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Tired-Cop wrote:

Guys you have no idea how much I appreciate being here. There is absolutely no one that I can talk to about this in my real world life. Nobody that I know has any idea at all about the nature of BPD. Your words mean a lot to me.

A number of us have had wives with personality disorders of one sort or another. We know the isolation, the exhaustion, the feeling of wanting to help and trying to help but always getting it wrong in the wife’s eyes.

We’re here for you. Consider us a resource. And frankly if you dump the bitch, you’ll get nothing but applause and congratulations from us. Life is too short to put up with that kind of abuse.

[Anonymous 42]

Tired-Cop wrote:

Guys you have no idea how much I appreciate being here. There is absolutely no one that I can talk to about this in my real world life. Nobody that I know has any idea at all about the nature of BPD. Your words mean a lot to me.

You’re very welcome sir.

Terrence Popps has allot of videos that really touch deep on the matter of societal abuse of men, he’s done tours in Afghanistan and Iraq, He may have even been in the 1st golf war, his family was destroyed and his children vanquished from his life in a brutal separation where he got legally f~~~ed (man’s appointed position in divorce court, bend over), Terrence has seen ALLOT OF S~~~ and speaks mountains of truth about the modern paradigm of female empowered ralations~~~s. (redonkuless.com) U-Tube “Terrence Popps”.

Keymaster is the janitor here and a 6 ft. circumference microfilm Rolodex of valuable and priceless information.

You’ll be enlightened by whatever he says, he’s a no bulls~~~ kinda guy.

Again WELCOME, prepare to have the splinters remove from your mind, Neo…

[Anonymous 0]

Mate I’ve got one with multiple Cluster B traits, commonly known as a sociopath- a perhaps more softer way of saying psychopath. And I have 2 young children. I AM F~~~ED AND SO IS MY LIFE!!! For now anyway. But you can run. So f~~~ing run like hell for f~~~s sake.

[Tiga KParticipant 1693]

Welcome to the site and thank you for taking the time to type out your story. If you haven’t already, I highly recommend going through the other introductions. Many here have gone through the same things.

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Tiga K wrote:

Welcome to the site and thank you for taking the time to type out your story. If you haven’t already, I highly recommend going through the other introductions. Many here have gone through the same things.

Good idea. Also, there’s a search function in the right sidebar (when you’re logged in) in case you want to do searches for borderline, BPD, narcissism, NPD, etc.

[TuneoutParticipant]

Welcome brother always good to have another member who has served his country on here.
I’m mid age as well but remember my father taking care of me when my mother ran off to be with another guy.
Children will remember things like this and there is
nothing more important than standing by them in time of need.
No woman is worth giving up that,she asks too much and
there are plenty of other fish in the sea if thats what
you still want.

Lifes a bitch,but you don't have to marry one!

[Anonymous 0]

Welcome Tired Cop
Thank you for service and a such a heartfelt intro.
Can’t say much more than has already been said except to add this:
In any abuse scenario the abuser ALWAYS tries to isolate the abusee in order to control them. Her insistence that you chuck your retirement, your kids, your home and your friends, is classic. Ask yourself this; where are her friends, her home, her kids, her retirement? What is she contributing? Or is it all you?Her leaving and going to another state is just her trying to enforce her wishes on you. My experience is that if you sit tight and say “well if that’s the way you want it, GOODBYE”, she will be back asking you to forgive her actions. PLEASE DON’T DO IT. Also, do you know for sure that she hasn’t got some chad already in her sights in her new state. Abusers follow a pattern. Break the pattern and everything you worked for you will have.
Psycho-babes are everywhere. Once again, WELCOME, BROTHER.

[joetechParticipant]

Welcome to the fold. I have to agree. Hold on to that pension, you’ve worked too hard for it. I’m 61…enough said. I’ll tell you what I know to be true about women. I think this applies in your situation.
#1: There’s no such thing as the wrong kind of diamond. If there is, she’s nuts! Run like hell!
…and that’s it. A friend of mine divorced one of the DeBeres girls.(You know, DeBeres diamonds?) Anyway, to her, there was such a thing, and she had the same disorder your wife has. Yeah, send her to her family and get her on some mood stabilizers. Then, I don’t know…punt? What do you think guys?

"Don't follow in my footsteps...I stepped in something."

[WarratahParticipant 895]

I’m laughing, Tired Cop, at your notion of retiring.
Your path of ‘Protect & Serve’ will continue even after you start drawing your pension.
This time protecting and serving brothers who find themselves caught in the same trap you’ve narrowly escaped.
Those mysterious suicides, those single vehicle collisions you get called out to, where the wonderful, grieving wife ‘just can’t understand what happened to him’ … I tell you now, I’ve seen it in my community time and again, the wonderful woman that nobody has a bad word about, the selfless Angel …. And then the husband’s mysterious suicide.
Those are men who are driven, hounded to early graves by these bitches.
You know the signs now, keep those eyes peeled, there are so many men – who, like you, haven’t a name for the s~~~storm their lives have been made – men who need us, the survivors, to offer a hand in support.

...And in our own despair, against our will, Comes wisdom to us by the awful grace of God. - Agamemnon; by Aeschylus

[AragornParticipant 277]

BPD? Run to the hills. Fast! Don’t look back! Avoide ANY contact! No calls, meetings, texts. Nothing. If you are very, very lucky, she already has found a new knight in shining armour. Google “triangulation”, “gas lightening”, “co-dependent”, “child abuse”. She will at some point hate you more than you can even imagine. For no f~~~ing reason. Get her out of your life. You will not be able to help or “save” her. Stronger men have failed, believe me. She will destroy you. Your brain chemistry is probably entirely f~~~ed up now, you are addicted, very similar to cocaine, but this, too, will fade away. You need to save yourself, bro. Get on cold turkey. You need to be strong now. I could send you tons of further info on bpd, could write a f~~~ing entire encyclopedia about it. But first, run! Save yourself!

If you change the rules on what controls you, you will change the rules on what you can control

[AragornParticipant 277]

And forget about all the BS written about BPD by normal shrinks. They have no clue at all, unless they have experienced this mental black hole themselves. Blind leading the blind. Check out some of the boards where BPD victims and survivors are writing. And don’t forget- no contact ever again, unless you want to risk everything, including all your belongings, your sanity and even your life. You are a cop, protect yourself first.

Keep us updated, if you like. And let us know if you need any support.

I pray for you!

If you change the rules on what controls you, you will change the rules on what you can control

[NotMyProblemParticipant 965]

First step is to acquire a fleshlight, also known as “the liberator”

http://www.fleshlight.com

I recommend the “extra-tight” sleeve with “gun-oil” brand lube.

Combine that with http://www.youjizz.com and you now have the tools of freedom.

Peace, logic, and relaxation will only come to you once you’ve quieted the lizard brain.

Enjoy that retirement and thanks for helping to keeping the world safe and prosperous!

Not my property... Not my problem

[Tired-CopParticipant 116]

An update. We have been fighting all day. She is using every s~~~ test you can think of to shame me into quitting and “being there” for her. Standing strong,,,,

Just don't care anymore,,,,

[Anonymous 54]

Ignore the Sirens! (Mythical,not your cop car ) Good sex makes you blind!! Eyes open Brother!. You’d have to give up your pension? I’ve been self employed all my life. Are you nuts?!!

[Chaff/FlareParticipant 3235]

Nice work bro

When you find yourself in the majority, it's time to reflect.

[Chaff/FlareParticipant 3235]

Amazing, isn’t it, when you know their tactics. Got chicks calling me up trying to get dirt, medical info on their husbands. Almost always same approach:

Sweet and ” thank you so mutch for serving”
Crying
He ruined my life, please help
I’m calling my congressman
Your an asshole

When you find yourself in the majority, it's time to reflect.

[EyeswideopenParticipant 2930]

Welcome Tired-Cop;

Firstly, thank you for doing what you do.

I work as an emergency physician and on the rescue chopper from time to time – many of my good friends are police. The deck is truly staked against us then general population – we have around an 80% chance of divorce.

My ex wife was a borderliner. I can emphasize. Sucked the life out of me trying to spin plates to make her happy. Borderliners use manipulation, rage or stonewalling, and isolation to destroy a man.

Classic pattern is:

1.) Idealization phase – She thinks your perfect. Soul mates. She is putting on an act so you become emotionally dependent. Sucker you in.

2.) Devalutaion phase – Isolate you from friends, family and support network. Runs hot and cold. Isolation is a common tactic. Titration of affections so you give more and more to capture that old feeling. She hates you the more you try.

3.) Discarding Phase – Suddenly leaves the relationship. Becomes the most hostile c~~~ imaginable. Never gives you a second thought. Moves on to the next Chad. “It’s all your fault, I love you but am not in love with you, I need passion, etc”

Don’t give up you pension. Cut, sling, load.

- Marriage is described as an institution. You would have to be crazy to be commited to it. -"If you want to live a happy life, tie it to a goal. Not people or things" Albert Einstein

[The Batman 2020Participant 2112]

Sounds exactly like my ex, while I was working in law enforcement, she had major insecurity and was suicidal.. Had to quit my job to stay home with her. Luckily she left and I got my job and sanity back.

Your 20's are for learning, your 30's are for earning.

[AragornParticipant 277]

Don’t fight a fight you will never win. BPD is a severe mental illness. Be aware that BPDs are often extremely intelligent and always highly manipulative.

Would you engage in a fight with some bad guys if your only weapons are your fists and they come to the fight with semi-automatics? It’s the same here.

Avoid the fight and get yourself out of that combat zone.

Otherwise you will suffer the consequences.

If you change the rules on what controls you, you will change the rules on what you can control

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