Crazy ex returns!

[HawkeParticipant 197]

Here I was going my own way as every day when I got a mail from my crazy ex I dumped in early 2014. And by crazy I mean bats~~~ crazy. Quick version: after I dumped her, she kept bombarding me with messages and calls almost entire year begging me to return to her. I held steady maintaining radio silence until some Chad showed up and finally all this s~~~ ceased.

And last month all that crap broke loose again. Knowing that I blocked all her email adresses, phone numbers and other channels she created new ones and stared bothering again (guess Chad went his own way). I´m generally pretty calm so I always just laughed it off and clicked the erase button. Now today another message received. Funny part is the attention whoring: in the message she congratulates me for my sisters newborn kid. Very relevant. Probably stiffed that out from sisters fb since I don´t use that thing. Then the message goes with the usual s~~~ how she misses me (my money) and wants me to meet up with her (figures).

Normally I would disregarded it all like the rest but seriously I´m starting to get a tired of this s~~~. I´m considering replying her and unload all the ordnance I have so she leaves me alone. On the other hand she´s not even worth replying.

What do you gentleman think? What would you do?

Qui audet adipiscitur - Who dares, wins

[MurineesParticipant 704]

“Do not engage!”
This is the advice given to me, and it works effectively.

[Anonymous 25]

completely ignore her

don’t give her any attention

engaging with stalkers makes them worse

[jimbob15217Participant 491]

No need to unload. Just respond. “Yes, the new baby is happy and healthy. We won’t be meeting up. All the best to you.”

Giving her a double-barrel tirade isn’t going your own way. It’s going her way.

[PistolPeteParticipant 27143]

She wants you to “dump” on her—to her negative attention is better than NO attention. Give her nothing. She doesn’t exist anymore…her name was…what? Can’t even remember.

[Solo MAN’S WisdomParticipant]

Hawke wrote:

I´m considering replying her and unload all the ordnance I have so she leaves me alone.

If you respond to her, no matter whether it’s positively or negatively, she has won and will continue to harass you.
IGNORE HER FOREVER.

It’s the best revenge.

When women lead, destruction is the destination. -- Me.

[SamsquanchParticipant 4226]

The best way to unload on her is to not reply. You won’t win any kind of argument, or any kind of point you try to make with her. As long as she gets any kind of response, that’s all she wants. Don’t reply, she will find Chad in a few days. Then in another year or so, the cycle will continue. Happened to me a few times but I wasn’t smart enough to not reply.

Get out of town or go do something on your own this weekend and you’ll forget about the crap she’s flinging towards you.

[Anonymous 43]

Stay the f~~~ away. If you respond, she will make the one phone call, and you will be up for harassment charges. Harassment is any unwanted communication. She is immune from this bulls~~~ however. Do not respond, she will cut and paste your new address header onto a bulls~~~ message and take you to court.

Stay the f~~~ away. Maintain silence. Do not engage. Do not acknowledge. Do not reply.

There is a reason why you called her a crazy ex.

Continue to go on your way, and leave that s~~~ vortex behind.

[Anonymous 43]

she knows you blocked her with old address. She is trolling for the new address so she can f~~~ with you

[Anonymous 43]

I have changed phones, emails, bought a different car and moved 900 miles away to get away from the s~~~ vortex. works pretty well.

[DiogenesParticipant 373]

Maintain no contact if you are through with her. Save what she sends you in a file somewhere, however, in case you need documentation in the future.

Do NOT trust bats–t crazy no matter how long it’s been. Bats–t crazy is a condition that never improves.

[GregB0Participant]

Hawke wrote:

Knowing that I blocked all her email adresses, phone numbers and other channels she created new ones and stared bothering again

Anonymous wrote:

completely ignore her

PistolPete wrote:

Give her nothing.

As you may know, all email browsers and new cellphones allow you to block numbers and emails. This is foolproof and you never know that they sent the message. Cellphones allow you add additional numbers so that they are blocked as well. No fuss, no muss and she can flap her bats~~~ crazy self into the night.

​"​My father didn't tell me how to live; he lived, and let me watch him do it.​" - Clarence Buddinton Kelland

[Anonymous 42]

Hawke wrote:

I held steady maintaining radio silence until some Chad showed up and finally all this s~~~ ceased.

The monkey branches to another tree, don’t give her so much as a twig to latch onto! BE A GREASE POLE!

Hawke wrote:

I´m considering replying her and unload all the ordnance I have so she leaves me alone. On the other hand she´s not even worth replying.

What do you gentleman think? What would you do?

I just clicked off 11 + for each of the comments stated above! LEAVE HER ALONE just like the millions of other nutjob women that don’t deserve men!

Leave that turd alone!

[IRuleMeParticipant]

File a restraining order. Keep every e-mail, phone contact, every record you can, and submit it when you file. Keep copies for yourself, and give another set to your lawyers.

[Anonymous 12]

get the law on your side, and treat her like an ex wife:
document everything you still can, lawyer up and keep her at a distance.

do this without telling her.
Your mental health and physical security are none of her business.

[Anonymous 38]

Do NOT reply, whatever you do. Think about it, you’re p~~~ed she won’t leave you alone – do you think responding to her is going to solve that?? Even if you’re super nasty, you’ll still be giving the bitch what she wants/needs.
She’s dead to you. Now is not the time to give in, block her on every platform she contacts you on. Make a list/diary of events and then you can always open a case for harassment against her, if she doesn’t stop. You’re always one step ahead and able find a way to foil her latest attempt.
Be strong brother.

[StealthParticipant 5328]

I am also on the receiving end from my crazy ex gf of a couple years now.

Radio silence is the textbook and best answer.

However, just recently I ran into her at a party, she approached me and started gettimg dramatic. I found a right moment to tell her more forcefully and directly to stay away from me, that I believed she was struggling with a specific mental illness, that she does NOT love me, but is just being obsessive. The way that part of the convo went was actually cordial on both sides. Might have broken the rule but it felt good to defend myself to her, and lay all the cards on the table.

After a couple of years of passive avoidance, delivering a strong reply felt good. I think it was the right move for me, but couldn’t officially recommend to someone else it over radio silence.

I have considered posting a ongoing thread here tracking my experiences being stalked by this woman, but for now I make sure to let my closest friends know what is going on, for safety reasons.

"Once you’ve taken care of the basics, there’s very little in this world for which your life is worth deferring." -David Hansson. "It’s not when women are mean or nasty that anything is out of the ordinary. It’s when they are NICE to you that you have to be on high alert..." -Jackinov.

[WPLParticipant 2390]

Although unloading on her might feel satisfying in the short term, I do not think that doing so would be beneficial to your longer-term peace. What’s the best possible scenario if you did have words with her: a hollow and insincere apology, made with hopes of pulling you back into her vortex of crazy? What’s the worst: false accusations of harassment against you? Ongoing stalking? Who knows…? I just don’t think that you stand to gain anything meaningful by engaging with her. Block… document… and then ignore.

I’m not picking on you; this is the same advice I received from my dad, my private investigator, and my attorneys during my divorce (yes, I hired two of ’em: the best one from the “big city”, and the best local one).

[StealthParticipant 5328]

"Once you’ve taken care of the basics, there’s very little in this world for which your life is worth deferring." -David Hansson. "It’s not when women are mean or nasty that anything is out of the ordinary. It’s when they are NICE to you that you have to be on high alert..." -Jackinov.

[HawkeParticipant 197]

Thank you all gentlemen for the input. This is honestly the greatest thing about this site – whenever I come seeking some wisdom or advice you guys never dissapoint. You´re right if I return fire now that´s exactly what she wants. Best to stay low.

Luckily I have all the comm traffic saved for all cases. I don´t think she poses any serious threat to me anymore but I have enjoyed great years of my mghow life and I dislike when my past sneaks up on me when I considered it closed.

Qui audet adipiscitur - Who dares, wins

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