How do I control the rage?

[Dashing Young DissidentSpectator]

No matter what I do, how I do it, f~~~ all works out for me. Everything flakes out, turns to s~~~, people c~~~ me off and f~~~ me over, let me down, my family and now ex friends are all c~~~sucking pieces of s~~~ and I’ve been reminded a billion times that I’m the black sheep of this waste of space family, and im so f~~~ing glad for it. Imagine being like those worthless pathetic dick heads. F~~~ that.

Now the problem I have is my mammoth reluctance to go out much these days, because humanity grates on my nerves so much. I f~~~ing hate people in general. Wherever I go there are crowds of the c~~~s p~~~ing all over the atmosphere and even shopping at the supermarket is a huge hassle for me.

I’m possessed with rage and hatred, and I never used to be like this. I have a zero tolerance for bulls~~~. Despite this i still waste my f~~~ing time being civil and polite to people, even though 9 times out of 10 they will not reciprocate.

There comes a time in a mans life where you draw a f~~~ing line and say enough is enough. That time came for me a few years ago. So my daily grind consists of seething and wasting my time trying to better myself.

All these motherf~~~ers who p~~~ed on me in the past and made my life a misery are no where to be seen now im a grown adult, hiding like the pussy cowards they are. How id love to decimate them all. I know i know, it wont change s~~~, but id love to go back in time as who i am now and f~~~ing destroy them.

Whatever i do, nothing takes this debilitating malaise away. Other people are the problem not me. Today at the supermarket i had two c~~~s cut me up by not looking where they were going, and getting a feeble ‘sorry’. If you cant even look where you are going, then f~~~ing kill yourself. Stay out of my f~~~ing way. Lol.

I dont think its keeewl or tough to be angry and miserable and violently minded like i am these days, i actually feel very sad inside. It’s mentally taxing.

What can i do to control this undying rage? Hobbies and activities dont change the fact that when im around other people who p~~~ me off i will lose my temper in the blink of an eye.

Anyway, thanks again for reading another rant of mine. I’m gunna go and watch Ghostbusters.

[Anonymous 25]

Two things will really help.

1) meet your basic emotional needs, which are:

•Security — safe territory and an environment which allows us to develop fully
•Attention (to give and receive it) — a form of nutrition
•Sense of autonomy and control — having volition to make responsible choices
•Emotional intimacy — to know that at least one other person accepts us totally for who we are, “warts ‘n’ all”
•Feeling part of a wider community
•Privacy — opportunity to reflect and consolidate experience
•Sense of status within social groupings
•Sense of competence and achievement
•Meaning and purpose — which come from being stretched in what we do and think.

2) Learn to reframe things rather than give them angry interpretations. Rather than “people cut me up in supermarket”, if you think “oooh that poor person must be really stressed and have a lot on their mind, maybe their having a really difficult time” you wont make yourself angry.

As an extra, if you do get angry do some 7-11 breathing and wait at least 20 mins. Let’s the brain cool down and think straight again.

[Dashing Young DissidentSpectator]

Anonymous wrote:

Two things will really help.

1) meet your basic emotional needs, which are:

•Security — safe territory and an environment which allows us to develop fully
•Attention (to give and receive it) — a form of nutrition
•Sense of autonomy and control — having volition to make responsible choices
•Emotional intimacy — to know that at least one other person accepts us totally for who we are, “warts ‘n’ all”
•Feeling part of a wider community
•Privacy — opportunity to reflect and consolidate experience
•Sense of status within social groupings
•Sense of competence and achievement
•Meaning and purpose — which come from being stretched in what we do and think.

2) Learn to reframe things rather than give them angry interpretations. Rather than “people cut me up in supermarket”, if you think “oooh that poor person must be really stressed and have a lot on their mind, maybe their having a really difficult time” you wont make yourself angry.

As an extra, if you do get angry do some 7-11 breathing and wait at least 20 mins. Let’s the brain cool down and think straight again.

Hey man, thanks very much for the reply. I know I sound like a whining little angsty girl on her period, and believe me I hate feeling like this, its such a waste of time.

But what you’re saying about interpreting people different, isn’t that just being passive? Letting them off the hook? They said sorry so that was fine, i dont say anymore about it and get on with my day. (Or try to, lol.)

My problem is that people are so brain dead and ignorant today, you can’t even get the basics out of them. But i do understand what you’re saying, I really do.

[Anonymous 0]

Dashing Young Dissident wrote:

[…]Now the problem I have is my mammoth reluctance to go out much these days, because humanity grates on my nerves so much. I f~~~ing hate people in general. Wherever I go there are crowds of the c~~~s p~~~ing all over the atmosphere and even shopping at the supermarket is a huge hassle for me. […]

Just don’t even go there. Don’t rage. Just opt out.

Think of an analogy. You’re driving along and you get stuck behind some old, half-blind guy driving 10 miles under the speed limit. And you can’t pass. You have a choice: You can rage and tailgate and honk your horn and drive yourself nuts (and the old guy probably won’t drive any faster anyway). Or you can just turn on the radio, back off and give the old guy room, and enjoy the day. Maybe stop off for a cup of coffee. You can figure, “F~~~ it, it’s not that big a deal, I’m not going to let it ruin my day.”

In other words, don’t let the small s~~~ get to you. Yes, Feminism is ruining the world. But when some individual dingbat cuts you off, that’s not “Feminism” with a capital F. It’s just one more average dummy doing a dumb thing. That’s just small s~~~. And you shouldn’t let the small s~~~ get to you.

I could give lots of other examples. Some dumb-ass taking a stupid political position. Teenagers engaging in petty vandalism. And so on. Lots of small things to rage about, if you’re prone to rage. But it’s really best not to let rage rule you.

Free your mind and your ass will follow, and all that.

[Dashing Young DissidentSpectator]

Anonymous wrote:

Dashing Young Dissident wrote:

[…]Now the problem I have is my mammoth reluctance to go out much these days, because humanity grates on my nerves so much. I f~~~ing hate people in general. Wherever I go there are crowds of the c~~~s p~~~ing all over the atmosphere and even shopping at the supermarket is a huge hassle for me. […]

Just don’t even go there. Don’t rage. Just opt out.

Think of an analogy. You’re driving along and you get stuck behind some old, half-blind guy driving 10 miles under the speed limit. And you can’t pass. You have a choice: You can rage and tailgate and honk your horn and drive yourself nuts (and the old guy probably won’t drive any faster anyway). Or you can just turn on the radio, back off and give the old guy room, and enjoy the day. Maybe stop off for a cup of coffee. You can figure, “F~~~ it, it’s not that big a deal, I’m not going to let it ruin my day.”

In other words, don’t let the small s~~~ get to you. Yes, Feminism is ruining the world. But when some individual dingbat cuts you off, that’s not “Feminism” with a capital F. It’s just one more average dummy doing a dumb thing. That’s just small s~~~. And you shouldn’t let the small s~~~ get to you.

I could give lots of other examples. Some dumb-ass taking a stupid political position. Teenagers engaging in petty vandalism. And so on. Lots of small things to rage about, if you’re prone to rage. But it’s really best not to let rage rule you.

Free your mind and your ass will follow, and all that.

It’s a really hard thing to do though when you’re stuck at work with these type of assholes, day in day out. I only work weekends at the moment but its more than enough bulls~~~ and aggravation for me.

I usually have to pop 90 mg of codeine before i walk through the door to help me not give a f~~~ and clock out of reality for the entire time i am there. Sad but true.

[Anonymous 0]

Dashing Young Dissident wrote:

It’s a really hard thing to do though when you’re stuck at work with these type of assholes, day in day out. I only work weekends at the moment but its more than enough bulls~~~ and aggravation for me.

I usually have to pop 90 mg of codeine before i walk through the door to help me not give a f~~~ and clock out of reality for the entire time i am there. Sad but true.

Hey, I’m sympathetic. I’m 60 and retired early. But I played beat-the-clock rat race for a lot of decades. Had female co-workers, including one or two who really tried to screw me over.

Anyway, I hate feminism. But I can get along with individual women, even when they’re being totally dingbat or totally c~~~-ish. It’s like getting along with children. I really don’t like children. I wish that children would act and talk more like adults, so that I could relate with them on an adult basis rather than having to deal with them at their level. But they’re children. So I put up with their childish s~~~.

Same with women. It’s f~~~ing stupid that I should have to patronize them. But they don’t know any better, and I really can’t get in their face and yell at them about their petty feminine rip-offs any more than I can get in a kid’s face and yell at them for being a kid.

So I just suck it up. I chalk it up as “small s~~~” and decide that I’m not going to let “small s~~~” ruin my day.

These days, I socialize in mixed company. Woman can be a real pain in the ass. (I wrote a post earlier this evening about older single women hitting on me, looking for a meal ticket going into old age.) But if I put up effective barriers against their worst rip-offs and give them a break on the rest of it, then it’s not awful. Like with kids, I can even grow to like some of those women over time.

To sum up: I don’t like children as a whole–too much work. But I try not to take it out on individual kids that I run into from one day to the next. Same with women. I hate feminism. But I try not to take it out on individual women.

[StandUpGuyParticipant 334]

I read through the tread; and so much good advice. Just know that learning to love yourself takes time. I had to go through the same thing; it does get better.

[Dashing Young DissidentSpectator]

Anonymous wrote:

Dashing Young Dissident wrote:

It’s a really hard thing to do though when you’re stuck at work with these type of assholes, day in day out. I only work weekends at the moment but its more than enough bulls~~~ and aggravation for me.

I usually have to pop 90 mg of codeine before i walk through the door to help me not give a f~~~ and clock out of reality for the entire time i am there. Sad but true.

Hey, I’m sympathetic. I’m 60 and retired early. But I played beat-the-clock rat race for a lot of decades. Had female co-workers, including one or two who really tried to screw me over.

Anyway, I hate feminism. But I can get along with individual women, even when they’re being totally dingbat or totally c~~~-ish. It’s like getting along with children. I wish that children would act and talk more like adults, so that I could relate with them on an adult basis rather than having to patronize them at their level. But they’re children. So I put up with their childish s~~~.

Same with women. It’s f~~~ing stupid that I should have to patronize them. But they don’t know any better, and I really can’t get in their face and point out their inconsistencies any more than I can get in a kid’s face and yell at them for being a kid.

So I just suck it up. I chalk it up as “small s~~~” and decide that I’m not going to let “small s~~~” ruin my day.

These days, I socialize in mixed company. Woman can be a real pain in the ass. (I did a post earlier about older single women hitting on me, looking for a meal ticket going into old age.) But if I put up effective barriers (personal boundaries) to their worst rip-offs and give them a break on the rest of it, then it’s not awful. Like kids, I can even grow to like some of those women.

I hate feminism. But I try not to take it out on individual women.

Once i get my own place, a job, some dignity, then i will be able to choose to avoid all these scum sucking algae and avoid them like the plague. As it is at the moment, i have to associate with people I despise because i have no choice and need money etc, its bloody horrible relying on other people it really is. Makes you feel worthless and like a kid.

I’m still f~~~ing p~~~ed off with my last relations~~~ because the bitch was such a nasty c~~~ that she deserves a beating and public shaming. She put me through hell and gets away with it. I hope her and her wretched kid get hit by a f~~~ing oncoming truck next time they in their car. Hope the whore burns in f~~~ing hell.

[uchibenkeiParticipant 7965]

i’m not an expert, but i don’t think you should control your rage. let it out. Beat the s~~~ out of a punching bag at the gym, scream at the wall, pop off some rounds at the gun range, play american football or rugby, connect with your masculinity on a camping trip or something.

I bathe in the tears of single moms.

[Anonymous 0]

Dashing Young Dissident wrote:

Once i get my own place, a job, some dignity, then i will be able to choose to avoid all these scum sucking algae and avoid them like the plague. As it is at the moment, i have to associate with people I despise because i have no choice and need money etc, its bloody horrible relying on other people it really is. Makes you feel worthless and like a kid.

Yes, definitely. Getting your own place is key. If you can get off by yourself and decompress, then it’s easier to be “zen” about life’s little irritations. Let it roll off your back.

Dashing Young Dissident wrote:

I’m still f~~~ing p~~~ed off with my last relations~~~ because the bitch was such a nasty c~~~ that she deserves a beating and public shaming. She put me through hell and gets away with it.

Heh. I was married twice for a total of 20 years to two narcissists. The second ex put me through a hostile divorce lasting two years. I probably spent 75k on legal costs, since I had to pay both sides. She didn’t have an independent income, so I had to carry her costs as well as mine. And that doesn’t even include splitting the assets, the house, the pension…

I really mourned the first divorce, because I couldn’t figure out what went wrong. But I got over the second one a lot quicker because I realized that *I* was making some really bad choices in terms of women. So I did a lot of reading up on narcissism, co-dependency, and enabling. Once I had that knowledge under my belt and could see what went wrong, I felt a lot better. Even though I had wasted 20 years of my life on two really nasty, controlling women, at least I finally knew what happened and could make sure not to fall into the same trap again.

Anyway, try not to spend too much time looking in the rear-view mirror. Figure out what went wrong, put up some personal boundaries to make sure it doesn’t happen again, and move on. Look to the future and figure out what makes you happy. Start looking at new projects, experiment, have fun. Just don’t get married. 🙂

[Dashing Young DissidentSpectator]

uchibenkei wrote:

i’m not an expert, but i don’t think you should control your rage. let it out. Beat the s~~~ out of a punching bag at the gym, scream at the wall, pop off some rounds at the gun range, play american football or rugby, connect with your masculinity on a camping trip or something.

I have a punch bag, and i run over cats in my car (just joking lol), but it doesnt expel the deep rooted abhorrence i have inside.

I’d love to shoot guns in a gun range but they dont have that in NZ here or UK where im from. (Not as far as i know). And im a broke ass peasant surviving on morsels of food and can barely rub two pennies together most days. Most of my money that i do earn goes on my son.

I would like friendships, something to do outside of a house, but i have no money nothing.

Back in 2010 i was at the gym working out, lifting weights, and felt so good. I miss those days. When my broken hand heals i will be straight back into the gym and sorting this f~~~ing mess out. I can’t live like this much longer without killing someone inadvertently.

[Anonymous 0]

Dashing Young Dissident wrote:

Back in 2010 i was at the gym working out, lifting weights, and felt so good. I miss those days. When my broken hand heals i will be straight back into the gym and sorting this f~~~ing mess out. I can’t live like this much longer without killing someone inadvertently.

Working out is great. That’s what I’m doing these days. Right after I separated from my 2nd ex, I hit the gym and started getting back in shape. I’ve lost 75 pounds over the least 5-6 years. The gym will definitely help.

[Dashing Young DissidentSpectator]

Anonymous wrote:

Dashing Young Dissident wrote:

Once i get my own place, a job, some dignity, then i will be able to choose to avoid all these scum sucking algae and avoid them like the plague. As it is at the moment, i have to associate with people I despise because i have no choice and need money etc, its bloody horrible relying on other people it really is. Makes you feel worthless and like a kid.

Yes, definitely. Getting your own place is key. If you can get off by yourself and decompress, then it’s easier to be “zen” about life’s little irritations. Let it roll off your back.

Dashing Young Dissident wrote:

I’m still f~~~ing p~~~ed off with my last relations~~~ because the bitch was such a nasty c~~~ that she deserves a beating and public shaming. She put me through hell and gets away with it.

Heh. I was married twice for a total of 20 years to two narcissists. The second ex put me through a hostile divorce lasting two years. I probably spent 75k on legal costs, since I had to pay both sides. She didn’t have an independent income, so I had to carry her costs as well as mine.

I really mourned the first divorce, because I couldn’t figure out what went wrong. But I got over the second one a lot quicker because I realized that *I* was making some really bad choices in terms of women. So I did a lot of reading up on narcissism, co-dependency, and enabling. Once I had that knowledge under my belt and could see what went wrong, I felt a lot better. Even though I had wasted 20 years of my life on two really nasty, controlling women, at least I finally knew what happened and could make sure not to fall into the same trap again.

Anyway, try not to spend too much time looking in the rear-view mirror. Figure out what went wrong, put up some personal boundaries to make sure it doesn’t happen again, and move on. Look to the future and figure out what makes you happy. Start looking at new projects, experiment, have fun. Just don’t get married.

I have never been sickened more by woman than of late. I despise them. They are a walking disease to men. Yet i still see dickheads impregnating these f~~~ing cesspits with their 3rd 4th 5th kid etc. These men are just as much to blame, and are on the same par of wretchedness as the bitches they knock up. I’ve seen these manginas at my sons school, being berated by some repulsive yeti with t~~~.

It’s a daily onslaught of these f~~~ing slags it really is. They infest every place you go to. They drag along screaming spawn and ruin everything. “Look at me!!! I’m a breeding machine! Thats all I ‘contribute’ to society!”.

But hey, im so glad i see them for everything they are now. I’m going to point and laugh at them from now, and their pathetic manginas

[Dashing Young DissidentSpectator]

Anonymous wrote:

Dashing Young Dissident wrote:

Back in 2010 i was at the gym working out, lifting weights, and felt so good. I miss those days. When my broken hand heals i will be straight back into the gym and sorting this f~~~ing mess out. I can’t live like this much longer without killing someone inadvertently.

Working out is great. That’s what I’m doing these days. Right after I separated from my 2nd ex, I hit the gym and started getting back in shape. I’ve lost 75 pounds over the least 5-6 years. The gym will definitely help.

Nice one, working out is so beneficial to the mind. It was the only thing battling my depression. I met so many decent people at the gym as well. Even one hot woman i met was actually worth talking to. F~~~ing amazing figure but married. Her husbands was a really cool dude actually.

[Anonymous 0]

Dashing Young Dissident wrote:

I have never been sickened more by woman than of late. I despise them. They are a walking disease to men. Yet i still see dickheads impregnating these f~~~ing cesspits with their 3rd 4th 5th kid etc. These men are just as much to blame, and are on the same par of wretchedness as the bitches they knock up. I’ve seen these manginas at my sons school, being berated by some repulsive yeti with t~~~.

It’s a daily onslaught of these f~~~ing slags it really is. They infest every place you go to. They drag along screaming spawn and ruin everything. “Look at me!!! I’m a breeding machine! Thats all I ‘contribute’ to society!”.

But hey, im so glad i see them for everything they are now. I’m going to point and laugh at them from now, and their pathetic manginas

Yeah, I could never understand why women take so much pride in their ability to breed. That’s what livestock on a farm do. Livestock just sit around and eat and s~~~ and breed more livestock. So as far as I’m concerned, women are just putting themselves on the level of livestock on a farm.

But whatever. There’s a lot of f~~~ed-up things about the world. It doesn’t affect me one way or the other. I just bite my tongue when women go on about the magic of popping out children.

Best way to handle that is what you said at the end. Just point and laugh.

[Anonymous 42]

Rage is internal, ALL MEN FEEL RAGE.

The immature man displays his rage in outward verbal or physical aggression (The Fisher-Price toddler relief valve).

My own Fisher-Price relief valve was mentally removed and sleeved for a much better option.

I rerouted it’s steam pipe to an intellectual mental dynamo. Instead of wasting the steam, I use it to run the cooling pumps to lower my overall mental temperature. All part of a massive undertaking to reform and control myself many years ago. I wanted to KILL people that f~~~ed with me for no apparent reason.

The only side effect it’s had doesn’t effect me directly, but damned are the people that threw coal on my fire.

I believe I share this trait with KM, BP, and many others that have mastered self control, and anger inversion.

We’re the remarkably nice and polite men that developed zero tolerance (no leaky steam pipes).

I refer to this massive mental undertaking and rebuilding as “Fire on the inside, ice on the outside”. With it’s eco-mechenics running eternally, the steam used to run the dynamo is then vented to the surface and turns to snow to keep the cycle going. It works remarkably! I can now laugh with glee inside at the things that once spawned violent rage! So if you’re around me and hear the hum of a turbine and it starts snowing, you know I processing rage to bury the SOB in a blizzard! Then it’s Welcome to MG-Tower’s ICE AGE.

[Anonymous 6]

Anonymous wrote:

I just bite my tongue when women go on about the magic of popping out children.

Can’t stand that s~~~ as well, hey gals lets do something new and magical like every f~~~ing living thing on the planet does and reproduce! (sarcasm)

[Dashing Young DissidentSpectator]

Anonymous wrote:

Rage is internal, ALL MEN FEEL RAGE.

The immature man displays his rage in outward verbal or physical aggression (The Fisher-Price toddler relief valve).

My own fisher-Price relief valve was mental removed and sleeved for a much better option.

I rerouted it’s steam pipe to an intellectual mental dynamo. Instead of wasting the steam I use to run the cooling pumps to lower my overall mental temperature. All part of a massive undertaking to reform and control myself.

The only side effect it’s had doesn’t effect me directly, but damned are the people that threw coal on my fire.

I believe I share this trait with KM, BP, and many others that have mastered self control, and anger inversion.

We’re the remarkably nice and polite men that developed zero tolerance (no leaky steam pipes).

I refer to this massive mental undertaking and rebuilding as “Fire on the inside, ice on the outside”. With it’s eco-mechenics running eternally, the steam used to run the dynamo is then vented to the surface and turns to snow to keep the cycle going. It works remarkably! I can now laugh with glee inside at the things that once spawned violent rage! So if you’re around me and hear the hum of a turbine and it starts snowing, you know I processing rage to bury the SOB in a blizzard! Then it’s Welcome to MG-Tower’s ICE AGE.

I wish I could suppress it. I prob need professional help. Cognitive therapy would come in useful. I just fear one day I will do something stupid out of my impulsive rage reflex and f~~~ my life up.

[Anonymous 0]

Dashing Young Dissident wrote:

I wish I could suppress it. I prob need professional help. Cognitive therapy would come in useful. I just fear one day I will do something stupid out of my impulsive rage reflex and f~~~ my life up.

We’ve all been there. You get that lard-ass land whale teetering toward you and expecting you to yield and jump out of her way. Because vagina. Yes, it’s tempting to do something rash and teach her a lesson.

But whatever. It’s like backhanding a crying kid. It’s tempting, but it’s beneath us as men. We don’t want to give women that kind of power. (And turning them into victims does empower them, as contradictory as that sounds.)

Better to focus on ourselves and work toward projects that satisfy us and move us toward goals that are important to us. Then the land whales become insignificant by comparison. The land whales can do and say whatever they want. They simply cease to be worthy of our notice.

[Dashing Young DissidentSpectator]

Anonymous wrote:

Dashing Young Dissident wrote:

I wish I could suppress it. I prob need professional help. Cognitive therapy would come in useful. I just fear one day I will do something stupid out of my impulsive rage reflex and f~~~ my life up.

We’ve all been there. You get that lard-ass land whale teetering toward you and expecting you to yield and jump out of her way. Because vagina. Yes, it’s tempting to do something rash and teach her a lesson.

But whatever. It’s like backhanding a crying kid. It’s tempting, but it’s beneath us as men. We don’t want to give women that kind of power. (And turning them into victims does empower them, as contradictory as that sounds.)

Better to focus on ourselves and work toward projects that satisfy us and move us toward goals that are important to us. Then the land whales become insignificant by comparison. The land whales can do and say whatever they want. They simply cease to be worthy of our notice.

My sons mother is the most arrogant, condescending fat lump of degenerate s~~~ I have ever met. Incredibly conceited and self righteous. Thinks shes soooo powerful when she chooses to ‘control’ the conversation (in her deluded mind she believes this) with me by either cutting me off or trying to belittle and emasculate me. Even her passive aggressive attempts are utterly pathetic.

She’ll die of a heart attack the way shes going. Thanks f~~~. She is f~~~ing useless.

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