I messed up!

[bomwaParticipant 488]

Enjoy The Decline wrote:

Timsen wrote:

Well… Her new proposal… To split expanses and split the rest i half….
Which means that if she makes 3k$ a month and i make 7k$ a month and our total expenses is 4k$ a month, then we have to split the rest 6k$ in two for each of us and use them as we like. I am okay to pay more for some budget things but split everything evenly sound a bit like nightmare.

Problem is also that she cant work for the next 1,5 year because of pregnacy and baby the first year. And i just dont really feel like that i will be getting anything for those money, all i hear is excuses from her for why things didnt work out.

What the hell do i need to do?

Man, I think you with your major in software engineering are smart enough to think through what she is trying to do to you. She is making it really obvious that she treating you like a sucker, even with your computer major. I am even sure that her family do not give a cr*p about you and are just feeding her sh*t on how she should deal with you because she seems to always go to them for advice and comfort. Would you really want to deal with her family for the rest of your life? If you get her, you will get the whole family, and I doubt that they care about your well being as much as they do their daughter/sister.

Yep. It is hard enough to deal with the woman on a one-to-one basis. But if she is going to play you against her family that is next level pain.

I have a great-Uncle in Canada. He told the story about how he got married. His woman had invited her family over to Canada for a visit. Apparently, she and the family started putting him through various s~~~ tests. One day, they were out doing some tourist stuff. There was a bridge. Her family was on one side and he was on the bridge with her.

He said to her, if you walk over the bridge to your family we are done. You either come with me now or you go with them forever. She chose the latter, and they have been married ever since.

I have no idea if the story is true. But I can believe it because this guy is a non-nonsense man. He doesn’t take s~~~ from anyone.

So it sounds like the scale of your war is even greater than we first thought. You also need to defeat her family. If you don’t, you will be a bitch to not only your wife, but also her mother. F~~~ THAT.

[Deadly RaverParticipant]

Timsen wrote:

Little update…

Just talked to her, and told her that i dont want anything to do with joint account. She got pretty p~~~ed and drove over to her parents to talk…

Im feeling a bit like shut right now…

Updates will follow

Of course you feel bad. Now I want you to remember that feeling, and realize that you have dodged a MUCH worse feeling. This SAME s~~~ was tried on me………and get this……….I’M NOT THE DAD NOR EVEN IN A RELATIONSHIP WITH THAT WOMAN!!! I let them stay at my house because my friend at the time asked me to!! Yes. She tried to get my house which I paid for, and you can bet that the law would’ve helped her do it. You do not give in, you do not break down, you do not back off. She gets nothing from you. She does not get to win.

Timsen wrote:

Well… Her new proposal… To split expanses and split the rest i half….
Which means that if she makes 3k$ a month and i make 7k$ a month and our total expenses is 4k$ a month, then we have to split the rest 6k$ in two for each of us and use them as we like. I am okay to pay more for some budget things but split everything evenly sound a bit like nightmare.

Problem is also that she cant work for the next 1,5 year because of pregnacy and baby the first year. And i just dont really feel like that i will be getting anything for those money, all i hear is excuses from her for why things didnt work out.

What the hell do i need to do?

There won’t be an even split. There is NEVER an even split. Somehow, she’ll come up short and you’ll have to ‘help out’ this month…………..then the next month……………and so on until you’re paying for everything, working extra hours, and she’s just keeping her money. Since you stopped her from getting control of your bank accounts, she’s going for the next best thing, that being the money itself. You can bet the phrase,”It’s for the baby.” will come up so often you’ll think you’re hearing an echo. You will have to stand strong and firm and say,”It’s for OUR baby. you better do your part or I’m taking the kid and leaving.” if you have to do that, then do it. if she doesn’t care about her own kid and you do, then it is obvious who should have custody anyway.

Learn from the past, Control the present, and you will know the Future.

[TheroniusParticipant 975]

Yikes!
Get a safe deposit box and start stashing wads of cash in there and don’t tell her about it. If she takes all that time off work, do you really think she’ll EVER go back? And don’t sign anything.
And definitely get the paternity test! If the kid isn’t yours get out of the situation immediately.

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