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Every human is haunted by the what if brother. The solution is to realize we are bound to the paths we forged for ourselves. Time only goes forward.
In the end it’s the same to wonder what if you had choosen another work path or relationship or what if you were born with the ability to fly and shoot lasers from your eyes because none of these things can happen now.
Everyone only has the present and, hopefully, the future.
Pity and contempt are siblings. You only feel pity for those you consider weak.
Every human is haunted by the what if brother. The solution is to realize we are bound to the paths we forged for ourselves. Time only goes forward.
In the end it’s the same to wonder what if you had choosen another work path or relationship or what if you were born with the ability to fly and shoot lasers from your eyes because none of these things can happen now.
Everyone only has the present and, hopefully, the future.

Whenever I’m thinking “what if” I know I’m in fear that if I made some decision in the past differently, my life today would be better.
But then I stand back and say: who the f~~~ do I think I am?? God??
Only God would know how my life would turn out if I made choice X instead of choice Y in the past. For all I know, if I made choice X instead of choice Y, my life could be FAR WORSE today.
It really does take a massive overinflated ego (just speaking for myself) to even engage in that thinking, when I look at it truthfully.
Well, now on the paternity subject I for myself might look into surrogacy in the future after I am better established. While I think the kids would miss a mother I believe it would be better than the possible alternatives:
– Their mother using them as weapon against me.
– A son being raised as a mangina or a daughter like a golddiger whore.
– They being abused by druggie stepdads.
– They being taken away from me and I becoming completely excluded from their raising process.
I will probably take the surrogacy option if I feel like it. But I get what Gambit said about the importance of a mother. Damn shame the world became this.
Pity and contempt are siblings. You only feel pity for those you consider weak.
Well, now on the paternity subject I for myself might look into surrogacy in the future after I am better established. While I think the kids would miss a mother I believe it would be better than the possible alternatives:
– Their mother using them as weapon against me.
– A son being raised as a mangina or a daughter like a golddiger whore.
– They being abused by druggie stepdads.
– They being taken away from me and I becoming completely excluded from their raising process.
I will probably take the surrogacy option if I feel like it. But I get what Gambit said about the importance of a mother. Damn shame the world became this.
Yes it is a damn shame. I agree that they would need a good mother. I put off my divorce as long as I could because I believed my son deserved two parents. I wanted my son to be old enough to better understand what was going on. I hated seeing how upset he was when his mother said I had to leave our home. Fortunately, it was a slow process and she let me stay there for as long as it took me to find a new house to buy and my son seemed to take it better that way.
What if…….what if….. What if I go straight home after work today? Then I won’t have any beer to drink tonight. I’ve never really been a “what if” guy. I have been an “if only” guy. Damn, if only I had done this, I wouldn’t be in this s~~~. “What if” and “if only” are not the same, but the answer is. It’s all in the past and the past can never be changed. It’s been said in this thread many times……you gotta’ just live for today.
Hey, I don’t know what tomorrow brings, but right now it’s quittin’ time and I’m gonna’ go get some groceries and beer to take to my little shack in the woods.
The evil in women’s hearts leaves them no moral bounds as to inhibit them from descending to the lowest levels of darkness to acquire their self entitled desires.
And if you happen to have a girl, guess what she’s gonna be doing.. Gaming the system. Playing the men the way WE got played. From the time she’s five she’ll be using her pussy pass in life to take advantage of little boys, and eventually teenagers, and eventually men. Remember how you guys all raged over the ex? Guess what.. What was some other guy’s daughter. Doing the same s~~~ to your daughter will be doing to OTHER men. That ain’t right.
LOL. This advice may work for someone else. Sorry, bro. This does not scare me.
You’re being naive dude. You think you’re gonna have kids and they’re gonna magically turn out okay. As if you can forsee the future, as if you’re gonna be the “perfect parent”. I know plenty of upstanding guys who have deadbeat, jail ridden kids. Plenty of rich parents raised kids that squandered their finances and life potential. Kids that turned to drugs and s~~~. You might have money, and might be able to raise your kids with a silver spoon, but that isn’t a guarantee of the perfect child.
You’re gonna sit there and try to tell me “oh, that won’t happen, oh that won’t happen”. Bulls~~~! You don’ t know that. And you can’t say that with any degree of accuracy.
……and you don’t know that his kids will for sure turn out to be pieces of s~~~. Kids are mostly only as good as their parents and from what little I know about Gambit, he seems like he’d be a great father. The kids could turn out to be the finest human beings we’ve ever seen.
No, we don’t. But it’s an awful big gamble to take. That’s my point. I’m not trying to disrespect Gambit. He’s a fine man and a hard working hustler. Which is why he’s so financially successful in life. The point I was trying to illustrate is that it is indeed a big gamble. Nothing is for sure. Just like the guys who rolled the marriage dice.
There’s a lot of factors involved besides being a good dad and trying to raise your kid right. Kids are influenced from a lot of sources. Fellow kids, teachers, neighbors, parents of friends, media.. And with schools today, there’s a lot of brainwashing. Liberal brainwashing. Choosing to home school your child is an alternative, albeit a time consuming and costly (hard to work and make money when you’re spending your day teaching your kid) one.
The point I was trying to illustrate is that it is indeed a big gamble. Nothing is for sure. Just like the guys who rolled the marriage dice.
I respect your views and appreciate your concern. I will not roll the dice unless I know I have it all mapped out and willing to deal with any of the negative consequences. It is why I am not making any rush decisions. I am relaxing when I am not working.
He’s a fine man and a hard working hustler.
Thank you, brother.
The point I was trying to illustrate is that it is indeed a big gamble. Nothing is for sure. Just like the guys who rolled the marriage dice.
I respect your views and appreciate your concern. I will not roll the dice unless I know I have it all mapped out and willing to deal with any of the negative consequences. It is why I am not making any rush decisions. I am relaxing when I am not working.
He’s a fine man and a hard working hustler.
Thank you, brother.
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You know that I would never intentionally give someone bad advice. Because my goal is to help people in a positive way. Likewise I don’t TELL people what to do. But rather give them suggestions or things to think about. Because I’m a pragmatist. I try to look at each situation objectively, and analyze every aspect and get people to think about a different side of the situation or perspective that they weren’t seeing.
Because I’m a pragmatist.
Your greatest strength.
It seems futile but I still catch myself doing the “what ifs”. Irrespective of my vast red pill knowledgebase or experiences, my reptilian brain is still my number one enemy. I wonder if this mental struggle will ever end.
I need some air.
Happens to a lot of us. You are not alone in this. I still get flashbacks and some bad days.
Something that helps me, when this happens. Think of 5 random reasons why you are better off being mgtow. For me its always quite easy to get to 5.
Glad you are feeling better today though anyway.
Glad you are feeling better today though anyway.
Thanks, bro.
And if you happen to have a girl, guess what she’s gonna be doing.. Gaming the system. Playing the men the way WE got played. From the time she’s five she’ll be using her pussy pass in life to take advantage of little boys, and eventually teenagers, and eventually men. Remember how you guys all raged over the ex? Guess what.. What was some other guy’s daughter. Doing the same s~~~ to your daughter will be doing to OTHER men. That ain’t right.
LOL. This advice may work for someone else. Sorry, bro. This does not scare me.
You’re being naive dude. You think you’re gonna have kids and they’re gonna magically turn out okay. As if you can forsee the future, as if you’re gonna be the “perfect parent”. I know plenty of upstanding guys who have deadbeat, jail ridden kids. Plenty of rich parents raised kids that squandered their finances and life potential. Kids that turned to drugs and s~~~. You might have money, and might be able to raise your kids with a silver spoon, but that isn’t a guarantee of the perfect child.
You’re gonna sit there and try to tell me “oh, that won’t happen, oh that won’t happen”. Bulls~~~! You don’ t know that. And you can’t say that with any degree of accuracy.
……and you don’t know that his kids will for sure turn out to be pieces of s~~~. Kids are mostly only as good as their parents and from what little I know about Gambit, he seems like he’d be a great father. The kids could turn out to be the finest human beings we’ve ever seen.
No, we don’t. But it’s an awful big gamble to take. That’s my point. I’m not trying to disrespect Gambit. He’s a fine man and a hard working hustler. Which is why he’s so financially successful in life. The point I was trying to illustrate is that it is indeed a big gamble. Nothing is for sure. Just like the guys who rolled the marriage dice.
There’s a lot of factors involved besides being a good dad and trying to raise your kid right. Kids are influenced from a lot of sources. Fellow kids, teachers, neighbors, parents of friends, media.. And with schools today, there’s a lot of brainwashing. Liberal brainwashing. Choosing to home school your child is an alternative, albeit a time consuming and costly (hard to work and make money when you’re spending your day teaching your kid) one.
I knew you weren’t trying to disrespect Gambit. It just seemed like you were so sure that it would be a bad idea for someone to have kids. I have a 22 year old son. He is on his way to being a good man.
You’re right about all the outside influences and yes, no matter how good the parents are, a child can be ruined by all the other people with whom he interacts. I admit, there have been times I have wondered if I should not have brought my son into this world which seems to be getting s~~~tier every day. He’s so young and I have no idea the s~~~ he may have to face as he gets older. However, he’s doing way better than I was at his age. I could not have asked to be blessed with a better son.
He could have turned out to be a no good, rotten little punk. I get that and man, that would’ve been miserable for me. I can’t imagine always worrying about him. My dad had to go through that with my brother who was in jail a lot.
You’re right. It is a gamble, but nothing ventured, nothing gained. It’s not easy raising a child, especially in today’s world and especially with a f~~~ed up wife like I had, and I’m sure I’m not the ideal father, but it was worth it. My kid joined the military. He has a good job and he works hard. He hangs around with good friends. He’s smarter than he thinks he is.
He could’ve turned out bad, but I wouldn’t compare those chances to that of marriage. Kids have a better chance of turning out good than a marriage has. 🙂
The evil in women’s hearts leaves them no moral bounds as to inhibit them from descending to the lowest levels of darkness to acquire their self entitled desires.
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