Help me understand this situation

[Two Time WinnerParticipant 1090]

Around five years ago my wife started complaining about silverware and dishes disappearing from the kitchen. Just stainless steel silverware and ordinary dishes, nothing expensive. At the time she blamed it on the pet sitter we used. In typical blue pill fashion I agreed to install a camera system that covered all the house except for the bedrooms. We quit using that pet sitter and nothing else went missing.

I later came to believe she had fabricated the story in order to get the camera system installed. She had an app on her phone and used it to monitor my activity when I was home and she was not. There is also a monitor at home that can be used to review prior activity.

She filed for divorce in March and I’m still living in the residence as I refuse to move until the financial settlement is agreed upon. Last week she was at the beach with friends from Monday to Friday. She also spent Saturday night with a friend but was at home Sunday night.

It is rare that she is up when I leave for work around 7:00 am.( She hasn’t had a job in four years) But on Monday she was in the kitchen making coffee while I was getting my lunch ready.

While she poured a cup of coffee she asked me “Where did you hide my Qtips”? I asked her what she was talking about. She said she is missing a box of Qtips she has just bought and I must have taken them. I told her I had no clue what she was talking about.

She went into bitch mode and started saying I had taken that silverware and dishes years ago and had taken her Qtips now. I was stunned and told here none of that is true. She replied that it would be bad enough to take those items but to take them and not remember it meant I am crazy. I tried to talk to her but she continued to interrupt me and state the same thing over and over. I told her I would not participate in the discussion any longer and left for work.

My take on it is that either she is the crazy one or is attempting to play head games with me. What is your guys take on this?

I ain't got a wife to spend my money, I have to do that all by myself.

[JVBParticipant]

Doesn’t matter bro. The bigger picture is she’s done with you so be done with her. Try make your assets disappear so she can’t find those either. Good luck bro.

Peace is > piece.

[AwakenedParticipant 35200]

Can You say the Words; Bat S~~~ Crazy ??

She’s Nuckin Futs !!

In a World of Justin Beibers Be a Johnny Cash

[surfdude12Participant 4103]

Two Time Winner wrote:

What is your guys take on this?

Here is my 2 cents.

(1) She had you install camera
(2) Got up when she usually doesn’t and went to kitchen where she knew you’d be
(3) Deliberately said provocative things to ELICIT RESPONSE FROM YOU, KNOWING ITS RECORDED

Is it possible she did (1), (2), (3) in an effort to record you doing something (verbal, physical) she can use against you with judge, etc?

[NeroParticipant 1466]

surfdude12 wrote:

Two Time Winner wrote:

What is your guys take on this?

Here is my 2 cents.

(1) She had you install camera
(2) Got up when she usually doesn’t and went to kitchen where she knew you’d be
(3) Deliberately said provocative things to ELICIT RESPONSE FROM YOU, KNOWING ITS RECORDED

Is it possible she did (1), (2), (3) in an effort to record you doing something (verbal, physical) she can use against you with judge, etc?

Yes, very much this! She has mega Chad lined up and she wants you the f~~~ OUT OF THE HOUSE NOW. Be prepared for a trumped up domestic violence charge and removal from the premises.

[Two Time WinnerParticipant 1090]

The system only records video not audio so her bitching is not on it. I’ve never laid a hand on her and never will. She has threatened twice to have me removed from the residence. Once for removing marital property. I took my handgun collection to work for personal safety concerns, brought them back without magazines or ammo. The next time was because she said she didn’t “feel safe”. Nothing came from that. I’m sure she went to her attorney but was told she had nothing on me.

TTW

I ain't got a wife to spend my money, I have to do that all by myself.

[Two Time WinnerParticipant 1090]

This ^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^

Also maybe turn on your audio so when she says something use it against her later in court,(or when the cops show up) make sure you save it.
Also look up the words projection and gas lighting.
(Start recording her to protect yourself from false allegations)
Get another recording device with audio on it.
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Thanks for the terms word projection and gas lighting. I’ve been seeing a therapist since October, he says my wife is a narcissist. Gas lighting is frequently used by them according to the internet sources I looked up.

TTW

I ain't got a wife to spend my money, I have to do that all by myself.

[Freeman_KParticipant 3524]

My take on this is that you should consider running away like you would run from lava coming down the volcano eruption.

The choices we make, not the chances we take, determine our destiny

[WPLParticipant 2390]

Yes, and not that slow lava that gradually eats a few houses, stops, and eventually becomes a tourist destination… more like the sort of lava that spews out of a volcano and destroys the village in seconds!

Freeman_K wrote:

My take on this is that you should consider running away like you would run from lava coming down the volcano eruption.

[Anonymous 43]

Run the f~~~ away. Today. Take your important papers, some clothing perhaps, definitely guns and ammo, get in the car, and go to a hotel.

She will compose a video clip of you reaching for a dish in the cupboard, and she will jerk her self violently, on camera it looks like you just beat her with the dish. Get out of there!

I’m surprised your lawyer thought it was a good idea for you to stay in the house.

Amigo, the s~~~ vortex is going to suck you in, swim for the edges while you still can! Save yourself.

Today. Please.

[FrostByteParticipant 19005]

JVB wrote:

Try make your assets disappear so she can’t find those either.

surfdude12 wrote:

Here is my 2 cents.

(1) She had you install camera
(2) Got up when she usually doesn’t and went to kitchen where she knew you’d be
(3) Deliberately said provocative things to ELICIT RESPONSE FROM YOU, KNOWING ITS RECORDED

Is it possible she did (1), (2), (3) in an effort to record you doing something (verbal, physical) she can use against you with judge, etc?

I concur, it sounds like she is setting you up. Even if she is not, the logistics are in place for it happen anyway. Like an open sewer hole doesn’t push people in, but somehow people end up falling in them anyway. Don’t make the mistake of gas-lighting yourself. She might not be so crazy as she pretends. Check with the cameras and seeing if they turn off/on at certain times.

If you rescue a damsel in distress, all you will get is a distressed damsel.

[Back in BlackParticipant 1732]

You are in potentially grave danger. You could end up losing everything including your freedom. You are living with a monster. Act accordingly.

"Women are directly adapted to act as the nurses and educators of our early childhood, for the simple reason that they themselves are childish, foolish, and short-sighted—in a word, are big children all their lives, something intermediate between the child and the man, who is a man in the strict sense of the word. Consider how a young girl will toy day after day with a child, dance with it and sing to it; and then consider what a man, with the very best intentions in the world, could do in her place.” Quote from Arthur Shopenhauer, 17th century philosopher

[Anonymous 43]

[RorschachParticipant 2083]

I cant stand c~~~s for many reasons, one of them being that they will start a s~~~storm fight with you over f~~~ing qtips or nothing. Ya know what I would do if there was no qtips, id just go buy some for a few bucks. But when your a c~~~ everything must be a mans fault. Who the hell wants to argue over silverware and hygiene products.. what a waste of life. People may think im weird for going my own way but I sure as hell wont be wasting my time arguing about f~~~ing qtips lol.

Like the other brothers said, start preparing for the worst and get yourself away from her, youll thank us later.

The accumulated filth of all their sex and murder will foam up about their waists and all the whores and politicians will look up and shout "save us!"....... and i'll look down and whisper "No."

[Two Time WinnerParticipant 1090]

Rorschach wrote:

I cant stand c~~~s for many reasons, one of them being that they will start a s~~~storm fight with you over f~~~ing qtips or nothing. Ya know what I would do if there was no qtips, id just go buy some for a few bucks.

I went by the drugstore last night after I got off my second job at 9:30 pm and bought the biggest box of Qtips they sold. It had 625 Qtips in it. Put it outside my soon to be ex-wives bedroom door. Put a note on it saying “From the Qtip burglar. Just can’t help myself cause I’m crazy.”

Getting real close to a NFG attitude about most everything except my jobs. Got to have the income to save so I bust my ass on the job.

TTW

I ain't got a wife to spend my money, I have to do that all by myself.

[Mr. ManParticipant 2916]

I think you are in extreme danger of a false domestic violence accusation.

Over the last two years, I must have read one-hundred stories of men who tell a tale similar to yours, only your story has not been fully written. I’m with some of the other guys here, you need to get out now and never be in the same room with her alone ever again.

Good luck.

[Two Time WinnerParticipant 1090]

Thanks for all the responses, I’ve got a call into my attorney to review options. My fear is getting stuck with spousal support. Moving out gives her the ability to claim I can support two households so I should pay spousal support. She is lazy and has not worked in four years. Plan to retire at this time next year so I have to play my financial cards very carefully. I’m 62 and she is 60.

An apartment I’ve applied for is in the neighborhood and it will be available on 07/01/17. I need to remain in the area for my job and helping my Dad. He is 89 and has some health problems, he relies on me for a lot of things. Mother passed away a year and a half ago.

Plan to record everything she says, I won’t be saying much. Just going to be very careful till I can move out.

TTW

I ain't got a wife to spend my money, I have to do that all by myself.

[OldschoolParticipant 2481]

Yes TRW, you are in danger of the police comming for you, she sounds bat s~~~ crazy. Get the guns out and yourself. Read my intro to see how fast it happens.

Get a vasectomy.

[Anonymous 6]

She’s on the warpath. Treat her like someone who you know wants to do you harm, but in a polite way.

She’s trying to make you pay for whatever reason. A female in this state is the most crazy and dangerous being that exists. It’s all emotion and anything can happen. It’ll be over soon, just take precautions.

[SamsquanchParticipant 4226]

My take on it is that either she is the crazy one or is attempting to play head games with me. What is your guys take on this?

Both

Your next post will be:

“C~~~ called the cops on me on a false DV charge.”

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