Are You Happy?

[sidecarParticipant 35862]

Why settle for merely being happy when you can be smugly satisfied?

[Anonymous 1]

Yes

[RusskyParticipant 13503]

I’m unfulfilled, but I’m happy otherwise

proud carrier of the 'why?' chromosome

[AFTParticipant 2726]

I wrote about happiness as a delusion a while ago, and I found this reply very helpful.

I am now far more content and accept reality for what it is:

Keymaster wrote:

Thank you for the inspiring thought.

AFT wrote:

There is social expectations about the importance of happiness.

I think it’s bulls~~~. A man is happy when he is CONTENT. When he is content, happiness is certain to follow.
Because when a man is content… he’s doing very well.

I thought about this when I was once out with a girlfriend having a quiet outdoor lunch under an open sky. Nothing was wrong. The birds were shining, the sun was singing and it was a fine day. The woman I was with ruined a perfectly fine day, and I have seen this a f~~~-hundred times.

She was “not haaaaaaaapy” and she threw it at me across the table out of nowhere, and I found myself asking “what’s wrong?”. Then I stopped myself. Why am I asking her “what’s wrong” like her problem is mine to fix? There was no reason to start any drama. None! She was a “happy” chaser. If she wasn’t high on happy there was always something wrong – even when there wasn’t. She had NOTHING to complain about, so she created something to complain about.

Her happiness is not my cardio.

I see women chasing “happy” all the time, and throw the word around like a frisbee:

• “I just want her to be HAPPY”…
• “I just want to be HAPPY”….
• “I deserve to be HAPPY”
• “She LOOKS happy” (?)
• “I hope you’re HAPPY”
• “Yes, but are you HAPPY?”

No. I’m HAPPY when I am content. Because as a man, I know the VALUE of being content. It’s not free. I’m not ENTITLED to being “happy”. The world doesn’t OWE me happiness. I don’t know why women behave like other people owe them personal happiness, but I can’t even listen to it. Happily married dreaming of divorce. WTF is that s~~~.

In an endless list of diatribes about her own husband’s inadequacies while pretending she’s “happily married”, and together with the girlfriend above (and a million other examples), I concluded women are “happy” when they are complaining. So their idea of “happy” is a place I wouldn’t even want to go, thankyouvvvvvvverymuch.

I want to be CONTENT in peace and quiet …. and that’s when I’m “happy”.
Free from humanity’s mad inhuman noise. Being content is where it’s at.

I explained this to a woman once, she didn’t get it. At all.
Too bad. Chasing “happy” is the BEST way to be miserable.

When the war cemeteries are half full of the corpses of dead conscripted women, only then will women have earned the right to speak of equality. Sidecar “A man is a success if he gets up in the morning and goes to bed at night and in between does what he wants to do.” - Bob Dylan

[NotMyProblemParticipant 965]

I find happiness in projects and achieving goals. To the point where I can’t imagine retiring.

Retirement isn’t the goal anymore. Just acquiring assets along the way that provide passive cash flow.

Over time I have more freedom, and more capital to invest in projects and lifestyle options.

Not my property... Not my problem

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