Hello

[gpnraanParticipant 100]

I thank all the men who commented. Thank you all for your kind words.
I am overwhelmed by the response from everyone. I will take all the good things from here and implement it as much as I can in my life.

Repulsive Ralf wrote:

Hi Fella, just remember that everything is relative.
You might be showing more bravery and manliness doing something you find so difficult than most men who find everything so easy ever have to face.
Is it other people who make you wish to hide from the world?
If so, how about giving up on ever trying to relate to them, pretend they are not there and that it is just you and the natural world together. If you knew you were the last person alive in the world, would you then be able to go outside fearless and enjoy living?, if that is the case you have to pretend that has happened, live in a fantasy world for now, most men would cry like a girl if they found they were alone in the world. Maybe you are a man in a different sort of way and you just need to discover what it is?

Yeah! I try my best to disregard them. There were men and women in my street who used to kind of stare and laugh at me for walking awkwardly on the street. We moved out of that place to crowded area recently.

PistolPete wrote:

Greetings and welcome—you might be introverted; so what? The deeper the river the more silently it runs. And NO you are not narcissistic—possibly Asperger but Many MANY of us are in that boat. So relax, pull up a chair—you now have 20,000+ friends. See how easy that was?

You’ll find there is no shaming, or judging here–sure we have some heated arguments now and then but at the end of the day we all remain brothers. We’re glad you are here.

Nothing wrong in having a heated debate. We can agree to disagree. At the end of the day, we all have to work hard to earn a living and to pay whatever the tax that State demands.

[Anonymous 3]

Gpnraam,
Welcome. A lot has been said, but I want to contribute with a “small” idea out of personal experience.

What you lack is self-acceptance. It is not easy to get it. Especially if we depend on others to gauge our value, even more if we are different.

Yet this is a feedback loop, if we send out the message that we are uncomfortable with ourselves, then others will mirror that felling back tenfold.

First you MUST get self-validated. YOU are the only real judge of value for yourself. If you where a thief, but highly praised by others, would you feel good?

And second you MUST increase your own value. Take up martial arts, foreign languages, arts, get mechanical, computer or electronic hobbies. Anything or everything.

With practice comes experience, with experience comes competence, with competence comes mastery.

This works with everything, from theoretical to physical fields. Even social fields.

If you want to overcome some of your shyness, then practice. Start alone with basic compliments and answers. Most social situations are very repetitive and can be scripted. Then progress by getting out and saying hello to people.

Practice.

In the end remember that others are born with habilities that you have to work to gain. That doesn’t make you less, but MORE, because it requires effort and discipline, while they do nothing. Who has the value?

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