Going full monk. I dont want anything to do with women anymore!

[KaidoParticipant 2395]

Its been a couple months. For a while my isolation seemed to be going well till a buddys GF/EX started talking to me and all she did was bitch about him…

As of yesterday I vowed I dont want anything to do with them anymore. I will meditate day in and day out till I fully stop thinking about them. I havent slept with any in years and its easy to resist. But I want to stop fully thinking about them. I will talk to them if it concerns business (to get through life, purchases, etc) but I will not hook up, or even talk to them. They will never exist to me ever again.

I will be alone and will end up dying alone. But at least I am free now. And in the end I will be fully free.

Now peace can fully begin

What people call "love" is just a chemical reaction that compels animals to breed. It hits hard, then it slowly fades, leaving you stranded in a failing marriage. Your parents are gonna do it. Break the cycle. Rise above. Focus on science.

[PistolPeteParticipant 27143]

Everyone dies alone–big deal

[Anonymous 18]

Ok. If I may.

Your resolve isn’t going to stick because:

Kaido wrote:

As of yesterday I vowed

That almost never works.

The monk thing is long arduous process – its not the path in itself but a designation also. It’s a mental schema.

Kaido wrote:

I want to stop fully thinking about them

Again, its unreasonable. I believe men are a mix of the primitive irrational ‘chimp’ that I often talk about and our rational moral executive cortical thoughts. Your chimp is stronger than your rational human part, and it will beat you to ground every single time.

Try it. Challenge it.

Many New Year’s resolutions fail because the Chimp has a f~~~-you attitude if you try to force it to bend to your human rationality.

Instead start with accepting that desiring women is healthy and normal to keep your chimp content. If it wants to indulge go sign up on a dating site. Your human will be de-humanized, and depressed after trying it for a few days. Sit down and have a discussion with the chimp. Tell why its desire to pork ladies is causing the human negative emotional experiences.

The chimp will listen.

You will have to negotiate. Don’t make mistake of enforcing the chimp in a cage – like the wild chimp its stronger than your human by many folds.

Give biology and evolution its due credit.

The good news is that the chimp is aware the higher cortical refinements the human possesses and will yield if you show it why you wish to not partake in pussy chase.

TL;DR: A nerd telling you why you will fail enforcing monk lifestyle in spur of moment.

[ghostParticipant]

While I respect your decision, I am still not sure if I can continue the MGTOW “lifestyle” forever. Time will tell but I have found some peace this week.

The more I think about it, the more I realize how much happier I am with a woman in my life. It could be that I still need more time alone.

[Anonymous 42]

PistolPete wrote:

Everyone dies alone

Not in Vegas!

[RusskyParticipant 13503]

Anonymous wrote:

The monk thing is long arduous process

Come again??
Not hitting on chicks is a long arduous process?
Bulls~~~.
It’s as easy as not lifting a finger. You spend as much time and effort on being a monk as on being in a coma

proud carrier of the 'why?' chromosome

[Anonymous 42]

ghost wrote:

The more I think about it, the more I realize how much happier I am with a woman in my life.

Hello McFly, is anyone in there?

[NomadicExpatParticipant 1785]

Anonymous wrote:

PistolPete wrote:

Everyone dies alone

Not in Vegas!

Now THAT’s Funny!!!!

[Chase PesosParticipant 2136]

Gambit

Be careful bro, I know what you’re saying. There is a tiny remnant left of decent ones but even they will change when they see your type of cashe if you catch the drift.

Chase a check, never chase a chick...

[Secret Agent MGTOWParticipant 22508]

Things the chimp may finally regretfully accept to yield:

Not picking up incurable diseases.

Not picking up diseases that will end your life early.

Putting you dick in something many many other guys have really isnt that great a deal or accomplishment.

Sex dolls are safer and have no stds and no drama or baggage. And they do not hit the wall.

Women want everything, but want responsibility and accountability for nothing.

[WallyParticipant]

ghost wrote:

While I respect your decision, I am still not sure if I can continue the MGTOW “lifestyle” forever. Time will tell but I have found some peace this week.

The more I think about it, the more I realize how much happier I am with a woman in my life. It could be that I still need more time alone.

I don’t think there is anything wrong about what you are thinking, you are young, and may need to try. Odds are it won’t go well for you, the woman you get involved with will end up hurting you in the end. You have this knowledge of how women think, they do not love I have even had women admit this. Be careful Gambit, whatever choice you make we hope the best for you.

"what a waste of a life, to marry, give up your freedom, just for the hope of not dying alone. Don't get married Son."

[WallyParticipant]

Kaido wrote:

Its been a couple months. For a while my isolation seemed to be going well till a buddys GF/EX started talking to me and all she did was bitch about him…

As of yesterday I vowed I dont want anything to do with them anymore. I will meditate day in and day out till I fully stop thinking about them. I havent slept with any in years and its easy to resist. But I want to stop fully thinking about them. I will talk to them if it concerns business (to get through life, purchases, etc) but I will not hook up, or even talk to them. They will never exist to me ever again.

I will be alone and will end up dying alone. But at least I am free now. And in the end I will be fully free.

Now peace can fully begin

Avoiding sex with women or monk mode as some call it can be rewarding with less stress, no chance of pregnancy or STDs no reason to even date or talk to women unless it’s like you said for your business. But if you get the desire to have sex and constantly think about just go do it but protect yourself.

"what a waste of a life, to marry, give up your freedom, just for the hope of not dying alone. Don't get married Son."

[ghostParticipant]

Chase Pesos wrote:

Be careful bro, I know what you’re saying. There is a tiny remnant left of decent ones but even they will change when they see your type of cashe if you catch the drift.

I do, sir. I miss the drug, that’s all.

Wally wrote:

You have this knowledge of how women think, they do not love I have even had women admit this. Be careful Gambit, whatever choice you make we hope the best for you.

This is what makes everything so difficult now.

[Anonymous 18]

Russky wrote:

Come again??
Not hitting on chicks is a long arduous process?
Bulls~~~.
It’s as easy as not lifting a finger. You spend as much time and effort on being a monk as on being in a coma

I’d say you have a myopic definition of what being monk entails.

Stay in coma.

[Anonymous 2]

Kaido wrote:

Its been a couple months. For a while my isolation seemed to be going well till a buddys GF/EX started talking to me and all she did was bitch about him…

As of yesterday I vowed I dont want anything to do with them anymore. I will meditate day in and day out till I fully stop thinking about them. I havent slept with any in years and its easy to resist. But I want to stop fully thinking about them. I will talk to them if it concerns business (to get through life, purchases, etc) but I will not hook up, or even talk to them. They will never exist to me ever again.

I will be alone and will end up dying alone. But at least I am free now. And in the end I will be fully free.

Now peace can fully begin

We all die alone. One of my friends was telling me his family is furious at his grandmother for putting his grandfather in a nursing home and not even telling the rest of the family about it. Here’s a guy that was married for nearly 50 years, and yet that “marrying so you don’t die alone” thing didn’t work out for him, did it?

We all die alone. However, it is absolutely ridiculous the way society employs this stereotype that just because I don’t get involved in relationships, that means I live in some stick hut deep in the woods completely isolated from society. I’m actually quite social when the mood suits me. Sometimes I meet up with a few mates for some pints, or some friends will come by to catch a football or hurling match (or I’ll go to their place). I often play at sessions at pubs in my area. Other times, I feel like spending my time inside, practicing new tunes, listening to music, or just laying in bed with a book.

The notion that one lives a life of loneliness simply because they don’t get involved in romantic relationships is just stupid.

[ghostParticipant]

Anonymous wrote:

Hello McFly, is anyone in there?

Yes. Blue pill thoughts are keeping me relaxed. No harm in fantasizing sometimes.

[hmskl’dParticipant 6406]

Yes, ghosting and monk; life is now almost like living in a parallel universe .. and for me, it is honestly much better than dealing with all the unwanted issues of the alternative.

[RusskyParticipant 13503]

Anonymous wrote:

I’d say you have a myopic definition of what being monk entails.

Really? You’re trying to tell a monk that his view on being a monk is myopic? Bhahahaha
Please elaborate, I’m confused what do you even mean

proud carrier of the 'why?' chromosome

[ResParticipant 542]

For me being monk has been relatively easy. The desire to have a girlfriend was always there, and still very much is, especially now that I’m working and living on my own again. Buuuuut, at the same time, I just don’t have the motivation to get off my ass and play the stupid games that lead to sex. Tried messaging one or two girls on OkCupid recently and got ignored. That took care of the problem for me! Nothing like a good reality check.

My take from the op’s post was just that he didn’t have the b~~~~ to say straight up “I don’t want to hear your s~~~” and tell her to f~~~ off. Who wants to sympathize with a girl who’s so weak she bitches behind her boyfriends back? If she doesn’t like the guy she would leave. I’d have to take a guess here that she won’t do that because a) she thinks it’s okay to bitch behind someone’s back, and b) she’s too emotionally attached (afraid to lose the sex or money).

Think with your brain, not your dick.

Mr. Boats: "'Avoid the reeking herd! Shun the polluted flock! Live like that stoic bird, the eagle of the rock!' You know what that means, son?" -American Splendor

[PistolPeteParticipant 27143]

Been monk for 25 years–its easy.

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