I didn't want to be just another statistic

[JustAnotherGuyParticipant]

Anonymous wrote:

JAG you are not just another guy, you are my long lost brother. Welcome home.

Thanks. Fortunately, I really didn’t have anything to take at the time (I made good money, but no savings or accrued wealth I could be sued for), and because the cheater was getting a good dicking, she didn’t feel like screwing me for life despite her girlfriend’s (I had access to her emails, I know what she said about me) suggestions. I got off easy compared to other men whose stories I’ve read since then.

But I’m wide awake.

Cupcakes are Cold. MGTOW is Absolute Zero.
“Let us wait a little; when your enemy is executing a false movement, never interrupt him” –Napoleon Bonaparte, 1805

[JustAnotherGuyParticipant]

Jack Harper wrote:

Welcome. Great intro. Back around Thanksgiving I spent with a good friend who is also divorced. Wife cheated. We were talking about how as we processed and researched our situations we were shocked to find out how completely common our stories are.

Isn’t it ironic? All the entertainment you see, all the stories you hear broadcast on the news, it’s always the man who is the cheater. But then when you zoom out and look at the statistics, and you realize that’s maybe 1/8th of the data…it’s a staggering thing to realize.

Male cheaters are punished severely. The women who take vengeance on them are celebrated. The reverse is swept under the rug.

Cupcakes are Cold. MGTOW is Absolute Zero.
“Let us wait a little; when your enemy is executing a false movement, never interrupt him” –Napoleon Bonaparte, 1805

[narwhalParticipant]

So what has happened with your child? It sounds like she was a horrible mother, so hopefully you have custody.

Ok. Then do it.

[JustAnotherGuyParticipant]

@narwhal

We have joint custody. She’s been mostly civil as long as things go her way.

Despite what I may think and what I observed about her behavior, despite the fact that her current husband was the drug connection at her part-time job where they met and despite the fact that I always smell cigarette smoke on her when the weekly exchange happens, I don’t actually have any proof that I could submit to court, and the mom has to be the most abject of f~~~-ups for the family court to side with the dad.

I’ve got him just slightly more than she does because of how the weekly schedule got divided. The one good thing about my state, despite how s~~~ty family courts are in general, is that out-of-court mediation does attempt to achieve equal parenting time, or as close as can be achieved.

Cupcakes are Cold. MGTOW is Absolute Zero.
“Let us wait a little; when your enemy is executing a false movement, never interrupt him” –Napoleon Bonaparte, 1805

[IRuleMeParticipant]

JustAnotherGuy wrote:

I’ve lurked around what could be called the “manosphere” for the last 5-6 years since getting divorced.

I came to realize, through the chronicles of my brethren, that my story isn’t special, and I’m really not unique. It’s nothing that I did and nothing that I was. My grandfathers and great grandfathers failed in little ways that added up to create big problems.

I refuse to bend the knee.

The rage helps you get distance from the pain. But you need time shut away from the world, with only your thoughts, to get perspective. The rage cannot fuel you forever.

All women are, in point of fact, like that. It’s just an expression of biological instincts that we used to check as a social primate living in communities. We tightened the yoke on men and released the women. The women chose to behave like children, and the men are left with the responsibility of keeping everything moving forward.

The harsh, unfortunate reality is – None of us are special. And neither are the c~~~s we played around with, or married. They weren’t special either. As you’ve no doubt noticed, too many men have been through the same s~~~. That isn’t by chance. That’s by design.

Women ARE like children. Overgrown, fickle, indecisive children. Always playing games (s~~~ tests) and always looking for greener pastures. Then have the gall to wonder why they can’t find a guy to play their game.

[IRuleMeParticipant]

JustAnotherGuy wrote:

Jack Harper wrote:

Welcome. Great intro. Back around Thanksgiving I spent with a good friend who is also divorced. Wife cheated. We were talking about how as we processed and researched our situations we were shocked to find out how completely common our stories are.

Isn’t it ironic? All the entertainment you see, all the stories you hear broadcast on the news, it’s always the man who is the cheater. But then when you zoom out and look at the statistics, and you realize that’s maybe 1/8th of the data…it’s a staggering thing to realize.

Male cheaters are punished severely. The women who take vengeance on them are celebrated. The reverse is swept under the rug.

Marriage is an agreement where the man is held liable for taking the vow, and the women are not. They get a pass, they have an out. How many women are forced to pay child support (or lose the kids for that matter), how many have to pay palimony? Not enough. Men on the other hand, and only in the western court systems could this make any irrational sense whatsoever – men must pay a female who CHOOSES to leave the relationship, and subsidize her to simply exist as a living person in this world till the end of her days. What a f~~~ing scam.

[It’sallbsParticipant]

IRuleMe wrote:

None of us are special.

http://www.leavemeansleave.eu

[JustAnotherGuyParticipant]

IRuleMe wrote:

JustAnotherGuy wrote:

Jack Harper wrote:

Welcome. Great intro. Back around Thanksgiving I spent with a good friend who is also divorced. Wife cheated. We were talking about how as we processed and researched our situations we were shocked to find out how completely common our stories are.

Isn’t it ironic? All the entertainment you see, all the stories you hear broadcast on the news, it’s always the man who is the cheater. But then when you zoom out and look at the statistics, and you realize that’s maybe 1/8th of the data…it’s a staggering thing to realize.

Male cheaters are punished severely. The women who take vengeance on them are celebrated. The reverse is swept under the rug.

Marriage is an agreement where the man is held liable for taking the vow, and the women are not. They get a pass, they have an out. How many women are forced to pay child support (or lose the kids for that matter), how many have to pay palimony? Not enough. Men on the other hand, and only in the western court systems could this make any irrational sense whatsoever – men must pay a female who CHOOSES to leave the relationship, and subsidize her to simply exist as a living person in this world till the end of her days. What a f~~~ing scam.

Women are incapable of the abstract thinking necessary to truly empathize with the plight of another human being. They only understand consequences when it directly affects them personally, which is why all of the female men’s rights activists have sons.

Solipsism is their baseline.

Cupcakes are Cold. MGTOW is Absolute Zero.
“Let us wait a little; when your enemy is executing a false movement, never interrupt him” –Napoleon Bonaparte, 1805

[JustAnotherGuyParticipant]

It’sallbs wrote:

IRuleMe wrote:

None of us are special.

This was actually the most important piece of wisdom that my father imparted to me, when I was 9.

You aren’t special, nobody else gives a Damn about you. Take care of yourself.

Cupcakes are Cold. MGTOW is Absolute Zero.
“Let us wait a little; when your enemy is executing a false movement, never interrupt him” –Napoleon Bonaparte, 1805

[It’sallbsParticipant]

JustAnotherGuy wrote:

You aren’t special, nobody else gives a Damn about you

http://www.leavemeansleave.eu

[JustAnotherGuyParticipant]

It’sallbs wrote:

JustAnotherGuy wrote:

You aren’t special, nobody else gives a Damn about you

You’re a man. Men have to deal with harsh and uncomfortable truths. It’s why we’re not women.

Women can’t even understand that they’re not special. Let that sink in.

Cupcakes are Cold. MGTOW is Absolute Zero.
“Let us wait a little; when your enemy is executing a false movement, never interrupt him” –Napoleon Bonaparte, 1805

[It’sallbsParticipant]

JustAnotherGuy wrote:

Women can’t even understand that they’re not special.

http://www.leavemeansleave.eu

[Gravel PitParticipant]

MGTOW Rules, Marrige Drools

Welcome to MGTOW bro. Sorry to hear about your story. I narrowly missed marriage and fatherhood. Had MANY close calls but I escaped (even though that is not what I wanted at the time, I was blue pill but now I know I got very lucky)

single, happy, sober, freedom

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