A question for the married / divorced guys

[Y_Participant 4591]

This is your lizard brain talking. You need to ignore the bastard.
It tells you lies. Just look at the female as it really is. You’ll get the knack of it. Don’t wait to get 20/20 after the divorce or after one of the c~~~s puts you in jail for something you didn’t do so you can get ass-raped.

I ain’t kidding. The only loser unfortunately will be you. There is no winning this game. Walk the other way bro.

Peace.

[Mr. SpockParticipant 10911]

I really can’t add any advice other than what’s already been said.
I have been married and divorced. I didn’t date at all in High School and didn’t lose my virginity until after I graduated. Funny thing is that I didn’t dress well or have a car. I wasn’t on the Football or Wrestling team and I didn’t party so that’s why I was practically invisible in High School. Women didn’t start to “notice” me until AFTER I moved out of my parents house and was making it on my own. I was only 21 when that happened. By then there were already plenty of single moms trying to cash in on my hard work. I stepped aside because I had an idea of what was going on.
So how did I get burned? I was introduced to my future ex-wife through a co-worker after work. I was 28 and she was 30. She had her own place, her own car, a job and no kids. I thought I had met the one because she had her s~~~ together or so I thought. We didn’t start living together until AFTER we got married. That’s when I found out that she was living pay check to pay check and that her parents were subsidizing her life style. Her father was doing the up keep on her house and property which she had a mortgage on. Her car was ready for the junk yard and she was thinner when we had first met because she was recovering from being a coke user. Turned out that she was overweight her whole life and was over 200 pounds before her habit. By the time we had met, she had already put back on some of the weight. After our first year of marriage, she had gained 30 pounds and was 3 Twinkies shy of 200.
The sex had already began to decline as well. When you are dating a woman she wants to secure a man so she will do a lot to make you believe that that is how life with her will be. She may even offer to pay for a few dates or be extra forgiving of your friends and hobbies. While living apart and dating she will be your real life porn star and agree to ANYTHING. Sex everyday? You bet and twice on Sunday. BJ’s? Whenever you want and with a smile. I had friends that would tell stories of anal and threesomes while they were dating their future wives. That s~~~ ALL dries up after the honeymoon is over and she changes because she has what she wants from the “relations~~~”. The only chance of seeing any of it again is when she wants something.
You become her mule to do what ever labor needs done. You become her ATM to supply the money she needs. You become her buffer to deal with her friends and family. You become the blame for her f~~~ ups. You become her tool that she will gladly throw away once your usefulness is gone. All of this is EXPECTED ON DEMAND while you have no right to expect or demand anything.
There is nothing that a man can get from marriage, relations~~~ or co-habitation that he can’t get from being alone. Stay single. As you get older the so-called scarcity of pussy will disappear.

Feminism isn't about equality with men, it's about leverage over men.

[I left it all behind meParticipant 68]

Winstral; I am on a laptop 12,000 miles away in Thailand and had to reply to your questions of older/married/divorced mgtow. I am 65 yrs old. was at Woodstock, a Hippie during Summer of Love, and as I read here of my brothers accounts and an older guy like me. I only hope you can remember what we! are saying. All these accounts are from your brothers and just look at the common themes. I have been married 3 times. My last wife was a “hottie” who kept a diary,so when I read about her sucking some dudes dick, never said a thing. Next day went down to best divorce attorney in Honolulu & had the papers “served” and signed for. Had the big bucks,that why she threw her self at me. I offered an amount for quick divorce that stunned the attorney. My wife said she needed time to process emotionally I told attorney I would bump it up another $5,000.00 for a signature or it goes down from there.She processed her emotions in 60 minutes and signed. I flew back here to Thailand in 1995 and was flying back & forth to Honolulu.
I live here now and can’t believe what you guys are going threw. I have not been back to the Continental US since 1990 High School Re-Union in Delaware. Anyway after 45 years of dating/LTR/ 3 marriages here is the distilled recommendation…#1 Never Get Married..First 2 marriages I felt “obligated” to. All sex with all 3 marriages went down very soon. Do you want a mercy f*ck when it used to be hot sex?
#2 You sound like a nice, sensitive guy actually pondering this.Nice? Sensitive? these man eaters will be smiling to their girlfriends, “he opened my car door!” .tee hee. Dude, the single biggest thing that has been a constant with every! female encounter = manipulation,mind games,tears,guilt trips!!..sound like fun?..Living in So. East Asia girls are everywhere and none! of them think they have the last pussy on the planet. I have friend-girl-friends. I get handjobs for a 10 pound bag of rice and vegetable oil( $6.00). I do not ever! get close to any females. My girlfriend from Cambodia today(does not speak English) no problem. She lays concrete for $12/day. Yesterday I let her come back to my condo on the beach & let her take a shower and gave her an oil massage, she works very hard. I pulled out one of my most popular vibrators and had her arching her back & whimpering (you guys know). Today? She called me in broken English she wanted to see me! I told her I needed to go to the store, when I picked her up she waved her hands to go the other way. What did I do?? I turned around?
I drove the way she wanted and waved me to stop on the side of the road…it was a beauty parlor!!!. Manipulation,head trips. It’s a chromosome in the female species. It will destroy you..I like what one
of the guys said here..don’t hate them..ignore them..don’t pay new car prices for used and banged up cars that will break your heart and they will not hesitate in manipulating you into financial ruin. Why? its in there DNA..answer do what I did. Everytime! one of my girlfriends gave me “the attitude” jumped in my Benz down to the nice seedy adult stores (1970’s- until the internet) and jacked off and came home with a smile. When I had a girlfriend that found my porn and she said “what do you need me for?” I said “I don’t”…That gave me my pride back & of course she called me gross! I called it funny & then proceeded to pack my porn as back up for the “bitchiness”. Out it would come, I never missed a beat. So in closing, especially you younger guy’s. Look at what your brothers are telling you. I like what the comedian Bill Burr said when I was in Sydney, Australia..” why get married?, if the divorce rate is over 50% ? would you jump out of a plane at 50/50 chance of the shoot opening?” Except hitting the ground at 100mph saves you the pain of LTR / Marriage. Never Marry. Never Marry. Let them go by. Dodge the bullet. 80% of females admit that there husbands were not their 1st “choice”..They just kept stalking until they meet a nice guy like you & then you jump out of the plane!!..DO NOT MARRY!

[Daryll55Participant 2950]

Winstral,

Here’s the thing. At 20 years old, I have never had a girlfriend. I never had the experience of dating the girl and paying for all kings of expenses later on in life. All of that in just hoping you’ll have sex with her, I don’t think it’s worth going through all that hassle. I wouldn’t know what it’s like going through the same experiences as you guys do.

You seem like a really intelligent,pragmatic young man.
It is wise to heed the advice of those who have gone before you.

When I was 20 yrs old, I thought I was going to conquer the world! Women were beautiful, smelled good, and were always nearby.
Also when I was 20, all it took was a good gust of wind to get my pecker pipe hard instantly. It’s hard to think with the right head when ya sporting wood with many beautiful women around.
You seem to be able to have a handle,(sorry) on that issue so let’s get into women a little bit.
You see, what I just told you in the paragraph above is that her mom,(the mom of any girl you may find attractive), has taught her how to manipulate/control men above. While we drool over the opportunity for sex, they quietly make plans. If mom can’t help with an answer, they have this support group called friends. BTW,…. NEVER trust her friends, they lie in a second for her.

To encapsulate, by never having a GF you have breached a tall wall in the man/woman relationship. Marriage today is about one thing: Procreating. You have to ask yourself if you really want to have children. If the answer is “no”, then a good “Hooker” would be better for that situation. No emotion/BS that way. Just find a good one which they call themselves “providers.” They have a select few clients and aren’t the trashy street ho type which are gross as hell!
Good Luck! Decisions are tough to make, but only YOU can make them for yourself.

Marry again, Hell NO ! ( Even JESUS was hung on a cross just once)

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