Down-and-out new MGHOW. Really needing support right now

[Can’t Stump TrumpParticipant]

Hey, man, you learned this lesson without divorce, child support, and alimony. Don’t beat yourself up when you have it so good.

Women are better at multitasking? Fucking up several things at once is not multitasking.

[Back in BlackParticipant 1732]

Proverbs, welcome. Glad you are here. I feel your pain. Good weed and good pussy. I used to sell out for that s~~~. Trust me, I’ve been around. Stop smoking the weed. Exercise – hard, till you are grunting and screaming and feeling it deep. Got to work that grief out.
And yes it takes time and it f~~~ing hurts. The pain will pass. But it is well worth being a free man. As a free man you can do whatever you want whenever you want. That is priceless. I am now single and the greatest thing is just being alone and having quiet. No f~~~ing endless and senseless jabbering.

As a side note, it’s little confusing when you say she’s a “unicorn” and NAWALT in the same sentence. Get your f~~~ing head straight. There are no unicorns.

"Women are directly adapted to act as the nurses and educators of our early childhood, for the simple reason that they themselves are childish, foolish, and short-sighted—in a word, are big children all their lives, something intermediate between the child and the man, who is a man in the strict sense of the word. Consider how a young girl will toy day after day with a child, dance with it and sing to it; and then consider what a man, with the very best intentions in the world, could do in her place.” Quote from Arthur Shopenhauer, 17th century philosopher

[AutoliteParticipant]

Back in Black wrote:

There are no unicorns

How about a new rule? Any forum newcomers must type that out one thousand times in a single post if they want to stay here…

[narwhalParticipant]

As other’s have stated, healing does take time. You have to accept that. I had a rather hard time getting my ex-wife as well. I did want her back, so in order to keep me from doing something stupid, I made a list of all that would need to happen in order for us to get back together. It went something like this.

– She would need to fully recognize where she made mistakes.
– She would have to demonstrate that she had formed good habits free of these mistakes.
– She need to be single for at least around a year, to show that it was about me, not just any man.

It came down to be about 3 years before us getting back together made any sense (It’s quite a bit longer now). Being that there is no point waiting around 3 years for something that isn’t even likely to happen, I GOT ON WITH MY LIFE.

So how you guard your heart? WITH YOUR HEAD. That means think about it. Break it down to parts that you easily digest and see the situation for what it is, not what you want it to be or feel it should be.

Ok. Then do it.

[FrostByteParticipant 19005]

Look at this way.

If you rescue a damsel in distress, all you will get is a distressed damsel.

[RIP_PatriceParticipant 59]

You need to take this as a lesson learned.

If you need something to listen to, I strongly advise you to listen to the Black Phillip Show on Youtube. Its a podcast with 12 episodes and will put you pack into your masculine energy. Right now you’re probably in your feminine and crying in the fetal position. But you need to get that out your system asap.

Don’t ever text or call her from now on asking her how she is etc. Pretend like you was happy she left if you can manage that.

Let me ask you one thing though, what did you REALLY MISS about her? What was the ONE thing you REALLY MISSED??

[surfdude12Participant 4103]

Proverbs21:9 wrote:

Problems however began to surface as I started smoking marijuana extremely excessively.

Did your marijuana smoking cause the relationship problems or did your relationship problems cause the marijuana smoking?

[nick123Participant 137]

Proverbs21:9 wrote:

Hey guys, I’m a new MGTOW and I just suffered my most devastating heartbreak a little over a month ago.

A little backstory: Around 2 years ago I began a relationship with a beautiful, slender, sexy Punjabi girl who’s a nurse in training with aspirations to become a physician. So far so good. The relationship for the most part was excellent. She was the first girlfriend that my family approved of, and my friends loved her. She treated me like a man, she always, ALWAYS did things to remind me how much she cared for me (cooking for me, bought me clothes that I needed without asking, etc). We spent many a days watching the sunset with my dog, deep diving into each others mind’s and soul’s; deeply in love. We met each other at a time where we were going through hardship in our lives and we grew through things together. We really, truly bonded.

Problems however began to surface as I started smoking marijuana extremely excessively. 4-5 times per day. The sex that was once the most amazing I’ve ever had became infrequent and a little passionless. I started having terrible brain fog and an awful indifference to everything. My family, my friends, my job, my fitness, my interests….and her as well. All of those avenues of my life began to erode. We started fighting a lot more and she really showed her teeth (her father was an abusive alcoholic so she inherited some of his traits of course), I started failing s~~~-tests like crazy, and guy friends of her past started coming out randomly from the woodwork.

Last month we had a fight over the phone (truth be told, not the worst one we’ve ever had) and she told me at the end of it she couldn’t handle it any more and wanted to break it off. We live in the same neighborhood and already 2 weeks after the break up she’s out driving around with a new guy.

HYPERGAMY WINS AGAIN GENTLEMEN!!!!!!!!!!

Since the break up I’ve gone cold turkey from the pot and have been doing everything I can to get my life back in order. I’m putting more effort into my job and my relationships with loved ones; and my fitness and diet are back on track.

Here’s the problem with quitting weed though – your dreams come back with a vengeance since you get your REM sleeps back. Almost each and every single night I’m having dreams about her and I together still happy, or nightmares about her with other men and she and her friend are laughing at me in the dream. I take melatonin most nights but I still wake up in sweats, and then cry/sigh myself back to sleep – only to dream about her again.

I’m in tears as I write this now. I know I can never have her again or go back to her, but I still cherish the sweet memories of the times where it felt like we made time stop. I also feel like a complete piece of s~~~ loser who can’t keep a good woman down. Hands down the best woman I’ve ever had a relationship with, and the longest one at that.

I’m a Christian by background and am taking my faith a lot more seriously as I feel God is trying to get through to me and teach me lessons.

So I ask you gentlemen – What more can I do to feel better/get over her? Just time? Continue to suffer until I don’t anymore? I genuinely miss intimacy and sex but I know as a MGTOW and especially as a Christian that one night stands/FWB is a tumultuous way of getting my rocks off……….I’m just simply lost. Your prayers and insights are extremely valued.

Thank you.

Drugs f~~~ everything up. By doing drugs you f~~~ed up your relationship. This happened to me too. Accept, take responsibility. Now look inside you learn to be better person mentally and physically. Develop self esteem and respect yourself.

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