried at first to evangelize red pill, but blue pillers just don’t get it. You might as well explain quantum mechanics to a dog.

Once you get in your late 40s, all of that why aren’t you getting married crap goes away forever. I still get the gay thing sometimes. I’ll tell random sluts I’m gay so they’ll leave me be.

Before she died, my elderly mom told me she understood why I never got married. She knew how f~~~ed up modern women are plus my brother is pussy whipped badly by his wife.

I dont talk about it either except to my few close friends, but its like my family SMELLS this s~~~ on me. They are very quick to try and turn me to the dark side. Its beyond annoying. It seems the further I go from the typical white picket fence american lifestyle, the more they hate on me. Its insane, considering I have no debt, no kids, and am completely independent. I don’t want for s~~~ and have carved a path I am happy with. I am literally causing no problems, yet I get more s~~~ than anyone when the family gets together. I’d hate to disown my own blood, but I feel like I might have to soon…

[SamsquanchParticipant 4226]

eqlife,

One thing I’ve learned from 32 years is that you can’t control what other people do or say. You just have to shake the shaming words off and continue to do what you do.

I have a great relationship with all of my family and they understand my mindset regarding women. However my mom has insisted that I participate in a charity walk for my cousin with downs. This walk is on a Saturday at 8am. I love my family and my cousin, I’ve donated $50 to the charity, but I won’t be shamed into participating in a walk at 8am on a Saturday when I get one week off of work per year. I guarantee that if I was still with my ex, my mom would have spoken to her to convince me to participate in the walk.

All women belong to the hive. You just have to shake off the BS and do your own thing.

[FermatParticipant 3478]

I had similar struggles in the past but it’s no longer an issue now. what helps is getting off of social media.facebook Twitter etc. The less people know about your business the less likely they will criticize your life decisions. They can’t judge what they don’t know. I’m serious about this step. You do not need Facebook to have a social life, eat food, or have a job. it’s not about going monk or ghost. Just learning to embrace privacy.

I have discovered a truly remarkable list of reasons why women are not necessary for a happy life, but alas this margin is too small to contain it.

[KeymasterKeymaster]

You gotta understand where this s~~~ comes from.
They are not offering you anything or making the deal compelling.

eqlife wrote:

How do you guys deal with s~~~ from your family?

“I want grandchildren”

RESPONSE: “Holy s~~~ are you ever selfish. Work on your sales pitch.”.

Ignore every request that starts with “I WANT”.

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“Don’t you want a house like THIS?”

RESPONSE: “You mean mortgage. And no, actually. Your property taxes alone take care of most of my rent. And I don’t even need to mow the lawn.”.

—

“You need to find a better job”

RESPONSE: “So I can afford to be nagged by someone like YOU?”

—

“Aren’t you lonely?”

RESPONSE: “I used to think the worst thing in the world would be living alone, but it’s not. Not by a long shot. The worst thing is being surrounded by people who make you FEEL alone.”
– Robin Williams

eqlife wrote:

They just seem to find every reason in the book to talk down to me.

So flip the script on them, and talk down to THEM. In order to participate in the same charade, they need to make the offer compelling. Tell them a woman (or they) can make you an offer you can’t refuse, and then your’ll consider it.

Don’t worry, they won’t be able to.
Inside this will frustrate them beyond recognition. Enjoy it.

If you keep doing what you've always done... you're gonna keep getting what you always got.

[eqlifeSpectator 370]

Fermat wrote:

I had similar struggles in the past but it’s no longer an issue now. what helps is getting off of social media.facebook Twitter etc. The less people know about your business the less likely they will criticize your life decisions. They can’t judge what they don’t know. I’m serious about this step. You do not need Facebook to have a social life, eat food, or have a job. it’s not about going monk or ghost. Just learning to embrace privacy.

I’ve quit all social media as well. This only led to me getting MORE s~~~.

“Why aren’t you on FB anymore?” (everyone)
“Do you hate me” (mom)
“You’re a recluse, its not healthy” (f~~~ing GRANDPARENTS of all people)

Its maddening. I DONT avoid people. I have a few friends, a job, keep in touch with family. What the f~~~ else do they want? The mind…it boggles.

[eqlifeSpectator 370]

Keymaster wrote:

You gotta understand where this s~~~ comes from.
They are not offering you anything or making the deal compelling.

eqlife wrote:

How do you guys deal with s~~~ from your family?

“I want grandchildren”

RESPONSE: “Holy s~~~ are you ever selfish. Work on your sales pitch.”.

—

“Don’t you want a house like THIS?”

RESPONSE: “You mean mortgage. And no, actually. Your property taxes alone take care of most of my rent. And I don’t even need to mow the lawn.”.

—

“You need to find a better job”

RESPONSE: “So I can afford to be nagged by someone like YOU?”

—

“Aren’t you lonely?”

RESPONSE: “I used to think the worst thing in the world would be living alone, but it’s not. Not by a long shot. The worst thing is being surrounded by people who make you FEEL alone.”
– Robin Williams

Dude, Just yesterday I told my grandfather, who is constantly nagging me to do “better”, that his “pitch was not convincing me”. I guess I am already doing all that I can. Just need to accept their discontent and continue living my life. It’s just so goddamn annoying.

[Freeman_KParticipant 3524]

Fermat wrote:

I had similar struggles in the past but it’s no longer an issue now. what helps is getting off of social media.facebook Twitter etc. The less people know about your business the less likely they will criticize your life decisions. They can’t judge what they don’t know. I’m serious about this step. You do not need Facebook to have a social life, eat food, or have a job. it’s not about going monk or ghost. Just learning to embrace privacy.

Agree, don’t share anything on social media. What i do to be completely honest is that while i am off twitter, linkedin, instagram or whatever there is, … i have this nice hive abiding facebook account where i share very limited amount of information with limited social groups (no coworkers) and that tends to work for me just good, because then i project this image of blue pill guy who just didn’t found her yet.

The choices we make, not the chances we take, determine our destiny

[KeymasterKeymaster]

eqlife wrote:

“Why aren’t you on FB anymore?”

Look at how INSANE that question is: Why ARE YOU NOT.
Really look at how that’s phrased and realize how f~~~ed up it is.

But instead of being irritated by it, apply some clever “off the grid” game.

“Why are you not on facebook?”.

“Why are you ON facebook? Remember when little girls had diaries and they would freak out whenever a boy just TOUCHED the cover? We’ve come a long way.”.
“I am! In the VIP section. Zuckerberg invite only”.
“Because I am wanted in 20 states for crimes against humanity”.
“What an insane question”.

Play with it. Be creative and make it fun.
Why are you not on facebook? Jesus Christ. It’s not like facebook PAYS.
F~~~kkk these morons and that stupid question!

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“Do you hate me”

“Mom Please. Facebook is just like marriage — for women and gays”.

( this takes care of the “gay” accusation too )

eqlife wrote:

It’s just so goddamn annoying.

Yes but don’t allow it to irritate you. Because YOU KNOW BETTER.
Have FUN with them. TOY with them. LAUGH about it.

If you keep doing what you've always done... you're gonna keep getting what you always got.

[AwakenedParticipant 35204]

eqlife wrote:

I’ve quit all social media as well. This only led to me getting MORE s~~~.
“Why aren’t you on FB anymore?” (everyone)
“Do you hate me” (mom)
“You’re a recluse, its not healthy” (f~~~ing GRANDPARENTS of all people)
Its maddening. I DONT avoid people. I have a few friends, a job, keep in touch with family. What the f~~~ else do they want? The mind…it boggles.

Why don’t you move away ? Send cards for holidays. Call and visit sparingly. You have all types of options. You are not their prisoner. If it’s p~~~ing you off as much as you say, get some physical distance and move !! You don’t have a wife or kids holding you down. F~~~, you have options that many of us don’t have !! Stop complaining and start packing.

In a World of Justin Beibers Be a Johnny Cash

[eqlifeSpectator 370]

Keymaster wrote:

eqlife wrote:

“Why aren’t you on FB anymore?”

Look at how INSANE that question is: Why ARE YOU NOT.
Really look at how that’s phrased and realize how f~~~ed up it is.

But instead of being irritated by it, apply some clever “off the grid” game.

“Why are you not on facebook?”.

“Why are you ON facebook? Remember when little girls had diaries and they would freak out whenever a boy just TOUCHED the cover? We’ve come a long way.”.
“I am! In the VIP section. Zuckerberg invite only”.
“Because I am wanted in 20 states for crimes against humanity”.
“What an insane question”.

Play with it. Be creative and make it fun.
Why are you not on facebook? Jesus Christ. It’s not like facebook PAYS.
F~~~kkk these morons and that stupid question!

—

“Do you hate me”

“Mom Please. Facebook is just like marriage: for women and gays”.

( this takes care of the “gay” accusation too )

eqlife wrote:

It’s just so goddamn annoying.

Yes but don’t allow it to irritate you. Because YOU KNOW BETTER.
Have FUN with them. TOY with them. LAUGH about it.

You just made me remember having a Myspace. No adults had Myspace. Why? Because it was for children. Facebook is no different, but somehow the entire world got sucked into this juvenile bulls~~~. Madness

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