Guys, a little advice please

[LucanParticipant 25]

So I’ve been having these skype chats with a very beautiful ex girlfriend. She’s in another country, where I originally met her at the moment. Anyway, she teases me a lot and at one point she said “omg I’m just taking the p~~~ out of you is it so hard to tell”. She smiles so sweetly though and she says I’m handsome (that is something other people say, I look handsome, but I’m rather depressed and insecure). I don’t really have the ability to develop any kind of a rappor with her because of the cultural difference and my own awkwardness. Anyway, she agreed to meet me if I go there and go out with me if I get a job there. Anyway, I don’t know what to make of it all. I’m really crazy about her, I have been for a long time, she’s my fantasy girl tbh, I was crazy about her when were together, it just didn’t work because I was really depressed at the time, it was like it wasn’t real, I couldn’t believe it.

Anyway, I don’t know what to do, whether to go see her or not, I don’t want to get hurt, but I’ve been thinking about her a lot for a long time, she’s really beautiful. I don’t trust her in a way though, I don’t always understand her, because of the cultural difference and because I’m socially akward.

so yeah. Any advice?

[Ronin11Participant 208]

From my experience if it didn’t work the first time it will never work. Never give a woman a second chance to f##k you over. Dump this girl.

There are no good women only degrees of bad.

[Anonymous 7]

50% of marriages end in divorce. 80% of divorces are filed by women.

Dating leads to marriage. <– There’s your logic.

Imagine a parachute (we’ll call the parachute “marriage”) that only opens half of the time. And the half of the time it fails was because a woman packed it wrong on purpose.

Will you leap?

You’re depressed and wide open for manipulation. You see stars, she sees future dollars.

My advice? Are you wanting to learn the easy way, or the painful way?

[EtrangereParticipant 706]

Someone said it better than I ever could—-“a good horse never grazes on grass he’s already passed over”

[GreekDragoonParticipant 460]

Sigh, that’s a disaster waiting to happen.

I will just skim the important stuff:

1) You will be in a foreign country with everything that implies about your ability to socialize with others. This means that you will be tied to her when going out until you can pass as one of the locals.

2) As a foreigner you will have trouble finding a job and a home.

3) As a foreigner don’t expect the police to even hear your side if she turns to be a complete nutcase.

Now with that out of the way.

Sorry but what she says is not going to happen, it’s not even a s~~~ test but a ‘polite way’ for her to snub you off by giving you an impossible criterion to be with her and she expects to label you as ‘weak’ since you weren’t able to fulfill that very criterion for her.

Even if she is sincere of being with you her ‘find a job’ clause screams that she wants you as a beta provider from day 1. She knows of your insecurities and she will use them, don’t let that happen.

I have been in a similar situation with you, had found the one who I thought was perfect for me and I was fully prepared to do anything for her back then. It was a ‘sick love’ from my part, there was no depth to it which translated to ridiculous situations and humiliations. If you care for yourself do not allow that sentiment to control you, down that road is self destruction and I narrowly avoided it.

[TaxGuyParticipant]

One chance, per chick, per lifetime.

Read it, learn it, live it. You have no idea the amount of pain you will avoid, and you don’t want to.

Order the good wine

[Solo MAN’S WisdomParticipant]

Did KM’s account get hijacked??

When women lead, destruction is the destination. -- Me.

[Anonymous 11]

Lucan wrote:

I don’t trust her in a way though

Nor should you trust her. She’s in a foreign country. She’s attractive, and she’s probably hopping on the c~~~ carousel the second your Skype session ends.

You’re entertaining a fantasy.

[HitmanParticipant]

Let her go.
She will use you.
Then discard you.
Save yourself and drop her like a bad habit!

[FearlessMGHOWParticipant 1928]

Well I’d dump her and get a fleshlight.

Men age like fine wine. Women age like milk. "One hundred women are not worth a single testicle." -Confucius

[MecklotParticipant 608]

Not worth it, in my opinion. She teases you? Sounds more like s~~~-testing to me; she’s sizing you up. She knows she has a hold on you, and she will take advantage of that in every way she can think of.

She smiles so sweetly though and she says I’m handsome

This is so basic and predictable that it’s pathetic. AWALT. If you value your sanity and finances, limit your relationship with her to mere acquaintances.

Reposting my original response before the forums were taken down. You motherf~~~ing hackers can suck it.

[MattNYCParticipant 2329]

A few rules i’ve learned after making a f~~~load of mistakes in my 36 years:

– Never relocate to another city, state or country for a woman
– Never visit another city, state, country just to try to f~~~ a girl. If you’re just going to get laid, you can do that easier/cheaper/faster at home (study game, hire an escort, whatever; no plane ticket required)

The only time it’s ok to f~~~ a woman in another country/timezone, is when you WERE ALREADY GOING TO TRAVEL THERE, WHETHER SHE WAS THERE OR NOT. Full stop.

An old flame lives in the city you’ll be visiting for work for 2 weeks? No problem.

Chick thinks you’re handsome and wants you to “come visit her country”? Ex-girlfriend or not, no f~~~ing way. –> Think of this from her perspective. Women get a “one up” on their girlfriends by the amount of male validation they get. Nothing says +100 Validation Points than having a foreigner come visit.

[anonymousyamParticipant 4605]

I have 3 steps for you @lucan

1 Get a gym membership and/or buy free weights and start weight lifting.

2 Put down the fast food you fat f~~~ or pick up the fast food if you are too goddamn skinny (i just had to here).

3 Hang out with local chicks and go and f~~~ them or pay for a hooker. I get if you are young and you have your fantasy then that is just a part of your youth but at least make it real. Don’t travel to another state. Don’t go to another nation. And don’t have a long distance relationship.

Foreign chicks are the most likely to pick up beta prey if the beta prey has its only signs of affection from the chick. You must rid yourself of a beta mindset but it will take time and energy to do so.

Just an east coast asshole who likes to curse, If you get offended by words like fuck, cunt, shit, piss, bitch or any racial slurs then you just scroll down.

[MenorahmanSpectator 185]

It’s hilariously sad how differently men and women value each other.

Man gets gf -> “It’s a dream come true!”

Woman gets bf -> “I wonder how much this one will buy me”

[Anonymous 5]

She’s s~~~ testing you.
What a marvelous boost to her female pride if she could get a man to actually move countries just to have a chance with her.
Women love men spending money and wasting their time for them. It doesn’t have to be good value. You can waste vast sums on phone calls or any other stupid s~~~, and it’s like crystal meth for their egos.
She’ll be telling the story of how some foreigner moved country just to have a chance to be with her, to her grand daughters.
It’ll be a slightly different version though. She’ll tell them she gave you no come ons or encouragement.
In fact she’ll be telling everyone, even now, that it’s you who insist on moving countries despite her telling you there’s no chance. ( Everyone will believe her version )
All the emotional and financial risk is on you. The moment you get there you’ll realize that.

Tally up all the time and emotional energy you’ve already invested,,,and write it off as a loss.
Start again with a clean slate.

She’ll keep on playing you for a fool for as long as you let her.
Block and delete that toxic bitch from your life and never contact it ever again.

[MgtowWaveParticipant 4352]

She is an ex.

Leave it like that.

You are allowing you mind to be clouded by emotions.

Like a junky strung out on heroine or cocaine.

Woman on the brain.Pussy on the brain.

Just say no.

frankly my dear i don't give a damn

[AntonioParticipant 142]

Last day i hear a story about a male dog that jumped from a third floor window because he wanted to f~~~ a female dog that was in the same urbanization courtyard. We males are strong, he didnt died, but he didnt f~~~ either.

[Mr. SpockParticipant 10911]

If you’ve been reading on this website for a while then you should know what these five letters mean;
A-W-A-L-T
If you don’t know what this means then you have some homework.
She is setting you up so that she controls everything about you and for you to fail. Doing what you propose would put you in a very disadvantaged position. You would be extremely vulnerable. You said yourself that you don’t trust her or understand her. You are being blinded by beauty.
The only moving you should consider doing is MOVING ON away from her.
I suggest you cut off all contact with her immediately. Good Luck with your decision.

Feminism isn't about equality with men, it's about leverage over men.

[XSDBSParticipant 3598]

Lucan wrote:

ex girlfriend

My advice? No contact. Of any kind. Ever.

[xlrsnbrgParticipant 1786]

Lucan wrote:

I don’t want to get hurt

Lucan wrote:

I don’t trust her

Lucan wrote:

I don’t always understand her

I think you answered your own question.

A man shouldn't make his life's objective to be on the side of the majority, but to avoid finding himself in the ranks of the insane. (Marcus Aurelius)

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