I didn't want to be just another statistic

[JustAnotherGuyParticipant]

And yet here we are.

I lived like a MGTOW without having a name for it. In middle school, when the other boys were chasing cheerleaders and track stars, I was the nerd saying “there has to be more to life than the pursuit of pussy.”

I was one of those nerds in college focused on school work and getting that square paper at the end.

Then I got into real life. I got my first real job and a girlfriend came with it. Several years passed, and we decided to have a kid and get married. After 4 years together we eloped in Vegas. The kid came shortly after and I was over the moon.

And she wasn’t. She lied to my face for months. She cheated on me. She avoided her six month old kid and crawled home at 6 in the morning just to not face me. The change was abrupt. I tried to understand.

Nothing made her happy. She wanted out, but I wasn’t abusive and there was nothing objectively wrong–I made good money and she only worked part time.

I went through the grinder of divorce court. She turned into a c~~~. We were both pretty poor, with no significant savings, and so we eschewed lawyers. I would later connect the dots that she was getting her ego stroked by this other dude and knew if I could prove infidelity, it would destroy her case and neither of us had the money for a prolonged legal battle. She played nice when she thought she was getting what she wanted. She was in love with this new dude and I didn’t put that together until it was too late.

She was emotionally unstable. I wasn’t sleeping. And then I discovered Sand Man and Star-Dusk. I started getting Tom Leykis recommendations in my YouTube feed. Turd Flinging Monkey was this shiny new channel with about 5 videos. “She’ll never love you” changed my perspective.

I studied biology and sociology in the free time I had where I wasn’t emotionally wrecked. I was determined to put the picture together.

And I finally did. But I’m just another dude.

My story isn’t special or different. I’m just another man who was abused by a system that was engineered to run on autopilot.

I’m less angry. I function socially when I need to. I’m a ghost when I don’t.

I’ve been going my own way since middle school. I just got lost for awhile.

Cupcakes are Cold. MGTOW is Absolute Zero.
“Let us wait a little; when your enemy is executing a false movement, never interrupt him” –Napoleon Bonaparte, 1805

[Anonymous 38]

Welcome bro, good intro. Just another dude here too.

[RemovedParticipant 4676]

Sadly, you described every modern women in your introduction. Things are not looking to get better either. Women are being called out more each day, and instead of seeing their mistakes, they are blaming them on men for pointing them out. We are supposed to except this irrational and irresponsible behavior, and accept what they want, when they want it. Men are the slaves, Government the master, women their whips and chains. Avoid the whips and chains, and you will limit to what amount of enforcement that the master can put upon you. MGTOW is freedom.

Welcome to the Jungle.

[Meek MillParticipant 90]

Great intro. Sorry to hear you’ve been going through this. But your story helps. Especially me for a newbie here. Welcome.

[JustAnotherGuyParticipant]

I’ve lurked around what could be called the “manosphere” for the last 5-6 years since getting divorced.

I came to realize, through the chronicles of my brethren, that my story isn’t special, and I’m really not unique. It’s nothing that I did and nothing that I was. My grandfathers and great grandfathers failed in little ways that added up to create big problems.

I refuse to bend the knee.

The rage helps you get distance from the pain. But you need time shut away from the world, with only your thoughts, to get perspective. The rage cannot fuel you forever.

All women are, in point of fact, like that. It’s just an expression of biological instincts that we used to check as a social primate living in communities. We tightened the yoke on men and released the women. The women chose to behave like children, and the men are left with the responsibility of keeping everything moving forward.

Cupcakes are Cold. MGTOW is Absolute Zero.
“Let us wait a little; when your enemy is executing a false movement, never interrupt him” –Napoleon Bonaparte, 1805

[RemovedParticipant 4676]

Exactly, JustAnotherGuy. Your names makes a good acronym, by the way. Jag, like Jaguar. In a way, we need to be like a predator cat, such as the jaguar. We need to ghost our environment, and use our fierceness to get what is ours. Get too much attention, and women will poach us, too little, and will starve of hunger.

We cannot live on rage along. Rage can fuel ambition, which is good, but you need self-value. If you cannot do things for the sake of doing it for yourself, you will eventually slip into becoming a miserable and spiteful man. Cook elaborate meals for yourself, keep your area logically in order, as men do, enjoy being a man. We are innovators. Make your surroundings unique and fun the way you want it to be. Contentment in life is limited to your willingness to strive for it.

[Anonymous 3]

Welcome & glad you posted.
My main method of dealing with women at this stage of my life is subtle disregard.
Oddly,enough,long after living the MGTOW lifestyle,the old feelings emerge.
The pain is gone,happy to be living a solitary & peaceful existence & boom,a little Tootsie starts looking good again.
That’s why I continue to read & post.
I am wired that way & they are wire in a different way.
I like your perspective.
” I am social when I need to be & a ghost when I don’t”
I need to b reminded & remember
MGTOW is freedom
Thanks again & please continue to contribute

[Anonymous 0]

Welcome home, JustAnotherGuy
Beer’s in the fridge

[JustAnotherGuyParticipant]

Removed wrote:

Exactly, JustAnotherGuy. Your names makes a good acronym, by the way. Jag, like Jaguar. In a way, we need to be like a predator cat, such as the jaguar. We need to ghost our environment, and use our fierceness to get what is ours. Get too much attention, and women will poach us, too little, and will starve of hunger.

I actually chose it because it starts “jagoff”, or “jackoff” if you will. I felt it was suitably impolite while remaining descriptive of the fact that I’m just another one.

Removed wrote:

We cannot live on rage along. Rage can fuel ambition, which is good, but you need self-value […] Contentment in life is limited to your willingness to strive for it.

Agreed. Un-learning that you can only be satisfied in life if you are sacrificing for something is probably the hardest thing I’ve had to do. I wanted that suburban life, the wife and kids. Sadly, that dream was dead long before I was born.

Anonymous wrote:

Welcome & glad you posted.
My main method of dealing with women at this stage of my life is subtle disregard.

My method is “minimum required.” I work with a number of women. Some of them are quite young. A few of them are quite attractive. It is a requirement that I be able to engage with them in order to keep earning my paycheck.

EscapedMentalPatient wrote:

I am wired that way & they are wire in a different way.
I like your perspective.
” I am social when I need to be & a ghost when I don’t”
I need to b reminded & remember
MGTOW is freedom
Thanks again & please continue to contribute

We are *wired* to love women. We are wired by millennia of survival to be the givers and the doers. I have to actively check myself when I feel a reaction coming on that compels me to in some way defend a woman. It’s rooted instinct.

They’re adults. They’re independent. They’re “free.” They can defend themselves. I’m going to go play Overwatch and leave them to clean up their own mess.

Cupcakes are Cold. MGTOW is Absolute Zero.
“Let us wait a little; when your enemy is executing a false movement, never interrupt him” –Napoleon Bonaparte, 1805

[JakeParticipant 908]

look even royalty has to s~~~, we can be extraordinary have fantastic lives and still look ordinary its inside don’t let people dull your flame that motivates you. welcome you are here among some kindred spirits

[RomulusParticipant 4667]

Welcome aboard Just Another Guy. Glad you joined us.

How can a woman be expected to be happy with a man who insists on treating her as if she were a perfectly normal human being.

[UntamedParticipant]

Thank you for this intro, JustAnotherGuy!
While your story is pretty much common, it always sucks and hurts those of us with integrity, we never saw it coming because we wouldn’t think of doing that in the first place but now, after seeing, hearing and reading what those bitches are capable of I don’t put anything past them. They’re all criminals and deserve to rot in prison!
I’m glad you found us, brother, and so glad you found a way out of Red-Pill Rage. It’s taken me a while – too long – but I think I’m overcoming the Rage. I just can’t swallow the pill that this inJustice System and their so-called society want us to gob. Sometimes I want to make everybody pay but then I realise the culprits are untouchable.
You’re among friends, here.
Welcome to mgtow.com, bro, where C~~~s, T~~~s, Hoes, Menginas and other undesirables are kindly asked to f~~~ off.

Don't let them Blame, Shame or Tame you!
Give 'em NOTHING, not even an answer!
#GenderSegragationNow!

[Ranger OneParticipant 16836]

JustAnotherGuy wrote:

My story isn’t special or different. I’m just another man who was abused by a system that was engineered to run on autopilot.

I’m less angry. I function socially when I need to. I’m a ghost when I don’t.

I’ve been going my own way since middle school. I just got lost for awhile.

Welcome back! I, too, drank the Kool-Aid for a while.

That which doesn’t kill us, makes us stronger.

Also, that which doesn’t kill us, had better run faster than us.

All my life I've had doubts about who I am, where I belonged. Now I'm like the arrow that springs from the bow. No hesitation, no doubts. The path is clear. And what are you? Alive. Everything else is negotiable. Women have rights; men have responsibilities; MGTOW have freedom. Marriage is for chumps. If someone stands in the way of true justice, you simply walk up behind them and stab them in the heart-R'as al Ghul.

[Anonymous 18]

Unfortunately for us men, what @Johnnyzero said is very true.

No amount of pain and hurt can counter the male libido in the long run. That is where red pill come in to effect.

Female survival (and thriving) depends on male projection of lustful romanticism on to faux female fairness. Women are amoral, so they have no fairness in their nature when it comes to intersexual dynamics.

Staying away from women can be a difficult task. But the risks are real and so are the consequences.

As Ayn Rand said, ‘you may choose to ignore reality, but you can’t ignore the consequences’.

[Ranger OneParticipant 16836]

Anonymous wrote:

Oddly,enough,long after living the MGTOW lifestyle,the old feelings emerge.
The pain is gone,happy to be living a solitary & peaceful existence & boom,a little Tootsie starts looking good again.

Pussy is a helluva drug, worse than meth or alcohol.

This site is like AA.

We could call it PA, for Pussy Anonymous.

All my life I've had doubts about who I am, where I belonged. Now I'm like the arrow that springs from the bow. No hesitation, no doubts. The path is clear. And what are you? Alive. Everything else is negotiable. Women have rights; men have responsibilities; MGTOW have freedom. Marriage is for chumps. If someone stands in the way of true justice, you simply walk up behind them and stab them in the heart-R'as al Ghul.

[MarketWatcherParticipant]

Fantastic intro. Isn’t it great to know you are not the only one!

Welcome to freedom.

[Jack HarperParticipant 2863]

Welcome. Great intro. Back around Thanksgiving I spent with a good friend who is also divorced. Wife cheated. We were talking about how as we processed and researched our situations we were shocked to find out how completely common our stories are.

[Anonymous 12]

I’ve been going my own way since middle school. I just got lost for awhile.
Welcome back on track.

[Mr. SpockParticipant 10907]

Welcome sir!

Feminism isn't about equality with men, it's about leverage over men.

[Anonymous 43]

JAG you are not just another guy, you are my long lost brother. Welcome home.

We all met a girl, told us what we wanted to hear, made babies with us, lied and cheated on us, turned psycho on us, divorced us, took our homes, our savings and our children and we are left standing in some courthouse saying what the actual f~~~ just happened to me.

So we are all survivors, rebuilding bigger and better for the future that we build for ourselves and without women.

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