I have to ask the wife if I can

[WallyParticipant]

A few weeks ago I was preparing my camera gear for my summer dive trips and order a backup camera, why? Because I don’t want to be in the middle of the ocean and have a camera go down and not have a backup, underwater photography is my passion.

I don’t have to ask anyone’s permission, I just do it. Didn’t even give it a second thought.

Was reading Nikon rumors and another guy posted “well I have to ask the wife if I can upgrade from the d300 to the d500.” I had just ordered my backup camera before I read this. It hit home in regards to my freedom.

My father loved, absolutely loved model airplanes, enjoyed looking at the plans on print, it was his passion. I can close my eyes and see the joy on his face as he touches the blueprints, alas he never got to make another one after his marriage.

My Dad had an IQ above 150, I do not, he was a brilliant man and one of the kindest men I have ever known despite his upbringing and abuse by his mother and sister. He told me never get married and live for myself. Don’t listen to me but please listen to him.

Live for you and enjoy what you are passionate about.

"what a waste of a life, to marry, give up your freedom, just for the hope of not dying alone. Don't get married Son."

[Biggvs_DickvsParticipant 3726]

Can’t even imagine having to check with someone before spending my own hard earned money.

Can’t even imagine it…..

"Data, I would be delighted to offer any advice I can on understanding women. When I have some, I'll let you know." --Captain Picard,

[Joey CusackParticipant 1044]

I know what you mean Wally. I like taking cross country motorcycle trips and during my working years I would try to talk some of my married motorcycle riding co workers to join me. “Uh, the wife wouldn’t go for that” is what I would usually hear. “Let’s just go, we’ll be back in 4 weeks, apologize to her then” I would tell them.

The sad thing is that when questioned further about it, the root motivation for going along with what the wife wants is the fear of divorce and losing half their s~~~. That’s no way to live IMHO.

[Can’t Stump TrumpParticipant]

I ask permission from my future self. “Future self? Can I eat three bags of popcorn?”

AW HELL NO!

Women are better at multitasking? Fucking up several things at once is not multitasking.

[TuneoutParticipant]

LOL,yeah so they can mismanage the money like a bunch of drunken politicians.

What is it,80% of consumer spending decisions are done by women – and just look at consumer debt – at all time highs.

Lifes a bitch,but you don't have to marry one!

[WallyParticipant]

Can’t Stump Trump wrote:

I ask permission from my future self. “Future self? Can I eat three bags of popcorn?”

AW HELL NO!

One bag with jalapeños. My buddies and I make a road trip to Denver in 2009 to dive in the aquarium and to see the new Star Trek movie and this gentleman in front of us is eating his popcorn with jalapeños and we try it and it tasted awesome! But I agree not three bags.

"what a waste of a life, to marry, give up your freedom, just for the hope of not dying alone. Don't get married Son."

[Prefer Peace to PieceParticipant 10809]

Wally-

Your dad was a wise man.

One of the worse things about being married, in my opinion, is giving up your personal freedom.

Wives will question you about every dime you spend. Wives will also question you about every second of your personal time. Wives will often be happy to argue with you about anything she doesn’t agree with.

When I become MGTOW, I felt like I was released from a penitentiary.

[Anonymous 43]

rule of thumb when you are married

Something she wants, answer is always yes, or she will do it anyways
Something you want, answer is always no, divorce is looming large.

In my marriage, I stopped asking for anything. I stopped wanting anything. I just stopped.
Her spending was off the charts, scrapbook s~~~, baskets candles, pillows trips, clothing, new car whatever, I don’t care any more, just let me live.

[Anonymous 3]

You think Chad ever checks with a woman before he does something? Of course not.

Women absolutely do not want to actually make a decision. But pussy men beg mommy to tell them what to do. And then these same pussies wonder why the women aren’t sexually attracted to them. It’d be weirder if they were, it’d be like incest.

Women already have pussies. They don’t want another pussy.

[sidecarParticipant 35862]

Biggvs_Dickvs wrote:

Can’t even imagine having to check with someone before spending my own hard earned money.

Especially when she doesn’t have to check with you before she spends your hard earned money. Remember: telling a woman to control her spending is a form of domestic abuse. I wish I was making this up.

[JackinovParticipant 5229]

Yeah that has to be one of the most cringe worthy statements I could hear another man utter- I mean what the hell is the logic behind asking if you can spend your OWN money like you are a little boy asking for some of mommies money to get an ice-cream.

It has to be one of the highest forms of self-humiliation really- and I’m sure women know this, that they know exactly what they are doing when this happens. Personally, I think it gives them sick thrills every time he asks, and more so when she power-trips and says no, which I’m sure happens more often than not.

Utterly pathetic.

are you a chia pet in man drag

[Anonymous 6]

The thing that I’ve noticed is that a good many men, dare I say most men, can’t say the word “no” to a woman. It’s an epidemic. I guess that it’s the blue pill programming. Honestly the first time I said “no” to a female I loved it. She got p~~~ed. It was if I took a baby’s pacifier away. The look’s that these women would give later in life when they’d hear that word.

[Mr. ManParticipant 2916]

Shamefully, during my first marriage, I remember landing a windfall of around $60.00–money my wife would not know about if I didn’t tell her. And with that windfall I bought a fishing rod, tailored to landing steelhead on my local, PNW rivers, specifically the Puyallup, Nisqually and Skagit Rivers.

I will never, ever, in my remaining years on this planet, find myself in the submissive position of hiding a small purchase I made with money I earned. F~~~ that.

[black_knightParticipant 2602]

Along the same lines, I often browse classic cars on ebay. I noticed a recurring pattern in the adverts. I’d Often see the phrase “The wife says I can’t keep this car anymore, so she’s got to go”.

I felt like sending an angry email, lol. It p~~~ed me off that much.

If there’s one thing I cannot bear to see, it’s men asking their wives’ permission for things like this. It really lowers my respect for them. If it lowers my respect, imagine how it lowers a woman’s.

[OldBillParticipant]

As a lifelong bachelor, “asking the wife” has always been a go-to joke for me.

It usually works like this. I’ll be sitting around with some men shooting the s~~~ when one of us suggests doing something like grabbing a steak, going to the ballgame, canoeing, etc.

As everyone chimes in with a yes or no, there’s always some poor bastard who says he needs to check with his wife first. That’s when I say have to check with my wife, wait a few seconds, and then say she’ll let me go.

it never fails to get laughs and a few f~~~ yous.

Do not date. Do not impregnate. Do not co-habitate. Above all, do not marry. Reclaim and never again surrender your personal sovereignty.

[DanceMyOwnWayParticipant 2097]

Women love to control and influence men…full stop – wives, mothers, girlfriends etc. But it doesn’t turn any woman you might happen to want on. Neither a females need for control or what turns her on should be of real interest to a MGHOW.

If you fall down 7 times, get up 8

[Jim01Participant 6678]

Just spent a fortune on PSVR and a load of games for it…my money so my choice and I can’t wait to start playing it all over the bank holiday weekend

no harpy to bug me about “wasting money” while she goes out and buys her 50th pair of shoes.

But this is standard behaviour – I have given up on old friends because the girlfriend/wife won’t ever allow him to go out. Just can’t be bothered with “men” like that anymore (and when I have met the girlfriend on the odd occasion I can feel the hate coming off them in waves towards me, usually followed by some sort of shaming language because we all know women can’t handle men who don’t want a woman in their life)

[NoMoreParticipant 1233]

Anonymous wrote:

rule of thumb when you are married

Something she wants, answer is always yes, or she will do it anyways
Something you want, answer is always no, divorce is looming large.

In my marriage, I stopped asking for anything. I stopped wanting anything. I just stopped.

Exactly! She asked me because she knew I didn’t mind and if I later balked at the pattern of behavior, she’d throw it back at me that I had said yes. It was a death by a thousand cuts.

If it was something I wanted, I had to have a 5 page action plan and a power point on why I needed to buy or do something.

I was ashamed when my buddy wanted to sell me an inexpensive deer rifle and I told him I had to ask my wife. I was ashamed when my friends asked if I wanted to go fishing or hunting and I told them I had to ask my wife. It didn’t interfered with our family life, but I was ashamed because I had been gradually conditioned to ‘need’ permission like a child asking to use the restroom.

So.. NoMore

A co-worker recently told me, "If you want to see who someone really is, divorce them." I have found out how true this is. When your wife drops the façade of being the caring partner, you will witness all of the greed, hate, and spite that she has masked. It is truly breathtaking!

[BraceParticipant 467]

this is a very common theme nowadays. I’m a pc gamer and in many many forums discussing pc hardware I’ll usually come across phrases like “wife won’t allow it” “wife said next Christmas to buy new gpu” or “me and my wife can’t afford x and y” I cringe whenever I read stuff like that. and they seem to take pride in it..

[Jim01Participant 6678]

Brace wrote:

this is a very common theme nowadays. I’m a pc gamer and in many many forums discussing pc hardware I’ll usually come across phrases like “wife won’t allow it” “wife said next Christmas to buy new gpu” or “me and my wife can’t afford x and y” I cringe whenever I read stuff like that. and they seem to take pride in it..

I read a gaming website with two inboxes every day and there are loads of those “if the wife allows” type of messages all the time. Pretty pathetic, and yeah, the worst part is you can almost feel that they are proud of the fact they have to ask….

it is like their wife is their new mum

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