Haunted by the "what ifs"

[ghostParticipant]

It seems futile but I still catch myself doing the “what ifs”. Irrespective of my vast red pill knowledgebase or experiences, my reptilian brain is still my number one enemy. I wonder if this mental struggle will ever end.

I need some air.

[Anonymous 14]

Gambit, me too. Read my recently posted topic. I feel your pain Brother. Stay strong. Stay focused.

[JVBParticipant]

As do I brother. You seem like a switch on guy Gambit. Accept it for what it is. Watch the thinker. Carry on.

Peace is > piece.

[ghostParticipant]

Anonymous wrote:

Read my recently posted topic. I feel your pain Brother. Stay strong. Stay focused.

Thanks, brother. I just read it. We are in this together.

[ghostParticipant]

JVB wrote:

As do I brother. You seem like a switch on guy Gambit. Accept it for what it is. Watch the thinker. Carry on.

You are correct, JVB. Thanks and I wish you the same, brother.

[ConfuciusParticipant 183]

What if GMOW is the wrong way to do? What if marrying is the wrong thing to do? What if doing what you are doing now is the wrong thing to do? What if doing nothing at all is the wrong thing to do?

My answer: You will never know what the right thing to do is. Not even after the fact. You make a choice and then you live with the consequences. You will never know what the consequences of another choice would have been. You can, however, find comfort in that at the time you made those choices you based them upon the best possible information available to you.

Decide who you want to be and what you want to do in life. Then, everytime you are faced with a new choice ask yourself: How should I make my choice so that it helps me become who I want to be and allow me to do what I want to do. There is no RIGHT or WRONG way to live life. There is just YOUR way to live your life.

"Life is really simple, but men insist on making it complicated."

[ghostParticipant]

Confucius wrote:

What if GMOW is the wrong way to do? What if marrying is the wrong thing to do? What if doing what you are doing now is the wrong thing to do? What if doing nothing at all is the wrong thing to do?

My answer: You will never know what the right thing to do is. Not even after the fact. You make a choice and then you live with the consequences. You will never know what the consequences of another choice would have been. You can, however, find comfort in that at the time you made those choices you based them upon the best possible information available to you.

Decide who you want to be and what you want to do in life. Then, everytime you are faced with a new choice ask yourself: How should I make my choice so that it helps me become who I want to be and allow me to do what I want to do. There is no RIGHT or WRONG way to live life. There is just YOUR way to live your life.

This is absolute GOLD, Confucius. I have this saved now. You definitely live up to your namesake.

[JVBParticipant]

ghost wrote:

JVB wrote:

As do I brother. You seem like a switch on guy Gambit. Accept it for what it is. Watch the thinker. Carry on.

You are correct, JVB. Thanks and I wish you the same, brother.

Cheers mate.

Peace is > piece.

[BigDParticipant 3024]

As my grandfather would say, “…and if the Titanic missed that iceberg it would have made NY.” Making mistakes is part of life. You have to learn from your mistakes and move forward. If you keep staling and dwelling on the past, you are essentially dead. You have stopped moving forward.

Regrets, everyone has them. However, don’t let them stop you from letting your life naturally get better by moving on.

Don't stick your dick into anyone you aren't willing to put up with for eighteen years and nine months.

[ghostParticipant]

BigD wrote:

Regrets, everyone has them. However, don’t let them stop you from letting your life naturally get better by moving on.

Thanks, brother. I am going to start focusing more on profiting from basic bitches like you seem to have mastered.

[Anonymous 14]

As I’ve said before, you are all so wise. Much more than I in many areas. The most critical of areas. I truly envy you Men. I’ve learned a great deal while a lurker before joining, yet there is still so much to learn. Do we ever learn enough or it all? I am thinking not.

[ghostParticipant]

Anonymous wrote:

Do we ever learn enough or it all? I am thinking not.

I think we learn on an as-needed basis. We are all different and possess different needs. Some people like to learn from others while some prefer to take their own risks. I think we are always learning something new. Our brains have an endless capacity for knowledge. It is quite amazing when you think about it.

[Anonymous 14]

ghost wrote:

General Kenobi wrote:

Do we ever learn enough or it all? I am thinking not.

I think we learn on an as-needed basis. We are all different and possess different needs. Some people like to learn from others while some prefer to take their own risks. I think we are always learning something new. Our brains have an endless capacity for knowledge. It is quite amazing when you think about it.

That was spot on Gambit. If we were able to live 1,000 years with a 200/200 I.Q. we would still not know all. You are correct in all form.

[BigDParticipant 3024]

ghost wrote:

BigD wrote:

Regrets, everyone has them. However, don’t let them stop you from letting your life naturally get better by moving on.

Thanks, brother. I am going to start focusing more on profiting from basic bitches like you seem to have mastered.

They take my taxes to fund these Basic Bitches. I figure it’s because they know how to spend every last dime they can get a hold of. I think of it as getting my money back.

Don't stick your dick into anyone you aren't willing to put up with for eighteen years and nine months.

[CarnageParticipant 22113]

Your lack MGTOW is disturbing.

There is no (what if)

But there is:

Divorce rape, child support, paternity fraud, nagging, alimony, DV cop call, jail, hell…

Tell me what is the “what if” show me the goods.

NOVER FORGET WHAT BROUGHT YOU HERE.

I have spirit history in my wallet, I read it every time I feel like day dreaming, gets me back to the real world.

To those following me, be careful, I just farted. Men those beans are killers.

[narrow road travelerParticipant 1680]

Feelings of discouragement come with age. Sometimes in life you correctly analyze and apply yourself to a situation. Which would benefit most of the people in your immediate surroundings.

That doesn’t stop destructive people from screwing up your benevolent actions. That for me is where the, ‘what if’ bug starts up.

My personal peace comes from saying inside. “Well God, you know I took every reasonable step back there.”

Then I keep moving on. I also know I’m not a 100% perfect person. I sure know now that I don’t actively try to wreck other people’s lives. We’re becoming a rare breed now.

The supreme art of war is to subdue the enemy without fighting. --Sun Tsu

[X11Spectator 4520]

Look here you young punks, one day at a certain age you gonna wake to the math and realise in the best possible scenario you have already used up more than half your life.

Most of that time you didn’t own your own life. You will again reach a time where you will no longer own your own life ie you will be frail and needy just like when you were a baby.

You get one measly sliver of time to be yourself.

That time is now.

The past does not physically exist, you can’t touch it, it’s just a dream.

I command you to let the warrior rise, I don’t want you to be a man I order you to be a Superman.

Let your blood boil with fury, strike hard and forge your own future.

You will be dead soon enough, face death like the hero.

Waste no time with what if, the question is what next.

Are you ready?

The X has spoken.

[Sky-OParticipant 18936]

I use to think about the ‘what if’s during my blue pill era.

It caused me at one point to let an ex-pumpkin back after an eleven year break between the last time we were together.

And thus began a journey straight into hell and back.

Now. I let her be someone else’s ‘what if’

F~~~ that.

[Anonymous 42]

If one focuses on the apprehensive “what ifs'” he’ll loose sight of life’s road with all it’s hairpin turns, rocks slides, detours, and other hazards that only the man focusing on the day at hand can negotiate.

Don’t dwell in the past, it’s spent fuel that’s already burned.

Don’t be obsessed with the future, all your oil wells will be drilled in the wrong place and not with the latest technology.

Stay in the day at hand, it’s all we have that’s tangible and can be altered for a better tomorrow…

[ConstantineParticipant 4420]

Try going the other way man. Rather than saying something like, “What if I’d spoken to that good-looking woman, she might’ve been a unicorn?”, say, “What if I’d spoken to that good-looking woman, she might’ve been in the Fatal Attraction mould?” What if’s can go both ways. Works for me.

To see what is in front of one's nose requires a constant struggle. -Orwell

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