"You're a lazy bastard . . ."

[SolidusXParticipant 854]

Clint Eastwood wrote:

Here’s a story I’ve been wanting to tell for a very long time and now, on this forum, I feel this is as good a time as any.

My wife and I have been together for about 15 years and it was some 2 years into our relationship, that we were to come into a small, but not insignificant sum of money.

Naturally talk got round to what we should do with it. Top of the agender was the cottage we called a home, and the small fact that it had no double glazing, or central heating, or even running hot water.

I suggest that this is a priority. After all, even my wife is sick of the sub-zero temperatures the local area can sink to, and she agrees readily that this should be done forthwith.

Now I’m a competent guy and there’s nothing I can’t turn my hand to – building, mechanics etc and I genuinely enjoy this kind of work.

I begin to make plans for the tasks ahead.

Then the money arrives and a couple of days later, I’m awoken at 6am by my wife lying on top of me in bed, and an almost infantile look of exitement on her face.

“I want a horse riding arena !!!”

Seriously f~~~ed buddy, you definetly got the internet award for worst f~~~ over of the year. Horse chicks are f~~~ing nuts to begin with, those damn animals take tons of money and time to maintain and the chicks will go nutz over them and do whatever it takes to keep them. I personally know some horse girls and they drag their bf’s and friends (including me until I stopped going over) down their rabbit hole and try to make you take care of those damn animals as well. F~~~ing nuts!

You did not mention how you got the money but if it was for you under your name I would have repaired the house, no brainer to me, horses don’t give a s~~~ where they are riding but people need hot water lol.

Knowledge is power..... Don't waste your brain on bullshit

[KeymasterKeymaster]

SolidusX wrote:

Horse chicks are f~~~ing nuts to begin with.

God, yes.

If you keep doing what you've always done... you're gonna keep getting what you always got.

[PistolPeteParticipant 27143]

Well you are kinder than I Sir,

How would I have handled this outrage—there is a scene in the Godfather involving someone waking up in bed with—a head! Yeah I would make that happen.

[Maraudrz1Participant 2250]

Clint Eastwood wrote:

Now I must point out that anyone who’s been married or in a serious relationship before, will know all too well, that you ultimately ‘do as you are told’.

Right here was your problem. You tell her no. period. You simply take charge and lay down the law. Worked for me. I did as I pleased and she was happy about it.

Women's brains and vagina have one thing in common. There is nothing in there until a man puts something in there.

[Anonymous 43]

ten minutes after she declares you a lazy bastard, spend a lot of time and money restoring the land to original condition.

[Nathan R. JessepParticipant 1102]

Clint Eastwood wrote:

Naturally talk got round to what we should do with it. Top of the agender was the cottage we called a home, and the small fact that it had no double glazing, or central heating, or even running hot water.

“I want a horse riding arena !!!”

No heating or hot water and you agreed to build a horse riding arena?

What country is this in?

[Nathan R. JessepParticipant 1102]

Maraudrz1 wrote:

Right here was your problem. You tell her no. period. You simply take charge and lay down the law. Worked for me. I did as I pleased and she was happy about it.

Exactly. Women need a man who can do the logical thinking.

[Oz-BlokeParticipant 3233]

SolidusX wrote:

Horse chicks are f~~~ing nuts to begin with, those damn animals take tons of money and time to maintain and the chicks will go nutz over them and do whatever it takes to keep them.

So true, have dated horse chicks and they are a special kind of selfish and crazy. I have a mate who jokes that his wife will not allow ‘unproductive MANhours’ around the house so he slaves away on The Plantation hoping for a few occasional scraps of her scorched-earth pussy. His weekends sound like a living hell – no wonder why he looks forward to getting back to work on Mondays.

#ManOut

[RedDawnParticipant 1391]

Anonymous wrote:

Dead Inside wrote:

“YOU’RE A LAZY BASTARD !!!”

Yes, I had the same and other hurtful comments thrown at me.
Fortunately I now am vaccinated against it:
YOU’RE A LAZY BASTARD !!!
yep.
…
YOU DON’T CARE ABOUT ME !!!
obviously.
…
YOU DON’T LOVE ME !!!
nope.

The miracle comes from giving up on the useless attempt to make them happy and keep them.

This is how you get more blowjobs and do less work.

Courage is the key to life itself - Morgan Freeman

[RedDawnParticipant 1391]

Also the reason why horse girls are crazy is because they treat men like horses, an animal to be tamed and do their bidding. Basic control of a horse means you don’t let it push you around, you push it back if it gets in your space to assert dominance. I learned this on a cattle station.

You gotta call their bluff and show them your not some pussy ass pony, but a wild stallion that won’t be tamed by her nonsense (if you’ve chosen to be in a relations~~~). Then they try to get you emotionally attached to them via sexual favours.

Courage is the key to life itself - Morgan Freeman

[BritGHOWParticipant 2566]

Lazy are you, hmmm? Ok then.

Slap a bill for the whole construction (materials, plant hire, labour, disposal, etc.) on the table along with divorce papers, any s~~~ from her? flatten the paddock, let her “not-lazy” ass rebuild it.

[FullMetalExoParticipant 2383]

It’s like I’v read some slaves diary … this is f’ed up, it’s almost feels like I dug out that arena myself.
Made me angry, then …I just feel like s~~~ after reading it.
It’s such a classic slavery-idiocy/crazy-control/blue-pill-hell situation, by the book.

And now losing everything and selling your bike… (I’v yet to buy a vehicle I will enjoy one day) breaks my heart. Im 28 years old and Im as far away from such situation as possible, stories like this keep me sober and a virgin. Im good with my hand, no thank you girls. You all can take a hike.

I hope you will be doing way better in the future man !

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[hidden_withinParticipant 59]

Solo MAN’S Wisdom wrote:

Hairdressers, strippers, redheads, attorneys, and horse “girls” are SPECIAL crazy.

You forgot Registered Nurses. They’re a special kind of crazy too.
I married a red head RN horse chick who spends a boatload of time at the hairdressers….

[BadgerParticipant 2277]

hidden_within wrote:

You forgot Registered Nurses. They’re a special kind of crazy too.

I’m sure this could be a fill in the blank type of thing.

“You forgot __________. They’re a special kind of crazy too.”

[Clint EastwoodParticipant 323]

I’ve got to say I’ve been knocked sideways by the amount of support and understanding you guys have sent me on this forum. It seriously brings a tear to my eye.

There’s so much s~~~ I could write about, I’d be in danger of clogging up the forum and I haven’t even begun to cover the real hardcore mental f~~~ job I’ve been privy to.

How does living with someone who systematically works on you, gets you to the point where you believe what she says, that your suffering with some mental illness (bipolar disorder, autism,sociopathic what not) and have been your entire life. It all makes so much sense, it must be true cos otherwise, why do I feel like this.

The mind f~~~ continues . . .

Then you truly begin to believe it and you hit the lowest you’ve ever been. In fact lower than you thought any man could possibly go.

The mind f~~~ continues . . .

You then suffer several huge mother f~~~ing breakdowns and she starts to try down the road of making it official by continuosly trying to make appointments for you to see a GP, with the aim of getting you sectioned for evaluation, but each time you refuse to go.

Mind f~~~ . . .

So low now and in your mind you hit a brick wall down a dark alley. There’s nowhere to go and you genuinely spend an unknown amount of time in bed, night follows day, day follows night and you seriously consider the ultimate get out clause. The big one. It all makes so much sense now. Peace is just around the corner.

Now ‘you’ want to get professional help . . .

Then you stumble across this forum and you discover for the first time that in all this time, you’re not alone. Other folk are suffering just like you and in fact your ‘only’ illness is total depression and unimaginable nervous exhaustion.

You wake up and in an instant you view the whole situation through new eyes, rather like Neo at the end of the Matrix and you see ‘her’ as she really is.

I don’t want to sound all sloppy or gooey but there’s a real chance I wouldn’t be typing this if I hadn’t stumbled on this forum.

Deepest respect and thanks guys. 🙂

Stay vigilant. They're everywhere.

[SolidusXParticipant 854]

Clint Eastwood wrote:

I don’t want to sound all sloppy or gooey but there’s a real chance I wouldn’t be typing this if I hadn’t stumbled on this forum.

Deepest respect and thanks guys.

@Dead Inside We are here for you brother! We may not be able to be physically there for you but we can be there digitally to hear you and support you with the best advice and experiences we can! Do not give up as the storm may be murky now but it will subside if you stick it out. Lean on us for help and guidance and we will get you through it!

Knowledge is power..... Don't waste your brain on bullshit

[Clint EastwoodParticipant 323]

SolidusX wrote:

@Dead_Inside We are here for you brother! We may not be able to be physically there for you but we can be there digitally to hear you and support you with the best advice and experiences we can! Do not give up as the storm may be murky now but it will subside if you stick it out. Lean on us for help and guidance and we will get you through it!

That’s a real comfort to know. Living where I do, there ain’t a soul for miles and knowing there’s a great bunch of guys here makes things a whole lot easier.

I feel a whole lot better than that ‘other guy’ from a month or two ago. Mind you, I feel a whole lot older as well.

Stress can be a killer and can age you mentally and physically. I’m 48 but often I feel like 58.

The worrying pains in my left arm and chest that I suffered with are gone. Even the crippling pain of a burst ulcer (genuinely feared it was a heart attack) is thankfully just a bad memory.

I’ve turned a corner. Her powers are now impotent. I’ve seen the truth and the future and it smells damm good. 🙂

Stay vigilant. They're everywhere.

[RedDawnParticipant 1391]

Your situation is relatable to the ‘Karpman drama triangle’. Note that the victim part of the triangle doesn’t represent an actual victim, but a person feeling or acting the victim.

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Karpman_drama_triangle

She’s trying to make you feel like a victim, while she plays the ‘rescuer’ to make you feel dependent on her (slave dependent on the master does not leave the plantation), during which time she can manipulate you to do her bidding or dispose of you should she desire.

According to Marcus Aurelius, to suffer great pain and overcome it is a wonderful thing. The taste of freedom is much sweeter once you know what it is to be a slave.

Welcome aboard and I look forward to more of your posts man!

Courage is the key to life itself - Morgan Freeman

[Better without YOUParticipant 234]

I’ve feel the same way. I have given all with nothing left to give and confided in my “wife” my problems (anxiety). Which weren’t there prior to meeting her. She would rather think of ways to make me institutionalized then to constructively help me. I know my escape is the solution, as with marriage I have literally signed a contract that invited someone else’s childhood baggage into my life, who does not have the capacity to help me the way I have helped her dragging me down. I do not hate her, (we do not hate) but I cannot wait for that day to be free.

[SimpleLifeParticipant 439]

Wow Dead Inside, that is quite the tale of woe! I’m sure most of us here have stories of ungrateful bitches, but that really takes the cake.

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