a bit broken

[TicParticipant 4329]

I’ve been reading some of your stories and they have truly helped me tremendously these last few days. For that, I thank you.

On paper, I’m supposed to be a catch: a successful professional with high income, physically attractive, in very good shape due to religious workout ethic, confident, tough SOB, into exciting hobbies (skydiving, motorcycle riding), traveling to remote areas alone across the country…so why did I fail again in another relationship where my heart is broken, so hurt that I experienced physical manifestations of real pain in my chest.

Frankly, I’m in shock. She was dating another woman, for a while, and won’t be honest for exactly how long, maybe the entire duration of our 4 year relationship, who knows. How was I supposed to know that she is bisexual, she never even alluded to it. She “loved me,” and said her pussy is mine and mine only forever. What a crock of s~~~. I f~~~ing feel so dumb and naïve. Never in my wildest dream think that my woman would need another woman for emotional and sexual gratification. So, I caught her in bed with this other woman for the second time and now it’s over. The first time I caught her, I broke up and went ghost. She begged for my forgiveness and that she’ll do whatever it takes to make it work.
Because I’m obviously a mangina and thought I was in “love”, took her back only to have it happen for the second time with the same woman. She completely also humiliated me in front of her saying some nasty s~~~ that was really hurtful. She essentially dumped me just as I dumped her because it appears, she wants her more.

I thought our bond was very strong. I thought we connected on a very deep spiritual level. We had so many plans. I swear to GOD, I was willing to give her the whole world, and often think about that I would give my life for her…that’s how much I loved her. I was planning to buy a house for us, so that she can live comfortably, and I would agree to be the main bread winner, provide her with security and love forever. I was so wrapped up in this dream in my head and was working so hard to achieve all this that I completely missed all the neon colored red flags flashing in front of me. Her behavior had become completely erratic and complete opposite to what she used to be.

Gentlemen, here is a fundamental truth that I have learned, and should have known, but ignored…if she start to act distant, if she starts to be cold and disappear for hours and not reachable by phone, she is very likely f~~~ing another person. I had suspected this for a very long time, and had confronted her many times, but, she outright lied to my face like it was the most natural thing she can do. I cannot believe the level of deception she went to keep this fallacy of a relationship going even after the first episode. She would tell me that she loves me and wants to be with me forever, but, at the same time, she was banging this girl on the side.

Some may think that infidelity of a woman with another woman isn’t as bad. I can tell you that it is bad because it exposes the cheater for who she really is. All the lies, deception, the emotional abuse, the belittling of MY character for questioning her in the past, the anxiety that I felt as I tried to figure out the truth nearly destroyed me. It had become so bad that I was resorting to alcohol daily to numb my pain as I tried to figure out why the woman who keeps telling me she loves me, is acting so cold and distant.

During this relationship, I paid for most things (restaurants, vacations) and that’s fine. It was the first time I had tried to really make a relationship work, never cheated, rejected a number of women at work just so I can stay faithful to the one I loved…and it all blew up in my face. But, I thought I was getting an honest, loyal woman who I could trust. She seemed so genuine. She always professed her honest character and how she can’t tell a lie. But, wasn’t it all a lie? She completely has abandoned me in a drop of a hat. Gone, forever, like it’s nothing like I don’t even exist, like we did not spend countless intimate days traveling the country on trips sharing adventures, lust, love. What the f~~~ happened? Is it that easy to just let go of a man who you say you love forever?

I guess it is. So, after all the emotional turmoil, I’m starting to recover. I still have days that I really hurt. But, I’ve decided to concentrate on myself and my career and built myself even more to higher successes. I can say with absolute certainty that I will not tolerate the bulls~~~ of a woman ever again. I simply cannot go through this heartache ever again. It nearly destroyed me.

I’ll be honest that this was not my first heart ache in a relationship but I don’t want to discuss that right now. I didn’t learn last time because I thought I had found the wrong one. It appears, they are all wrong. This isn’t a game that I can win long term. Relationships with women seem to deteriorate into s~~~. No matter how great the sex is, how much you connect in a deep emotional level to that individual, ultimately a woman’s nature will lead them to destroy you mentally and emotionally. I truly believe that men are more loyal and emotionally attached to their women than vice versa. Perhaps it’s an evolutionary adaptation for survival of the species to procreate. I don’t know. Honestly, at this point, I look at women, even attractive ones, and they disgust me. I see through all their bulls~~~. They got manginas at home and hit on me at work…so f~~~ing pathetic. The thought of a woman that I love doing that behind my back makes me resent these bitches. Never again will any of you women get a good guy like me to lay down for you. F~~~ you all.

God bless peace and freedom.

[TaxGuyParticipant]

Thanks for the introduction. So many stories here are similar with a twist. I guess your twist was the cheating was with another woman. I have never been cheated on by a woman with another woman, but I doubt the pain would be much different.

In time you will realize that you dodged a huge bullet. You didn’t marry her. So, as bad as it is, it could be worse. I went through a breakup with a girlfriend of 4 years when she cheated, and a divorce. Both hurt, but the divorce hurts every month when I write a f~~~ing check!!

You broke rule number one: One chance, per chick, per lifetime. I’m not being a dick, I’ve broken that one a few times myself. But it always came back to bite me in the ass. You can do a lot of stupid s~~~ if you stick to that one rule.

The important thing is you’re here. That means that every day from here on out gets better.

Order the good wine

[The Manipulated ManParticipant 1856]

Thanks for your Introduction Tic, and Welcome!

What happens when a man finally comprehends the cold and calculating thoughts that are going through a woman's mind, while her eyes are brimming with tears?

[RennieParticipant]

Welcome Tic. Welcome to the first day of the rest of your life.

[TicParticipant 4329]

thank you for your responses. Yes, I should not have taken her back after that first time. You know what she said to me after the second time…”I shouldn’t have gone back to you.” Cold as f~~~. So, lesson learned.

God bless peace and freedom.

[Solo MAN’S WisdomParticipant]

First, welcome to the forums. There’s a deep mine of insight and information here. Dig well.

Tic wrote:

On paper, I’m supposed to be a catch

I’m afraid you’ve been socialized by the feminocracy to think you’re a fish. Women think of men as:
1. ATM’s. “What do you do for work?” “Where do you live?” “Do you like to travel?” etc.
2. Appliances “You would be handy to have around.” “I can think of a few uses for you [suggestively].”
3. Fish. “You’re a good catch.”

This fish has a bicycle, and continues to ride.

When women lead, destruction is the destination. -- Me.

[John Woods 13Participant 2855]

Welcome Tic!
Well written introduction sir. I’m sorry you had to go through that, but, I’ll say this, you got off easy. You might not think so now, but you did. The bitch could have gotten pregnant by you, married you, and then, after your child got born, divorce you. She would have taken more than half your money on the spot and then half your earnings for the next 18 years, all the while raising your kid with her lesbian lover.
Just imagine all that and then thank the heavens you got out!
Stay strong my friend, read some of our stories and the words of wisdom our brothers here share with us and you will be just fine.

The answer is NO. “I could but I won’t”. Memini murum!

[NerevarParticipant 8040]

Welcome, brother!

I got genuinly p~~~ed off at your ex more and more while I was reading your story. What a c~~~.

"One of the best things internet exposed is just how insane women are." - Freeman_K

[BadgerParticipant 2277]

Welcome. I agree, the more one reads about her, the more disgusting the response to her behavior. Fortunately you did not marry her. I know that does not lessen the emotional pain, but it does lessen the long-term pain, both emotional and financial.

[TicParticipant 4329]

to Solomon’s wisdom: What can I say. We are brainwashed to think we need to be successful and have a woman. Not having a woman equals being a loser or gay. That was constantly pounded into my head with friends and family. Of course, with everything I’ve achieved in my professional life, I don’t feel that way anymore. I see women for manipulative c~~~s that they are.

I know ultimately I’m lucky to get out free without alimony, child support, etc. But the betrayal really hit me hard.

God bless peace and freedom.

[BufordParticipant 935]

The problem is with her. You know who you are, but like most women (perhaps all) they don’t know who they are or what they want. That’s why it’s better to just let them go.

It’s easy to understand why our male ancestors over multiple millennia kept them suppressed and out of the final decision making processes. But at least we’re waking up to our betrayal of their legacy.

"This happens every time one of these floozies starts poontangin' around with those show folk fags. - Sheriff Buford T. Justice"

[Solo MAN’S WisdomParticipant]

Tic. I’ve been in TWO relations~~~s with rug munchers. Didn’t learn my lesson first time. And, yes, the betrayal is rough. It’s difficult to understand that level of dishonesty, however, your Ex only revealed her character and her lack of qualification to be YOUR mate, if you choose to have one.
Remember, you’re amongst friends and comrades here. If you’ve wondered it, experienced it, thought it, or been angered by it, someone else here has written about it.

When women lead, destruction is the destination. -- Me.

[EyeswideopenParticipant 2930]

Tic wrote:

I know ultimately I’m lucky to get out free without alimony, child support, etc. But the betrayal really hit me hard.

Firstly Welcome.

Our stories parallel each other – except the ex was not a lesbian; as far as I know. But she sure as hell cheated – multiple times as best I can tell. I too was too blind to realize and rationalized and excused a whole number of red flags.

The hostility of the betrayal, and subsequent gaslighting was the hardest thing I had to deal with. It took me a few years to totally process how I could go from:

– ” The best thing that ever happened to her”
– ” Been preparing her whole life for me”
– ” Loved me so much”
– ” A unique kind of love she ever experienced”

To deny, dodge and defer anything was wrong. And then like flipping a light switch….

– ” Needing passion”
– “Loves me like a brother”
– ” Wondering how great her life would be if she never met me”.
– ” Made her feel bad about herself because I treated her so well”…. This one bothered me for a long time.
(Classic gas-lighting)
– “Never loved me.”

I too was led to believe, because of social conditioning, that a good looking wife, and later kids, was the brass ring. It’s not – rather lead shoes.

I married mine after 5 years dating, with a very short marriage before things went boom. Luckily, no kids and no support obligations. You are lucky, as am I. Sad thing is all my successes (good career, 100k/year, attractive), was done for the promise of winning a bitch.

You will find, Your brain will undergo a fundamental reprogramming. You will start doing stuff for you. It will feel wrong, selfish, and hollow at first – it did for me. But I am finding as time goes on, it is liberating.

- Marriage is described as an institution. You would have to be crazy to be commited to it. -"If you want to live a happy life, tie it to a goal. Not people or things" Albert Einstein

[NeroParticipant 1466]

Brother, I feel your pain. Welcome to MGTOW. No, it doesn’t matter if you are a Chad, athletic, successful, and have high character. No one is f~~~ing immune in this business. I feel the same way as you do about women. I have personally encountered or have witnessed so much female cruelty to men and other women that there really isn’t a lot of hope left. Good women are a DEAD breed.

[TicParticipant 4329]

Solo MAN’S Wisdom wrote:

Tic. I’ve been in TWO relations~~~s with rug munchers. Didn’t learn my lesson first time. And, yes, the betrayal is rough. It’s difficult to understand that level of dishonesty, however, your Ex only revealed her character and her lack of qualification to be YOUR mate, if you choose to have one.
Remember, you’re amongst friends and comrades here. If you’ve wondered it, experienced it, thought it, or been angered by it, someone else here has written about it.

Two? Crazy stuff. I’m sorry man. and, thank you for your support.

Buford wrote:

The problem is with her. You know who you are, but like most women (perhaps all) they don’t know who they are or what they want. That’s why it’s better to just let them go.

It’s easy to understand why our male ancestors over multiple millennia kept them suppressed and out of the final decision making processes. But at least we’re waking up to our betrayal of their legacy.

You know, I have really contemplated this a lot and agree. Women were kept down for a reason. Because they are the weaker sex, they learn early on how to manipulate others from a young age.

God bless peace and freedom.

[Blue SkiesParticipant 15665]

welcome sir!
thanks for sharing your story
i’m glad you found the path to freedom
enjoy the forums and the website
cheers –

MGTOW is not a movement, it is a way of life.

[TicParticipant 4329]

Eyeswideopen wrote:

tic douloureux wrote:

I know ultimately I’m lucky to get out free without alimony, child support, etc. But the betrayal really hit me hard.

Firstly Welcome.

Our stories parallel each other – except the ex was not a lesbian; as far as I know. But she sure as hell cheated – multiple times as best I can tell. I too was too blind to realize and rationalized and excused a whole number of red flags.

The hostility of the betrayal, and subsequent gaslighting was the hardest thing I had to deal with. It took me a few years to totally process how I could go from:

– ” The best thing that ever happened to her”
– ” Been preparing her whole life for me”
– ” Loved me so much”
– ” A unique kind of love she ever experienced”

To deny, dodge and defer anything was wrong. And then like flipping a light switch….

– ” Needing passion”
– “Loves me like a brother”
– ” Wondering how great her life would be if she never met me”.
– ” Made her feel bad about herself because I treated her so well”…. This one bothered me for a long time.
(Classic gas-lighting)
– “Never loved me.”

I too was led to believe, because of social conditioning, that a good looking wife, and later kids, was the brass ring. It’s not – rather lead shoes.

I married mine after 5 years dating, with a very short marriage before things went boom. Luckily, no kids and no support obligations. You are lucky, as am I. Sad thing is all my successes (good career, 100k/year, attractive), was done for the promise of winning a bitch.

You will find, Your brain will undergo a fundamental reprogramming. You will start doing stuff for you. It will feel wrong, selfish, and hollow at first – it did for me. But I am finding as time goes on, it is liberating.

Wow. Only a woman can say such cruel stuff to a broken heart. Truly disgusting. I was never this cruel to someone I broke up with in the past. Women truly are different than us.

God bless peace and freedom.

[Anonymous 0]

WOW! Thank you for you input Tic!
I am with you brother. AWALT! F~~~ them all!

[EyeswideopenParticipant 2930]

They say cruel things and perform despicable actions, because society, the law, girrrrl powwwer, says they can. Like giving a child a loaded gun – tradgity ensues.

Men are not perfect in relationships. They will cheat, as will women. But the infadelity was not the most painful part.

Yet, I have found that women seem to have this unique capacity to read their mark, and launch the most hurtful assault they can to create the most psychological trauma possible. I believe this is why male suicide is so prevalent upon desolation of a relationship.

- Marriage is described as an institution. You would have to be crazy to be commited to it. -"If you want to live a happy life, tie it to a goal. Not people or things" Albert Einstein

[Biggvs_DickvsParticipant 3725]

Welcome tic. For some reason the idea of my gf cheating with another woman never bothered me. One time it led to the beginning of a threesome.

[The other chick got weirded out because she was good friends with my gf and thought it would be awkward or something – just so’s I don’t leave the reader a-hangin]

"Data, I would be delighted to offer any advice I can on understanding women. When I have some, I'll let you know." --Captain Picard,

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