Being stood up

[XSDBSParticipant 3598]

Bottom line: If she wanted to be with you, she would.

If she stood you up, she actually did you a favor, think of the money/time you would have spent/wasted on her.

Of course, there is no reason to contact/respond to her ever again, not even to thank her for the above favor.

[KeymasterKeymaster]

Spend enough time in the field, and any man will calculate the flake rate is roughly 75%. Three out of four times you can expect this s~~~ test, and it’s just to see how you’ll handle it.

But you can stop it before she tries it, and you make her feel like a piece of s~~~ – before she can do it to you.

“You’re definitely going to be there – and on time – yes? Because I don’t tolerate flakes”.

EVERY one of them will say “Oh yeah definitely! I’m not like that!!”. So now you have her cornered. If she STILL doesn’t show, postpones or cancels – you make sure she never hears from you again. No explanation. No reply to her text. No acknowledgement of her apology no matter how desperately she blows up your phone. No more discussion. She does not exist. SHE f~~~ed up and she knows how.

It’s ALL on her, and you don’t need to say another thing.

••••••

There was a girl (much younger) who I have a history with – for years. She’s usually very cool, very fun, very easy going and reliable. We hadn’t chatted in a long time, and she very enthusiastically wanted to meet after work one night for a bite to eat.

We arranged a time, she confirmed, I wrote back “flake and die”.
She “lol-ed” and said NO WAY would she flake on me. “See you tomorrow!”

As regular as her period, 2 hours before we were supposed to meet the next day, she opens BEGGING for an apology, because she had to “take care of her mom’s dog”.

She never heard from me again, and my phone exploded for days.

She didn’t think I was serious. They never do. They don’t think you have the b~~~~ to just forget about her altogether – and permanently cut her off. Especially if she knows you already.

“WTF?? ARE YOU SERIOUS?? HOW CAN YOU DO THIS TO MEEEEEE”

Music to my ears.

I’m not the asshole here. SHE is, and she knows it. With no effort from me ( because I set it up to be all her fault if she flakes ) it festers in her mind for days / weeks / months and you stand out as the ONLY guy who doesn’t f~~~ around.

You just can’t cave or give her a second chance – no matter what.

One chance. Per chick. Per lifetime. No exceptions.
If you need to have the last word, let that ^ be it.

Women think you’ll be there no matter what. They think they can treat you like an “option” for as long as they want, and you couldn’t possibly be sincere. When they realize they are wrong, this is the kind of thing they WILL remember when they slam face first into the wall. It’s ALL their own fault.

If you keep doing what you've always done... you're gonna keep getting what you always got.

[Cap285Participant 6007]

Anonymous wrote:

Cap285 wrote:

As Keymaster said: One chance. Per woman. Per lifetime.

Hey Cap., I once heard MG-Tower say; ZERO TOLERANCE!

Roll once and they’ll play walk-the-dog like you’re a Yo-Yo!

If it comes up, I will try to remember and quote you as well sir!

Fuck this planet.

[OldBillParticipant]

I haven’t dated in the traditional sense in a very long time, so I haven’t been stood up in a very long either. Funny how that works.

Do not date. Do not impregnate. Do not co-habitate. Above all, do not marry. Reclaim and never again surrender your personal sovereignty.

[IRuleMeParticipant]

I’ve had it a few times. Even had a chick insist I take her number, and after I spent two days calling and texting, she never responded. Women play games all the time. So now I play games back.

Anonymous wrote:

Led Zeppelin put it best in fool in the rain.

It’s 2017, rain doesn’t fall on a MGHOW!

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Vastly underrated album. In fact that’s one of my favorite songs from In Through the Out Door.

[MGTOW KnightParticipant 7477]

I had a 29 year teacher flake on me about 9 months ago. I remember telling her to enjoy the wall in a few years. I also told her that female body building is a huge turn off for dudes, but she called me an asshole for that.

Me: “Dude’s don’t like burly chicks btw”.

Flaky C~~~: “And you are an asshole”

Yeah, I’m the asshole for stating the obvious truth. Regardless, the shaming had no affect on me.
What was funny was this c~~~ was aware of her biological clock, but decided I wasn’t worth her time. She used the, “I’m too old for you”, excuse. Lol. 3 & 1/2 years ain’t s~~~, especially when you considered I’ve been with milfs who were in their mid 30’s. These milfs were way hotter than this c~~~ too!

Stupid c~~~ looked like a bird and was pushing toward the too buff side for a chick. Boy, I’m glad I avoided Big Bird c~~~!

Fuck bitches... literally and metaphorically

[sidecarParticipant 35837]

OneTrueMisfit wrote:

I took hour long drives to meet a girl in person who I met online

There’s no such thing as meeting someone online. If it isn’t face to face it’s not meeting. With that in mind, why would you make a long drive to see a woman you’ve never met? Unless there’s some compelling financial benefit like it’s for your work or business, don’t go there. Let her come to you. Or not. Don’t waste any f~~~s on her if she doesn’t.

[Prefer Peace to PieceParticipant 10809]

I say congratulations.

I’ve been stood up.
It’s actually very efficient. You didn’t blow money on some worthless bitch. You didn’t waste your time. And the bitch didn’t give you any STD’s.

When this happens to me, I often will throw a party. Move on.

[OneTrueMisfitSpectator 2690]

MGTOW Knight wrote:

I had a 29 year teacher flake on me about 9 months ago. I remember telling her to enjoy the wall in a few years. I also told her that female body building is a huge turn off for dudes, but she called me an asshole for that.

YES!!! XD!

Don't care

[Binary LogicParticipant 2351]

Good way to remedy this is to simply pick a place you’d want to go to regardless if she shows or not. If she flakes, you can still enjoy yourself. If she shows and you dont mesh, you can still enjoy yourself.When parting ways, if it’s not back to your or her place, you can still enjoy yourself. The thing I focus on is that women are fAR more likely to flake, so it is best to guard your own interest and tine There are some men that do it too, and after they do that twice they get labeled as having bitch tendencies and lose credibility.

Make sure they understand that you aren’t dating on a first meet, your are going out to enjoy yourself, and if she happens to want to come along, she can chill with.

If you invite, be prepared to entertain and spend a reasonable amount as would any proper host.If they want to tag along, let them know they should be prepared to pay their own way. I don’t comingle much, but when I do, ground rules are laid out so there is no room for misinterpretation or f~~~ery. Just my way of doing things.

Funny, isn't it? How women thrive on a mans time, attention and resources, while simultaneously telling him he isn't enough...

[Anonymous 2]

Binary Logic that’s perfect. That’s why I would go somewhere with good food. If she sucked or didn’t show I ate good. If she was a bitch I’d make her pay with nfg. The look on their faces is priceless. Or ditch them as stated above. They can ad to a man pleasure but never the sole source, women are incapable of it!

[Binary LogicParticipant 2351]

Anonymous wrote:

Binary Logic that’s perfect. That’s why I would go somewhere with good food. If she sucked or didn’t show I ate good. If she was a bitch I’d make her pay with nfg. The look on their faces is priceless..

Damn right. But I gotta give credit where it’s do. I am almost certain KM originally gave that advice. Go where you want to go, do what YOU WANT TO DO. If they want to tag along.. its kosher. Take the fundamental rules found here, add to it (but don’t take away), and things almost immediately start to work in your favor. Classy.. not c~~~y my friend.

Funny, isn't it? How women thrive on a mans time, attention and resources, while simultaneously telling him he isn't enough...

[sidecarParticipant 35837]

Binary Logic wrote:

Good way to remedy this is to simply pick a place you’d want to go to regardless if she shows or not.

Damn straight. That’s exactly what I do. “I’m going to see such and such movie at such and such time. Wanna see it too?”

Arrive early, buy your ticket, and go directly into the theater to save her a seat. That way she pays for her own gas and her own ticket.

One of the most important things you can tell a woman is: “This is not a date.”

If she flakes, you can still enjoy yourself.

And you never ask her again. Ever.

[Anonymous 3]

That’s why you don’t date. That’s why you never put yourself in a situation where you can be stood up.

Guys often look at themselves as inadequate and try to actively impress women, because subconsciously we all know women by default get so much attention from other guys anyway and led to think we are worthless, so we need to go out of our way to separate ourselves from the pack, by being extra nice, extra kind, extra thoughtful, etc. In the process, we lose track of ourselves, that we ourselves matter too, matter the most in fact.

At the end of the day, you got to just face the reality. Reality is, doesn’t matter how physical attractive a woman is, she’s a stranger. Why would you drive 50 miles, or spend $100 on a dinner, on a stranger? It doesn’t make sense. If I had an extra $100 to burn, I would go buy some pizzas and wings, and shoot the breeze with friends, who have actually earned this by being your boys.

Remember, your time, your energy, your life, your everything is valuable… and women would have to BUY IN. If you choose to deal with them, it is imperative that you understand this, and live it.

[AntipathyParticipant 4901]

i never got stood up, because i stood up, for myself. This occured from a very young age to me, that asking and approaching was not my job, and had no interest.

[joetechParticipant]

Once when I was dating there was this girl that was living with her sister and her sister’s husband. We had a date to go camping with my dad and stepmom over the weekend. I went to pick her up, and she wasn’t home. Her sister asked me if we had a date as I was leaving. I said, “Not anymore,” as I left. I just never called her again.

"Don't follow in my footsteps...I stepped in something."

[OneLaneOnlyPlsParticipant 1747]

OneTrueMisfit wrote:

Has this ever happened to any of you? What are you some of your experiences?

I never took an hour long drive on a first meet, period. Not sure what you were thinking there, must have been some unicorn.

I’ve done second/third meet hour long drive, when I’ve known exactly what was going down. Got what I wanted, then got the fk out. On one of these trips, as I was leaving, took a wrong turn and ended up driving back past her house. Another car was pulling in the driveway. Considering this was online, I’d bet it was another guy having his turn. That was 2 years ago.

[Chase PesosParticipant 2136]

You guys are all on the f~~~ing money. I love this place.

Chase a check, never chase a chick...

[JVBParticipant]

Yes plenty. Their s~~~ testing starts early.

Peace is > piece.

[OldBillParticipant]

Anonymous wrote:

That’s why you don’t date. That’s why you never put yourself in a situation where you can be stood up.

Exactly. You tell them you’re seeing X, going to Y, or eating at Z and that they’re welcome to come along if they want. If they don’t come along, there’s no change in you plans because you’re still seeing X, going to Y, or eating at Z.

Their presence or absence doesn’t matter to you and doesn’t effect your plans.

Putting it another way, you make them ask to come along rather than you asking them out.

Do not date. Do not impregnate. Do not co-habitate. Above all, do not marry. Reclaim and never again surrender your personal sovereignty.

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