How to deal with/what to say to a narcissistic mother?

[ChristopherParticipant 2478]

Badger wrote:

Except from Awareness by Anthony de Mello. His psychological insights are among the best I have found.

Thanks Badger !

Zarathustra wrote:

I have the same kind of mother and I cut off contact 7 years ago. I have never been happier. I urge you to do the same. Its not worth and she will never change

Thanks Zarathustra !

Secret Agent MGTOW wrote:

No drama, no fighting. Just leave. You will deprive her of what she wants. She will learn she cannot get what she wants from you if you leave every time she starts up.

Thanks Secret Agent MGTOW !

Anonymous wrote:

Ghost

Cheers mate !

Monk wrote:

Toxic people have to be cut off.
It doesn’t matter a damn who they are.

Thanks Monk !

Kolaxis wrote:

Ghosting for 6+ months and then saying hello one day like nothing ever happened has been pretty effective for me. My mom is so happy to hear from me that she forgets to bitch for 5 whole minutes!

🙂 Good one thanks Kolaxis !

shovelheadrider wrote:

I don’t know a lot of Spanish but I do know Adios

Thanks ShovelheadRider !

Jackinov wrote:

As others have said, just cut her the f~~~ off. Absolutely no contact with or from her.

Thanks Jackinov!

Crankganker wrote:

also have a narcissistic mother. One thing I can tell you is NEVER call her that. Didn’t go over well for me.
However I have found the best way to deal with my mothers s~~~, is to just not take any. Do what you father is afraid to do.
She can divorce rape him, not you, so just give it back to her twice as hard. Do your poor ol dad a favor and bring her down a peg or 2. Call her out on all of her s~~~.
It will create drama at first , but she will soon realize that when you stop listening and caring and calling her out on her s~~~ that she has no control over you.
I would NOT recommend this with ANY OTHER women, but since she is your mother I think you can be more assertive.

Thanks CrankGanker ! The last time she started attacking me 6 months ago when I was visiting my Dad I got angry and I completely ridiculed her stupid assertions and called her a f~~~in idiot so many times she ended up leaving the house – I had won the argument and it felt good for a change rather than being trampled on by her – my father was delighted I had put her in her place as she is constantly giving him s~~~ – she marches around loudly stomping her heels and giving orders like a deranged c~~~ its unreal. I think I will take your advice and be more assertive by calling her out on her s~~~ if the occasion merits it. My strategy I think will be to ghost but not put up with any s~~~ if there is no other option but to confront it.. thank you very much again for your post.

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[TrailbossParticipant 1844]

If she is as you say, she cannot shame you to the rest of the family: they already know she is a bitch and will probably envy you for shutting the door in her face. I hated my mother. She lied to me for years about my father and when I was old enough to figure it out, I hated her forever. Never went to her funeral. I was in the hospital with no leg and all kinds of tubes in me, but I was able to make it clear to the nurses that she was NEVER to be let in to the place and never allowed to visit me when I came back from the sand box all f~~~ed up. I didn’t care what my family thought, and they didn’t blame me anyway. Just tell her “You f~~~ed up my fathers life and I am not letting you f~~~ up mine”! Dont explain, don’t make excuses, just make your stand and shut the door in her face. Let Dad know he is ALWAYS welcome, if that is how you feel. Do what you want to do, now! Or you will become your father sooner or later……..#MANOUT!

An educated, armed populace cannot be enslaved.

[ChristopherParticipant 2478]

Trailboss wrote:

I hated her forever. Never went to her funeral. I was in the hospital with no leg and all kinds of tubes in me, but I was able to make it clear to the nurses that she was NEVER to be let in to the place and never allowed to visit me when I came back from the sand box all f~~~ed up. I didn’t care what my family thought, and they didn’t blame me anyway. Just tell her “You f~~~ed up my fathers life and I am not letting you f~~~ up mine”! Dont explain, don’t make excuses, just make your stand and shut the door in her face. Let Dad know he is ALWAYS welcome, if that is how you feel. Do what you want to do, now! Or you will become your father sooner or later

Trailboss thank you very much for your words. Very sorry to hear all that about your leg. Your direct words have really hit home with me I appreciate it. You are right – this life is short there is no point in pretending her behaviour is okay when its not. I have had so much anger inside over the years as a result of her narc behaviour that to keep it pent up inside and not make a stand would be unhealthy. Cheers mate. You and all the guys on here deserve a beer on me.

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