I still miss her

[SwimcatParticipant 3589]

For those of you who don’t know me I became widowed in October 2015. Now as Christmas is here I miss her more than ever. Last year it had only been a few weeks and I was still in shock, but now its been over a year and I’ve come to the realization that I liked my old life better. I was comfortable being married. I’d been married all my adult life, and I still feel somewhat lost. My kids are coming over for dinner tomorrow and we’ll all go to midnight mass same as always. We’ll go to my daughters on Sunday to open gifts and have dinner, but its just not the same as when she was living.

[Right Coast CanadaParticipant 256]

It is the season to be haunted. Take care.

[Jan SobieskiParticipant 28791]

Thanks for sharing.

Love is just alimony waiting to happen. Visit mgtow.com.

[Anonymous 42]

Better off with nothing to miss, the cold hard lump of coal in my chest feels nothing.

[Enjoy The DeclineParticipant 1719]

Swimcat wrote:

For those of you who don’t know me I became widowed in October 2015. Now as Christmas is here I miss her more than ever. Last year it had only been a few weeks and I was still in shock, but now its been over a year and I’ve come to the realization that I liked my old life better. I was comfortable being married. I’d been married all my adult life, and I still feel somewhat lost. My kids are coming over for dinner tomorrow and we’ll all go to midnight mass same as always. We’ll go to my daughters on Sunday to open gifts and have dinner, but its just not the same as when she was living.

I am real sorry for your loss, but if you are actually one of the fortunate ones who only had good experiences with a girl, I am wondering why are you here? Like a lot of us actually seen the ugly side of feminism which basically brought us here.

"Question everything" - Albert Einstein

[Pedal, run, rowParticipant]

Watch About Schmidt. He had the perfect wife too.

[Faust For ScienceParticipant 22521]

Swimcat wrote:

For those of you who don’t know me I became widowed in October 2015. Now as Christmas is here I miss her more than ever. Last year it had only been a few weeks and I was still in shock, but now its been over a year and I’ve come to the realization that I liked my old life better. I was comfortable being married. I’d been married all my adult life, and I still feel somewhat lost. My kids are coming over for dinner tomorrow and we’ll all go to midnight mass same as always. We’ll go to my daughters on Sunday to open gifts and have dinner, but its just not the same as when she was living.

While we MGTOW have a lot to say about women. Much of it not good.

Though, not all women are bad. Actually, some women can be very nice people. Though, I only know a handful of such women.

While 80% of women are looking for 20% of the men. It stands to reason the much of the other 20% of women know better. It is this 20% of women that continues what is best about civilization, along with finding a good husband, getting married, and having children.

It sounds like your wife was one of those 20% of women.

Most people here are not going to fault a man for having a good marriage. Though, we will point out the pitfalls of marriage and divorce. But, this is done more as a warning out of concern.

I know loss hurts. You may never fully emotionally heal from losing your wife. But, try not to let the pain of that loss destroy possible good weekend with your children.

[HitmanParticipant]

sorry for your loss.
honor the memory with your children.
she’s in a better place than we are .
.
i have a dear friend , a co-worker..
lost an 11 year old.
she asked me why would God take her child..
i replied they are not ours to lose,
God puts people in our lives and there are no promises made.
her child was never really hers to lose.
.
i hope you can see the message.
btw, the holidays are tough ,
memory’s come back and aren’t easy to deal with.
saying a quick prayer for you friend.

[Old RottweilerParticipant 1520]

I still have one I love. I loved her the first time I saw her.

I enjoyed almost every minute with her. She wrote me about 4 years ago saying she misses me. With no return address.

You got lucky. Cherish the memories.

[LexParticipant 117]

Faust For Science wrote:

While we MGTOW have a lot to say about women. Much of it not good.

Though, not all women are bad. Actually, some women can be very nice people. Though, I only know a handful of such women.

While 80% of women are looking for 20% of the men. It stands to reason the much of the other 20% of women know better. It is this 20% of women that continues what is best about civilization, along with finding a good husband, getting married, and having children.

It sounds like your wife was one of those 20% of women.

Most people here are not going to fault a man for having a good marriage. Though, we will point out the pitfalls of marriage and divorce. But, this is done more as a warning out of concern.

I know loss hurts. You may never fully emotionally heal from losing your wife. But, try not to let the pain of that loss destroy possible good weekend with your children.

I can only re-post this as i couldn’t have said it better myself.

Thanks for sharing Swimcat. There is no shame in reflecting on the ones that are no longer with us during this time of year.

Enjoy your holidays with your family.

[KeymasterKeymaster]

Swimcat wrote:

Now as Christmas is here I miss her more than ever

“I used to think being alone was the worst thing in the world. It’s not. The worst is being surrounded by people who make you FEEL alone”.
– Robbin Williams

I’m truly very sorry for your loss. I know how it is because I remember my first Thanksgiving alone in 2005. It was just brutal. Strange city. Just moved months prior. Knew nobody. Just broke up with a GF a couple of weeks prior. Went to a restaurant on street level and ordered a “turkey” dinner and a glass of red wine and sat and ate by myself.

Brutal I tell you. I actually spent the evening questioning my life choices wondering if I did the right thing.

It wouldn’t be right to just leave it at that, because you know “Christmas” and the Holidays work VERY, VERY, VERY hard to make sure you feel this way. In fact it THRIVES on it. It capitalizes on it. Industries make gobs of money to make people feel like that, and ho boy, you better spend the Holidays with people you don’t even LIKE(!) just to make sure you’re not eating that ONE meal of the year by yourself.

But why did I feel that way?
I enjoyed every OTHER meal by myself.

Women will even sell and buy positive pregnancy tests on Craigslist to try and make sure they don’t spend the holidays alone.

That’s when it gains some perspective.
Who’s more pathetic now. What’s “brutal” now.

So now, when I celebrate the holidays, I f~~~ing CELEBRATE them – for real.

I still miss her

Of course you do. Anyone can understand that. Truly.
Especially as a result of a passing on. That’s tough.

I suppose my point was just… understanding that it’s harder to cope because it says Dec. 25th on the calendar. If it were June Xth (for example), it wouldn’t be so hard to deal with.

You still have your kids. Both of mine were aborted.
That “choice” wasn’t even up to me,
so I should spend no time dwelling on it.

I’ll live, laugh and love it anyway.

If you keep doing what you've always done... you're gonna keep getting what you always got.

[PhilParticipant 205]

Swimcat, I have been a widower for five years. It feels like one year. I try to remember her every day and not specifically on certain event days. It may seem odd for some men here to see us on this site. I recently learned how manipulative women are towards widowers specifically because our loss has meant a material gain: no mortgage, payment of life insurance, half the spouses pension money.
I am sorry to hear that you are having a tough time around what is the Christmas season. I hope that in the years to come your children will emulate more of the fine characteristics of your wife. Merry Christmas to you and your family.

[HitmanParticipant]

Keymaster wrote:

You still have your kids. Both of mine were aborted.

one of mine as well KM..
and thanks for the great insight ( as usual),
to the holiday “blues” so many of us get.

[Anonymous 0]

Swimcat,

The dating scene for senior gents is brutal these days: Women will go to any lengths (engage in any rip-off) for that easy meal ticket. It makes you paranoid every time a woman takes an interest in you. It makes you hark back to old life with your wife, when you didn’t have to worry about all that crap.

But you still have a lot of life to live. So go have some fun. Nothing gained by sitting around sulking. For New Year’s, schedule a flight out to Vegas or get a last-minute ticket on a holiday cruise for single seniors. Or head out to the Keys and do some bar-hopping, whatever. Just don’t get married again; lightning doesn’t strike the same person twice. 🙂

[Anonymous 54]

Sorry for your loss Swimcat.

Try to not give holidays too much emotional meaning.

[KeymasterKeymaster]

Hitman wrote:

to the holiday “blues” so many of us get.

I p~~~ on the holiday “blues” now. Quite serious.
I flatly refuse to subscribe to them.

THIS IS THE BEST CHRISTMAS SEASON I HAVE EVER HAD. No bulls~~~. I just had lunch with a good friend. Gave him a nice box of German brandy chocolates and one of those cool wireless speakers for his computer. His face lit up and so did mine when I saw his reaction. He wasn’t even expecting ANYTHING.

• I am rid of the bulls~~~ office politics I dealt with last year
• I set my OWN holiday schedule this year (first time ever)

Can’t beat that.

The last time I flew home to be with family (3 years ago) I received grief the moment I got off the plane because I took a cab and made my own way…. instead of waiting around for some Phantom who didn’t even tell me they were coming.

And on Christmas Eve, I had one glass of wine, and my family thought I shouldn’t drive the rental car (which was bulls~~~ of course) as if I was a kid who didn’t understand responsibility ….. and when I let another family member drive instead, they made a left turn through a red light… and if another car were coming along, we would have been killed.

That’s when I said “f~~~ you” to flying to visit family for Christmas.

When I said “I’ll live” (above)…. I wasn’t kidding.
Holiday blues? Bah humbug.

If you keep doing what you've always done... you're gonna keep getting what you always got.

[SwimcatParticipant 3589]

Many thank brothers for the kind words. It helps this tough time of the year.

Phil, yes we widowers are vulnerable to many merceninary women.

Enjoy the decline, I guess thats why I’m here. To learn defend myself.

I’ll feel better when the whole gang is here tomorrow, but now I’m alone drinking bourbon and watching hockey.

[TicParticipant 4329]

I came to the conclusion that life is about navigating the downs turns. Ups are easy. What defines a man is if he continues after defeats. You’ll be fine. You’re a man. Go out like a man. Live your life and new adventures will come your way if you seek it. And then it’s over. None of us are that special.

God bless peace and freedom.

[bladeParticipant]

A part of grieving a loss gets triggerd by holiday times , birthdays , music and lots of other things maybe even for you seeing a couple hand in hand . I suffer bad ptsd which i have found that mastering your mind with for me the following which sometimes can be hard but try to be thoughtful of your thoughts .

I try to use humor on things normally which helps me cope .

If i see something that triggers i try hard to be aware of self thoughts and switch it to memories of happiness and laughs .

This might sound a bit strange but i sometimes think how fast life goes by in the blink of an eye . Think back to when you were a kid and it seems like yesterday . Thus it won’t be long till your reunited with the ones you love .

If you had passed away and were looking over your loved ones what would you like to see with those you have left behind ?

Best whishes to you and your family

THE PLANTATION HAS NOW TURNED INTO THE KILLING FIELDS . WOMAN ARE NOW ROLLING CAMBODIAN STYLE .

[KeymasterKeymaster]

Swimcat wrote:

I’m alone drinking bourbon and watching hockey.

Raise your glass to the MILLIONS of husbands who would give their eye teeth to be able to say the same. They are packed into shopping malls and Costcos as we speak. Buying 6 jumbo jars of mayonnaise “on sale”, because everyone always thinks they’re running out.

https://www.instagram.com/miserable_men/?hl=en

Swimcat wrote:

I’ll feel better when the whole gang is here tomorrow

Feel better today.

Don’t make me come over there. I’ll bring a bottle of Jack and soup ladle.

If you keep doing what you've always done... you're gonna keep getting what you always got.

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